FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to The Lounge

Why do people hide their profiles so often

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

One day I can see them and the next I can't

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *assion and MoreCouple
over a year ago

Here and There, Monaghan

Just been messaged by a hidden profile, asked why and was told because of covid lol so how he's blocked. No interested in people who are to shy for fab

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

Because they can

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *palWoman
over a year ago

The Bermuda Triangle in Suffolk


"One day I can see them and the next I can't "
There are various reasons why, to take a break...stop the inbox from overflowing, maybe others will add other reasons

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Lots of reasons

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

often they do because they are married or on the verge of being caught out with a false profile

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

mines been hidden for three years

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Some people routinely hide their profiles simply to keep the number of people messaging them down - nothing sinister about it...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I think sometimes people are just busy and don't feel that they want to check-in so they hide their profiles rather than have unanswered messages etc.

Also sometimes things come up in their life that means they need a break, but they don't want to leave.

It could be considered a way of saving people's time, if they know they are not going to be responding to messages, or active on the site they might as well hide their profile if they want.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 24/10/20 17:14:30]

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *lovebustyladiesMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"One day I can see them and the next I can't "

It’s cos they are shy and can’t handle the attention then get from the masses of emails they get lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"mines been hidden for three years "

So has mine!

I pop into the forums now and then, don't message anybody. Sad state of affairs when people give the impression you have to justify how you run your profile!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I do not respond to hidden profiles although sometimes hide my own. It stops alot of messages being sent when you are too busy to answer them.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 24/10/20 17:14:30]"

I've noticed it with forumites as well. One minute you see them and the next you can't then I can see them back again the next day or a couple or hours later.

What's all that about lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

.

Because I want to, simple as

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've just set my filters to nuclear. That's the other option

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"[Removed by poster at 24/10/20 17:14:30]

I've noticed it with forumites as well. One minute you see them and the next you can't then I can see them back again the next day or a couple or hours later. maybe theyve blocked you

What's all that about lol "

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been hidden since I’ve been back, briefly unhidden when women have asked to have a look. The reason I’m hidden is still unclear, experts warn finding out is still along way off.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve been hidden since I’ve been back, briefly unhidden when women have asked to have a look. The reason I’m hidden is still unclear, experts warn finding out is still along way off."

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only


"I’ve been hidden since I’ve been back, briefly unhidden when women have asked to have a look. The reason I’m hidden is still unclear, experts warn finding out is still along way off."

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell


"[Removed by poster at 24/10/20 17:14:30]

I've noticed it with forumites as well. One minute you see them and the next you can't then I can see them back again the next day or a couple or hours later.

What's all that about lol "

Again, it's probably because they don't want to be swamped with messages, especially if they've indicated in a post that they like something - almost guaranteed that loads of blokes will send them 'offers'...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been hidden since I’ve been back, briefly unhidden when women have asked to have a look. The reason I’m hidden is still unclear, experts warn finding out is still along way off.

"

Does that mean you’re perplexed, or you haven’t got a comeback ?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Bothered for meets when they aren't meeting.

Bothered by undesirables. Perhaps they prefer to limit their inbox, which can be a nightmare. Or to seek out those who they wish to be in contact with

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Sometimes you need a little break from Groundhog Day

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well as a man who never gets any messages from women I can't see the point in me hiding. Or is it worth a go? Hmm

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve been hidden since I’ve been back, briefly unhidden when women have asked to have a look. The reason I’m hidden is still unclear, experts warn finding out is still along way off.

Does that mean you’re perplexed, or you haven’t got a comeback ? "

It's just baffling me

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well as a man who never gets any messages from women I can't see the point in me hiding. Or is it worth a go? Hmm"

No, you’ll get even less messages than before. It’s only a select few men who can pull off being hidden.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Anyway, OP, it's not "User has hidden their profile" you should be worried about...

....it's "You can't view this profile" that's the killer - because 9 times out of 10 that means you've been blocked by them!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

I hide ours when my special time of the month is due. This is because I still want to read the forum but I don't really want to receive messages or get into conversations with friends when I'm feeling hormonal and crabby.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been hidden since I’ve been back, briefly unhidden when women have asked to have a look. The reason I’m hidden is still unclear, experts warn finding out is still along way off.

Does that mean you’re perplexed, or you haven’t got a comeback ?

It's just baffling me "

It’s hardly quantum physics, I’ve got my reasons.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares. It’s their profile. They can join in or not. Plenty of people on this site after all. X

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve been hidden since I’ve been back, briefly unhidden when women have asked to have a look. The reason I’m hidden is still unclear, experts warn finding out is still along way off.

