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By *wiped-right OP   Man
over a year ago

fun town

I think I become friends with people quickly and then I see true colours, which makes me upset.

I am not talking about swingers world. General day to day friends. Anyone else have this problem?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

That's the world all over true friends remain just that.

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By *wiped-right OP   Man
over a year ago

fun town


"That's the world all over true friends remain just that."

One of my friend was chatting shit behind my back and I walked in on him. I feel like a dum ass for thinking he was my mate.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

No, because i'm very picky who i allow to become my friends here and outside here is same . If they are friends is because i know since beginning they worth and they are honest and trustworthy , maybe because this reazon i don't have many friends but in other hand quality always superior to quantity

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"That's the world all over true friends remain just that.

One of my friend was chatting shit behind my back and I walked in on him. I feel like a dum ass for thinking he was my mate. "

ignore him move on xx

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By *3xyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

swingers town

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By *wiped-right OP   Man
over a year ago

fun town


"No, because i'm very picky who i allow to become my friends here and outside here is same . If they are friends is because i know since beginning they worth and they are honest and trustworthy , maybe because this reazon i don't have many friends but in other hand quality always superior to quantity "

I hear you but I always find the worse once’s. I really only have two friends that I could trust,

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By *ightkitty4uWoman
over a year ago

Epsom

I love my ADHD... find it hard to make friends, trust people and can usually see through people

On other hand it’s annoying as I don’t have many friends

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby


"No, because i'm very picky who i allow to become my friends here and outside here is same . If they are friends is because i know since beginning they worth and they are honest and trustworthy , maybe because this reazon i don't have many friends but in other hand quality always superior to quantity

I hear you but I always find the worse once’s. I really only have two friends that I could trust, "

Sometimes the need of having a friend/s leads to that to pick up the worst ones but most times are lessons and that is up to you choose if is a lesson to be learned or if something that really matter , having real trustworthy and honest friends

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

If you think it bad in the real world this place can be a,lot worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont do friends can cause too much trouble but got Mates from my Army days

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it's wise to take your time to become proper friends with people. Not everyone can offer real friendship and it's unrealistic to expect them to. I tend to think of people as acquaintances until I know them well enough to call them friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think like minded people are drawn together. I know I’ll like someone within a few minutes. Good friends draw you to them and make you want to chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have many real friends, that I would trust, but those that do see the real me I would trust with my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't make friends. Occasionally I find people who tolerate me for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't have many real friends, that I would trust, but those that do see the real me I would trust with my life"

Absolutely. I know hundreds of people that I would call friends but would only ever ring a handful when in need

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's the world all over true friends remain just that.

One of my friend was chatting shit behind my back and I walked in on him. I feel like a dum ass for thinking he was my mate. "

I had 2 friends who knew how heartbroken I was about something, but they told other people like it was idle gossip. I don't speak to them anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are acquaintances as far as I'm concerned. Easy come, easy go.

I've never understood people who need so many "friends".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, because i'm very picky who i allow to become my friends here and outside here is same . If they are friends is because i know since beginning they worth and they are honest and trustworthy , maybe because this reazon i don't have many friends but in other hand quality always superior to quantity "
comes with age I feel we all let the odd one or 2 snakes in over the years you just become a better judge who to have around you keep the circle small

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I've had it a couple of times - I've realised how self centred a friend was. I'm quite lucky because I'm wary of people and don't share that much personal information - I could talk to you 100 times and you probably still wouldn't know more than the basics. Be more cautious without becoming cynical, yes it's great making new friends but what you first see isn't the whole person.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I used to be like that but I've got wiser as I've got older.

Many people can't be trusted. Some people only want to be your friend when it suits them, I've been used then dropped by people.

I know lots and lots of people where I live as I've lived in the same area all my life, but I've learnt you only need a handful of very good friends in life.

The rest I class as acquaintances.

We are both fortunate that we have half a dozen close friends each who we trust and have been friends with for years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When unsure about someone's motives ask this.

' what the fuck do you want '

Soon as they go on the defensive interrupt them with ' nothing? Good! '

Walk away.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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I only have a handful of true friends, but many acquaintances... I don't let people in until I know that I can trust them

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I can be like that too OP. I don't trust easily but once I do I become a bit blind to their actions. I forgive them when they treat me like dirt, and try and understand why they could possibly treat me in such a way. And eventually you realise that they weren't really your friend. But they used the parts of you to get what they wanted.

It hurts yeah, but I'm not going to loose my faith that there are genuine lovely people out there. Just need to stop and think when things are clearly not right

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

There's people that I'm on friendly terms with friends who I keep at arm's length. There's people who I've know for over 20 years and have been through thick and thin with that I know I can trush friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey OP, I’m sorry to hear this. Maybe learn to be friendly and supportive without giving away too much away about yourself? This is what I do with the majority of people in my life. However, the very few who do get through my 10,000 layers of defence? I want the very best for them and would do anything within my power to make them happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I become friends with people quickly and then I see true colours, which makes me upset.

I am not talking about swingers world. General day to day friends. Anyone else have this problem? "

I hear you OP! let's start a support group

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I become friends with people quickly and then I see true colours, which makes me upset.

I am not talking about swingers world. General day to day friends. Anyone else have this problem?

I hear you OP! let's start a support group

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You don’t do this! You’re the giver of advice

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

Omg!! Don’t even get me started!!!

I had a friend who was a complete nut job!

I knew they had issues and looked out for them. Brought them into my family.

Then they shit on me from a great height.

Lesson well and truly learnt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Omg!! Don’t even get me started!!!

I had a friend who was a complete nut job!

I knew they had issues and looked out for them. Brought them into my family.

Then they shit on me from a great height.

Lesson well and truly learnt. "

But you’re a great friend to have Lexi

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


"Omg!! Don’t even get me started!!!

I had a friend who was a complete nut job!

I knew they had issues and looked out for them. Brought them into my family.

Then they shit on me from a great height.

Lesson well and truly learnt.

But you’re a great friend to have Lexi "

Thank you as are you x

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