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"Not completely. They seem to reappear months down the line. " Yep, and then I ghost them. | |||
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"Do you mean actual ghosting or fab ghosting? " What’s fab ghosting? | |||
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"Or have you in fact ghosted someone? What are your thoughts about either?" Yes, we have. It pissed me iff because when you have kids, arranging a meet takes a huge amount of effort. It's shitty, disrespectful, rude and childish. | |||
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"Define ghosting " Where they just stop responding to any messages whatsoever. Or even sending them in the first place. | |||
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"Define ghosting Where they just stop responding to any messages whatsoever. Or even sending them in the first place." I thought ghosting was arranging a meet and just not going then disappearing with no explanation | |||
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"Define ghosting " If you put ‘ghosting‘ in the forum search bar, there’s endless threads on ghosting, it’s a Fab favourite, people can’t get enough. | |||
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"Define ghosting Where they just stop responding to any messages whatsoever. Or even sending them in the first place. I thought ghosting was arranging a meet and just not going then disappearing with no explanation " Ghosting is cutting all contact out of the blue with no explanation, happens everywhere, not just fab. | |||
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"I probably have one of the worse experiences of being ghosted " Is that a ply to get a full inbox | |||
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"I probably have one of the worse experiences of being ghosted Is that a ply to get a full inbox " No, basically what happened was, I got to know said individual, we chatted every night on the phone for around 8 weeks, during this time her father passed away and I was there for at every moment, I was even the first individual she spoke to after the funeral,..we agreed to meet and I spent 3 nights and days at her hours,..two days after this she completely ghosted me with no explanation | |||
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"Do you mean actual ghosting or fab ghosting? What’s fab ghosting?" Stopping messaging for no apparent reason? | |||
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"Do you mean actual ghosting or fab ghosting? What’s fab ghosting? Stopping messaging for no apparent reason? " Or meet then no contact after? | |||
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"You can’t be ghosted on fab. If someone stops responding before a meet that’s them simply changing their mind. To be truly ghosted you need to have at least met the person or at the very least communication would need to have been frequent and a meet being arranged. Then without any explanation the person just stops responding. It’s when you believe things are going well and then it just stops sudden. Someone not answering a few messages that you’ve exchanged on here is not ghosting, that’s just someone changing their mind. " Precisely ^^^ not ghosting | |||
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"You can’t be ghosted on fab. If someone stops responding before a meet that’s them simply changing their mind. To be truly ghosted you need to have at least met the person or at the very least communication would need to have been frequent and a meet being arranged. Then without any explanation the person just stops responding. It’s when you believe things are going well and then it just stops sudden. Someone not answering a few messages that you’ve exchanged on here is not ghosting, that’s just someone changing their mind. " I understand the difference. But also didn’t properly explain the definition. So yeah, what are your thoughts on someone just all of a sudden blanking you. Even if you have met etc and not responding or messaging etc? And obviously I’m not talking about meeting during Covid. | |||
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"You can’t be ghosted on fab. If someone stops responding before a meet that’s them simply changing their mind. To be truly ghosted you need to have at least met the person or at the very least communication would need to have been frequent and a meet being arranged. Then without any explanation the person just stops responding. It’s when you believe things are going well and then it just stops sudden. Someone not answering a few messages that you’ve exchanged on here is not ghosting, that’s just someone changing their mind. " You can be ghosted on fab. I socialled with someone twice. Put plans in order for a full meet (ie arrangements for family work etc) He was pushing for it. We chatted that week he asked me to send him some pics on the Friday night. We were meant to be having the meet on the following Tuesday. Then zero. Nothing. That’s ghosting in my opinion it’s not a chat and no reply. I had already given up two afternoons to spend time with him and I had arranged my off duty to spend the day with him | |||
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"You can’t be ghosted on fab. If someone stops responding before a meet that’s them simply changing their mind. To be truly ghosted you need to have at least met the person or at the very least communication would need to have been frequent and a meet being arranged. Then without any explanation the person just stops responding. It’s when you believe things are going well and then it just stops sudden. Someone not answering a few messages that you’ve exchanged on here is not ghosting, that’s just someone changing their mind. I understand the difference. But also didn’t properly explain the definition. So yeah, what are your thoughts on someone just all of a sudden blanking you. Even if you have met etc and not responding or messaging etc? And obviously I’m not talking about meeting during Covid. " I think it’s a shit thing to do to someone. If you’ve met and you’re not feeling it you should at least tell the person. 1) it gets rid of the hope they have of seeing them again so they can draw a line under it. 2) it would stop them blaming themselves and thinking they did something wrong 3) they can start getting over it if the person bluntly tells them that they aren’t interested and doesn’t want to meet again. I feel like a lot of people who ghost, do so because they don’t want to be nasty or don’t want the person to think they’re bad people but it shouldn’t matter what the person thinks of them cos they’re not interested anyway. A lot of this stuff is in my book! | |||
