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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have followed a few couples that the hotwives have boyfriends.. a few that do regular over nights and sometimes weekends away, which is all agreed. My question is, when is it too far? that the hubby has been replaced as her primary romantic interest/love.. it must be a tricky line to thread...love to know your thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have followed a few couples that the hotwives have boyfriends.. a few that do regular over nights and sometimes weekends away, which is all agreed. My question is, when is it too far? that the hubby has been replaced as her primary romantic interest/love.. it must be a tricky line to thread...love to know your thoughts "

Even though I sometimes play solo and have meets from a few hours to overnight with a person that doesn't mean that the fun is not something that both I and my boyfriend want. He is involved in every aspect prior to the meet and during by communication from messages, vids and pics... I may be alone with a guy but my mind is still very clearly on the enjoyment for us as a couple.

The moment either of us signals that the fun is not fulfilling our desires as a couple is when the playing stops.

Our relationship is paramount and the hotwife and hot husband fun is just that, addition naughtiness that turns us both on for each other equally.

Her x

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By *airytaleOfNewPorkMan
over a year ago

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"I have followed a few couples that the hotwives have boyfriends.. a few that do regular over nights and sometimes weekends away, which is all agreed. My question is, when is it too far? that the hubby has been replaced as her primary romantic interest/love.. it must be a tricky line to thread...love to know your thoughts

Even though I sometimes play solo and have meets from a few hours to overnight with a person that doesn't mean that the fun is not something that both I and my boyfriend want. He is involved in every aspect prior to the meet and during by communication from messages, vids and pics... I may be alone with a guy but my mind is still very clearly on the enjoyment for us as a couple.

The moment either of us signals that the fun is not fulfilling our desires as a couple is when the playing stops.

Our relationship is paramount and the hotwife and hot husband fun is just that, addition naughtiness that turns us both on for each other equally.

Her x"

Interesting insight!! Cheers Her!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have followed a few couples that the hotwives have boyfriends.. a few that do regular over nights and sometimes weekends away, which is all agreed. My question is, when is it too far? that the hubby has been replaced as her primary romantic interest/love.. it must be a tricky line to thread...love to know your thoughts

Even though I sometimes play solo and have meets from a few hours to overnight with a person that doesn't mean that the fun is not something that both I and my boyfriend want. He is involved in every aspect prior to the meet and during by communication from messages, vids and pics... I may be alone with a guy but my mind is still very clearly on the enjoyment for us as a couple.

The moment either of us signals that the fun is not fulfilling our desires as a couple is when the playing stops.

Our relationship is paramount and the hotwife and hot husband fun is just that, addition naughtiness that turns us both on for each other equally.

Her x"

Thanks for your reply..

Its not that I dont believe that rules are not set for regular boyfriends but I would think that at some point when weekends away with a boyfriend seem to be more the hotwives priority.. I am always the extra guy so the psychology

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I have followed a few couples that the hotwives have boyfriends.. a few that do regular over nights and sometimes weekends away, which is all agreed. My question is, when is it too far? that the hubby has been replaced as her primary romantic interest/love.. it must be a tricky line to thread...love to know your thoughts

Even though I sometimes play solo and have meets from a few hours to overnight with a person that doesn't mean that the fun is not something that both I and my boyfriend want. He is involved in every aspect prior to the meet and during by communication from messages, vids and pics... I may be alone with a guy but my mind is still very clearly on the enjoyment for us as a couple.

The moment either of us signals that the fun is not fulfilling our desires as a couple is when the playing stops.

Our relationship is paramount and the hotwife and hot husband fun is just that, addition naughtiness that turns us both on for each other equally.

Her x"

What you have described that you and hubby share together sounds great. The consideration that you give to each other. It being a completely shared pleasure that's 'just' fun. I've never had that kind of openess in any relationship I've had but I want it moving forward. Not necessarily to play but to be able to communicate like you both do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have followed a few couples that the hotwives have boyfriends.. a few that do regular over nights and sometimes weekends away, which is all agreed. My question is, when is it too far? that the hubby has been replaced as her primary romantic interest/love.. it must be a tricky line to thread...love to know your thoughts

Even though I sometimes play solo and have meets from a few hours to overnight with a person that doesn't mean that the fun is not something that both I and my boyfriend want. He is involved in every aspect prior to the meet and during by communication from messages, vids and pics... I may be alone with a guy but my mind is still very clearly on the enjoyment for us as a couple.

The moment either of us signals that the fun is not fulfilling our desires as a couple is when the playing stops.

Our relationship is paramount and the hotwife and hot husband fun is just that, addition naughtiness that turns us both on for each other equally.

Her x

What you have described that you and hubby share together sounds great. The consideration that you give to each other. It being a completely shared pleasure that's 'just' fun. I've never had that kind of openess in any relationship I've had but I want it moving forward. Not necessarily to play but to be able to communicate like you both do."

