Join us FREE, we're FREE to use
Web's largest swingers site since 2006.
Already registered?
Login here
Join us FREE, we're FREE to use
Web's largest swingers site since 2006.
Already registered?
Login here
 | Back to forum list |
| Back to The Lounge |
| Jump to newest |  |
 | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Perhaps it’s the effort versus return? On a dating app, once you’ve done your profile it’s just a matter of swiping whereas on here it takes time to read a profile, write a meaningful and interesting message and then still see nothing back from it. But who knows - we’re all different and get more or less wound up by things" Hey guys! New to the forum 
I agree with the above, I think it's the effort (some of us make) and the minimal responses in return. Although I think a large number of guys probably think that being on a swinging site means you're absolutely gagging for it so can't understand why you'd say no lol | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Perhaps it’s the effort versus return? On a dating app, once you’ve done your profile it’s just a matter of swiping whereas on here it takes time to read a profile, write a meaningful and interesting message and then still see nothing back from it. But who knows - we’re all different and get more or less wound up by things" But I don't get the expectation that there is on people to reply? I usually do if I can see someone has gone to a lot of effort but sometimes I do delete/ignore. I don't get a lot of messages tbh but a lot of the ones I do get quite frankly are not worth my time or attention. That's not me being arrogant, just a reflection on the contents of most messages and/or the profiles that sent them. If it's not considered rude to not match with someone on tinder I don't get why it's the end of the world that I don't say "hey" back to someone, or in most cases, agree to drop everything at a moment's notice and go over to a complete stranger's house to gag on their dick or whatever. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
 | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Perhaps it’s the effort versus return? On a dating app, once you’ve done your profile it’s just a matter of swiping whereas on here it takes time to read a profile, write a meaningful and interesting message and then still see nothing back from it. But who knows - we’re all different and get more or less wound up by things Hey guys! New to the forum
I agree with the above, I think it's the effort (some of us make) and the minimal responses in return. Although I think a large number of guys probably think that being on a swinging site means you're absolutely gagging for it so can't understand why you'd say no lol"Yeah they think they are doing us a favour by offering to shag us. We are desperate for a shag because we are on here.  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"it always amazes me the number of people from fab that I see on dating apps. They'll chat on there but not on fab.. i guess its a different approach on dating apps than it is on here! Nowts a strange as folk" Perhaps the ratio difference gets to them. On dating sites there are usually many women searching for few men. They get no replies or messages. So when they do get a message they do chat. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Let's be honest ,99% of men use dating apps (despite their romantic titles,'eharmony' for example) exactly the same as this site: For quick easy sex and to concoct a suitable tale of woe after they've had their jump so as to find that next 'special lady'." Speak for yourself not others | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Let's be honest ,99% of men use dating apps (despite their romantic titles,'eharmony' for example) exactly the same as this site: For quick easy sex and to concoct a suitable tale of woe after they've had their jump so as to find that next 'special lady'." | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
 | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"This is a great post. I think if sent messages suddenly disappeared one day, so would most of the complaining of no replies. " I don’t personally look at the sent messages part. As I'll either get a reply or I wont so not an issue if it went. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"it always amazes me the number of people from fab that I see on dating apps. They'll chat on there but not on fab.. i guess its a different approach on dating apps than it is on here! Nowts a strange as folk Perhaps the ratio difference gets to them. On dating sites there are usually many women searching for few men. They get no replies or messages. So when they do get a message they do chat. " Do you really think the ratio is that much different on a dating app compared to here? | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Let's be honest ,99% of men use dating apps (despite their romantic titles,'eharmony' for example) exactly the same as this site: For quick easy sex and to concoct a suitable tale of woe after they've had their jump so as to find that next 'special lady'. Speak for yourself not others" Answer for yourself not others. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
 | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Its most of the same people on both I have found though looking for different things on both. "Absolutely but I am clear on my dating profile that I’m looking for a relationship however that doesn’t stop the chancers contacting me 
I do wonder why people match then don’t chat on these sites, is it just to boost their ego as a certain number of people like them?
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Let's be honest ,99% of men use dating apps (despite their romantic titles,'eharmony' for example) exactly the same as this site: For quick easy sex and to concoct a suitable tale of woe after they've had their jump so as to find that next 'special lady'. Speak for yourself not others Answer for yourself not others." Agreed, such a pulled out of the ass figure only serves to tarnish decent guys of which there are plenty, it would be easy for me to say that 99% of women use dating apps for an ego boost and say they want a nice guy only to skip every decent thought out message unless it's from Tom Hardy but that wouldn't be true either. Online dating be it for a relationship or just fun is an exasperating experience for many average people for many different reasons, i put in plenty of effort and just get radio silence all too often but don't complain about it, just shrug and move on because i know my worth and i suspect the majority of people do. It's my belief that all these complainers are actually, like so many cases, a vocal minority. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Its most of the same people on both I have found though looking for different things on both.
Absolutely but I am clear on my dating profile that I’m looking for a relationship however that doesn’t stop the chancers contacting me
I do wonder why people match then don’t chat on these sites, is it just to boost their ego as a certain number of people like them?