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"You can’t be ghosted on fab. If someone stops responding before a meet that’s them simply changing their mind. To be truly ghosted you need to have at least met the person or at the very least communication would need to have been frequent and a meet being arranged. Then without any explanation the person just stops responding. It’s when you believe things are going well and then it just stops sudden. Someone not answering a few messages that you’ve exchanged on here is not ghosting, that’s just someone changing their mind. You can be ghosted on fab. I socialled with someone twice. Put plans in order for a full meet (ie arrangements for family work etc) He was pushing for it. We chatted that week he asked me to send him some pics on the Friday night. We were meant to be having the meet on the following Tuesday. Then zero. Nothing. That’s ghosting in my opinion it’s not a chat and no reply. I had already given up two afternoons to spend time with him and I had arranged my off duty to spend the day with him " You had a social twice? That’s meeting them in person then so yeah that’s ghosting. A lot of people just assume that if someone doesn’t answer a second or third message they’ve exchanged on here that equates to ghosting. Which it does not. | |||
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"You can’t be ghosted on fab. If someone stops responding before a meet that’s them simply changing their mind. To be truly ghosted you need to have at least met the person or at the very least communication would need to have been frequent and a meet being arranged. Then without any explanation the person just stops responding. It’s when you believe things are going well and then it just stops sudden. Someone not answering a few messages that you’ve exchanged on here is not ghosting, that’s just someone changing their mind. I understand the difference. But also didn’t properly explain the definition. So yeah, what are your thoughts on someone just all of a sudden blanking you. Even if you have met etc and not responding or messaging etc? And obviously I’m not talking about meeting during Covid. I think it’s a shit thing to do to someone. If you’ve met and you’re not feeling it you should at least tell the person. 1) it gets rid of the hope they have of seeing them again so they can draw a line under it. 2) it would stop them blaming themselves and thinking they did something wrong 3) they can start getting over it if the person bluntly tells them that they aren’t interested and doesn’t want to meet again. I feel like a lot of people who ghost, do so because they don’t want to be nasty or don’t want the person to think they’re bad people but it shouldn’t matter what the person thinks of them cos they’re not interested anyway. A lot of this stuff is in my book!" Can I get a signed copy please? Preferably with a boob imprint over the foreword | |||
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"You can’t be ghosted on fab. If someone stops responding before a meet that’s them simply changing their mind. To be truly ghosted you need to have at least met the person or at the very least communication would need to have been frequent and a meet being arranged. Then without any explanation the person just stops responding. It’s when you believe things are going well and then it just stops sudden. Someone not answering a few messages that you’ve exchanged on here is not ghosting, that’s just someone changing their mind. I understand the difference. But also didn’t properly explain the definition. So yeah, what are your thoughts on someone just all of a sudden blanking you. Even if you have met etc and not responding or messaging etc? And obviously I’m not talking about meeting during Covid. I think it’s a shit thing to do to someone. If you’ve met and you’re not feeling it you should at least tell the person. 1) it gets rid of the hope they have of seeing them again so they can draw a line under it. 2) it would stop them blaming themselves and thinking they did something wrong 3) they can start getting over it if the person bluntly tells them that they aren’t interested and doesn’t want to meet again. I feel like a lot of people who ghost, do so because they don’t want to be nasty or don’t want the person to think they’re bad people but it shouldn’t matter what the person thinks of them cos they’re not interested anyway. A lot of this stuff is in my book! Can I get a signed copy please? Preferably with a boob imprint over the foreword " Yeah. If you buy it I’ll sign it | |||
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"You can’t be ghosted on fab. If someone stops responding before a meet that’s them simply changing their mind. To be truly ghosted you need to have at least met the person or at the very least communication would need to have been frequent and a meet being arranged. Then without any explanation the person just stops responding. It’s when you believe things are going well and then it just stops sudden. Someone not answering a few messages that you’ve exchanged on here is not ghosting, that’s just someone changing their mind. I understand the difference. But also didn’t properly explain the definition. So yeah, what are your thoughts on someone just all of a sudden blanking you. Even if you have met etc and not responding or messaging etc? And obviously I’m not talking about meeting during Covid. I think it’s a shit thing to do to someone. If you’ve met and you’re not feeling it you should at least tell the person. 1) it gets rid of the hope they have of seeing them again so they can draw a line under it. 2) it would stop them blaming themselves and thinking they did something wrong 3) they can start getting over it if the person bluntly tells them that they aren’t interested and doesn’t want to meet again. I feel like a lot of people who ghost, do so because they don’t want to be nasty or don’t want the person to think they’re bad people but it shouldn’t matter what the person thinks of them cos they’re not interested anyway. A lot of this stuff is in my book! Can I get a signed copy please? Preferably with a boob imprint over the foreword Yeah. If you buy it I’ll sign it " Deal | |||
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"I probably have one of the worse experiences of being ghosted Is that a ply to get a full inbox No, basically what happened was, I got to know said individual, we chatted every night on the phone for around 8 weeks, during this time her father passed away and I was there for at every moment, I was even the first individual she spoke to after the funeral,..we agreed to meet and I spent 3 nights and days at her hours,..two days after this she completely ghosted me with no explanation " A little strange... Obviously something she saw in you or something you did that hit the cooler button... Anyway your Status... Yep a banana first thing every single morning for me | |||
