FabSwingers.com forum: Abuse

By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

How do you cope with abuse on Fab?

Usually I can just shake it off but today it’s really got to me.

What happens to these low lives when they are reported to Admin?

Bhubaysi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally tell them i just fucked there mum up the cemetery seems to wind them up as i laugh at the fallout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block. Move On. Don't give them a second thought

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By *milingeyesWoman
over a year ago

mickeymousetown

Block , report let whoever takes the money deal with them. Move on no other thoughts on the matter....

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Im sorry to hear that OP,Never suffered it maself, this is the only social media site that I'm on, god only knows why some folk need to drop to that level

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I log out. Forget about it then log back in.

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

Don't let them take your mind space, unfortunately there are always keyboard warriors on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been recieving abuse on and off from the same guy for the past two years, he always deletes and creates new profiles, I have newbies and non verified blocked which kind of works until he is no longer a newbie and gets verified.

His messages are vile and creepy but I just ignore him, he can only affect me if I let him

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Blocking just allows them to move on to someone else so i usually report the message too. They usually get removed for a while so hopefully this will give them time to dwell on what they done and think twice when the return.

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

"I have been recieving abuse on and off from the same guy for the past two years, he always deletes and creates new profiles, I have newbies and non verified blocked which kind of works until he is no longer a newbie and gets verified.

His messages are vile and creepy but I just ignore him, he can only affect me if I let him "

Well said that woman xx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I dont get abuse on fab. Had three nasty messages in 14 years and two of those where of the back of forum posts

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Laugh it off when I can. Filters that suit me.

Talk it over and commiserate

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Sometimes I get really annoyed I can’t help it I wear my heart on my sleeve but more of the time I just block and move on

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I usually delete and block. If really bad I’ll report, but wish I knew the outcome. If I’m really peeved off I’ll retaliate

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By *assion and MoreCouple
over a year ago

Here and There, Monaghan

Abuse is a sort of vindication that we were initially correct about their character and that we didn't waste time on them

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By *oby le roneMan
over a year ago

Treorchy

You want my comeback? Go scrape it off your mother’s teeth!

Thank you Jimmy carr

Or go with the old fashioned “Cummon don’t be shy your mother wasn’t”

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By *ebel Red HotWoman
over a year ago

York

"How do you cope with abuse on Fab?

Usually I can just shake it off but today it’s really got to me.

What happens to these low lives when they are reported to Admin?

Bhubaysi

Good question!

Apparently they are warned but I know people who have all been abused by the same person and they are still doing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op it’s just words from a keyboard warrior with a spotty face and a spotty bottom and no social skills that is looking to garner a reaction from you so just starve them of what they want and block them and forget them.

You rock op!!!!

Stay frosty out there.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"How do you cope with abuse on Fab?

Usually I can just shake it off but today it’s really got to me.

What happens to these low lives when they are reported to Admin?

Bhubaysi

People who feel the need to belittle/ bully others are insecure and they try and make themselves feel better byt doing so - only that is shortlived because it does not really make the bully feel better in the long term, just isolates them. Of course this is not tobe confused with having a different opinion on a particular topic. But if somebody needs to get personal... that is not ok.

My advice: Do not try to change a bully's attitude towards you; it is time consuming and comes at a cost to yourself. Instead change your mindset and focus on the nicer people, the majority on here are decent folkls looking for a bit of fun and company.

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By *apunzel the CocksuckerWoman
over a year ago

Here

"How do you cope with abuse on Fab?

Usually I can just shake it off but today it’s really got to me.

What happens to these low lives when they are reported to Admin?

Bhubaysi

Best just to block them they are not worth a second thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im really sorry you've had bad experiences. Hope things start to look up for you soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never experienced it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get any and wouldn't take any notice if I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a lot of shit and I just block now. It's hard when it hits a nerve or when it's a unkind comment about my body, but I just have to figure they're butt hurt in some way to stoop so low as to insult a stranger online.

Hang in there OP x

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

OP I have been incredibly lucky not to have had any abuse on here.

If I did I would report and block.

They are the ones with problem, not you.

Hope you are soon feeling better, nastiness can be incredibly hurtful, even when you don't know them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a strange one OP I don’t feel there is a correct text book way to deal with vermin. Personally I’m proud to state I retaliate with intellectually scathing put downs. I feel each person can deal with trash however they deem fit. I always respond then block. Frankly I’m not here to be abused whether I’ve rejected someone politely and he can’t take no or I’ve stopped responding to a weirdo. I find insecure pathetic people resort to indulging in abusing or using racist slurs.

