FabSwingers.com forum: Romantic or Realist?

By *innie The Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Romantic or Realist? Which term best describes you?

Are they mutually exclusive or can you be a bit of both?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Pre-marriage: Romantic.

post-marriage: Realist.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'm a pragmatic romantic, I indulge in romantic, adorable notions and acts and thoughts at times but I try and do sensibly and remain rational.

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

I lean towards realistic but believe there is always room for romance, they are not mutually exclusive

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I'm a mixture of both, I can get swept up with the thought of romance but I'm also a realist. I'm not perfect and neither is anyone else. We shouldn't have unrealistic expectations of people, else we end up sad and alone

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

Realist, romance is for mills & boon books

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’m a realist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can be both can't you?

You can get swept up initially in the romance but then reality sets in.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Up to the age of 30 definitely a romantic as the years roll on then a realist

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"You can be both can't you?

You can get swept up initially in the romance but then reality sets in."

Romance doesn't ever just die off though does it? And depends what is classed by romance. I don't do flowers and chocolate version of romance but I do the unexpected cup of tea in bed version.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Realist x

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Romantic or Realist? Which term best describes you?

Are they mutually exclusive or can you be a bit of both?

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Due to my age and experience - a Realist as some of that romantic heart has been knocked out of me.....But not all of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Splendidly romantic . The world is such a beautiful place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Total Romantic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Romantic

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Realistic Romantic

I adore romance but in a structured way, I know my expectations and am very vocal about them to him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can be both can't you?

You can get swept up initially in the romance but then reality sets in.

Romance doesn't ever just die off though does it? And depends what is classed by romance. I don't do flowers and chocolate version of romance but I do the unexpected cup of tea in bed version. "

That's more appreciation isn't it? Personally, I class romance as an emotion really - it's fleeting.

Even the dictionary definition classes it as a feeling.

Personally I think romance develops into something deeper. But then it's not romance any more. It's something better.

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

"Realistic Romantic

I adore romance but in a structured way, I know my expectations and am very vocal about them to him "

So marked out on a calendar like, Tuesday night is romance night and you will be done by 9 not a minute later?

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I'd say realist, but it does depend how you're defining romantic. Flowers, chocolates and grand, showy gestures? Nah, I find them devoid of any thought and pointless...done more for the giver than the receiver. The little things count for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm definitely a Romantic but not in the soppy candlelit way.

I'm more like the philosopher that falls down the well because he's gazing at the stars.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

I'm a realist romantic. I'll give her flowers but she won't appreciate them.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I'm a realist romantic. I'll give her flowers but she won't appreciate them. "

Who wouldn't appreciate flowers? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd say realist, but it does depend how you're defining romantic. Flowers, chocolates and grand, showy gestures? Nah, I find them devoid of any thought and pointless...done more for the giver than the receiver. The little things count for me"

It's more for social media these days than anything else

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"You can be both can't you?

You can get swept up initially in the romance but then reality sets in.

Romance doesn't ever just die off though does it? And depends what is classed by romance. I don't do flowers and chocolate version of romance but I do the unexpected cup of tea in bed version.

That's more appreciation isn't it? Personally, I class romance as an emotion really - it's fleeting.

Even the dictionary definition classes it as a feeling.

Personally I think romance develops into something deeper. But then it's not romance any more. It's something better. "

And what does your dictionary call this something better? Is it when romance turns into love?

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

"I'm a realist romantic. I'll give her flowers but she won't appreciate them. "

I suppose where you pick them from counts... A garden, a florist, a graveyard...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Idealist but with an ever growing fortress around it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a hopeless romantic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can be both can't you?

You can get swept up initially in the romance but then reality sets in.

Romance doesn't ever just die off though does it? And depends what is classed by romance. I don't do flowers and chocolate version of romance but I do the unexpected cup of tea in bed version.

That's more appreciation isn't it? Personally, I class romance as an emotion really - it's fleeting.

Even the dictionary definition classes it as a feeling.

Personally I think romance develops into something deeper. But then it's not romance any more. It's something better.

And what does your dictionary call this something better? Is it when romance turns into love? "

It turns into whatever it turns into. That's personal for each and everyone of us.

That's why you appreciate the little things and other people appreciate other things.

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

"I'm a realist romantic. I'll give her flowers but she won't appreciate them.

