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Having thousands of friends/followers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

On your social media accounts.

Not talking about business accounts but your personal Facebook or Instagram as an example.

Ladies and gents, is it fair to say it’s a possible red flag the people who have thousands of friends/followers and are constantly adding new random people daily (usually attractive members of the opposite sex)?

If so why? Is it a need for attention, validation, creeping to slide into dms?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Nah. Not something I do myself but I dated a guy who had thousands of friends on his FL account from all over the world. He just liked to perv on their pictures. Never bothered me.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Some of these go on to be paid influencers for make up companies etc, it's cheap advertising for the companies

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

No I don't believe so, I only have a small amount of friends on other social media. But some of my mates have thousands, I think it depends on lots of different factors. They move fairly often, work for example the NHS, go out most weekends or are nosey buggers.

And so what if they are following lots of women? They're not hiding it from you.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I've got about 500 friends on Facebook, there's probably only a dozen of them I've never met in person.

I think folk in their 20's just bulk add thousands of people to look popular, and obviously some are doing it to shark on the attractive ones.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So maybe don’t list this as a potential red flag then?

Maybe I’m being to personal so I need you guys to give me the balanced unbiased view.

I had dealings with a guy who turned out to be a knob and he had around 4,600 friends on his Facebook and whenever I looked at it the number would increase by about 10 extra friends a day. Just looked now for the purpose of this thread and it’s on 4,997!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he’s a knob I’d leave him too it and not give his social media any thought

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I think he was just a knob. Just checked one of mates and she has in excess of 2000 friends. She's happily married and loves the bones off her man. She is however, a bit of a social butterfly, you know one of those people who knows absolutely everyone and is a bit of an attention seeker.

So the number of friends alone wouldn't bother me, but it might be a red flag when you add it to other things if that makes sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a social mediaphobe.

You can call me mr green flag

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York


"So maybe don’t list this as a potential red flag then?

Maybe I’m being to personal so I need you guys to give me the balanced unbiased view.

I had dealings with a guy who turned out to be a knob and he had around 4,600 friends on his Facebook and whenever I looked at it the number would increase by about 10 extra friends a day. Just looked now for the purpose of this thread and it’s on 4,997!"

Unless he's some kind of nightclub promoter or celebrity there's no way he knows nearly 5000 people in real life haha! Outright ask him if he actually knows all these people and see what he says

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be a red flag for me

I wouldn't want to date a man who is that invested with social media...granted, it might be an age thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve 290 and it’s a selection of family, old friends, new friends, gig contacts and musicians

There are a surprising amount of females but the majority of those are musicians I’ve met through the years

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So maybe don’t list this as a potential red flag then?

Maybe I’m being to personal so I need you guys to give me the balanced unbiased view.

I had dealings with a guy who turned out to be a knob and he had around 4,600 friends on his Facebook and whenever I looked at it the number would increase by about 10 extra friends a day. Just looked now for the purpose of this thread and it’s on 4,997!

Unless he's some kind of nightclub promoter or celebrity there's no way he knows nearly 5000 people in real life haha! Outright ask him if he actually knows all these people and see what he says "

But then you’d have like a business page wouldn’t you.

Also the likes of social media ‘influencers’ on insta that are paid to promote products I’d say those are quite valid reasons and beneficial to have thousands of followers.

But when it’s a personal account and you can see that there’s new adds daily and it’s all attractive members of the opposite sex. I think I should stick it in as a potential red flag to be mindful of when added to more red flags.

Would that be fair guys?

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

Influencers are the absolute worst!

But yeah he's probably just trawling through Facebook profiles adding all these attractive women and sending dick pics or gushing compliments to try and get laid. Chances are if he's attractive himself it's working as well...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On your social media accounts.

Not talking about business accounts but your personal Facebook or Instagram as an example.

Ladies and gents, is it fair to say it’s a possible red flag the people who have thousands of friends/followers and are constantly adding new random people daily (usually attractive members of the opposite sex)?

If so why? Is it a need for attention, validation, creeping to slide into dms?

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I personally cannot see the point in adding people you dont know on fb. To me there must be an underlying issue of un happiness that makes them feel the need to seek validation from strangers.

If they post a pic for instance and get 200 likes but have 2000 friends what does that tell you.

Just my personal opinion.

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

L had a pretty big following on Instagram and Twitter, around 20k+ on each, but she was actively modelling professionally at the time so it was all part of that.

She said it was a lot of creepy messages and the occasional free thing, but not really worth anything.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I play games apps, a fair few on my fb I interact with on these that I've never met. The majority on there I have met though.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Would be a red flag to me due to past experience.

They can slide in the dm’s see. Secretly chatting about this and that. Next thing you know they’ve met up for a coffee and shagged each other senseless!

Or it might be innocent. But My spider sense would be tingling something awful.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'd find it a red flag, especially on facefuck. To me that would show lack of care or thought surrounding personal detail sharing and a level of naivety that would be a concern.

I'd also think they were more concerned with their popularity than anything else, and that doesn't sit right in my tummy. That would tell me they'd fallen into the trap of social media, and would be concerned for their mental health long term.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The people that i know who have thousands of friends generally have business accounts linked, or social activities where you meet hundreds of people at a time.. At a dance weekender there can be 2k people attending

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

The only social media I’m on is FB.

I’ve approximately 40 friends on there, all of them family or good friends who I’ve met many times.

Hopefully this puts me in a ‘nice chap’ bracket, not an outcast with hardly any friends!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Unless its business accounts im not attracted to people that use a lot of social media

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im not on FB for that exact reason i make my friends the old fashion way meeting people and chatting to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really.

I’ve got 3,000+ followers on Instagram, it’s nothing actually, but they were gained when my account was public, it’s now private.

Followers or lots of friends don’t define someone. You’ll find those who have travelled the world tend to have lots of Facebook friends for example.

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

Iv got over 3000 friends on fb last time I looked....some time ago. All of them I have met at least once.....often chatting utter cod shit in some que somewhere back in the days of having a social life and partying most weekends or are dj/producers/something to do with mass techno events. The odd random friend request I do rarely accept has to have at least 800 friends in common and clearly from the dance scene.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I don't use any social media

Unless you count fab as a type of social media for perverts?

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By *etal MickeyMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

I have just checked my first 94 friends. Overdue a cull on my friends list.

There's a handful that I haven't met but they are useful contacts to do with my project car for parts and advice.

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