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"If she’s hot, she could literally say anything and I’d reply." sadly I'm not hot! | |||
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"If you get any suggestions that work please share with the rest of us single ladies...online dating is a mine field!" Honestly I'm tired of swiping already. It feels so fake. Good luck! | |||
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"Favorite biscuit to have with a brew... Everyone has an opinion... Worked for me with cherry. " I don't like tea but I do like biscuits! | |||
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"Just remember .. don’t send 10 pics of your fanny, our inboxes are full of fanny." Yes once you've seen one you've seen them all right? | |||
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"Just remember .. don’t send 10 pics of your fanny, our inboxes are full of fanny. Yes once you've seen one you've seen them all right? " You got it   | |||
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"If you already matched then hi should be sufficient. If they ignore it then move on..." Ignoring seems to be the norm. It's likely karma for all the emails I've ignored here over the years | |||
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"If you get any suggestions that work please share with the rest of us single ladies...online dating is a mine field! Honestly I'm tired of swiping already. It feels so fake. Good luck! " Oh I know lol I gave up a while ago as all the swiping seems weird good luck to you too gorgeous! | |||
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"Just remember .. don’t send 10 pics of your fanny, our inboxes are full of fanny. Yes once you've seen one you've seen them all right? " you can send any fanny pix to me ..I don't mind xx | |||
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"Read there profile and look at their photos and comment on something. Ask them a question or two about it. If the profile was pretty empty, tell them something about you and ask them something relating to that (crap example "I love movies, my favourite is... what's yours?") Basically, anything to start a conversation. Pretty much the same advice as people give guys on here tbh. Also... don't send any dick pics! "Yes I think dick pics are more for after the 2nd date... | |||
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"Just remember .. don’t send 10 pics of your fanny, our inboxes are full of fanny. Yes once you've seen one you've seen them all right? you can send any fanny pix to me ..I don't mind xx "nah mine is shy | |||
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"Ask them if they've ever been to a sex club (pretty sure that will pique their interest!) Lol" then I'll be seen as I am here, sex potential only! I want more than that now | |||
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How about something personal, comment on something in their photos?
Getting just a "Hi" makes me think she's boring... But ask me about my backdrop and we'll be talking  | |||
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"If you already matched then hi should be sufficient. If they ignore it then move on... Ignoring seems to be the norm. It's likely karma for all the emails I've ignored here over the years " Sort of... Outside of fab the numbers aren't as much as in women's favour. The guy above who said follow the advice men get has it spot on. | |||
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"If she’s hot, she could literally say anything and I’d reply. sadly I'm not hot! " You look Hot to me in your pics Defo
Compliment them, as in ``Hi, I just have to say you look Super Hot in your pics, you're profile really caught my eye.......`` or something to that affect, assuming they are hot obviously.
Once or twice I've made the move to msg 1st cos the need was real as in I just couldn't by-pass such a hot profile & guess what it worked | |||
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"So I'm once more trying to navigate the world of online dating. I need to know what I should say in my first message. What could a woman say that would make you think "oh I want to reply to her" Your advice and suggestions greatly appreciated. " not exactly a dating site sweetheart | |||
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"Read there profile and look at their photos and comment on something. Ask them a question or two about it. If the profile was pretty empty, tell them something about you and ask them something relating to that (crap example "I love movies, my favourite is... what's yours?") Basically, anything to start a conversation. Pretty much the same advice as people give guys on here tbh. Also... don't send any dick pics! "Definitely good way to start and show that you are genuinely want to get to know someone rather than a “ hi and fancy a fuck” lol No dick pic definitely a good advice too x | |||
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"So I'm once more trying to navigate the world of online dating. I need to know what I should say in my first message. What could a woman say that would make you think "oh I want to reply to her" Your advice and suggestions greatly appreciated. not exactly a dating site sweetheart " I think the OP meant on a dating site, not on fab | |||
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"So I'm once more trying to navigate the world of online dating. I need to know what I should say in my first message. What could a woman say that would make you think "oh I want to reply to her" Your advice and suggestions greatly appreciated. not exactly a dating site sweetheart " I don’t think she means here? X  | |||
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How about something personal, comment on something in their photos?
