FabSwingers.com forum: men to women ratio

By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

just searched number of men looking for women -311

just search number of women looking for men -20

something needs to change to make it more female friendly

what do you reckon?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Like what its same with all these sites x

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

Or the females on here need to buck up their ideas and start putting it about more?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Or the females on here need to buck up their ideas and start putting it about more? "

Lol x

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By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

match has 56% men and 44% women

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Why should something be done? Aren't men and women both entitled to decide whether they want to be on her or not?

Maybe you are thinking of a promotional campaign to get more women to join? Away you go...

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Complimentary perfume and lingerie for every new female member that can last 6 months here without blocking a guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"match has 56% men and 44% women "

Match is a dating site. Fab is a swinging site which a whole lot of guys see as Insta-shag. The problem is largely men's attitudes.

I'm open to ideas though OP

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By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

women sign up here to play but not with anyone , being bullied is the number 1 problem for women on sex dating sites I reckon

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By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

I agree , should men who act in an aggressive or bullying way be banned ? will that improve the site?

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By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

actually a lot of women get kicked off and banned from the site as do some men , so its not an open choice .

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Just start shagging blokes OP problem solved

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By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

maybe the opposite is the way to go, guys need buck up and learn manners or get out

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By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"just searched number of men looking for women -311

just search number of women looking for men -20

something needs to change to make it more female friendly

what do you reckon?

And how many of those 'women' are actually men?

Seriously, the best thing would be that all new members have their filters up automatically and in stealth mode, so ladies are not hit with an avalanche of dick pics and FAF messages as soon as they join, which probably doesn't encourage them to stay.

They can still message out to people who aren't filtering.

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By *nkforthekinkMan
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

"just searched number of men looking for women -311

just search number of women looking for men -20

something needs to change to make it more female friendly

what do you reckon?

The term, more pricks then a secondhand dart board comes to mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"match has 56% men and 44% women

Match is a dating site. Fab is a swinging site which a whole lot of guys see as Insta-shag. The problem is largely men's attitudes.

I'm open to ideas though OP

I agree , should men who act in an aggressive or bullying way be banned ? will that improve the site?"

I'm going to presume you were replying to me, use the "reply +quote" button

Yes they should but there's a whole lot of people on here and not all that many mods as far as I know. Imagine the amount of reports and tickets they get every day and have to work through. Also, what's to stop these people simply rejoining under a new account? The solution is for people to fix their attitudes, not for someone else to have to deal with a bad one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For most women, regardless of how they look, they could on their step and wait till somebody walks past and ask "do you wanna have sex?" They'll get a yes eventually, and probably in most cases immediately.

For men, they're lucky (regardless of looks) if they didn't get arrested doing the same thing.

Very different expectations of what sex is as well, from an evolutionary pov.

So that ratio ain't fucking changing lmao.

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By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

good idea

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By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

do you get guys that keep messaging even when you have not answered ? then you have to block them ? should they just automatically be banned?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or the females on here need to buck up their ideas and start putting it about more? "

This

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe the opposite is the way to go, guys need buck up and learn manners or get out"

This too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shouldn’t really matter how many guys are on here. You could have 1000 men in your inbox and out of those only 5 would be my type. So technically there’s only 5 men in my inbox, the other 995 are just surplus to requirements.

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By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

"Shouldn’t really matter how many guys are on here. You could have 1000 men in your inbox and out of those only 5 would be my type. So technically there’s only 5 men in my inbox, the other 995 are just surplus to requirements. "

totally correct, more women are needed so that there are more people that match each other

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By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

"Why should something be done? Aren't men and women both entitled to decide whether they want to be on her or not?

Maybe you are thinking of a promotional campaign to get more women to join? Away you go... "

actually a lot of women get kicked off and banned from the site as do some men , so its not an open choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it's me, but I've always associated swinging with being more of a couples thing to do.

Couples playing with other couples or with singles.

Singles looking for singles is not swinging in my opinion. Perhaps the vast majority of single guys are here for the wrong reasons if there only after single women...

Just my opinion, not looking to offend

. Jay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe it's me, but I've always associated swinging with being more of a couples thing to do.

Couples playing with other couples or with singles.

Singles looking for singles is not swinging in my opinion. Perhaps the vast majority of single guys are here for the wrong reasons if there only after single women...

Just my opinion, not looking to offend

. Jay. "

There are a few of us who want more!