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"Not completely. They seem to reappear months down the line. " This Went with it for long enough before deciding I was worth better than that and blocking him | |||
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"Not completely. They seem to reappear months down the line. This Went with it for long enough before deciding I was worth better than that and blocking him " Wish I had, instead I wasted a lot of time over someone who wasn't worth it. | |||
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"Or have you in fact ghosted someone? What are your thoughts about either?" Yes | |||
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"I’ve been zombied a few times...... That’s when someone ghosts you and then contacts you 6 months to a year later... like nothing ever happened..... First one was a married lady who lived around the corner from me... She would text me whenever she was walking her dog and meet me for car sex.... One night she texted to meet up , I get in my car and wait for her... for 30 minutes no contact... I leave... I figured her husband found out.... 1 year later , I get a text .... Hey what’s up , you want to meet ? I replied with the classic “ Who is this “ lol Second time I got ghosted... Was a single female I met on Instagram.... We hung out 3 times, sex was good everything was cool... She texted me on a Sunday night to hangout... I went out bought groceries , wine , cleaned up my apartment and shaved my balls.... Nothing... no text or phone call..... 2 years later I get a text... “ Hey sorry about last time , I started falling for you “ I replied no worries, I’m married with a kid on the way ..... Last one was the worst.... Young couple, 21 year old male , 19 year old female... I was their first bull and I thought it was great... they invited me over a second time because they had a female friend with them.... I get dressed, shave my balls and get in the car... I drive in traffic, and get to their house... text them I’m here... no response... I waited 1 hour... just because I didn’t want to drive home in traffic and I could possibly fuck 2 teenage girls... nothing, so I go home.... I get a text 8 months later “ Sorry about last time , we had a fight “ I responded “ Sorry, I don’t need sex that bad , fuck off “ They still text me almost every weekend begging me to come over ... they even offered me money and to send a Uber....." Its the preparatory shaving that puts the nail in the coffin. Ive been smooth so often all for nothing | |||
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"I’ve been zombied a few times...... That’s when someone ghosts you and then contacts you 6 months to a year later... like nothing ever happened..... First one was a married lady who lived around the corner from me... She would text me whenever she was walking her dog and meet me for car sex.... One night she texted to meet up , I get in my car and wait for her... for 30 minutes no contact... I leave... I figured her husband found out.... 1 year later , I get a text .... Hey what’s up , you want to meet ? I replied with the classic “ Who is this “ lol Second time I got ghosted... Was a single female I met on Instagram.... We hung out 3 times, sex was good everything was cool... She texted me on a Sunday night to hangout... I went out bought groceries , wine , cleaned up my apartment and shaved my balls.... Nothing... no text or phone call..... 2 years later I get a text... “ Hey sorry about last time , I started falling for you “ I replied no worries, I’m married with a kid on the way ..... Last one was the worst.... Young couple, 21 year old male , 19 year old female... I was their first bull and I thought it was great... they invited me over a second time because they had a female friend with them.... I get dressed, shave my balls and get in the car... I drive in traffic, and get to their house... text them I’m here... no response... I waited 1 hour... just because I didn’t want to drive home in traffic and I could possibly fuck 2 teenage girls... nothing, so I go home.... I get a text 8 months later “ Sorry about last time , we had a fight “ I responded “ Sorry, I don’t need sex that bad , fuck off “ They still text me almost every weekend begging me to come over ... they even offered me money and to send a Uber..... Its the preparatory shaving that puts the nail in the coffin. Ive been smooth so often all for nothing" I feel your pain..... that’s why I love my long term couples... I can just show up and do my showering/grooming at their place..... | |||
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"Currently being ghosted. Dude practically harrassed me to get a date, I agree, we talk on kik for a week, have an hour phone chat, then silence since 3 days before we were due to me " Meet* | |||
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"Currently being ghosted. Dude practically harrassed me to get a date, I agree, we talk on kik for a week, have an hour phone chat, then silence since 3 days before we were due to me Meet*" Trust me , he will rise from the dead next week and try to reschedule another date... But in the meantime before the next date , he will want to chat on kik and the phone until he does the same thing again.... Wash , rinse , repeat.... | |||
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"Currently being ghosted. Dude practically harrassed me to get a date, I agree, we talk on kik for a week, have an hour phone chat, then silence since 3 days before we were due to me Meet*" Can’t believe anyone would ghost you, what an idiot. | |||
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"Currently being ghosted. Dude practically harrassed me to get a date, I agree, we talk on kik for a week, have an hour phone chat, then silence since 3 days before we were due to me Meet* Trust me , he will rise from the dead next week and try to reschedule another date... But in the meantime before the next date , he will want to chat on kik and the phone until he does the same thing again.... Wash , rinse , repeat...." Yeh but I am not a mug, 1 shot and you are out, unless given a genuine reason with notice | |||
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"Once. I tracked him down and he’s now under my patio. " That's twice he'll probably ghost you | |||
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"Once. I tracked him down and he’s now under my patio. That's twice he'll probably ghost you " | |||
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"Yes, but they always resurface about 6 months later " . Definitely this | |||
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