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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

attribute you seek in people you meet socially or for fun? Could be about looks, personality, humour... whatever.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Smoking. Hate it

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

Cheats...of either sex.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

They have to have a sense of humour. Can't be doing with dull people, whatsoever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drugs, no way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t restrict it to just one, there are multiple deal breakers.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Must communicate clearly.

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

If I have to have only one... height

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lies and dishonesty from people who knock off 10-15 years off their age to people who say what they expect people them to say when they really have other views.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Has to have a full head of hair.

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only


"Can’t restrict it to just one, there are multiple deal breakers."

This! I have a few too

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"Can’t restrict it to just one, there are multiple deal breakers."

This for me too.

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Ok, I can see I have been too restrictive here, sorry - what would be your top 3 dealbreakers then... if one is not enough

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Poor personal hygiene, smoking, drink/drug issues (I have more dealbreakers though)

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only


"Ok, I can see I have been too restrictive here, sorry - what would be your top 3 dealbreakers then... if one is not enough "

Bald/skinhead

Attitude

Cock size & appearance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality is key. Got to have a laugh And nit be too serious..that’s a no no

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"Ok, I can see I have been too restrictive here, sorry - what would be your top 3 dealbreakers then... if one is not enough "

Smoking

Drug/alcohol addictions

guys shorter than me

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Cheats

People who have no craic

Arrogance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't take themselves too seriously.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

He must have confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Understand that we are a couple.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They must have a pulse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They must be relaxed / chilled / laid back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pulse

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By *appytrailmanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Got to have a good sense of humour

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By *irtywildsideMan
over a year ago

Barry

A proper first message written in non text speak is the only way to get a response from me to start with

If things progress then personal hygiene is my deal breaker when I meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They’re not a cunt

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

No drama llamas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No drama llamas "

What about llama dramas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No lies..break my trust and thats it...just tell me truth and I shall show respect

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"No drama llamas

What about llama dramas "

no! Not those either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Non smoker and hygienic

2. Taller than me

3. Good looking

4. Decent sense of humour

5. Not a chav

6. No beard

Oops that's more than 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They absolutely must be good looking. Facial attractiveness is the one thing that is never negotiable. Height, hair colour, eye colour, all that stuff could be anything but they must be attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tories.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Able to stay hard in a condom!

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Has to be an attraction

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

They must have Digestives

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

smoking and drugs

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

Teeth...bad teeth/missing front teeth are just an absolute nope!

Moustaches

Estranged Fathers who moan they are paying too much child maintenance to their exes...fuck off you absolute knob, they are your flesh and blood and you helped make them so be a man and take some responsibility!

I need a lay down now!

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By *irth VaderMan
over a year ago

Busby

Smoking /420 ..... honking

Liars (age and expectations)

Furry women ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be able to hold a proper conversation, non-smoker, and look wise not extremely big

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Non smoker, good teeth, tall and that all important attraction and spark!! It's the last bit that seems to be the most elusive!!....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical attraction

Personality

Sense of humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Three no's

Smoking/vaping/420

Rudeness

Text speak

Three yes'

Manners

Ability to hold a conversation

Good kisser

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hands, knees and boomps a daisy

Is that too much to ask for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hygiene

No cheaters

Safe sex only

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

Personal hygiene

Good senses of humour

Maturity and can hold a conversation.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Banter.

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By *ugga MannMan
over a year ago

Heathrow

Assuming there is some mutual attraction, they must have a naughty twinkle in their eyes, one that clearly lets me know that they are also “feeling it”!

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Personal hygiene things like greasy hair grimy teeth.

Physical Attraction has to be there for all.