Who wouldn't appreciate flowers? X"

You're a flower in a springtime meadow

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I don't think the overt gestures are romantic, they're done for more selfish reasons like you said. Romantic for me is my partner buying me new rosin and putting it in my case because he knows I'm running low. Small things that show appreciation and thoughtfulness and that they care.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"Realistic Romantic

I adore romance but in a structured way, I know my expectations and am very vocal about them to him

So marked out on a calendar like, Tuesday night is romance night and you will be done by 9 not a minute later?

Hardy ha ha

More like being able to create a very romantic weekend without fear of mine or his feelings being taken the wrong way or imagined to be more than what they are

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Realistic Romantic

I adore romance but in a structured way, I know my expectations and am very vocal about them to him

So marked out on a calendar like, Tuesday night is romance night and you will be done by 9 not a minute later?

Hardy ha ha

More like being able to create a very romantic weekend without fear of mine or his feelings being taken the wrong way or imagined to be more than what they are

perfectly put

Why can’t you be both ? We both love the romantic side of swinging , but doesn’t mean we’re ruled by emotions , far from it, just think sunsets, seduction and candle lit dinners are fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im realistic but I love romance. Not in a big showy way, small gestures, the little thoughtful things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Realist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Realist...

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

It's more for social media these days than anything else

That as well

But generic gifts? Without meaning to sound ungrateful, I'd rather people didn't bother...cook me a nice meal, or get me a copy of a book I've talked about loving as a kid...that shows me that you actually listen to me and care about what I like way more than going to Hotel Chocolat and buying whatever is on offer.

An ex many moons ago grew me some sunflowers in secret on his dad's allotment...he knew they are my favourite flower and that I don't like cut flowers, so that meant an awful lot to me. That's the kind of romance I like...and I'm a realist in so far as I realise that most people will go for the easy, generic option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Realist

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Hopeful romantic.

The trouble with me is that I want the moon on a stick. And I’m so delusional I think there is a small chance of getting it, if I hold on long enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I choose a bit of both? Romantic dreamer, but realistic

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Realistic romance ninja here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit of a romantic but very much a realist. At 40 I've got a good handle now on how life and people behave in my world. There are times though when someone or something surprises me and the romantic side says 'could this be something different, or special even?'. More often than not I'm brought back down to earth which puts me back in realist mode.

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By *innie The Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Im realistic but I love romance. Not in a big showy way, small gestures, the little thoughtful things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopeless romantic, very much wear my heart on my sleeve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hopeful romantic.

The trouble with me is that I want the moon on a stick. And I’m so delusional I think there is a small chance of getting it, if I hold on long enough

The Moon on a Stick

https://youtu.be/ERDUbAv8Qz0

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By *oungalpha20Man
over a year ago

North West /Cumbria

Id say im realist but now and then life will throw me a swerve ball then im all romantic. Until reality kicks in again.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I'm realistically romantic

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By *innie The Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Realistic romance ninja here

Gotta love a Ninja

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

Realist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopeless romantic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Romantic in nature, turned realist by experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Romantic or Realist? Which term best describes you?

Are they mutually exclusive or can you be a bit of both?

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I think a person has to be a bit of both ..the " romalist "..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Realist.

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By *innie The Minx OP Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Hopeless romantic, very much wear my heart on my sleeve.

Ah, don't go changing

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

very much a realist. I don't think its necessarily a good thing though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Romantic heart, reality rules the head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's definitely a bit of both for me. I'm a hopeless romantic but I don't normally let my heart rule my head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100 per cent romatic,love all the heart and flowers stuff,soppy novels etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Full on realist here.

Can't remember the last time I did something you might deem romantic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a romantic, but not a flowers, chocolate and gift romantic. My idea of romance is giving time, compliments and letting people know they are wonderful, special and beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like tondo romantic gestures candle lit dinners, romantic weekends away then realise I don't have the money

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Realist. Makes me extremely useful to romantic people who know they're going back to work on Monday.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

A realist but romantic within my relationship

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By *axx82Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

50/50

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to remind myself to stay grounded and realistic but sometimes my mind will jump ahead with romantic ideals.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I’m a realist but the right person can bring out my softer side. Never been a traditional romantic needing flowers or gifts, for me it’s more the little things they do throughout the year than on set days that speaks volumes.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

When i was young, sweet and innocent i was a romantic, but im more of a realist.