"So a question to this..and it does depend on the app used. But ladies if you match do you wait for the guy to message first or drop them a line to say hi etc? | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Let's be honest ,99% of men use dating apps (despite their romantic titles,'eharmony' for example) exactly the same as this site: For quick easy sex and to concoct a suitable tale of woe after they've had their jump so as to find that next 'special lady'. Speak for yourself not others Answer for yourself not others. Agreed, such a pulled out of the ass figure only serves to tarnish decent guys of which there are plenty, it would be easy for me to say that 99% of women use dating apps for an ego boost and say they want a nice guy only to skip every decent thought out message unless it's from Tom Hardy but that wouldn't be true either. Online dating be it for a relationship or just fun is an exasperating experience for many average people for many different reasons, i put in plenty of effort and just get radio silence all too often but don't complain about it, just shrug and move on because i know my worth and i suspect the majority of people do. It's my belief that all these complainers are actually, like so many cases, a vocal minority. " People who aren’t getting their own way on here do tend to make sweeping generalisations. It’s really bitter. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Let's be honest ,99% of men use dating apps (despite their romantic titles,'eharmony' for example) exactly the same as this site: For quick easy sex and to concoct a suitable tale of woe after they've had their jump so as to find that next 'special lady'. Speak for yourself not others Answer for yourself not others. Agreed, such a pulled out of the ass figure only serves to tarnish decent guys of which there are plenty, it would be easy for me to say that 99% of women use dating apps for an ego boost and say they want a nice guy only to skip every decent thought out message unless it's from Tom Hardy but that wouldn't be true either. Online dating be it for a relationship or just fun is an exasperating experience for many average people for many different reasons, i put in plenty of effort and just get radio silence all too often but don't complain about it, just shrug and move on because i know my worth and i suspect the majority of people do. It's my belief that all these complainers are actually, like so many cases, a vocal minority. " I am sure there are a fair few decent guys on dating apps but tbf I agree with the fact that 99% of the guys I've spoken to end up just wanting sex, or worse, pretend to want something more just so that they can get sex. The other 1% that genuinely do want to date end up being too sexually sheltered compared to men on here. If I'd never heard of fab then maybe I'd be dating someone more vanilla right now, idk. But I tend to intimidate a lot of "normal" men due to my open mindedness and experience. It's a shame there's not a dating version of this site  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Can some one massage me other dating apps or swinging sites please Any good one out there Also looking to get some feed back on my profile what should I add and what should I take out Looking for feed back from both girls and men or couples " It's not considered good fab etiquette to hijack someone's thread. Please post profile help requests in the support and advice section. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Can some one massage me other dating apps or swinging sites please Any good one out there Also looking to get some feed back on my profile what should I add and what should I take out Looking for feed back from both girls and men or couples " It’s against forum rules to hijack a thread! | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Perhaps it’s the effort versus return? On a dating app, once you’ve done your profile it’s just a matter of swiping whereas on here it takes time to read a profile, write a meaningful and interesting message and then still see nothing back from it. But who knows - we’re all different and get more or less wound up by things" This is exactly it. I'll read someone's bio to understand them a little and check for compatibility and reply based on their bio so they can see I've taken the time to read it and I'll still get no reply. I feel we as men have to put in a lot of attention just to get a response from someone. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"There's always a lot of agg on here about women not replying to messages. I get that it's frustrating but it makes me wonder. Do the people who complain about this and also use dating apps obsess over every single person they swipe that doesn't swipe them back? Do they keep a list or something and get more bitter about by the day? Maybe the difference is in the not knowing whether the person you like has rejected you or not. In which case it might be a good idea to delete sent messages so it doesn't get to you. And if you're about to reply that you get far more success on dating apps maybe you should think about how your approach differs from here "Before I blocked men from messaging me I was getting 2 messages a day. I am confused when women say they have 400+ messages a day? I find dating sites worse than Fab re attitude of men. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Its most of the same people on both I have found though looking for different things on both.
Absolutely but I am clear on my dating profile that I’m looking for a relationship however that doesn’t stop the chancers contacting me
I do wonder why people match then don’t chat on these sites, is it just to boost their ego as a certain number of people like them?
So a question to this..and it does depend on the app used. But ladies if you match do you wait for the guy to message first or drop them a line to say hi etc?"If we need to match to chat then if I swipe right resulting in a match I send a simple message. If I swipe right then later the guys swipes right resulting in a match I wait for him to message. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"There's always a lot of agg on here about women not replying to messages. I get that it's frustrating but it makes me wonder. Do the people who complain about this and also use dating apps obsess over every single person they swipe that doesn't swipe them back? Do they keep a list or something and get more bitter about by the day? Maybe the difference is in the not knowing whether the person you like has rejected you or not. In which case it might be a good idea to delete sent messages so it doesn't get to you. And if you're about to reply that you get far more success on dating apps maybe you should think about how your approach differs from here
Before I blocked men from messaging me I was getting 2 messages a day. I am confused when women say they have 400+ messages a day?
I find dating sites worse than Fab re attitude of men.
