FabSwingers.com forum: How well do you take constructive criticism?

By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

Do you embrace it and take on board the observations made or do you allow your bruised ego to block and prevent personal progression

Love and peace

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Mr Mystique, I cannot take you at all seriously with that pic

What was the question again?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take it well... whether or not I follow it is a completely different matter.

Constructive criticism doesn't always equate to personal growth if it's just the other person's opinion you have to go off.

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"Mr Mystique, I cannot take you at all seriously with that pic

What was the question again?!

How many cans can you balance on yer pecker?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck 'em. I'm perfect.

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"I take it well... whether or not I follow it is a completely different matter.

Constructive criticism doesn't always equate to personal growth if it's just the other person's opinion you have to go off."

But it does allow you to grow if you acknowledge it. It’s up to you whether you choose to take it on board or not.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Mr Mystique, I cannot take you at all seriously with that pic

What was the question again?!

How many cans can you balance on yer pecker?

On mine? At least 12

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"Mr Mystique, I cannot take you at all seriously with that pic

What was the question again?!

How many cans can you balance on yer pecker?

On mine? At least 12

You are not pegging me with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends entirely on whose giving it.

If it’s offered out of the blue by a stranger I probably won’t take it very well to be honest

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By *r1sky2timessWoman
over a year ago

North Lanarkshire

"Depends entirely on whose giving it.

If it’s offered out of the blue by a stranger I probably won’t take it very well to be honest

I agree. Depends whos offering such criticism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as it is given constructively, and it is from someone that I respect, then I would take it as intended, and use it to further my inner work.

If I was triggered then I would probably use that as a guide to where that trigger initiated.

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"Depends entirely on whose giving it.

If it’s offered out of the blue by a stranger I probably won’t take it very well to be honest

I agree. Depends whos offering such criticism.

If it’s a stranger you’re right. It would mean absolutely nothing

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If ive asked for it i take it very well and listen. If i havent asked for it they can fuck off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I take it well... whether or not I follow it is a completely different matter.

Constructive criticism doesn't always equate to personal growth if it's just the other person's opinion you have to go off.

But it does allow you to grow if you acknowledge it. It’s up to you whether you choose to take it on board or not. "

But is it growth if acknowledgment was already part of the fabric of your personality?

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I'd listen to what someone has to say if its constructive. But weather I take it on board or not depends on how well I know the person giving it.

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"As long as it is given constructively, and it is from someone that I respect, then I would take it as intended, and use it to further my inner work.

If I was triggered then I would probably use that as a guide to where that trigger initiated.

I agree, whether you take it onboard or not it still allows you to grow as a person.

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"I take it well... whether or not I follow it is a completely different matter.

Constructive criticism doesn't always equate to personal growth if it's just the other person's opinion you have to go off.

But it does allow you to grow if you acknowledge it. It’s up to you whether you choose to take it on board or not.

But is it growth if acknowledgment was already part of the fabric of your personality?"

Correct, but you will learn something about the person who criticised you.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"Do you embrace it and take on board the observations made or do you allow your bruised ego to block and prevent personal progression

Love and peace

Bro, I was only kidding about the penis reduction you should not have taken that on board

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"Do you embrace it and take on board the observations made or do you allow your bruised ego to block and prevent personal progression

Love and peace

Bro, I was only kidding about the penis reduction you should not have taken that on board

I took on board what you said but I want to put it all in you

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Do you embrace it and take on board the observations made or do you allow your bruised ego to block and prevent personal progression

Love and peace

I take it well. I want people to be honest with me.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Like others have also said it depends who has said it ..I’m also one of these people that take things to heart so it also depends on what was said ..

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"Like others have also said it depends who has said it ..I’m also one of these people that take things to heart so it also depends on what was said .."