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By *ostonJoeMan
over a year ago

Boston

Style

Hamdling

Performance

Lets face it, if I don't think I will look good in her then there is no point. The older I get, the harder that is to find. I look rediculous in a sleek little drop top, and lost in a big old dirt wrangler. I'm no tyre kicker, I will only turn up if I intend to put her through her paces. I need to be able to throw her around with confidence she will give me good feedback so I can throw her into the next curve that bit harder. If she can't handle going around and around, pumping out the laps then she needs a more pedestrian pilot. Lastly she needs to be able to perform when I put my foot down. I expect results and second is first last place. I want her to give me everything until I have drained her tank completely. That's a good gurl. No shopping trolleys, gas guzzlers, hairdryers, Chelsea tractors, fam taxis and bad wrappers. I'm just in it fer da pops n bangs. Boi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hygiene & tidyness - personal and, if accomodating, in their home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be respectful and articulate.

Have met some who couldn't even comprehend proper sentence or initiate any interesting topics .

Some don't allow their wives to talk.

Good communication stimulates mind and body .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Consent must be with enthusiasm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Consent must be with enthusiasm "

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Got to be a non-smoker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No straight guys - which none on here seem to get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Style

Hamdling

Performance

Lets face it, if I don't think I will look good in her then there is no point. The older I get, the harder that is to find. I look rediculous in a sleek little drop top, and lost in a big old dirt wrangler. I'm no tyre kicker, I will only turn up if I intend to put her through her paces. I need to be able to throw her around with confidence she will give me good feedback so I can throw her into the next curve that bit harder. If she can't handle going around and around, pumping out the laps then she needs a more pedestrian pilot. Lastly she needs to be able to perform when I put my foot down. I expect results and second is first last place. I want her to give me everything until I have drained her tank completely. That's a good gurl. No shopping trolleys, gas guzzlers, hairdryers, Chelsea tractors, fam taxis and bad wrappers. I'm just in it fer da pops n bangs. Boi. "

I had a good chuckle reading this, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attractive face is the number 1 thing for me

5ft 9 and above

Not a cunt

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Lack of hygiene.

I could fuck a dumb cluck as long as the dumb cluck can fuck .......

I'm not holding I.Q. Tests.

Assume the position for a good sniffin'!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assuming there is some mutual attraction, they must have a naughty twinkle in their eyes, one that clearly lets me know that they are also “feeling it”!"

This too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The spark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They eat meat.

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Thanks everybody who contributed and made me chuckle... I realised I actually have more than one myself.... and my new list includes the "need for enthusiasm" (funny!) as well as "preparedness for a good sniffing" (hysterical) and a few others.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Sense of humour and a connection mentally.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport


"If I have to have only one... height"

Width and depth helps as well, i like fully three dimensional personalities.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Oh lord. No idea. It could be anything. Racism and homophobia would be absolutes. But that’s two. Can I have more than 1?

V x

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By *omin8rMan
over a year ago

In A Playspace


"Oh lord. No idea. It could be anything. Racism and homophobia would be absolutes. But that’s two. Can I have more than 1?

V x "

LOL I love to play chess too but depends on how many chips on the board, some of the pieces can only move limited spaces, and have to watch the other players around. Don't want too much attention on how the game is played. Too much shady play can be easily recognisable. And don't want to bring too much attention to observers lol

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"Oh lord. No idea. It could be anything. Racism and homophobia would be absolutes. But that’s two. Can I have more than 1?

V x

LOL I love to play chess too but depends on how many chips on the board, some of the pieces can only move limited spaces, and have to watch the other players around. Don't want too much attention on how the game is played. Too much shady play can be easily recognisable. And don't want to bring too much attention to observers lol"

I say what now?

V x

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

People that like a good chat. If they can tell a story even better.

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By *omin8rMan
over a year ago

In A Playspace

Always putting my foot where my mouth is will zip it until then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He laughed out loud. ^

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By *adyAndTheBeardCouple
over a year ago

Bridlington

Teeth, hygiene, manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty

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By *isces WomanWoman
over a year ago

West London

My height or taller

Dont use text speak

Cheaters and liers

420 or other drinkers smokers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

High Libodo.

Having been married to a partner with very low Libido, I never want to be in that situation again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eyebrow piercing. Absolutely no way on earth, dont care how fit you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Poor personal hygiene and too much hair down below, of I'm a bloke and I can keep it clean down there, then what's your excuse is what I say oh and bad teeth is a turn off as well.