You've made this point on a couple of threads now and it seems you're implying that women getting 100's of messages a day are telling find. You only have to look at the Hot Photos and the number of fabs they get to realise that it probably is true.
I, myself, can get anything from 10 - 50 messages a day, dependant on whether I'm active on forums or not. But I'm by far not the youngest, slimmest, most gorgeous F on here.
I don't mean to be rude, but might I suggest that the demands on your profile may put guys off (certainly the ones who read profiles....)  "I’ve never said the women fib just that I’m confused. Your critique of my profile is against forum rules as I’ve not asked for feedback. I run my profile how I wish, nothing to do with you what I put on my profile! | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"There's always a lot of agg on here about women not replying to messages. I get that it's frustrating but it makes me wonder. Do the people who complain about this and also use dating apps obsess over every single person they swipe that doesn't swipe them back? Do they keep a list or something and get more bitter about by the day? Maybe the difference is in the not knowing whether the person you like has rejected you or not. In which case it might be a good idea to delete sent messages so it doesn't get to you. And if you're about to reply that you get far more success on dating apps maybe you should think about how your approach differs from here
Before I blocked men from messaging me I was getting 2 messages a day. I am confused when women say they have 400+ messages a day?
I find dating sites worse than Fab re attitude of men.
You've made this point on a couple of threads now and it seems you're implying that women getting 100's of messages a day are telling find. You only have to look at the Hot Photos and the number of fabs they get to realise that it probably is true.
I, myself, can get anything from 10 - 50 messages a day, dependant on whether I'm active on forums or not. But I'm by far not the youngest, slimmest, most gorgeous F on here.
I don't mean to be rude, but might I suggest that the demands on your profile may put guys off (certainly the ones who read profiles....) "Hot Photos plays a huge part, I’ve been number 1 a handful of times and after a busy day at work and not logging in Fab all day, I’ve woken up to 1100 messages. When my profile is visible, I can get hundreds of messages a day, if I posted a photo that can increased to 200/300/400. I do have filters on now which cuts down a bit. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"There's always a lot of agg on here about women not replying to messages. I get that it's frustrating but it makes me wonder. Do the people who complain about this and also use dating apps obsess over every single person they swipe that doesn't swipe them back? Do they keep a list or something and get more bitter about by the day? Maybe the difference is in the not knowing whether the person you like has rejected you or not. In which case it might be a good idea to delete sent messages so it doesn't get to you. And if you're about to reply that you get far more success on dating apps maybe you should think about how your approach differs from here
Before I blocked men from messaging me I was getting 2 messages a day. I am confused when women say they have 400+ messages a day?
I find dating sites worse than Fab re attitude of men.
You've made this point on a couple of threads now and it seems you're implying that women getting 100's of messages a day are telling find. You only have to look at the Hot Photos and the number of fabs they get to realise that it probably is true.
I, myself, can get anything from 10 - 50 messages a day, dependant on whether I'm active on forums or not. But I'm by far not the youngest, slimmest, most gorgeous F on here.
I don't mean to be rude, but might I suggest that the demands on your profile may put guys off (certainly the ones who read profiles....)
I’ve never said the women fib just that I’m confused. Your critique of my profile is against forum rules as I’ve not asked for feedback. I run my profile how I wish, nothing to do with you what I put on my profile! "Apologies. I only answered as you were wondering why you dont get that many fabs. No offence was meant x | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"There's always a lot of agg on here about women not replying to messages. I get that it's frustrating but it makes me wonder. Do the people who complain about this and also use dating apps obsess over every single person they swipe that doesn't swipe them back? Do they keep a list or something and get more bitter about by the day? Maybe the difference is in the not knowing whether the person you like has rejected you or not. In which case it might be a good idea to delete sent messages so it doesn't get to you. And if you're about to reply that you get far more success on dating apps maybe you should think about how your approach differs from here
Before I blocked men from messaging me I was getting 2 messages a day. I am confused when women say they have 400+ messages a day?
I find dating sites worse than Fab re attitude of men.
You've made this point on a couple of threads now and it seems you're implying that women getting 100's of messages a day are telling find. You only have to look at the Hot Photos and the number of fabs they get to realise that it probably is true.
I, myself, can get anything from 10 - 50 messages a day, dependant on whether I'm active on forums or not. But I'm by far not the youngest, slimmest, most gorgeous F on here.
I don't mean to be rude, but might I suggest that the demands on your profile may put guys off (certainly the ones who read profiles....)
I’ve never said the women fib just that I’m confused. Your critique of my profile is against forum rules as I’ve not asked for feedback. I run my profile how I wish, nothing to do with you what I put on my profile!
Apologies. I only answered as you were wondering why you dont get that many fabs. No offence was meant x"There is a very good reason for my rules on my profile which I’m not explaining on a thread. Anyway because of my experience I’ve blocked men so I can now search for who I want to chat to....can’t believe I’ve been ‘bullied’ because I run the profile how I wish. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Its most of the same people on both I have found though looking for different things on both.
