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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it just me or you send a nice message to someone and they just block you straight away you read their profile it looks like you match what they are after but then they give you an instant block talk about a Kick in the teeth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You might think you match what they want.

They don't think so

Move on, OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

At this rate I won't be getting anywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At this rate I won't be getting anywhere "

Don't give up.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Matches need to work mutually and be at the right time too. Don't interpret blocks as impolite, as the other person may have appreciated your message, as well as you but it just won't work for them at the moment. Definitely your polite, well written messages are the way to go. We have to set and manage our expectations to be appropriate here though - it can save a lot of frustration, disappointment and heartache. It's the je ne sais quoi that can mean something will work between people.

At present, due to the virus, people aren't meeting for sex. They may have a backlog of people who they know that they are already waiting to meet and adding new people can just be too much, when none of us are certain when things will get to be safer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soooo many similar threads, sooooo little time.

Forget it, move on.

J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This hasn’t happened to me, but I’ve heard it happens to other men.

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

If I send a message and it's read deleted then i usually block, pointless in dwelling on it.

There's plenty of lovely ladies on here happy to reply

Everyone isn't for everyone, but there is someone for everyone

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I don't send messages anymore, I get blocked or just ignored but it's probably an age thing

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia


"At this rate I won't be getting anywhere "

Don't be so hard on yourself lovely x

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley


"Soooo many similar threads, sooooo little time.

Forget it, move on.

J "

Stop bitching and get on with it . They don’t like you . Your not gonna be everyone’s cuppa tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me or you send a nice message to someone and they just block you straight away you read their profile it looks like you match what they are after but then they give you an instant block talk about a Kick in the teeth "

Why is it a kick in the teeth? They don't want to meet you.

Be thankful you won't ever have to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me or you send a nice message to someone and they just block you straight away you read their profile it looks like you match what they are after but then they give you an instant block talk about a Kick in the teeth

Why is it a kick in the teeth? They don't want to meet you.

Be thankful you won't ever have to meet them. "

this ^

I never get why people are gutted that they can’t meet people that block them.

The last people I want to meet are those that have absolutely no interest in me, so surely it’s a win.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not an unknown fact that single men are swinging pariahs to a certain degree

However, I think, that the use of an online platform makes it feel more apparent than it actually is

It's not necessarily a measure of you, but more a measure of the online 'scene' versus the Swinging scene in general

Let's face it, there are people here that have never and will never enter a swingers club in their life

Online dynamics allow people to make snap judgements based on a few photos,a single introductory message and a few words in a profile

If you allow those snap judgements as a gauge of your success, you line yourself up for a bumpier ride than it need be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats life attraction cant be created on paper matches and propaganda lad just cos someone for example says i like beards nice eyes and tattoos that describes anyone from zz top to stonecold steve austin im assuming zz top have tattoos to prove a point here but im sure you get me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me or you send a nice message to someone and they just block you straight away you read their profile it looks like you match what they are after but then they give you an instant block talk about a Kick in the teeth "

You ever had an abusive message like I get from guys. Instant block and it happens a lot.

In fab it's not rude to block. You may think it is. It's just that we might not fancy you or don't want to be on receiving end of an abusive rejection message. I have had those. Just accept it op that you are not there type.

Good luck.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Tey and think of it as them having done you a favour by removing themselves from future searches you may make OP and therefore narrowing them down.

If you think about it - out there in the real world you are probably attracted to around 5% of people you encounter and of that 5%, maybe 5% will be attracted to you too - it's no different here.

Out there you don't usually get a "kick in the teeth" because someone doesn't fancy you - again try to make it no different here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This hasn’t happened to me, but I’ve heard it happens to other men."

Oh how it must feel to be you

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

And why assume it’s anything negative? Folk are complicated, some women have openly stated on the forums previously that they feel a bit off if the fella is handsome - they might have thought you were out of their league.

You might have been too far away - not everyone on here puts their genuine location.

The point I’m trying to make, is that it could be nothing to do with you, they just woke up in a grump and didn’t feel like being chatty/sociable etc.

Just take it on the chin and try someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And why assume it’s anything negative? Folk are complicated, some women have openly stated on the forums previously that they feel a bit off if the fella is handsome - they might have thought you were out of their league.

You might have been too far away - not everyone on here puts their genuine location.

The point I’m trying to make, is that it could be nothing to do with you, they just woke up in a grump and didn’t feel like being chatty/sociable etc.

Just take it on the chin and try someone else."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try a dating site like plenty of fish. I've had lovely sex with several nice women from there too.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

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By *ebel Red HotWoman
over a year ago

York


"Is it just me or you send a nice message to someone and they just block you straight away you read their profile it looks like you match what they are after but then they give you an instant block talk about a Kick in the teeth "

So what should they do?

1/Not open

2/open and not reply

3/Just delete

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

It's just part of the fab toolkit ...saves time with back and forthing for no reason

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Block them back o/p and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah totally, what about when you send a nice message and they send a lovely message back, then you reply and they laugh, then they reply with some great observational comedy, then you think damn she’s good I better up my game, so you reel out your all time classic, guess what, she loves it, she sends a face photo, oh wow she’s better than you thought, you send yours, she goes ‘Hey, hot stuff!’, you think damn she likes me. Then she mentions she’s got giant eyelashes on her car headlights and a sticker in the back window saying ‘Powered by fairy dust!’

And you’re like, fucking knew it was too good to be true, back to the drawing board!

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Yeah totally, what about when you send a nice message and they send a lovely message back, then you reply and they laugh, then they reply with some great observational comedy, then you think damn she’s good I better up my game, so you reel out your all time classic, guess what, she loves it, she sends a face photo, oh wow she’s better than you thought, you send yours, she goes ‘Hey, hot stuff!’, you think damn she likes me. Then she mentions she’s got giant eyelashes on her car headlights and a sticker in the back window saying ‘Powered by fairy dust!’

And you’re like, fucking knew it was too good to be true, back to the drawing board! "

What’s wrong with giant eyelashes on car headlights?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens. Don’t take it personally mate. It’s a numbers game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it all the time, no drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah totally, what about when you send a nice message and they send a lovely message back, then you reply and they laugh, then they reply with some great observational comedy, then you think damn she’s good I better up my game, so you reel out your all time classic, guess what, she loves it, she sends a face photo, oh wow she’s better than you thought, you send yours, she goes ‘Hey, hot stuff!’, you think damn she likes me. Then she mentions she’s got giant eyelashes on her car headlights and a sticker in the back window saying ‘Powered by fairy dust!’

And you’re like, fucking knew it was too good to be true, back to the drawing board!

What’s wrong with giant eyelashes on car headlights? "

Guess who’s got giant eyelashes on her headlights

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By *unmatt888Man
over a year ago

Duns


"Yeah totally, what about when you send a nice message and they send a lovely message back, then you reply and they laugh, then they reply with some great observational comedy, then you think damn she’s good I better up my game, so you reel out your all time classic, guess what, she loves it, she sends a face photo, oh wow she’s better than you thought, you send yours, she goes ‘Hey, hot stuff!’, you think damn she likes me. Then she mentions she’s got giant eyelashes on her car headlights and a sticker in the back window saying ‘Powered by fairy dust!’

And you’re like, fucking knew it was too good to be true, back to the drawing board!

What’s wrong with giant eyelashes on car headlights? "

Blocked, just to be safe

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