It’s only natural that some folk don’t like it whether it’s positive or not. It’s how we deal with that helps us grow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually meed a bit of time to process... Once my ego has recovered i am usually able to act on it proactively, especially if it is from a friend or well intentioned

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Constructive criticism is fine as long as it's not nasty hiding behind constructive xx

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

I'm not sure

Give me some, lets see!

Jo x

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

No well at all unfortunately...

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"I usually meed a bit of time to process... Once my ego has recovered i am usually able to act on it proactively, especially if it is from a friend or well intentioned "

A very level headed answer

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"Constructive criticism is fine as long as it's not nasty hiding behind constructive xx"

Critical criticism is certainly one I pay no attention to.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Constructive is from someone who knows me personally and has context. In those circumstances I’ll consider the conversation carefully. If it’s not the above it’s doubtful I’ll give a shit.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I happily take it, its only someone elses opinion of me after all.

Its interesting how people see things differently to me

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"No well at all unfortunately...

But do you learn from it?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I'm my own worst critic, I'm open to criticism as long as it's constructive and not rude. Depends how it's given really, a bit like most things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally speaking, I've always thought I'm pretty alright with taking criticism even if it's not meant in a constructive way, but it depends on how strong my convictions are about being good at something. There really aren't many things I would contest, but that 1 time out of 10, I can get defensive.

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"Constructive is from someone who knows me personally and has context. In those circumstances I’ll consider the conversation carefully. If it’s not the above it’s doubtful I’ll give a shit. "

True but you’d learn from the latter that person giving it is a bit of a tool though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I bitch and moan about it and tell my mummy who then shouts at their mummy and gets them grounded

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"Constructive is from someone who knows me personally and has context. In those circumstances I’ll consider the conversation carefully. If it’s not the above it’s doubtful I’ll give a shit.

True but you’d learn from the latter that person giving it is a bit of a tool though? "

I would. So many tools.. so little fucks given.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feedbacks a gift! It takes guts to give people honest feedback so i try to take it onboard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally depends who’s dishing it out. My previous foreman loved dishing out criticism I generally took it then offered to help him pick his teeth up if he didn’t leave me alone.

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"No I bitch and moan about it and tell my mummy who then shouts at their mummy and gets them grounded "

This is a Fab analogy

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I can take criticism of any sort from anyone but cant change looks etc can only work with what I have x

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Not well at all unfortunately...

But do you learn from it? "

I think it depends on who’s giving it and how much I value their in take on things.

I can be a bit stubborn for my own liking sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I bitch and moan about it and tell my mummy who then shouts at their mummy and gets them grounded

This is a Fab analogy

I’m telling!!!!! My mummy will tell your mummy

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"Not well at all unfortunately...

But do you learn from it?

I think it depends on who’s giving it and how much I value their in take on things.

I can be a bit stubborn for my own liking sometimes.

There’s nothing wrong with that

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"No I bitch and moan about it and tell my mummy who then shouts at their mummy and gets them grounded

This is a Fab analogy

I’m telling!!!!! My mummy will tell your mummy"

Who’s your Fab mummy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i see it as a way of improvement and when your driven it only makes you work harder to prove them wrong.

but its very important to look at who is advising you, if they have a catalog of failings themselves i'll dismiss them immediately and remind them of their past errors.

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"i see it as a way of improvement and when your driven it only makes you work harder to prove them wrong.

but its very important to look at who is advising you, if they have a catalog of failings themselves i'll dismiss them immediately and remind them of their past errors.

Me in a nutshell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op your profile pic is fucking priceless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I bitch and moan about it and tell my mummy who then shouts at their mummy and gets them grounded

This is a Fab analogy

I’m telling!!!!! My mummy will tell your mummy

Who’s your Fab mummy?

Oh lord. I have many. Watch your back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take the constructive criticism very well. Them fire back with both barrels

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"Op your profile pic is fucking priceless

Are you criticising my photo?

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"No I bitch and moan about it and tell my mummy who then shouts at their mummy and gets them grounded

This is a Fab analogy

I’m telling!!!!! My mummy will tell your mummy

Who’s your Fab mummy?

