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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Even though my profile says that I am not interested in anyone over an hour's drive, I still get messages from opportunists several hours drive drive from so it got me to thinking about how much time is involved in meeting me depending on where they are.

I picked out a few people from my looked at list and used RAC Route Planner to find out how long it would take them to drive to me, plus 2 hrs for the social chit chat. I have rounded up to the nearest hour to cover for any traffic jams etc:-

Callington, Cornwall is 2 hrs and 53 mins, so that's 8 hrs for them, 20 mins to the pub about 2hrs 40 mins for me

Plymouth is 2 hrs 39 mins, so again 8 hrs for them, 2hrs 40 mins for me (I do get an awful lot from here)

Edinburgh is 6 hrs and 4 mins, that's 14 hrs, 2 hrs and 40 mins for me

Glasgow (yes and he offered to come down during his week off until I mentioned how far he was from me ) 5 hrs 34 mins, 14 hrs for him, 2 hrs and 40 mins for me

Bournemouth is 2 hrs 20 mins, say 6.5-7 hrs for him, 2 hrs 40 mins for me

Taunton is 1hr and 48 mins, 6 hrs for him, 2 hrs and 40 mins for me

Eastbourne is 3 hrs and 20 mins, so that's 7 hrs for him, 2 hrs and 40 mins for me

Let's look at it from another angle, say me and Mr Glasgow arrange to meet at a pub in Gloucester at 8pm, I leave my house at 7.40-7.45 pm, for him to get to the pub for 8 pm, he would have to leave his house at 3pm We then have general chit chat and part company around 10 pm, I get home at 10.20 pm ish, he will get home at 4am

If we met halfway, he would have to leave around 6 pm if not before in case the traffic is bad and will arrive home around 1 am. That is still 6 hrs out of his and my day for a meet, I prefer to stick to an hour's drive more though for financial reasons than anything else but whilst I may miss out on some lovely men or not, I couldn't let someone travel several hours to meet me, it just doesn't seem right at all

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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Sometimes it does work. I say 45 mins, but was contacted by a guy who lived over this distance from me, even if we met halfway was still over my time.

He was so bloody cheeky I agreed to meet him. The rest as they say is history. We occasionally meet halfway when work allows, other than that he travels to me.

It can work and can throw up nice surprises

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say an hour tops. Less is better, but at the mo I can only manage a 10 minute journey.

One bloke from London mailed me once. He was up here for the week so I met him for coffee. We've been meeting for over 2 years now. He's the only bloke I'd do a day trip to London for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes it does work. I say 45 mins, but was contacted by a guy who lived over this distance from me, even if we met halfway was still over my time.

He was so bloody cheeky I agreed to meet him. The rest as they say is history. We occasionally meet halfway when work allows, other than that he travels to me.

It can work and can throw up nice surprises"

Well the hour is not rigid so I would consider going a little over that time but wouldn't do an hour and a half

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a meet on Friday had been chatting to this guy for a while any way he drove for about 2 hours to mine only to tell me he was married did not know why he was on the site and that he felt guilt. spent about an hour being a marriage guidance councillor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Callington, Cornwall is 2 hrs and 53 mins, so that's 8 hrs for them, 20 mins to the pub about 2hrs 40 mins for me

Plymouth is 2 hrs 39 mins, so again 8 hrs for them, 2hrs 40 mins for me (I do get an awful lot from here)

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I get loads of out of area messages too, I really don't understand why someone would want to travel a hundred miles or more.

Not yet had a meet from Callington, and the Plymouth ones are thin on the ground (most of my meets are Cornwall lol). Send them my way please!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Takes me 45-60 minutes drive just to reach civilization.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd probably drive an hour for a first social meet, and am prepared to drive for longer for an overnight stay.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Callington, Cornwall is 2 hrs and 53 mins, so that's 8 hrs for them, 20 mins to the pub about 2hrs 40 mins for me

Plymouth is 2 hrs 39 mins, so again 8 hrs for them, 2hrs 40 mins for me (I do get an awful lot from here)

I get loads of out of area messages too, I really don't understand why someone would want to travel a hundred miles or more.

Not yet had a meet from Callington, and the Plymouth ones are thin on the ground (most of my meets are Cornwall lol). Send them my way please! "

Odd as Plymouth is an area that pops up all the time, get fed up with telling them so yes you can have them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Takes me 45-60 minutes drive just to reach civilization. "

Oh dear

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I say an hour tops. Less is better, but at the mo I can only manage a 10 minute journey.

One bloke from London mailed me once. He was up here for the week so I met him for coffee. We've been meeting for over 2 years now. He's the only bloke I'd do a day trip to London for. "

I'm afraid I am very wary of guys up my way so I don't meet them

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