Absolutely but I am clear on my dating profile that I’m looking for a relationship however that doesn’t stop the chancers contacting me
I do wonder why people match then don’t chat on these sites, is it just to boost their ego as a certain number of people like them?
So a question to this..and it does depend on the app used. But ladies if you match do you wait for the guy to message first or drop them a line to say hi etc?
If we need to match to chat then if I swipe right resulting in a match I send a simple message. If I swipe right then later the guys swipes right resulting in a match I wait for him to message. "Thats why so many may not respond as its a waiting game to see who will send first message. Not saying its right.. but it happens. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Its most of the same people on both I have found though looking for different things on both.
Absolutely but I am clear on my dating profile that I’m looking for a relationship however that doesn’t stop the chancers contacting me
I do wonder why people match then don’t chat on these sites, is it just to boost their ego as a certain number of people like them?
So a question to this..and it does depend on the app used. But ladies if you match do you wait for the guy to message first or drop them a line to say hi etc?
If we need to match to chat then if I swipe right resulting in a match I send a simple message. If I swipe right then later the guys swipes right resulting in a match I wait for him to message.
Thats why so many may not respond as its a waiting game to see who will send first message. Not saying its right.. but it happens. "Most men don't reply when I message first on Bumble and just let the match expire. While I don't understand why they would match me in the first place if they have no intention of talking, I've never been as bothered about it as some men on here get about it though. These guys have literally zero impact on my life so it's not hard to just forget about it and move on. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Let's be honest ,99% of men use dating apps (despite their romantic titles,'eharmony' for example) exactly the same as this site: For quick easy sex and to concoct a suitable tale of woe after they've had their jump so as to find that next 'special lady'. Speak for yourself not others Answer for yourself not others. Agreed, such a pulled out of the ass figure only serves to tarnish decent guys of which there are plenty, it would be easy for me to say that 99% of women use dating apps for an ego boost and say they want a nice guy only to skip every decent thought out message unless it's from Tom Hardy but that wouldn't be true either. Online dating be it for a relationship or just fun is an exasperating experience for many average people for many different reasons, i put in plenty of effort and just get radio silence all too often but don't complain about it, just shrug and move on because i know my worth and i suspect the majority of people do. It's my belief that all these complainers are actually, like so many cases, a vocal minority. I am sure there are a fair few decent guys on dating apps but tbf I agree with the fact that 99% of the guys I've spoken to end up just wanting sex, or worse, pretend to want something more just so that they can get sex. The other 1% that genuinely do want to date end up being too sexually sheltered compared to men on here. If I'd never heard of fab then maybe I'd be dating someone more vanilla right now, idk. But I tend to intimidate a lot of "normal" men due to my open mindedness and experience. It's a shame there's not a dating version of this site "Have you considered that the 1% could be a lot higher if all the guys either left unanswered in your in box or outside of your preferences, were taken in to account? I don't doubt a lot of guys do use such apps for just sex but even that is not the entire truth in my opinion, it wouldn't surprise me if many guys went on dates and didn't think that the woman was the one but decided they would still have sex with them. Whilst still shitty it is not intent. As for guys not being open minded enough that still doesn't qualify the 99 figure which is literally based on opinion and not fact, that's an entirely personal preference issue. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"it always amazes me the number of people from fab that I see on dating apps. They'll chat on there but not on fab.. i guess its a different approach on dating apps than it is on here! Nowts a strange as folk Perhaps the ratio difference gets to them. On dating sites there are usually many women searching for few men. They get no replies or messages. So when they do get a message they do chat. Do you really think the ratio is that much different on a dating app compared to here? " Seems to be more women than men on dating sites. More men than women on sex/ swinging sites. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"There's always a lot of agg on here about women not replying to messages. I get that it's frustrating but it makes me wonder. Do the people who complain about this and also use dating apps obsess over every single person they swipe that doesn't swipe them back? Do they keep a list or something and get more bitter about by the day? Maybe the difference is in the not knowing whether the person you like has rejected you or not. In which case it might be a good idea to delete sent messages so it doesn't get to you. And if you're about to reply that you get far more success on dating apps maybe you should think about how your approach differs from here
Before I blocked men from messaging me I was getting 2 messages a day. I am confused when women say they have 400+ messages a day?
I find dating sites worse than Fab re attitude of men.
You've made this point on a couple of threads now and it seems you're implying that women getting 100's of messages a day are telling find. You only have to look at the Hot Photos and the number of fabs they get to realise that it probably is true.
I, myself, can get anything from 10 - 50 messages a day, dependant on whether I'm active on forums or not. But I'm by far not the youngest, slimmest, most gorgeous F on here.
I don't mean to be rude, but might I suggest that the demands on your profile may put guys off (certainly the ones who read profiles....)
I’ve never said the women fib just that I’m confused. Your critique of my profile is against forum rules as I’ve not asked for feedback. I run my profile how I wish, nothing to do with you what I put on my profile!