Sounds like openness is key alright

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm polyamorous so possibly a little different but to me, people aren't replacable. If I truly value a relationship with someone then another won't take away from that. It is however important to be mindful not to get carried away with new relationship energy and to make sure all partners feel valued and are given decent quality time.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"I have followed a few couples that the hotwives have boyfriends.. a few that do regular over nights and sometimes weekends away, which is all agreed. My question is, when is it too far? that the hubby has been replaced as her primary romantic interest/love.. it must be a tricky line to thread...love to know your thoughts

Even though I sometimes play solo and have meets from a few hours to overnight with a person that doesn't mean that the fun is not something that both I and my boyfriend want. He is involved in every aspect prior to the meet and during by communication from messages, vids and pics... I may be alone with a guy but my mind is still very clearly on the enjoyment for us as a couple.

The moment either of us signals that the fun is not fulfilling our desires as a couple is when the playing stops.

Our relationship is paramount and the hotwife and hot husband fun is just that, addition naughtiness that turns us both on for each other equally.

Her x"

Perfectly put. It’s about open honest communication, when it isn’t working for either person you both walk away from it, the two of you is the priority

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a guy that I see regular on here. He’s fab but there’s no way he’s a love interest ...only sex and friendship. It’s purely sexual and it’s bloody brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Works just fine here and has done for a couple of years.

My advice for anyone would be you just have to go into it with your eyes open and fully understand your own attitude towards it

If you’re not 100% sure you’re OK with it, don’t try to convince yourself you are to ‘keep the peace’ or whatever; it won’t work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have a guy that I see regular on here. He’s fab but there’s no way he’s a love interest ...only sex and friendship. It’s purely sexual and it’s bloody brilliant "

Interesting Doll.. lucky guys.. and you seem to have separated a good fuck from emotional/romance good for you..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have a guy that I see regular on here. He’s fab but there’s no way he’s a love interest ...only sex and friendship. It’s purely sexual and it’s bloody brilliant

Interesting Doll.. lucky guys.. and you seem to have separated a good fuck from emotional/romance good for you.. "

Yes I’ve been with my husband since school arrggggg lol and he is my only ever love and so I see anyone we meet regularly as great friends that enhance our togetherness.....we have a nice little group of women too...we are all brilliant friends and it’s actually something we never thought would happen when we first started this life

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I have weekend encounters with hothusbands, but if I caught a glimpse of him catching the feels then I'd end it.

Its supposed to be about fun and pleasure not wrecking relationships

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is about openess and honesty. It's been a learning process to get where we are and for me it is really important to be able to express what I don't like without taking it as a personal failing from C. If we agreed something and she didn't do it then I would feel justified being upset but as we've found new experiences I cannot expect her to telepathically know what I'm thinking so rather than being jealous and angry it is a case of talking about it openly and honestly together and discussing how to deal with that situation in future.

Equally, I trust her and know that once we have agreed on something she will stick to it, that reassures me that my feelings are important to her and I'm not just forgotten. Other couples are different, some guys like the feeling of being ignored or rejected.

Of course it can be a dangerous game, there is always the chance that your partner is going to fall for someone else but that is true without swinging - at least with singing there is an open and honest dialogue to start. I am sure it would be far easier to say 'I think I'm getting too involved with Mr x' in a swinging relationship where your partner knows all about your time together than to say 'there's this guy at work, I know I've never mentioned him before but we got friendly, been spending a lot of lunches together and I'm worried its gone a bit far...'

It is all about being open, knowing each others boundaries, respecting them and being able to talk without anger.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have a guy that I see regular on here. He’s fab but there’s no way he’s a love interest ...only sex and friendship. It’s purely sexual and it’s bloody brilliant

Interesting Doll.. lucky guys.. and you seem to have separated a good fuck from emotional/romance good for you..

Yes I’ve been with my husband since school arrggggg lol and he is my only ever love and so I see anyone we meet regularly as great friends that enhance our togetherness.....we have a nice little group of women too...we are all brilliant friends and it’s actually something we never thought would happen when we first started this life "

That’s an amazing evolution Doll.. sounds like a delicious playground but as you say founded on your love

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is about openess and honesty. It's been a learning process to get where we are and for me it is really important to be able to express what I don't like without taking it as a personal failing from C. If we agreed something and she didn't do it then I would feel justified being upset but as we've found new experiences I cannot expect her to telepathically know what I'm thinking so rather than being jealous and angry it is a case of talking about it openly and honestly together and discussing how to deal with that situation in future.

Equally, I trust her and know that once we have agreed on something she will stick to it, that reassures me that my feelings are important to her and I'm not just forgotten. Other couples are different, some guys like the feeling of being ignored or rejected.

Of course it can be a dangerous game, there is always the chance that your partner is going to fall for someone else but that is true without swinging - at least with singing there is an open and honest dialogue to start. I am sure it would be far easier to say 'I think I'm getting too involved with Mr x' in a swinging relationship where your partner knows all about your time together than to say 'there's this guy at work, I know I've never mentioned him before but we got friendly, been spending a lot of lunches together and I'm worried its gone a bit far...'

It is all about being open, knowing each others boundaries, respecting them and being able to talk without anger.