Getting just a "Hi" makes me think she's boring... But ask me about my backdrop and we'll be talking "Yes!! I've not done the dating thing in a very very long time! | |||
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"So I'm once more trying to navigate the world of online dating. I need to know what I should say in my first message. What could a woman say that would make you think "oh I want to reply to her" Your advice and suggestions greatly appreciated. not exactly a dating site sweetheart I think the OP meant on a dating site, not on fab "Yup I don't mean on fab. Although I wouldn't rule it out should it happen! I'd just rather someone fancy my face more than my boobs! | |||
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"I often wonder if asking the other person a question about them, inviting a dialogue... might make them feel interested?" Yes. I've tried that too. No reply! | |||
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"I’ve matched with a few guys on dating sites ..if I message first a few have replied with “your not for me as I’ve seen you on a swingers site “...erm hello "Oh the double standards huh | |||
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"I’ve matched with a few guys on dating sites ..if I message first a few have replied with “your not for me as I’ve seen you on a swingers site “...erm hello "I was told by a guy, quite recently, that would be a reason not to even consider a woman as a potential partner... unbelievable! It is ok for them to be on a sex site but it is not ok for the woman to have dipped her toes... Go figure. | |||
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"Just select something in their profile that you like. Be positive, it's a real winner "Yes that definitely helps I'll save my psycho bitch stuff for latter | |||
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"Ask them if they’ve ever been arrested and if so, what for "Oh that could get sone interesting answers | |||
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" ...Your advice and suggestions greatly appreciated. " Try the first 13 words of your profile. There are two unrelated topics right there that'll start a conversation with a stranger. x | |||
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"So I'm once more trying to navigate the world of online dating. I need to know what I should say in my first message. What could a woman say that would make you think "oh I want to reply to her" Your advice and suggestions greatly appreciated. not exactly a dating site sweetheart I think the OP meant on a dating site, not on fab
Yup I don't mean on fab. Although I wouldn't rule it out should it happen!
I'd just rather someone fancy my face more than my boobs! "You never know where you will find people you fall for x I met my boyfriend here and now we are together for 7 years already and been living together for over 4 years x it does happen x Either of us was looking for relationship... but it really is “ when you are not looking for it, you will find it” x good luck | |||
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"Hi "It’s a good point, well made. | |||
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"I’ve matched with a few guys on dating sites ..if I message first a few have replied with “your not for me as I’ve seen you on a swingers site “...erm hello "You should say,”what were you doing on there then??! Take one to know one, you know” See what he says x His loss anyway, hun xx | |||
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"Tell him what it is about him that made you contact him. " The sensible and very good answer. | |||
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"I’ve matched with a few guys on dating sites ..if I message first a few have replied with “your not for me as I’ve seen you on a swingers site “...erm hello
I was told by a guy, quite recently, that would be a reason not to even consider a woman as a potential partner... unbelievable! It is ok for them to be on a sex site but it is not ok for the woman to have dipped her toes... Go figure. "I think so many people still have the imagine of “if you are a swinger, you must be a slut and have sex with everyone with legs and has no standards” Same as these days still have people think if someone are gay/lesbian, if they are friendly with a person that is same sex with them, people should be careful as they want to get it on with them... So many close mind people in this world still it is untrue  | |||
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"I didn't think women bothered to message men considering all the messages which they recieve. Just going by my own experience, I have always had to make the first move. " I think whatever you say will get noticed and chances are you will get a reply. | |||
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"I’ve matched with a few guys on dating sites ..if I message first a few have replied with “your not for me as I’ve seen you on a swingers site “...erm hello
I was told by a guy, quite recently, that would be a reason not to even consider a woman as a potential partner... unbelievable! It is ok for them to be on a sex site but it is not ok for the woman to have dipped her toes... Go figure.
I think so many people still have the imagine of “if you are a swinger, you must be a slut and have sex with everyone with legs and has no standards”
Same as these days still have people think if someone are gay/lesbian, if they are friendly with a person that is same sex with them, people should be careful as they want to get it on with them...