Apologies. I only answered as you were wondering why you dont get that many fabs. No offence was meant x
There is a very good reason for my rules on my profile which I’m not explaining on a thread. Anyway because of my experience I’ve blocked men so I can now search for who I want to chat to....can’t believe I’ve been ‘bullied’ because I run the profile how I wish. "Who is 'bullying' you? | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"There's always a lot of agg on here about women not replying to messages. I get that it's frustrating but it makes me wonder. Do the people who complain about this and also use dating apps obsess over every single person they swipe that doesn't swipe them back? Do they keep a list or something and get more bitter about by the day? Maybe the difference is in the not knowing whether the person you like has rejected you or not. In which case it might be a good idea to delete sent messages so it doesn't get to you. And if you're about to reply that you get far more success on dating apps maybe you should think about how your approach differs from here
Before I blocked men from messaging me I was getting 2 messages a day. I am confused when women say they have 400+ messages a day?
I find dating sites worse than Fab re attitude of men.
You've made this point on a couple of threads now and it seems you're implying that women getting 100's of messages a day are telling find. You only have to look at the Hot Photos and the number of fabs they get to realise that it probably is true.
I, myself, can get anything from 10 - 50 messages a day, dependant on whether I'm active on forums or not. But I'm by far not the youngest, slimmest, most gorgeous F on here.
I don't mean to be rude, but might I suggest that the demands on your profile may put guys off (certainly the ones who read profiles....)
I’ve never said the women fib just that I’m confused. Your critique of my profile is against forum rules as I’ve not asked for feedback. I run my profile how I wish, nothing to do with you what I put on my profile!
Apologies. I only answered as you were wondering why you dont get that many fabs. No offence was meant x
There is a very good reason for my rules on my profile which I’m not explaining on a thread. Anyway because of my experience I’ve blocked men so I can now search for who I want to chat to....can’t believe I’ve been ‘bullied’ because I run the profile how I wish.
Who is 'bullying' you? "Felt like bullying. Critiquing my profile when I’ve not asked for feedback on it. Ends! | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Let's be honest ,99% of men use dating apps (despite their romantic titles,'eharmony' for example) exactly the same as this site: For quick easy sex and to concoct a suitable tale of woe after they've had their jump so as to find that next 'special lady'. Speak for yourself not others Answer for yourself not others. Agreed, such a pulled out of the ass figure only serves to tarnish decent guys of which there are plenty, it would be easy for me to say that 99% of women use dating apps for an ego boost and say they want a nice guy only to skip every decent thought out message unless it's from Tom Hardy but that wouldn't be true either. Online dating be it for a relationship or just fun is an exasperating experience for many average people for many different reasons, i put in plenty of effort and just get radio silence all too often but don't complain about it, just shrug and move on because i know my worth and i suspect the majority of people do. It's my belief that all these complainers are actually, like so many cases, a vocal minority. I am sure there are a fair few decent guys on dating apps but tbf I agree with the fact that 99% of the guys I've spoken to end up just wanting sex, or worse, pretend to want something more just so that they can get sex. The other 1% that genuinely do want to date end up being too sexually sheltered compared to men on here. If I'd never heard of fab then maybe I'd be dating someone more vanilla right now, idk. But I tend to intimidate a lot of "normal" men due to my open mindedness and experience. It's a shame there's not a dating version of this site
Have you considered that the 1% could be a lot higher if all the guys either left unanswered in your in box or outside of your preferences, were taken in to account? I don't doubt a lot of guys do use such apps for just sex but even that is not the entire truth in my opinion, it wouldn't surprise me if many guys went on dates and didn't think that the woman was the one but decided they would still have sex with them. Whilst still shitty it is not intent.
As for guys not being open minded enough that still doesn't qualify the 99 figure which is literally based on opinion and not fact, that's an entirely personal preference issue."No. If they don't match my preferences why would I consider them? As for your theory about going on a date with someone and deciding to have sex with them even if you don't like them; this has never happened to me. I never have sex on a first date. I'm talking about the men who lie from the outset. 99% may be a figure pulled out of thin air but that's definitely what it feels like after 7 years of dating app experience. Granted I haven't been looking to date during that whole time but ever since I started using them it has been very clear most men are only looking to hook up. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"There's always a lot of agg on here about women not replying to messages. I get that it's frustrating but it makes me wonder. Do the people who complain about this and also use dating apps obsess over every single person they swipe that doesn't swipe them back? Do they keep a list or something and get more bitter about by the day? Maybe the difference is in the not knowing whether the person you like has rejected you or not. In which case it might be a good idea to delete sent messages so it doesn't get to you. And if you're about to reply that you get far more success on dating apps maybe you should think about how your approach differs from here
Before I blocked men from messaging me I was getting 2 messages a day. I am confused when women say they have 400+ messages a day?
I find dating sites worse than Fab re attitude of men.
You've made this point on a couple of threads now and it seems you're implying that women getting 100's of messages a day are telling find. You only have to look at the Hot Photos and the number of fabs they get to realise that it probably is true.
I, myself, can get anything from 10 - 50 messages a day, dependant on whether I'm active on forums or not. But I'm by far not the youngest, slimmest, most gorgeous F on here.
I don't mean to be rude, but might I suggest that the demands on your profile may put guys off (certainly the ones who read profiles....)