Does that mean you’re perplexed, or you haven’t got a comeback ?

It's just baffling me

It’s hardly quantum physics, I’ve got my reasons."

Hmm so what do it take to pull off the hidden look?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

It’s common knowledge that Forum men use it as a form of reverse physiology. They believe that women will think ‘oh this guy must be popular if he’s hiding’ in the hope of more engagement in the treads they post on.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I've just come out of hiding for a few days. First time we've done that and been on here a year. Just feeling like I needed to take a break for a bit but still wanted to chat to friends so hiding for a few days seemed the best way.

Mrs x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I’m hiding mine regularly at the moment. I’m not meeting and often just browsing the forums, so it just cuts down with messages being received.

Just as others have already said, nothing particularly weird or underhand about it.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been hidden since I’ve been back, briefly unhidden when women have asked to have a look. The reason I’m hidden is still unclear, experts warn finding out is still along way off.

Does that mean you’re perplexed, or you haven’t got a comeback ?

It's just baffling me

It’s hardly quantum physics, I’ve got my reasons.

Hmm so what do it take to pull off the hidden look? "

Nonchalance.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s common knowledge that Forum men use it as a form of reverse physiology. They believe that women will think ‘oh this guy must be popular if he’s hiding’ in the hope of more engagement in the treads they post on. "

See I thought that women would think the guy is married with something to hide

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"It’s common knowledge that Forum men use it as a form of reverse physiology. They believe that women will think ‘oh this guy must be popular if he’s hiding’ in the hope of more engagement in the treads they post on.

See I thought that women would think the guy is married with something to hide "

Don’t fall into the trap

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

I’m hidden due to my job

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not hidden but I have no profile. Within seconds of signing up there was a queue of people asking to meet for a fuck without even knowing if I was really man woman or beast. I would hide the profile but having nothing on it amounts to about the same

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes you need a little break from Groundhog Day "

You said that yesterday

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because its their choice

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

There are many reason.

We hide ours when we want to take a break and are not meeting.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well time for me to have a drink and a think about this

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

I’ve been hidden since March I sometimes come out of hiding but not for long

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’re just chatting on the forums, I don’t see the need to have your profile open for everyone to see.

I can understand that some crave the attention and want photos fabbed but some just aren’t bothered about things like that.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *inateaseWoman
over a year ago

ANTRIM

I often hide my profile when I’m not meeting. Didn’t think I had to justify why!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well time for me to have a drink and a think about this "

You do that Joe, there’s a lot to mull over.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I quite often hide my profile when I need a break from Fab etc. But then generally I don't really come on at all or if I am messaging its in reply to people who have sent to me already

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I get fed up of messages and cock pics I've not asked for.

My profile states I won't reply.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’re just chatting on the forums, I don’t see the need to have your profile open for everyone to see.

I can understand that some crave the attention and want photos fabbed but some just aren’t bothered about things like that.

"

Yeah, people clearly are over thinking it, hilarious, if I want attention and validation and to be popular I’ll just unhide my profile, but I’m hear just to talk bollocks on here.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mines been hidden for three years "

The man asked why

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *evil-AngelWoman
over a year ago

...

I find that I need a break from here every now and then which is why I hide my profile. I know it's only temporary so I don't want to delete my profile.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Sometimes when you get too many messages it can get a bit overwhelming, so I sometimes hide for a few days... months...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Y is a crooked letter that can’t be straightened , my mum would say!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I hide when I want to browse In peace, so I don't get messaged

Or when I get fed up with the site or when I have a busy week etc.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cos lifes tough these days be my guess

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide because I'm just not in the mood. My choice my life.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Shame

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’re just chatting on the forums, I don’t see the need to have your profile open for everyone to see.

I can understand that some crave the attention and want photos fabbed but some just aren’t bothered about things like that.

Yeah, people clearly are over thinking it, hilarious, if I want attention and validation and to be popular I’ll just unhide my profile, but I’m hear just to talk bollocks on here."

It's because of your infamy! You even have a fan club! You should give out badges

Jealous. I inbox is full of cobwebs and dusty bunnies! (Bit like my head)

#givemeattentiongoddamnit

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"Sometimes you need a little break from Groundhog Day

You said that yesterday "

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes when you get too many messages it can get a bit overwhelming, so I sometimes hide for a few days... months... "

“I suffer with this problem literally all the time”. I never said, ever.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’re just chatting on the forums, I don’t see the need to have your profile open for everyone to see.

I can understand that some crave the attention and want photos fabbed but some just aren’t bothered about things like that.