So many close mind people in this world still it is untrue "Well you wouldn’t want a relationship with someone like that, so they have done you a favour by telling you. | |||
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"In all honesty this thread seems contradictory to your bio. Whatever you tried saying for whatever your intent may be, i wouldnt make the effort to reply after reading your bio... idk.. you may not have changed it yet since posting this thread as your intentions for being on fab may have changed.. just an observation and putting in my 2 cents for the context of the thread" . You're correct it is. I'm not actually taking about here though. | |||
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"In all honesty this thread seems contradictory to your bio. Whatever you tried saying for whatever your intent may be, i wouldnt make the effort to reply after reading your bio... idk.. you may not have changed it yet since posting this thread as your intentions for being on fab may have changed.. just an observation and putting in my 2 cents for the context of the thread. You're correct it is. I'm not actually taking about here though. " Ah fair enough then.. Well as far as online dating goes, being the first one to message is usually already a good start as the majority of women tend to be the ones who wait to be messaged than proactively searching and messaging guys.. i mean you could write anything and more often than not youll get a response from men as they almost always never get messaged by other women first. If anything the real game begins after the first point of contact.. ive had some girls message me first with various starting messages and ive dumped them like a sack of shit cos they turned out to be crazy bitches or terrible for conversation. Honestly you dont really need to try an awful lot when it comes to the first message.. just say something related to their pictures or bio and youll get a response | |||
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"So I'm once more trying to navigate the world of online dating. I need to know what I should say in my first message. What could a woman say that would make you think "oh I want to reply to her" Your advice and suggestions greatly appreciated. " I could be what you are looking for ?? ... List your characteristics or personalities | |||
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An additional thing, which might just be me, but don’t be afraid to be forward if you feel like it. We gents like to be chased a bit too..... to be honest, if someone plays too hard to get I lose interest. If you like me, act like you do. | |||
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"I can't speak for all men, but I can at least throw in my opinion. If an attractive woman contacted me out of the blue, I would start wondering why. So tell him. There must be something about his profile that attracted you. And as many others have said, ask a question. That gives him a start on his reply. I will assume that your photos there are a bit tamer than the ones you have here. More vanilla photos set up less of an expectation that you'll be asking for his credit card at some point. Maybe that's just me being over-cynical. Definitely talk about something that's in his profile. Even better if it's something you have in common " My photos there are a lot tamer. I'm not looking for a hook up. I want something that potentially could be meaningful. Maybe I'm hoping for too much though. People match then either don't reply or don't make contact. I honestly now have so much more sympathy for people on here. It certainly gives you the feeling that you must be really unappealing either in looks or in what you are saying. | |||
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"My photos there are a lot tamer. I'm not looking for a hook up. I want something that potentially could be meaningful. Maybe I'm hoping for too much though. People match then either don't reply or don't make contact. I honestly now have so much more sympathy for people on here. It certainly gives you the feeling that you must be really unappealing either in looks or in what you are saying. " There are definitely men on those sites who are looking for a real relationship. I used to be one of them. But there are also men who are only after a quick shag. You will need luck and patience. It can happen though. You look great in your photos here, and I can't imagine that changing with more clothes. Unless you made the mistake of wearing your 'death to all men' t-shirt that day and were posing with a bloodied knife
Are the profiles you're contacting currently active? It's not always easy to tell. I expect there are still a few of mine out there, although I haven't gone near them in decades. | |||
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"Beers are in me
On me doh "They probably are in you though | |||
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"Beers are in me
On me doh
They probably are in you though "Probably why I can't type | |||
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"So I'm once more trying to navigate the world of online dating. I need to know what I should say in my first message. What could a woman say that would make you think "oh I want to reply to her" Your advice and suggestions greatly appreciated. " I'll say what I'd suggest to a man asking for profile or first message advice We are all different there is not a generic works on all phrase I however do not want a woman who is using a cliche suggested by random men I would want a woman who did not need or want advice on message sending and I certainly would not want any message that would pacify a majority of men My take is I'd hope a women knew who she is and that she did not message appealing to "men" rather she messaged hoping to specifically appeal to the kind of man she likes So message men the exact way you want to and if that appeals not they are not for you x  | |||
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"Read there profile and look at their photos and comment on something. Ask them a question or two about it. If the profile was pretty empty, tell them something about you and ask them something relating to that (crap example "I love movies, my favourite is... what's yours?") Basically, anything to start a conversation. Pretty much the same advice as people give guys on here tbh. Also... don't send any dick pics! "Even if like a lot of women on here you’ve secretly got one!
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"So I'm once more trying to navigate the world of online dating. I need to know what I should say in my first message. What could a woman say that would make you think "oh I want to reply to her" Your advice and suggestions greatly appreciated. " If your trying to get someone’s attention I would suggest reading and referring to their bio. Shows you have actually taken an interest in them . Falling thst flash some bum. Always works Lool | |||
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"So I'm once more trying to navigate the world of online dating. I need to know what I should say in my first message. What could a woman say that would make you think "oh I want to reply to her" Your advice and suggestions greatly appreciated. " im a millionaire and a virgin should do it | |||
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