Oh lord. I have many. Watch your back"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op your profile pic is fucking priceless

It’s pretty tame if you ask me. He should have hung a bag of oranges on the end

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

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I guess it depends on the context of said criticism (I prefer the word feedback, it’s less negative and easier to swallow) and who is giving it.

If I genuinely feel it’s from the heart with good intentions then I’ll mull it over and probably take it on board.

If it’s just from a mean jerk I’ll probably ignore it and block them or if I’m feeling really mean I’d hunt them down and find out where they live then sew day old prawns into their curtain hens or down the back of the radiator and watch waiting until they go crazy wondering where the awful smell is coming from and move house

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"I take the constructive criticism very well. Them fire back with both barrels

I can see which barrels as well

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"Op your profile pic is fucking priceless

It’s pretty tame if you ask me. He should have hung a bag of oranges on the end "

I can’t get full erections no more so they’d just roll off and fall on the floor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op your profile pic is fucking priceless

It’s pretty tame if you ask me. He should have hung a bag of oranges on the end

I can’t get full erections no more so they’d just roll off and fall on the floor

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"Op your profile pic is fucking priceless

It’s pretty tame if you ask me. He should have hung a bag of oranges on the end

I can’t get full erections no more so they’d just roll off and fall on the floor

Good for orange squash though

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"I guess it depends on the context of said criticism (I prefer the word feedback, it’s less negative and easier to swallow) and who is giving it.

If I genuinely feel it’s from the heart with good intentions then I’ll mull it over and probably take it on board.

I’m sorry I criticised you now

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

"I guess it depends on the context of said criticism (I prefer the word feedback, it’s less negative and easier to swallow) and who is giving it.

If I genuinely feel it’s from the heart with good intentions then I’ll mull it over and probably take it on board.

I’m sorry I criticised you now

I thought your house looked a bit empty earlier...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I do appreciate you op

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"I guess it depends on the context of said criticism (I prefer the word feedback, it’s less negative and easier to swallow) and who is giving it.

If I genuinely feel it’s from the heart with good intentions then I’ll mull it over and probably take it on board.

I’m sorry I criticised you now

I thought your house looked a bit empty earlier...

Shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh I do appreciate you op

Don’t tell him nice things. He needs to stay humble. It’ll go to his head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I take it well but me and ex been talking lately and always ends in a row (hence why were exes) then constructive criticism becomes destructive criticism if that makes sense so it depends if the criticism comes from a heart felt way or just an explosive feeling of emotion

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"Oh I do appreciate you op

Brother I could criticise your jokes

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"Oh I do appreciate you op

Don’t tell him nice things. He needs to stay humble. It’ll go to his head "

I’m humble, grounded, and an all round really really nice person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh I do appreciate you op

Brother I could criticise your jokes

Join the queue son

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"I think I take it well but me and ex been talking lately and always ends in a row (hence why were exes) then constructive criticism becomes destructive criticism if that makes sense so it depends if the criticism comes from a heart felt way or just an explosive feeling of emotion "

Yes this makes sense. Destructive criticism is a thing and only promotes negative energy. You’re better off with her being your ex

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"Oh I do appreciate you op

Brother I could criticise your jokes

Join the queue son

I would but the end of the queue’s fucking miles away and I’ve a gammy leg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh I do appreciate you op

Brother I could criticise your jokes

Join the queue son

I would but the end of the queue’s fucking miles away and I’ve a gammy leg

Put a cold drink on it

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By *ex Holes OP Man
over a year ago

Up North

"Oh I do appreciate you op

Brother I could criticise your jokes

Join the queue son

I would but the end of the queue’s fucking miles away and I’ve a gammy leg

Put a cold drink on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm perfect so never get criticism lol it's not easy being me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm perfect so never get criticism lol it's not easy being me x "

It ain’t easy being cheesy x

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