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Are you a good communicator?

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By *ebel Red Hot OP   Woman
over a year ago

York

Are you comfortable chatting to new people, do you relax quickly and can you carry a conversation?

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Yes i can

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

yes

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

One does one's best.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I like to think so

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes but I don't know if I communicate well or not. I often think that what I've said is clear but I know that I assume knowledge on others that they might not have

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I feel comfortable to talk with new people , i'm relaxed and i can keep a conversation , like i mentioned before i can , but only with people who can do the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm.

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By *ebel Red Hot OP   Woman
over a year ago

York


"I feel comfortable to talk with new people , i'm relaxed and i can keep a conversation , like i mentioned before i can , but only with people who can do the same thing "

Thats a good point a one way conversation can be like pulling your finger nails out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Erm.

"

Err.

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By *ebel Red Hot OP   Woman
over a year ago

York


"Erm.

Err. "

Spit it out

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By *urious1973Man
over a year ago

angus

on here yes x but if phoning or video calling you can get a bit more tongue tied lol xx

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Oh I love chatting to new people. But I tend to go into overdrive when I'm nervous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I'm rarely comfortable with new people; even with those I've known for years, I tend not to speak unless I have something worth saying.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Yes i am. Never nervous, a little chatterbox and a good listener.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what we're talking about.

I'm no good at small talk it just sounds false in my mouth.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I'm confident, especially if we have something in common.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Erm.

Err.

Spit it out "

You've heard that before

And, to be fair, you totally teed me up for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can talk to anyone about anything.

Never used to be like that but I hit my 30s (some time ago) and my confidence took a leap.

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By *ebel Red Hot OP   Woman
over a year ago

York


"Erm.

Err.

Spit it out

You've heard that before

And, to be fair, you totally teed me up for that. "

Was it a furball?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Depends who's listening

I have to talk to strangers and he comfortable about it for my job, so it's no biggie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hchvufufkb 8iiggj ycchff

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I can be quite awkward around new people, especially in a group situation, and it takes me time to get comfortable to open up - one on one where I have to talk I'm not so bad, especially if the other person is happy to take the lead.

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Depends on the situation I'm okay at work when I'm the alledged expert. Socially is more ticket, I'm fine one to one but groups leave me cold. I actively avoid parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I managed about 3 minutes of chat with people at the MLS before they got that "fuck off!" look in their eyes and I had to move onto my next victim.

I'm shit at communicating. I have to draw pictures and then it goes from bad to worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has a story of some kind, most people just don’t realise it.

I absolutely love it when you give someone the confidence just to talk and see how their expressions change as they start to connect the stories together.

Never again will they feel that uncomfortableness when at yet another work training session, the dreaded ice breaker question comes up:

Tell everyone something about you they don’t know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love chatting to new people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Erm.

Err.

Spit it out

You've heard that before

And, to be fair, you totally teed me up for that.

Was it a furball? "

*cough*

That's got it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you comfortable chatting to new people, do you relax quickly and can you carry a conversation? "

Nope

As a aspie I tend to be crap at conversations so I lean more towards asking questions which is ok normally but nearly ended badly for me when being interviewed by a nawty villain who wanted me to set up a football academy for his team.

He thought I was dibble!!!!

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes my body says more than my words

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I chat to anybody and everybody and Mrs rolls her eyes. Although after a couple of glasses red wine she’s far worse and will go and sit with complete strangers in a restaurant and discuss sex. Some of our best friends are people we’ve met randomly when out

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By *ebel Red Hot OP   Woman
over a year ago

York


"Sometimes my body says more than my words "

You mean your cock has learnt sign language?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The biggest compliment ever paid to me was "you could walk into a room full of strangers and come out with friends" i'll never forget that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to listen to people. I can keep someone talking for hours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes my body says more than my words

You mean your cock has learnt sign language? "

Indeed and can fly like a helicopter also stand up to attention x

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By *ebel Red Hot OP   Woman
over a year ago

York


"I love to listen to people. I can keep someone talking for hours!"

Not everyone listens you have a good point there its a good attribute to have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The biggest compliment ever paid to me was "you could walk into a room full of strangers and come out with friends" i'll never forget that "

I've been told that I could start an argument in an empty room!

Not sure if that was a compliment though

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By *apunzel the CocksuckerWoman
over a year ago

Here


"The biggest compliment ever paid to me was "you could walk into a room full of strangers and come out with friends" i'll never forget that

I've been told that I could start an argument in an empty room!

Not sure if that was a compliment though "

They say that a lot about us down here too. We speak our mind and don't pull punches.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have no qualms chatting to new people, I’m a gregarious woman and am at ease chatting and discovering new people.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Yep, I'll happily chat to anyone and have had loads of conversations with random strangers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, yes and yes

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I'd like to think I do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The biggest compliment ever paid to me was "you could walk into a room full of strangers and come out with friends" i'll never forget that

I've been told that I could start an argument in an empty room!

Not sure if that was a compliment though "

The scouse phrase is cause murder in an empty house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Do I win a prize?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really depends on the people and the situation

I'm only as good as I want t be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you comfortable chatting to new people, do you relax quickly and can you carry a conversation? "

Yes

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By *merican HoneyWoman
over a year ago

Miami

Sometimes but then not at others as some people are really difficult to talk to. Communication has to be a 2 way thing for me.

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By *ebel Red Hot OP   Woman
over a year ago

York


"Sometimes but then not at others as some people are really difficult to talk to. Communication has to be a 2 way thing for me."