I’ve never said the women fib just that I’m confused. Your critique of my profile is against forum rules as I’ve not asked for feedback. I run my profile how I wish, nothing to do with you what I put on my profile!
Apologies. I only answered as you were wondering why you dont get that many fabs. No offence was meant x
There is a very good reason for my rules on my profile which I’m not explaining on a thread. Anyway because of my experience I’ve blocked men so I can now search for who I want to chat to....can’t believe I’ve been ‘bullied’ because I run the profile how I wish.
Who is 'bullying' you?
Felt like bullying. Critiquing my profile when I’ve not asked for feedback on it. Ends! "She has explained she was just trying to help. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Let's be honest ,99% of men use dating apps (despite their romantic titles,'eharmony' for example) exactly the same as this site: For quick easy sex and to concoct a suitable tale of woe after they've had their jump so as to find that next 'special lady'. Speak for yourself not others Answer for yourself not others. Agreed, such a pulled out of the ass figure only serves to tarnish decent guys of which there are plenty, it would be easy for me to say that 99% of women use dating apps for an ego boost and say they want a nice guy only to skip every decent thought out message unless it's from Tom Hardy but that wouldn't be true either. Online dating be it for a relationship or just fun is an exasperating experience for many average people for many different reasons, i put in plenty of effort and just get radio silence all too often but don't complain about it, just shrug and move on because i know my worth and i suspect the majority of people do. It's my belief that all these complainers are actually, like so many cases, a vocal minority. I am sure there are a fair few decent guys on dating apps but tbf I agree with the fact that 99% of the guys I've spoken to end up just wanting sex, or worse, pretend to want something more just so that they can get sex. The other 1% that genuinely do want to date end up being too sexually sheltered compared to men on here. If I'd never heard of fab then maybe I'd be dating someone more vanilla right now, idk. But I tend to intimidate a lot of "normal" men due to my open mindedness and experience. It's a shame there's not a dating version of this site
Have you considered that the 1% could be a lot higher if all the guys either left unanswered in your in box or outside of your preferences, were taken in to account? I don't doubt a lot of guys do use such apps for just sex but even that is not the entire truth in my opinion, it wouldn't surprise me if many guys went on dates and didn't think that the woman was the one but decided they would still have sex with them. Whilst still shitty it is not intent.
As for guys not being open minded enough that still doesn't qualify the 99 figure which is literally based on opinion and not fact, that's an entirely personal preference issue.
No. If they don't match my preferences why would I consider them?
As for your theory about going on a date with someone and deciding to have sex with them even if you don't like them; this has never happened to me. I never have sex on a first date. I'm talking about the men who lie from the outset.
99% may be a figure pulled out of thin air but that's definitely what it feels like after 7 years of dating app experience. Granted I haven't been looking to date during that whole time but ever since I started using them it has been very clear most men are only looking to hook up. "That's fair enough i can't say that i agree but i can respect your experience and how you can come to that view. I have no love for online dating, it's a very unpleasant experience for the most part but i try to remain objective about it and accept that what i see is probably blown out of proportion. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"There's always a lot of agg on here about women not replying to messages. I get that it's frustrating but it makes me wonder. Do the people who complain about this and also use dating apps obsess over every single person they swipe that doesn't swipe them back? Do they keep a list or something and get more bitter about by the day? Maybe the difference is in the not knowing whether the person you like has rejected you or not. In which case it might be a good idea to delete sent messages so it doesn't get to you. And if you're about to reply that you get far more success on dating apps maybe you should think about how your approach differs from here
Before I blocked men from messaging me I was getting 2 messages a day. I am confused when women say they have 400+ messages a day?
I find dating sites worse than Fab re attitude of men.
You've made this point on a couple of threads now and it seems you're implying that women getting 100's of messages a day are telling find. You only have to look at the Hot Photos and the number of fabs they get to realise that it probably is true.
I, myself, can get anything from 10 - 50 messages a day, dependant on whether I'm active on forums or not. But I'm by far not the youngest, slimmest, most gorgeous F on here.
I don't mean to be rude, but might I suggest that the demands on your profile may put guys off (certainly the ones who read profiles....)
I’ve never said the women fib just that I’m confused. Your critique of my profile is against forum rules as I’ve not asked for feedback. I run my profile how I wish, nothing to do with you what I put on my profile!
Apologies. I only answered as you were wondering why you dont get that many fabs. No offence was meant x
There is a very good reason for my rules on my profile which I’m not explaining on a thread. Anyway because of my experience I’ve blocked men so I can now search for who I want to chat to....can’t believe I’ve been ‘bullied’ because I run the profile how I wish.
Who is 'bullying' you?
Felt like bullying. Critiquing my profile when I’ve not asked for feedback on it. Ends!
She has explained she was just trying to help. "I responded if you care to look. Thank you have a good day. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Its most of the same people on both I have found though looking for different things on both.
Absolutely but I am clear on my dating profile that I’m looking for a relationship however that doesn’t stop the chancers contacting me
I do wonder why people match then don’t chat on these sites, is it just to boost their ego as a certain number of people like them?
