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"Do you like cuddles after you've played? Or does it depend on the person? Personally I don't play with anyone I haven't already started to build a connection with and cuddles for me are a must along with conversation, giggles and some kind of affection. It seems to put a lot of guys off (I say guys because most women I've spoken to like a cuddle) So what's your thoughts on cuddling, forumites? " I enjoy the cuddles and pillow talk after, especially as it normally leads to a second round x | |||
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"Absolutely essential imo . Yes I had a meet on here years back where there were none but nowadays I like affection as well. I'm hopefully getting cuddles soon x" Yeah you are | |||
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"I like a cuddle. I'm not going to instantly fall in love with any guy who is somewhat nice to me despite what many of them seem to think . Affection without commitment is entirely possible. " Quite. Warm fuzzy after/ before/ during an experience. Then I take the metaphorical jumper off and any of that attachment hormone stuff that goes with it. | |||
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"Absolutely essential imo . Yes I had a meet on here years back where there were none but nowadays I like affection as well. I'm hopefully getting cuddles soon x Yeah you are " | |||
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"Do you like cuddles after you've played? Or does it depend on the person? Personally I don't play with anyone I haven't already started to build a connection with and cuddles for me are a must along with conversation, giggles and some kind of affection. It seems to put a lot of guys off (I say guys because most women I've spoken to like a cuddle) So what's your thoughts on cuddling, forumites? " I’m definitely a cuddler, in work and out of work. Whilst sex is fun and I’ll take it when I can get it, nothing beats a cuddle and chat afterwards with someone you have a connection with. | |||
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"I like a cuddle. I'm not going to instantly fall in love with any guy who is somewhat nice to me despite what many of them seem to think . Affection without commitment is entirely possible. " Agreed. It's a tad presumptuous isn't it? Yes, sure you've dicked me well but a good dicking isn't enough for me to fall madly in love with you. I'm naturally affectionate and tactile with people I like and those I meet tend to be of similar mentality towards it so it works well for me. | |||
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"I’m looking to date with a view to a relationship so one off sex isn’t on my to do list. IF I did find myself wanting a one off with someone I wouldn’t spoon or cuddle them after it and would either leave or ask them to leave after the sex. Cuddling, laughing, spooning, affection, all those things make me get attached to people who simply don’t want any attachment so I’d keep it to the fucking and sexual acts only. " Got to say I'm probably the same with a lot of that. I love cuddles but I'd be very wary of being too cuddly with someone I wasn't thinking would be more than just a fuck. | |||
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"I’m looking to date with a view to a relationship so one off sex isn’t on my to do list. IF I did find myself wanting a one off with someone I wouldn’t spoon or cuddle them after it and would either leave or ask them to leave after the sex. Cuddling, laughing, spooning, affection, all those things make me get attached to people who simply don’t want any attachment so I’d keep it to the fucking and sexual acts only. Got to say I'm probably the same with a lot of that. I love cuddles but I'd be very wary of being too cuddly with someone I wasn't thinking would be more than just a fuck. " Yeh good point | |||
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"I’m looking to date with a view to a relationship so one off sex isn’t on my to do list. IF I did find myself wanting a one off with someone I wouldn’t spoon or cuddle them after it and would either leave or ask them to leave after the sex. Cuddling, laughing, spooning, affection, all those things make me get attached to people who simply don’t want any attachment so I’d keep it to the fucking and sexual acts only. Got to say I'm probably the same with a lot of that. I love cuddles but I'd be very wary of being too cuddly with someone I wasn't thinking would be more than just a fuck. " I done it with my last meet back in February. A guy from Yorkshire, 5 hour train journey so agreed it would be a one off weekend due to distance, money and obviously now a global pandemic which prevents unnecessary travel! Treated him like a king, bathed him, washed his hair, cuddled, spooned, kisses, laughs, watching films on sofa. Made me get attached, also he said months later that it made him miss having a girlfriend and now he’s got himself a bird (from up there we he lives!) | |||