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

if you work it out, women could have 15 men each without sharing any, that's why they can be very fussy

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"Just start shagging blokes OP problem solved

FAF bro?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"if you work it out, women could have 15 men each without sharing any, that's why they can be very fussy "

Wouldn't say fussy any more than men would b! U have to fancy some one ? Or dont men have to do that? I know I do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is...if we're talking genuine swingers, the numbers are probably much more even. A lot of (and it is mostly guys, not all) guys sign up thinking it's instashag expecting an easy lay or use it as a hook up site.

If we could filter those out, the ratio would be much more even I think.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

"if you work it out, women could have 15 men each without sharing any, that's why they can be very fussy

Wouldn't say fussy any more than men would b! U have to fancy some one ? Or dont men have to do that? I know I do x"

Haha id say for some people any hole’s a goal .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if you work it out, women could have 15 men each without sharing any, that's why they can be very fussy "

That's the solution then. Each woman is automatically assigned 15 men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men just can’t handle that not every woman wants them huh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The thing is...if we're talking genuine swingers, the numbers are probably much more even. A lot of (and it is mostly guys, not all) guys sign up thinking it's instashag expecting an easy lay or use it as a hook up site.

If we could filter those out, the ratio would be much more even I think.

I disagree completely.... I thought they see it as dial a fuck

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"if you work it out, women could have 15 men each without sharing any, that's why they can be very fussy

Wouldn't say fussy any more than men would b! U have to fancy some one ? Or dont men have to do that? I know I do x

Haha id say for some people any hole’s a goal ....... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men are just like dogs - some are better trained and respond to commands especially if they are backed up with treats, and some go around in packs barking at the moon and shagging anything that they can - legs, cushions, other dogs. What can you do with them eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if you work it out, women could have 15 men each without sharing any, that's why they can be very fussy

Wouldn't say fussy any more than men would b! U have to fancy some one ? Or dont men have to do that? I know I do x"

Fancying someone is tricky as I've had mediocre sex with some who physically I've really fancied (thus attraction diminishes) and fantastic sex with some who physically I don't fancy (attraction increases).

Nowadays attraction for me is much more of a mental thing. Tricky because if I've never spoken to someone then there has to be something which attracts me in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or the females on here need to buck up their ideas and start putting it about more? "

Lol, more gangbangs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I posted similar last week... Something needs to change to spice things up a bit...

“What's going on in this world? Things aren't really moving forward and I know that suites some of us, but actually?

The forums are kept running by the great traditionalist - love you guys BTW.

The Hot list always shows the same hot women - never seen a man hit the top yet!

Couples would like to play but covid says no way!

Single women are messaged in the droves - true gents are deleted with the rest.

Single men, well there are frinkin loads of us.

Winks are ignored.

People are dropping out left right and centre.

What do you want out of this site and what would you change? “

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

Ahh thing is traditional dating sites are totally skewed in the opposite direction. There is never going to be an equal amount of women interested in swinging than there is men- biology dictates that the way we view sex is totally different. Just a quick look at my local feed this morning has ‘local want to dump and run’ ‘hung looking to suck’ ... this is seriously no way to attract women and won’t interest a lot of women.

Men in the most part write their profiles to appeal to other men - the number of cock shots say it all.

My theory is couples are more likely to respond to cock shots and dump and run than single females. Based on the profiles I’ve looked at and female swinger friends.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

"Or the females on here need to buck up their ideas and start putting it about more?

Lol, more gangbangs!

Glad you saw the funny side.

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By *ebel Red HotWoman
over a year ago

York

A lot of women leave due to harassment, abuse, offers of money and general rudeness. Now those are only a few of the problems and the only people who can address that sort of thing is admin its their bag to monitor and action it to reduce it. Until then the unbalance probably will only get worse.

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By *istretchMan
over a year ago

leeds

So op you want to even things out? How about last in first out? Let the men who have put the ground work in stay? Topics like this have men slagging men off hows that helping ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So op you want to even things out? How about last in first out? Let the men who have put the ground work in stay? Topics like this have men slagging men off hows that helping ? "

You're right, us men need to stick together if we are to expel the women

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By *onzoDog74Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

Probably just reflects the real world I’m afraid. There’s no magic site that’s like a porn mag come true. Manage your expectations, be natural, put the effort in, be polite, don’t rush and hang in there.

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By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

"Maybe it's me, but I've always associated swinging with being more of a couples thing to do.