So a question to this..and it does depend on the app used. But ladies if you match do you wait for the guy to message first or drop them a line to say hi etc?
If we need to match to chat then if I swipe right resulting in a match I send a simple message. If I swipe right then later the guys swipes right resulting in a match I wait for him to message.
Thats why so many may not respond as its a waiting game to see who will send first message. Not saying its right.. but it happens.
Most men don't reply when I message first on Bumble and just let the match expire. While I don't understand why they would match me in the first place if they have no intention of talking, I've never been as bothered about it as some men on here get about it though. These guys have literally zero impact on my life so it's not hard to just forget about it and move on. "I do agree its strange why someone would match and not chat. On bumble its better as the woman has to message first. If they do then I'll always say hello and have a chat. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"it always amazes me the number of people from fab that I see on dating apps. They'll chat on there but not on fab.. i guess its a different approach on dating apps than it is on here! Nowts a strange as folk Perhaps the ratio difference gets to them. On dating sites there are usually many women searching for few men. They get no replies or messages. So when they do get a message they do chat. Do you really think the ratio is that much different on a dating app compared to here? Seems to be more women than men on dating sites. More men than women on sex/ swinging sites. " Hmm thats something I wouldn't have expected. Time to revamp the dating profiles obviously. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"it always amazes me the number of people from fab that I see on dating apps. They'll chat on there but not on fab.. i guess its a different approach on dating apps than it is on here! Nowts a strange as folk Perhaps the ratio difference gets to them. On dating sites there are usually many women searching for few men. They get no replies or messages. So when they do get a message they do chat. Do you really think the ratio is that much different on a dating app compared to here? Seems to be more women than men on dating sites. More men than women on sex/ swinging sites. Hmm thats something I wouldn't have expected. Time to revamp the dating profiles obviously. " | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Perhaps it’s the effort versus return? On a dating app, once you’ve done your profile it’s just a matter of swiping whereas on here it takes time to read a profile, write a meaningful and interesting message and then still see nothing back from it. But who knows - we’re all different and get more or less wound up by things Hey guys! New to the forum
"Welcome to the forum | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" So a question to this..and it does depend on the app used. But ladies if you match do you wait for the guy to message first or drop them a line to say hi etc? If we need to match to chat then if I swipe right resulting in a match I send a simple message. If I swipe right then later the guys swipes right resulting in a match I wait for him to message.
Thats why so many may not respond as its a waiting game to see who will send first message. Not saying its right.. but it happens. "Yeah that’s why I made the rule of who messages first. Even if I do message first after we match I don’t always get a response 
If you can’t message someone after both have intimated an interest in each other is there much point in trying for a relAtionship with them?
I get that people are nervous but a simple hi hows your week going just to start can’t be that hard can it? | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Can some one massage me other dating apps or swinging sites please Any good one out there Also looking to get some feed back on my profile what should I add and what should I take out Looking for feed back from both girls and men or couples " Google would be your friend if looking for other sites | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Someone said it earlier, it's a fragile male ego. Being on a sex/swingers site they may feel the rules are different. Dating app: ppl looking for a coffee & relationship. Swingers app: 100 man gangbang asap! I think some others probably feel frustrated that they take time to read profiles & write custom messages in the hope to pique interest and nothing comes of it. Just gotta charge it to the game and move on! This is in no way justifying some ppl's behaviour in your inboxes just offering an insight into potential mindsets" Yeah... Maybe it's just due to hundreds of years of internalised societal sexism. Not saying that all men are sexist but there is definitely more of a general expectation of women being more likely to put out just because they are on a swinging website, and I think quite a few men take this to mean we don't deserve respect either. Wonder how they would feel about someone talking to their mothers/daughters/wives the way they talk to women on here... | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Let's be honest ,99% of men use dating apps (despite their romantic titles,'eharmony' for example) exactly the same as this site: For quick easy sex and to concoct a suitable tale of woe after they've had their jump so as to find that next 'special lady'. Speak for yourself not others Answer for yourself not others. Agreed, such a pulled out of the ass figure only serves to tarnish decent guys of which there are plenty, it would be easy for me to say that 99% of women use dating apps for an ego boost and say they want a nice guy only to skip every decent thought out message unless it's from Tom Hardy but that wouldn't be true either. Online dating be it for a relationship or just fun is an exasperating experience for many average people for many different reasons, i put in plenty of effort and just get radio silence all too often but don't complain about it, just shrug and move on because i know my worth and i suspect the majority of people do. It's my belief that all these complainers are actually, like so many cases, a vocal minority. I am sure there are a fair few decent guys on dating apps but tbf I agree with the fact that 99% of the guys I've spoken to end up just wanting sex, or worse, pretend to want something more just so that they can get sex. The other 1% that genuinely do want to date end up being too sexually sheltered compared to men on here. If I'd never heard of fab then maybe I'd be dating someone more vanilla right now, idk. But I tend to intimidate a lot of "normal" men due to my open mindedness and experience. It's a shame there's not a dating version of this site
Have you considered that the 1% could be a lot higher if all the guys either left unanswered in your in box or outside of your preferences, were taken in to account? I don't doubt a lot of guys do use such apps for just sex but even that is not the entire truth in my opinion, it wouldn't surprise me if many guys went on dates and didn't think that the woman was the one but decided they would still have sex with them. Whilst still shitty it is not intent.