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"Do you like cuddles after you've played? Or does it depend on the person? Personally I don't play with anyone I haven't already started to build a connection with and cuddles for me are a must along with conversation, giggles and some kind of affection. It seems to put a lot of guys off (I say guys because most women I've spoken to like a cuddle) So what's your thoughts on cuddling, forumites? " Cuddles all the way. How can you lie back after having sex and watch Match of the Day without a cuddle. | |||
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"Do you like cuddles after you've played? Or does it depend on the person? Personally I don't play with anyone I haven't already started to build a connection with and cuddles for me are a must along with conversation, giggles and some kind of affection. It seems to put a lot of guys off (I say guys because most women I've spoken to like a cuddle) So what's your thoughts on cuddling, forumites? Cuddles all the way. How can you lie back after having sex and watch Match of the Day without a cuddle. " | |||
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"Do you like cuddles after you've played? Or does it depend on the person? Personally I don't play with anyone I haven't already started to build a connection with and cuddles for me are a must along with conversation, giggles and some kind of affection. It seems to put a lot of guys off (I say guys because most women I've spoken to like a cuddle) So what's your thoughts on cuddling, forumites? Cuddles all the way. How can you lie back after having sex and watch Match of the Day without a cuddle. " Hahaha never heard a more true sentence | |||
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"Do you like cuddles after you've played? Or does it depend on the person? Personally I don't play with anyone I haven't already started to build a connection with and cuddles for me are a must along with conversation, giggles and some kind of affection. It seems to put a lot of guys off (I say guys because most women I've spoken to like a cuddle) So what's your thoughts on cuddling, forumites? " Im the same,I only play with someone im connected with so yes like the closeness after.. otherwise it feels empty & robotic.. for me anyway | |||
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"Do you like cuddles after you've played? Or does it depend on the person? Personally I don't play with anyone I haven't already started to build a connection with and cuddles for me are a must along with conversation, giggles and some kind of affection. It seems to put a lot of guys off (I say guys because most women I've spoken to like a cuddle) So what's your thoughts on cuddling, forumites? Im the same,I only play with someone im connected with so yes like the closeness after.. otherwise it feels empty & robotic.. for me anyway " Exactly this, I don't do empty and robotic. Makes me feel used and pretty crap. | |||
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"No it’s normally just a f#ck and go.. don’t think I’ve had a cuddle for over a year now lol " Sending you virtual cuddles | |||
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"Aftercare is very important. I'm fine with not cuddling (and have met a few women that don't want that) but I wouldn't consider fucking and leaving unless it was something we agreed in advance." It is, very important. | |||
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"I like a cuddle. I'm not going to instantly fall in love with any guy who is somewhat nice to me despite what many of them seem to think . Affection without commitment is entirely possible. " You hit the nail on the head there Lacey. | |||
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"Sounds like your demisexual OP. I do like a rapport with the person im sharing my body with. Also cuddles after sex " What is demisexual? Excuse my ignorance but it's not a term I've ever heard. | |||
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"So general consensus, I'm not a weirdo for wanting a cuddle before, during or after. Nice to know and I'll definitely be sticking to my guns on that one. " No - you're a cuddly weirdo. | |||
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"I like a cuddle. I'm not going to instantly fall in love with any guy who is somewhat nice to me despite what many of them seem to think . Affection without commitment is entirely possible. Agreed. It's a tad presumptuous isn't it? Yes, sure you've dicked me well but a good dicking isn't enough for me to fall madly in love with you. I'm naturally affectionate and tactile with people I like and those I meet tend to be of similar mentality towards it so it works well for me." Absolutely the same. I love it when someone is chilled enough with you that you can be cuddley together and hang out. It's so off-putting when they're obviously on edge about anything that isn't putting their dick inside you incase you suddenly propose marriage . If you're both on the same page and discuss your personal boundaries then it's all good! | |||
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"Sounds like your demisexual OP. I do like a rapport with the person im sharing my body with. Also cuddles after sex What is demisexual? Excuse my ignorance but it's not a term I've ever heard. " I'm demisexual. I'd describe it as needing a level of connection to a person to be sexually attracted to them. | |||