Yeah, people clearly are over thinking it, hilarious, if I want attention and validation and to be popular I’ll just unhide my profile, but I’m hear just to talk bollocks on here.

It's because of your infamy! You even have a fan club! You should give out badges

Jealous. I inbox is full of cobwebs and dusty bunnies! (Bit like my head)

#givemeattentiongoddamnit "

Of any variety in particular...?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think sometimes people are just busy and don't feel that they want to check-in so they hide their profiles rather than have unanswered messages etc.

Also sometimes things come up in their life that means they need a break, but they don't want to leave.

It could be considered a way of saving people's time, if they know they are not going to be responding to messages, or active on the site they might as well hide their profile if they want."

What ^ this lady said.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Sydney university are on to them

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Sometimes you need a little break from Groundhog Day "

Yep

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people routinely hide their profiles simply to keep the number of people messaging them down - nothing sinister about it... "

Exactly. Or constant vile messages. Or whatever reason anyone fancies.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’re just chatting on the forums, I don’t see the need to have your profile open for everyone to see.

I can understand that some crave the attention and want photos fabbed but some just aren’t bothered about things like that.

Yeah, people clearly are over thinking it, hilarious, if I want attention and validation and to be popular I’ll just unhide my profile, but I’m hear just to talk bollocks on here.

It's because of your infamy! You even have a fan club! You should give out badges

Jealous. I inbox is full of cobwebs and dusty bunnies! (Bit like my head)

#givemeattentiongoddamnit

Of any variety in particular...? "

Nope not fussy, positive negative attention is attention

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im not hidden but I have no profile. Within seconds of signing up there was a queue of people asking to meet for a fuck without even knowing if I was really man woman or beast. I would hide the profile but having nothing on it amounts to about the same"

Same. Works great.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’re just chatting on the forums, I don’t see the need to have your profile open for everyone to see.

I can understand that some crave the attention and want photos fabbed but some just aren’t bothered about things like that.

Yeah, people clearly are over thinking it, hilarious, if I want attention and validation and to be popular I’ll just unhide my profile, but I’m hear just to talk bollocks on here.

It's because of your infamy! You even have a fan club! You should give out badges

Jealous. I inbox is full of cobwebs and dusty bunnies! (Bit like my head)

#givemeattentiongoddamnit

Of any variety in particular...?

Nope not fussy, positive negative attention is attention "

Lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One day I can see them and the next I can't "

Because we can!! Lol! Like most of the ladies on here sometimes it just gets too much! I quite often have a breather and a break from the messages by hiding my profile! Sometimes life gets busy and Fab has to take a back seat! No biggie....just the way I feel at the time!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im not hidden but I have no profile. Within seconds of signing up there was a queue of people asking to meet for a fuck without even knowing if I was really man woman or beast. I would hide the profile but having nothing on it amounts to about the same

Same. Works great. "

Its a scramble to get the filters on quick enough

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit I've done that a couple of times because...crap messages or just bored

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im not hidden but I have no profile. Within seconds of signing up there was a queue of people asking to meet for a fuck without even knowing if I was really man woman or beast. I would hide the profile but having nothing on it amounts to about the same

Same. Works great.

Its a scramble to get the filters on quick enough "

I don't need filters.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I hide mine when my son comes "home"

He's almost 20 and for all I know may be on here so I don't wanna show up on 'who's near' if he is.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

So many reasons, I was ill at one point so wasn't meeting, sometimes someone has annoyed me so I hide before I get put on the naughty step. I'm away with the kids for a weekend. Sometimes I just can't be fucked with another are you free tonight or Skype message. Sometimes I'm a hormonal mess and I know one message saying I'm an ugly minger will tip me over the edge.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide when I can't be bothered to chat and to stop the never ending messages. I must admit that if I receive a message or wink from a hidden profile, I will completely ignore them.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell


"Sometimes I'm a hormonal mess and I know one message saying I'm an ugly minger will tip me over the edge. "

I can't quite believe that anyone could call you that...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Because we can, and we want to

Jo

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide it every so often ..the unbelievable amount of mail is just overwhelming said no man on fab..EVER !! ..AHH only messing...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im not hidden but I have no profile. Within seconds of signing up there was a queue of people asking to meet for a fuck without even knowing if I was really man woman or beast. I would hide the profile but having nothing on it amounts to about the same

Same. Works great.

Its a scramble to get the filters on quick enough

I don't need filters. "

I am nowhere near as desirable as my inbox would have had me believe damn it. Invisible woman on the mean streets

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ebel Red HotWoman
over a year ago

York

Sometimes its the best way to avoid harassment.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Feel like playing this game now

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One day I can see them and the next I can't "

42.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top