A guy I’d ignored pretty much told me I’m a short fatso lol (perhaps true) that I’m black erm no I retaliated like a cobra then reported and blocked his lame ass.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Don't get any and wouldn't take any notice if I did"

You must get enough off Clem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sad if this is all coming from guys who can’t handle rejection. They give us genuine guys a bad name. Ignore them all and realise your true worth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally ignore even though I know it may be difficult to. But never ever entertain a troll, entertainment and a reaction is a trolls main goal. And yes you hit the nail on the head...low life little messed up creatures that they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had any from men. Only women, directly and indirectly. Didn’t bother reporting. Found it quite amusing and a little bit sad. Their problem not yours op. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You want my comeback? Go scrape it off your mother’s teeth!

Thank you Jimmy carr

Or go with the old fashioned “Cummon don’t be shy your mother wasn’t”

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By *aige CoolTV/TS
over a year ago

north west

I get it alot .all from men .because I wont meet them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get it alot .all from men .because I wont meet them ."

Don't talk to those you don't want to meet. Problem solved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never had any from men. Only women, directly and indirectly. Didn’t bother reporting. Found it quite amusing and a little bit sad. Their problem not yours op. x "

^^^^^^^ This ^^^^^^^

Agree 100%. I never report either. They only create a new account anyway

They're definitely messed up and let themselves down so badly. Just ignore the sad little trolls.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Its horrid but just move on they not worth your time thinking of them! And not sure anything gets done about them tbh x

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By *merican HoneyWoman
over a year ago

Miami

Does anyone know what happens to abusive people on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone know what happens to abusive people on here?"

They used to get banished to the politics forum but the policy has been changed due to COVID.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block , report let whoever takes the money deal with them. Move on no other thoughts on the matter.... "

I get back however it often isn't as simple at that. I think the issue is as with any virtual interaction some people forget there are real people at the end of the comments.

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By *merican HoneyWoman
over a year ago

Miami

"Does anyone know what happens to abusive people on here?

They used to get banished to the politics forum but the policy has been changed due to COVID."

Is that really a punishment? Some seem to like it in there.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Does anyone know what happens to abusive people on here?

They used to get banished to the politics forum but the policy has been changed due to COVID.

Is that really a punishment? Some seem to like it in there.

it doesn't happen I think it was a joke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone know what happens to abusive people on here?

They used to get banished to the politics forum but the policy has been changed due to COVID.

Is that really a punishment? Some seem to like it in there.

I was just generalising in a humerus way.

There seems to be a lot of anger and abuse in those two corners of fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone know what happens to abusive people on here?

They used to get banished to the politics forum but the policy has been changed due to COVID.

Is that really a punishment? Some seem to like it in there.

I was just generalising in a humerus way.

There seems to be a lot of anger and abuse in those two corners of fab."

*Humourus*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone know what happens to abusive people on here?

They used to get banished to the politics forum but the policy has been changed due to COVID.

Is that really a punishment? Some seem to like it in there.

I was just generalising in a humerus way.

There seems to be a lot of anger and abuse in those two corners of fab.

*Humourus*

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I ignore it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone know what happens to abusive people on here?

They used to get banished to the politics forum but the policy has been changed due to COVID.

Is that really a punishment? Some seem to like it in there.

I was just generalising in a humerus way.

There seems to be a lot of anger and abuse in those two corners of fab.

*Humourus*

Humorous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone know what happens to abusive people on here?

They used to get banished to the politics forum but the policy has been changed due to COVID.

Is that really a punishment? Some seem to like it in there.

I was just generalising in a humerus way.

There seems to be a lot of anger and abuse in those two corners of fab.

*Humourus*

Kinky tart!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does anyone know what happens to abusive people on here?

They used to get banished to the politics forum but the policy has been changed due to COVID.

Is that really a punishment? Some seem to like it in there.

I was just generalising in a humerus way.

There seems to be a lot of anger and abuse in those two corners of fab.

*Humourus*

Humorous

I just couldn’t work it out.

Thank you

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I am sure regular posters must have seen the answer to this question many times but I will post it again

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Here is an explanation from Admin from another thread on how they deal with reports.

******Just a quick note. If people report others and we can verify that they have broken site rules, we always take action (either a first and final warning, partially suspended account, fully suspended, mixture of the above).

Every single report sent via the REPORT link is reviewed. Clearly it's not in our interests to have people on here who are bad for the site. Equally we need to verify what has been reported and be fair to those who have been reported.

Admin

PS. we never provide feedback on what has happened. It's just not practical given that we get 100s of reports a day.

Here is what the page says after a report has been submitted:

Your feedback has been saved.

A website admin will shortly review your feedback and take the necessary action. After reviewing the evidence available to us, we may disable an account, remove a user, disable certain aspects of that user's account or issue a warning.

By leaving feedback you help improve the site for everyone who uses it. Thank you.******

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