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"I like a cuddle. I'm not going to instantly fall in love with any guy who is somewhat nice to me despite what many of them seem to think . Affection without commitment is entirely possible. You hit the nail on the head there Lacey. " | |||
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"Absolutely essential imo . Yes I had a meet on here years back where there were none but nowadays I like affection as well. I'm hopefully getting cuddles soon x" I’m sure you will | |||
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"I’m very tactile so cuddles before and after is just a natural way for a meet to go, would feel cold if we just got up and left." Same for me. I'm very tactile too but some seem to find it odd. | |||
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"I need my cuddles and I have to wait " Virtual cuddles while you wait for your real ones | |||
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"Sounds like your demisexual OP. I do like a rapport with the person im sharing my body with. Also cuddles after sex What is demisexual? Excuse my ignorance but it's not a term I've ever heard. I'm demisexual. I'd describe it as needing a level of connection to a person to be sexually attracted to them. " Ah okay, makes sense. Thank you xx | |||
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"I need that down time after....I love cuddles and just taking the whole experience in and chatting. Saying that though, my meets on here never ended in cuddles " Have a cyber cuddle from me Gobby | |||
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"I need that down time after....I love cuddles and just taking the whole experience in and chatting. Saying that though, my meets on here never ended in cuddles " I'll have cuddles with you darling | |||
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"So general consensus, I'm not a weirdo for wanting a cuddle before, during or after. Nice to know and I'll definitely be sticking to my guns on that one. No - you're a cuddly weirdo. " I'll take that | |||
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"I need that down time after....I love cuddles and just taking the whole experience in and chatting. Saying that though, my meets on here never ended in cuddles " *squeeze* | |||
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"I’m very tactile so cuddles before and after is just a natural way for a meet to go, would feel cold if we just got up and left. Same for me. I'm very tactile too but some seem to find it odd. " I always say I’m like that and if it’s not for them then I wouldn’t meet | |||
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"I need that down time after....I love cuddles and just taking the whole experience in and chatting. Saying that though, my meets on here never ended in cuddles Have a cyber cuddle from me Gobby " Awww that is very sweet of you thank you Hugs back | |||
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"I need that down time after....I love cuddles and just taking the whole experience in and chatting. Saying that though, my meets on here never ended in cuddles I'll have cuddles with you darling " Yay well that would make it so much better. It’s weird but I felt absolutely crap after, I think the time after is just as important. Maybe it’s something most women need? | |||
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"I need that down time after....I love cuddles and just taking the whole experience in and chatting. Saying that though, my meets on here never ended in cuddles *squeeze*" Oh I would most definitely squeeze you breathless | |||
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"I need my cuddles and I have to wait Virtual cuddles while you wait for your real ones " Aww thankyou | |||
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"I need that down time after....I love cuddles and just taking the whole experience in and chatting. Saying that though, my meets on here never ended in cuddles *squeeze* Oh I would most definitely squeeze you breathless " I don't think it would be the hug leaving me breathless | |||
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"I need my cuddles and I have to wait Virtual cuddles while you wait for your real ones Aww thankyou " Cuddles incoming..... | |||
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"I need my cuddles and I have to wait Virtual cuddles while you wait for your real ones Aww thankyou Cuddles incoming....." Yes please I need some | |||
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"I need my cuddles and I have to wait Virtual cuddles while you wait for your real ones Aww thankyou Cuddles incoming..... Yes please I need some " I have plenty | |||
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"I need my cuddles and I have to wait Virtual cuddles while you wait for your real ones Aww thankyou Cuddles incoming..... Yes please I need some I have plenty " hurry up then please | |||
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"I need my cuddles and I have to wait Virtual cuddles while you wait for your real ones Aww thankyou Cuddles incoming..... Yes please I need some I have plenty hurry up then please " I'm trying xx | |||
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"I need my cuddles and I have to wait Virtual cuddles while you wait for your real ones Aww thankyou Cuddles incoming..... Yes please I need some I have plenty hurry up then please I'm trying xx" Get a move on woman | |||