But the romantic in me still pops up now and again.

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

Realist

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

It's the little things that speak volumes to me and in their way lead to me to be all awww. I am more realist than romantic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relationship - hopeless romantic but otherwise realist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is romance not a realty?

We can either hide behind the safety of realist walls to keep hearts intact or follow them and take the chance of "who knows..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is romance not a realty?

We can either hide behind the safety of realist walls to keep hearts intact or follow them and take the chance of "who knows..." "

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Realist but can be deeply affectionate with the right person. Genuine acts of consideration and appreciation are always chosen over the clichéd, stereotypical acts that I see as empty gestures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can be both can't you?

You can get swept up initially in the romance but then reality sets in.

Romance doesn't ever just die off though does it? And depends what is classed by romance. I don't do flowers and chocolate version of romance but I do the unexpected cup of tea in bed version. "

This is the best type - which made me think, I should get off my ass and deliver a coffee with a slice of yesterday's birthday cake

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

Being one doesn’t counter the other. Romance can look differently to each person and can come in many forms.

Sometimes romance is sending flowers to the office on your first day of a new job, and sometimes it’s picking up oil for the other persons car because you know they’re low and it’s on sale

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

It's more for social media these days than anything else

That as well

I think that’s true for a lot of gift buying, when I hear people stressing saying they haven’t got a clue what to buy me or someone else, I think maybe you shouldn’t bother then. It takes effort and listening and you need to care and it should be enjoyable to buy and give gifts to people you care about.

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

I’m confused here. Is gift buying a romantic act??

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By *ebel Red HotWoman
over a year ago

York

You can be both and neither too people are far too complex to categorise into boxes most people are full of complex emotions and that's what is great about meeting new people and finding out about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Realistic, but appreciate a touch of romance occasionally x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can be both... but I think I’m my heart I’m a hopeless romantic who wears her heart loudly on her sleeve for all to see.

For the right person, I’d move the universe for them and do everything I could to make them feel loved and special. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can be both and neither too people are far too complex to categorise into boxes most people are full of complex emotions and that's what is great about meeting new people and finding out about them. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im both...I romantacise about so many different things but the realist side knows it will never happen...not just talking sex and its neighbouring characteristics, all things. I suspect most people do to a degree..both that is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Romantic or Realist? Which term best describes you?

Are they mutually exclusive or can you be a bit of both?

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A bit of both but more leaning to realist I’d imagine

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"You can be both... but I think I’m my heart I’m a hopeless romantic who wears her heart loudly on her sleeve for all to see.

For the right person, I’d move the universe for them and do everything I could to make them feel loved and special. X"

Get ya kit off. Phwaor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can be both... but I think I’m my heart I’m a hopeless romantic who wears her heart loudly on her sleeve for all to see.

For the right person, I’d move the universe for them and do everything I could to make them feel loved and special. X

Get ya kit off. Phwaor.

Perv

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"You can be both... but I think I’m my heart I’m a hopeless romantic who wears her heart loudly on her sleeve for all to see.

For the right person, I’d move the universe for them and do everything I could to make them feel loved and special. X

Get ya kit off. Phwaor.

Perv

Awww thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Romance... Where for art though, most fab are romantic. Realists... No. I said most.

Yet to meet fab real. Fab romantic. Op

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By *ugga MannMan
over a year ago

Heathrow

"Romantic or Realist? Which term best describes you?

Are they mutually exclusive or can you be a bit of both?

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Bit of both.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Used to be a pessimist.

Now, as I age, my rose-tinted specs have slipped off.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'm both, I think a lot of people are.

I cry when I see clips of people doing romantic stuff, I think it's beautiful.

I know full well tho that relationships aren't that 2 minute clippet, but yeah, I'd love someone to want to do that kinda lush stuff for me, well, I would have done. Dunno about now, I'd probably think they were doing it to try and manipulate or have one up on me

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

A romantic realist.

It would be lovely to find a guy that would sit by a fire under the stars with me and massage my feet but realistically it isn't going to happy

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By *uvhandle20Man
over a year ago

SE London

Romantic cynic with a sense of realism: I want to believe in the big true love, but experience tells me that this is not going to happen to me

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