Couples playing with other couples or with singles.

Singles looking for singles is not swinging in my opinion. Perhaps the vast majority of single guys are here for the wrong reasons if there only after single women...

Just my opinion, not looking to offend

. Jay. "

perfect, hit the nail on the head

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"if you work it out, women could have 15 men each without sharing any, that's why they can be very fussy

Wouldn't say fussy any more than men would b! U have to fancy some one ? Or dont men have to do that? I know I do x"

I don't reckon a lot of men are that bothered about fancying someone as tong as there's a wet hole to stick it in. When I first joined up I got offered sex and told that I look stunning before I added any pictures, so that kind of proves it really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe it's me, but I've always associated swinging with being more of a couples thing to do.

Couples playing with other couples or with singles.

Singles looking for singles is not swinging in my opinion. Perhaps the vast majority of single guys are here for the wrong reasons if there only after single women...

Just my opinion, not looking to offend

. Jay.

perfect, hit the nail on the head "

I used to think swinging was a thing older couples done I was honestly surprised when I found this site

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By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

"just searched number of men looking for women -311

just search number of women looking for men -20

something needs to change to make it more female friendly

what do you reckon?

And how many of those 'women' are actually men?

They can still message out to people who aren't filtering. "

great idea

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By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

"if you work it out, women could have 15 men each without sharing any, that's why they can be very fussy

Wouldn't say fussy any more than men would b! U have to fancy some one ? Or dont men have to do that? I know I do x

sooo funny ,

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By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

"Ahh thing is traditional dating sites are totally skewed in the opposite direction. There is never going to be an equal amount of women interested in swinging than there is men- biology dictates that the way we view sex is totally different. Just a quick look at my local feed this morning has ‘local want to dump and run’ ‘hung looking to suck’ ... this is seriously no way to attract women and won’t interest a lot of women.

Men in the most part write their profiles to appeal to other men - the number of cock shots say it all.

My theory is couples are more likely to respond to cock shots and dump and run than single females. Based on the profiles I’ve looked at and female swinger friends. "

really interesting , what can be done to attract more women?

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By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

"Or the females on here need to buck up their ideas and start putting it about more?

Lol, more gangbangs!

Ill organise for you !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are there really so few women? Wow

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By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

"A lot of women leave due to harassment, abuse, offers of money and general rudeness. Now those are only a few of the problems and the only people who can address that sort of thing is admin its their bag to monitor and action it to reduce it. Until then the unbalance probably will only get worse. "

what about changing the settings on the site so guys cant copy n paste and also if a guy harasses is immediately banned ? a start?

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By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

"I posted similar last week... Something needs to change to spice things up a bit...

“What's going on in this world? Things aren't really moving forward and I know that suites some of us, but actually?

The forums are kept running by the great traditionalist - love you guys BTW.

The Hot list always shows the same hot women - never seen a man hit the top yet!

Couples would like to play but covid says no way!

Single women are messaged in the droves - true gents are deleted with the rest.

Single men, well there are frinkin loads of us.

Winks are ignored.

People are dropping out left right and centre.

What do you want out of this site and what would you change? “"

Im thinking that some rule changes might help, no copy and paste allowed, this can be down by the site settings, banning a guy who continuously messages the same person, not just a warning -

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By *oungalpha20Man
over a year ago

North West /Cumbria

Bet the majority of the guys that signed up were thinking theyd get laid pretty much instantly.

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By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

"Men just can’t handle that not every woman wants them huh"

too many like that ,

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By *aytime Dude OP Man
over a year ago

London , Richmond

"Maybe it's me, but I've always associated swinging with being more of a couples thing to do.

Couples playing with other couples or with singles.

Singles looking for singles is not swinging in my opinion. Perhaps the vast majority of single guys are here for the wrong reasons if there only after single women...

Just my opinion, not looking to offend

. Jay.

There are a few of us who want more! "

I think you speak the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe it's me, but I've always associated swinging with being more of a couples thing to do.

Couples playing with other couples or with singles.

Singles looking for singles is not swinging in my opinion. Perhaps the vast majority of single guys are here for the wrong reasons if there only after single women...

Just my opinion, not looking to offend

. Jay.

There are a few of us who want more!

I think you speak the truth"

Ask any vanilla friends about swinging, they will always think of it as married couples wife swapping. Or couples having 3somes lol. Jay

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