I had a meet where a lady showed up with both those issues and I politely cut it short and never met up with her again (I didn't like the fact I cut it short etc but yea)

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"Poor personal hygiene and too much hair down below, of I'm a bloke and I can keep it clean down there, then what's your excuse is what I say oh and bad teeth is a turn off as well.

I had a meet where a lady showed up with both those issues and I politely cut it short and never met up with her again (I didn't like the fact I cut it short etc but yea) "

Not dissing your choices, they’re yours to have. But ...... hair does not mean unclean.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Poor personal hygiene and too much hair down below, of I'm a bloke and I can keep it clean down there, then what's your excuse is what I say oh and bad teeth is a turn off as well.

I had a meet where a lady showed up with both those issues and I politely cut it short and never met up with her again (I didn't like the fact I cut it short etc but yea)

Not dissing your choices, they’re yours to have. But ...... hair does not mean unclean.

V x "

Never said it was, just saying I don't like to see it personally

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"If I have to have only one... height"

Ditto!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I have to have only one... height

Ditto!"

Do I qualify being 6”6?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mole.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Freckles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A pulse....must have one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone that smokes ..a pure disgusting stench ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A mole."

Not a beaver?

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Liars.

Cruelty of any form for their own fun.

Self centered.

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By *isslushWoman
over a year ago

wolverhampton


"attribute you seek in people you meet socially or for fun? Could be about looks, personality, humour... whatever."
honesty

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Bad hygiene

Married/attached without permission

Dull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mustnt be a Tory

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By *irth VaderMan
over a year ago

Busby


"Mustnt be a Tory "

Wouldn’t you see that as a challenge to fuck some sense into them.

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

Snogging and a cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a list

I know what it is but I choose not to put in in RANTY CAPS LOCK on my profile

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Ok, I can see I have been too restrictive here, sorry - what would be your top 3 dealbreakers then... if one is not enough "

My three are on my profile, they are persistently ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mustnt be a Tory

Wouldn’t you see that as a challenge to fuck some sense into them. "

What an answer

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

Right wing attitudes, not for me.

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Right wing attitudes, not for me."
This

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By *lovebustyladiesMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Personality and the ability to hold a conversation other then yes no answers lol

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Enthusiasm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A level of intelligence

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"A level of intelligence "
Hallelujah!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must:

good/fun personality

No’s:

Cheating ... to much drama

Drugs ... just not for me each to either own but I don’t like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A level of intelligence Hallelujah! "

Well I find women with a great mind have more sex appeal for me

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

A pulse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humour if its not fun id sooner fuck a hole in the fence

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Humour if its not fun id sooner fuck a hole in the fence"

Ouch....watch out for those splinters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Humour if its not fun id sooner fuck a hole in the fence

Ouch....watch out for those splinters "
hence the need of humour

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Eyes that truly reflect their smile..

Sense of humour..

Not up their own backside..

Naye would be dirty finger nails..

White socks..

Stingy..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, I can see I have been too restrictive here, sorry - what would be your top 3 dealbreakers then... if one is not enough "
ok so lack of humour failed

No message chemistry is a fail

Sot being specifically what i want almost down to dna is a fail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will intentionally breed/impregnate a woman. I've got some pretty far-out there kinks, but that's a special breed of fucked up in my book (no pun intended).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow that was a typo. I will NOT intentionally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow that was a typo. I will NOT intentionally. "

Freudian slip?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow that was a typo. I will NOT intentionally.

Freudian slip? "

Hahahah, more like my brain moving on to the next sentence before I've fully finished typing the current one

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By *ulu and MonkeyCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Racists - definitely

Brexit supporters - probably

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By *unmatt888Man
over a year ago

Duns


"Wow that was a typo. I will NOT intentionally.

Freudian slip? "

Freudian slip - where you say one thing and mean your mother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow that was a typo. I will NOT intentionally.

Freudian slip?

Freudian slip - where you say one thing and mean your mother."

I'll have to remember to use that one

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