Mr"

Well Mr. I really admire your honesty.. this rings true to me as something that you as a couple have explored and have struggles with as I am sure is the same with most.. this is why I asked the question as your point would be how I think I would be.. trying to communicate without anger if things don’t go as planned.. admire your answer Mr

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By *iganpairCouple
over a year ago

Wigan, Lancs.

We have been in this situation before was best time it lasted 7 months he treated her well nights in/out nights away it felt right and would live donit again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have been in this situation before was best time it lasted 7 months he treated her well nights in/out nights away it felt right and would live donit again"

Sounds like he was pushing all the right buttons.. so to speak.. 7 months..

Suppose I did start the thread thinking sometimes a romantic element might creep in from the boyfriend perhaps or the wife but not seeing any posters having that issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it is totally possible to love one person and fuck others. Nothing and no one can get between that.

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By *roop69Man
over a year ago

St Columb Major


"I have followed a few couples that the hotwives have boyfriends.. a few that do regular over nights and sometimes weekends away, which is all agreed. My question is, when is it too far? that the hubby has been replaced as her primary romantic interest/love.. it must be a tricky line to thread...love to know your thoughts "
ive had that done to me but luckily she came to her senses in what she could of lost happy to share in private if you liked to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The connection and bond I share with my husband is so deep-rooted that it will never be shaken by external factors. So anything I get from others is merely extra fun, or something which suppliments my marriage, it doesn't replace it. Plus I usually see men and women who are different to hubby as well so there is no overlap. However, hubby always comes first, and always will, I'd walk away from anyone else in a heartbeat without a second thought. We also have a rule that if either of us ever feel that swinging is harming our relationship at all, then it stops immediately. We operate with total trust a transparency.

So all that said, I'm free to have do as I wish and neither of us are concerned. I mostly prefer NSA or one night stands anyway. But I'm am free to have long term boyfriend's or girlfriend's if I wish. And have once xx

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants


"I have followed a few couples that the hotwives have boyfriends.. a few that do regular over nights and sometimes weekends away, which is all agreed. My question is, when is it too far? that the hubby has been replaced as her primary romantic interest/love.. it must be a tricky line to thread...love to know your thoughts

Even though I sometimes play solo and have meets from a few hours to overnight with a person that doesn't mean that the fun is not something that both I and my boyfriend want. He is involved in every aspect prior to the meet and during by communication from messages, vids and pics... I may be alone with a guy but my mind is still very clearly on the enjoyment for us as a couple.

The moment either of us signals that the fun is not fulfilling our desires as a couple is when the playing stops.

Our relationship is paramount and the hotwife and hot husband fun is just that, addition naughtiness that turns us both on for each other equally.

Her x"

Exactly this. Communication is key, and it all leads to the reclaim for us. (we're Hot Hubby, not Hot Wife)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The connection and bond I share with my husband is so deep-rooted that it will never be shaken by external factors. So anything I get from others is merely extra fun, or something which suppliments my marriage, it doesn't replace it. Plus I usually see men and women who are different to hubby as well so there is no overlap. However, hubby always comes first, and always will, I'd walk away from anyone else in a heartbeat without a second thought. We also have a rule that if either of us ever feel that swinging is harming our relationship at all, then it stops immediately. We operate with total trust a transparency.

So all that said, I'm free to have do as I wish and neither of us are concerned. I mostly prefer NSA or one night stands anyway. But I'm am free to have long term boyfriend's or girlfriend's if I wish. And have once xx"

With a tongue like that Jessica.. I’m sure there are many women lined up waiting for you

That’s interesting that you steer away from hubby look alikes..

Sounds like you 2 have it sorted.. NSA or boyfriend/girlfriend

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By *iganpairCouple
over a year ago

Wigan, Lancs.

This is defo what we after eventually a guy who understands cuckolding and wants to be the main lover in relstionship

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

The secret, like having a second child, is that you can love both equally. Having relationships with a new person should not detract from a current relationship.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights


"The secret, like having a second child, is that you can love both equally. Having relationships with a new person should not detract from a current relationship.

"

Thats right. It is only supposed to enhance a relationship, lots of couples have longterm gf and bf without any difficulties to their relationship

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By *iganpairCouple
over a year ago

Wigan, Lancs.

Well said


"The secret, like having a second child, is that you can love both equally. Having relationships with a new person should not detract from a current relationship.

"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well said

The secret, like having a second child, is that you can love both equally. Having relationships with a new person should not detract from a current relationship.

"

Don’t know about kids as a reference point but I have always been happy to be the spice in a couples relationship and forming a good relationship with the couple is important to me.. and obviously with being her lover.. regular or boyfriend or whatever.. the feelings are always lustful from my point of view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the people, their dynamic, their relationship.

For some, it works.

It wouldn't be for us. But o tend to not judge other people's relationships, none of my business.

Lu

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It depends on the people, their dynamic, their relationship.

For some, it works.

It wouldn't be for us. But o tend to not judge other people's relationships, none of my business.

Lu "

I suppose couples if they invite a 3rd into their lifestyle could do a nsa sex but I’d prefer not... would have to at least like the person I’m having sex with

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