Well I can't ague with that you need two or more to make a conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'm pretty good at striking up a conversation and connection with strangers quickly. Xx

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By *iL DeVeLWoman
over a year ago

Luton

I would say I am a blunt one I am not sure that's a good one though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, not really. I think I'm too wary of other people as a general rule, which is something I don't really like about me

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes I am x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm, well it depends, I think sometimes, er, maybe, I think!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not OP...you don't reply to your messages lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and yes generally speaking. X

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By *heekychapyorksMan
over a year ago

Hull

Yes, very much so, although definitely better face to face than over the telephone, I need to have a connection & see reactions to allow things to flow

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By *ontecristoMan
over a year ago

PonteCarlo

Does fancy a fuck babe ....count as good communication?

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

No

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Depends on the topic or if there is to much inane drivel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can be quite awkward around new people, especially in a group situation, and it takes me time to get comfortable to open up - one on one where I have to talk I'm not so bad, especially if the other person is happy to take the lead."

^^This^^ is more like me. Unless alcohol is involved and sometimes if I get nervous or very excited I can burble away.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Terrible.

I am not very good socially at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My anxiety gets in the way sometimes.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Yes, we do.

Was an NLP international trainer.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Am I fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it an awful effort but I am incredibly friendly when required. I dont think I get a point across very well so on that front dont consider myself good at communication.

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By *reamblueMan
over a year ago

London

Depends on the situation and the other person/people. You can pick up their vibe straight away and if there is something I don't like then I find it very hard to be open.

Also, as an introvert, I do take exception to the generally accepted idea in our society that loud/chatty = good and quiet = bad.

I'm not saying the opposite is true but that we prize the talker and overlook the listener

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go on auto pilot from work (sales) so I can hold a conversation and keep one going but I don’t always pay much attention sadly unless particularly interested

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

Its not a problem holding or starting a conversation with anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can or I could..not so sure now as I ve spent so long in silence that I ve withdrawn from everyone but my gf whom I see in the evenings. Dont even make eye contact outside of gf.

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By *apunzel the CocksuckerWoman
over a year ago

Here

I love to chat but there are a lot on here who really struggle to communicate even at a basic level.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

I can be a bit of a chatterbox, and will talk for hours as long as I'm getting some kind of feedback...one-sided conversations can be hard work. I frequently start conversations with random strangers.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes, it's something I'm regularly given positive feedback on, across age groups and demographics. It's rare I'll struggle, and in retrospect it's often more them than me.

It took some work to get to that point, development, confidence, that sort of thing. I can be a situational extrovert if circumstances call for it. I hate it but I can.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Probably my number 1 skill

V x

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"Are you comfortable chatting to new people, do you relax quickly and can you carry a conversation? "

Emphatic yes to all of the above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not particularly

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"I love to chat but there are a lot on here who really struggle to communicate even at a basic level. "

I hate when you are talking with someone..and they just talk about themselves.

Or you ask them a question and get a 1 word answer back.

Its really hard to find someone you can have a proper conversation with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no interest in chatting with anyone so I am deliberately boring when I do deign to reply to anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that I can come across as rather awkward and have been called aloof in the past. But I think that it is shyness really as I relax when I get to know someone better. I'm not good in groups either

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I think that I can come across as rather awkward and have been called aloof in the past. But I think that it is shyness really as I relax when I get to know someone better. I'm not good in groups either "

I've practiced putting on masks, stepping into a role. It's still me and true to me, but I can hide behind a sense of doing a job, being a role, when the awkwardness kicks in.

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By *rmainman10Man
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I got to do this in my day to day job... People walk in.. got to talk to them about their stuff ... Some I hope to see again... And some... Wish they never came in

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I think that I can come across as rather awkward and have been called aloof in the past. But I think that it is shyness really as I relax when I get to know someone better. I'm not good in groups either "

I found you anything but aloof and awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that I can come across as rather awkward and have been called aloof in the past. But I think that it is shyness really as I relax when I get to know someone better. I'm not good in groups either

I've practiced putting on masks, stepping into a role. It's still me and true to me, but I can hide behind a sense of doing a job, being a role, when the awkwardness kicks in."

Yes I can relate to that... its different in my job as you say, it's being a role. Its when I dont have that particular armour on that I have issues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that I can come across as rather awkward and have been called aloof in the past. But I think that it is shyness really as I relax when I get to know someone better. I'm not good in groups either

I found you anything but aloof and awkward "

Lol yes but you are not a stranger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In person, yes I am.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I think that I can come across as rather awkward and have been called aloof in the past. But I think that it is shyness really as I relax when I get to know someone better. I'm not good in groups either

I've practiced putting on masks, stepping into a role. It's still me and true to me, but I can hide behind a sense of doing a job, being a role, when the awkwardness kicks in.

Yes I can relate to that... its different in my job as you say, it's being a role. Its when I dont have that particular armour on that I have issues "

I get that x I almost always wear armour

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I can be quiet in a group of strangers, I’m not shy just not great at small talk, once I get to know people I won’t stop talking.

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I use to be,but these days I seem to have lost the art of conversation. Think it's mostly down to being on my own so much

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"Yep, I'll happily chat to anyone and have had loads of conversations with random strangers "
this x

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

I've found as I grow older, its become easier to initiate conversations.

I used to be painfully shy, couldn't initiate any talking to save my life, or if someone spoke to me, I just dried up!

But one day, in a new senior job role, the MD said to me, "you've good verbal skills, so I'm putting you in charge of Sales!".

From that day, I prospered!

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
over a year ago

BRIDPORT

I tend to be fairly conservative with my conversation, which has led people to comment that I’m ‘hard work’.

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