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"Not one for cuddles in bed, even with partners. I feel restricted. " How about a squeeze of your bum? Asking for a friend. | |||
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"I need that down time after....I love cuddles and just taking the whole experience in and chatting. Saying that though, my meets on here never ended in cuddles *squeeze* Oh I would most definitely squeeze you breathless I don't think it would be the hug leaving me breathless " stop it you...you’re getting me excited | |||
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"Cuddles, spooning, kissing.....yes please. Enjoy each other before, during and afterwards even if it’s for a few hours or the whole weekend. " Taxi to the airport please. | |||
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"Do you like cuddles after you've played? Or does it depend on the person? Personally I don't play with anyone I haven't already started to build a connection with and cuddles for me are a must along with conversation, giggles and some kind of affection. It seems to put a lot of guys off (I say guys because most women I've spoken to like a cuddle) So what's your thoughts on cuddling, forumites? " I’m a gentle lover. X. Love cuddles and kisses before and after!x | |||
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"If we have got as far as wanting to meet then we would already have an emotional connection with each other, I'm extremely tactile so my hands wouldn't be far from touching him whenever we are together " I think that is my problem. I need to have a connection with someone and so trying to separate that as just a fwb's etc would be hard. I think deep down I'd always be waiting for them to find somwone better. Think I'm a self sabotager actually | |||
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"I need that down time after....I love cuddles and just taking the whole experience in and chatting. Saying that though, my meets on here never ended in cuddles I'll have cuddles with you darling Yay well that would make it so much better. It’s weird but I felt absolutely crap after, I think the time after is just as important. Maybe it’s something most women need?" I feel like that after if I don't get cuddles and affection to some degree. I think there's a term for it but I'm rubbish with these things. | |||
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"How can you have sex without cuddles? Does not compute. " My thinking too but apparently it's not for everyone. | |||
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"Depends on the person. Cuddling is a bonding experience for me so unless you want to marry me and get a mortgage with me then just lay next to me and chat shit and keep your arms down by your side." | |||
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"How can you have sex without cuddles? Does not compute. My thinking too but apparently it's not for everyone. " Hey Sparkles.. Cuddles arent for me.. When i was much younger and new to this i would enjoy cuddles but found that id catch feels.. As ive grown older i have just introduced the 'no cuddles' mechanism to kinda protect myself. I might have grown out of that phase, but its there. I do of course form connections prior to meeting guys, i enjoy banter and casual chat and lots of giggles.. i just don't cuddle. Can still lay next to a guy. | |||
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"How can you have sex without cuddles? Does not compute. My thinking too but apparently it's not for everyone. Hey Sparkles.. Cuddles arent for me.. When i was much younger and new to this i would enjoy cuddles but found that id catch feels.. As ive grown older i have just introduced the 'no cuddles' mechanism to kinda protect myself. I might have grown out of that phase, but its there. I do of course form connections prior to meeting guys, i enjoy banter and casual chat and lots of giggles.. i just don't cuddle. Can still lay next to a guy. " That's fair enough if they aren't for you, I get its not for everyone. I was just curious where other people stood on the subject because I've been made to feel weird about it before and wondered if it was just me. | |||
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"Do you like cuddles after you've played? Or does it depend on the person? Personally I don't play with anyone I haven't already started to build a connection with and cuddles for me are a must along with conversation, giggles and some kind of affection. It seems to put a lot of guys off (I say guys because most women I've spoken to like a cuddle) So what's your thoughts on cuddling, forumites? " I like a cuddle... chances are, I've built up a rapport with that person so they obviously mean 'something' to me in whatever capacity that follows, there has to be a connection. | |||
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"So general consensus, I'm not a weirdo for wanting a cuddle before, during or after. Nice to know and I'll definitely be sticking to my guns on that one. " Definitely not a weirdo. Cuddles are lovely x | |||
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