As for guys not being open minded enough that still doesn't qualify the 99 figure which is literally based on opinion and not fact, that's an entirely personal preference issue.
No. If they don't match my preferences why would I consider them?
As for your theory about going on a date with someone and deciding to have sex with them even if you don't like them; this has never happened to me. I never have sex on a first date. I'm talking about the men who lie from the outset.
99% may be a figure pulled out of thin air but that's definitely what it feels like after 7 years of dating app experience. Granted I haven't been looking to date during that whole time but ever since I started using them it has been very clear most men are only looking to hook up.
That's fair enough i can't say that i agree but i can respect your experience and how you can come to that view. I have no love for online dating, it's a very unpleasant experience for the most part but i try to remain objective about it and accept that what i see is probably blown out of proportion."I am assuming that you would be looking for women on dating apps, in which case you are probably more likely to come across people looking for a genuine connection/relationship. There are lots of women who just want to hook up on the apps, lord knows I have been one of them at many points in the past few years, but I think in general more women are looking to date than men. I also think advertising these apps as a place to find dating/relationships is pretty misleading, especially for people of my age. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" So a question to this..and it does depend on the app used. But ladies if you match do you wait for the guy to message first or drop them a line to say hi etc? If we need to match to chat then if I swipe right resulting in a match I send a simple message. If I swipe right then later the guys swipes right resulting in a match I wait for him to message.
Thats why so many may not respond as its a waiting game to see who will send first message. Not saying its right.. but it happens.
Yeah that’s why I made the rule of who messages first. Even if I do message first after we match I don’t always get a response
If you can’t message someone after both have intimated an interest in each other is there much point in trying for a relAtionship with them?
I get that people are nervous but a simple hi hows your week going just to start can’t be that hard can it? "I can only speak about my experiences with online dating and why I don’t answer all my messages or send a message to someone I match with.... Most online dating apps give a free users a limited amount of swipes per 24 hours.... So I will match with as many attractive and local profiles that I can in a 24 hour period.. When I do match with someone and can read their full profile and see additional pics... then I will decide to send a message or unmatch with them.... So this might be why some guys don’t engage in conversation after a match..... | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"it always amazes me the number of people from fab that I see on dating apps. They'll chat on there but not on fab.. i guess its a different approach on dating apps than it is on here! Nowts a strange as folk" I think most women aren't flattered that a man wants to put their cock into one of their orifices. A dating site feels like that the man actually wants to get to know them as a person and not just empty their balls. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"There's always a lot of agg on here about women not replying to messages. I get that it's frustrating but it makes me wonder. Do the people who complain about this and also use dating apps obsess over every single person they swipe that doesn't swipe them back? Do they keep a list or something and get more bitter about by the day? Maybe the difference is in the not knowing whether the person you like has rejected you or not. In which case it might be a good idea to delete sent messages so it doesn't get to you. And if you're about to reply that you get far more success on dating apps maybe you should think about how your approach differs from here "So many reasons for no replies ..not attracted Not interested No effort ..l also think that the bones of the same applies in real world dating...with online dating or adult sites attraction is the number one trait ..if a person isn't attracted ...then it's game over..l don't think there's any lady that's gonna fuck a guy if she's not attracted to him ..yes it may seem shallow but just ask any lady here if shes gonna spread her legs for a guy she's not attracted to and l do think the answer will be No. ...that's the way it is here ..and l think the same in the real world dating in ladies can swipe left or right and what are they looking at at when they do that. ?? correct...their face's so if they're not attracted ..it's game over before it ever began. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"it always amazes me the number of people from fab that I see on dating apps. They'll chat on there but not on fab.. i guess its a different approach on dating apps than it is on here! Nowts a strange as folk I think most women aren't flattered that a man wants to put their cock into one of their orifices. A dating site feels like that the man actually wants to get to know them as a person and not just empty their balls."
Although sadly the latter is still the case on a lot of dating sites | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Let's be honest ,99% of men use dating apps (despite their romantic titles,'eharmony' for example) exactly the same as this site: For quick easy sex and to concoct a suitable tale of woe after they've had their jump so as to find that next 'special lady'. Speak for yourself not others Answer for yourself not others. Agreed, such a pulled out of the ass figure only serves to tarnish decent guys of which there are plenty, it would be easy for me to say that 99% of women use dating apps for an ego boost and say they want a nice guy only to skip every decent thought out message unless it's from Tom Hardy but that wouldn't be true either. Online dating be it for a relationship or just fun is an exasperating experience for many average people for many different reasons, i put in plenty of effort and just get radio silence all too often but don't complain about it, just shrug and move on because i know my worth and i suspect the majority of people do. It's my belief that all these complainers are actually, like so many cases, a vocal minority. I am sure there are a fair few decent guys on dating apps but tbf I agree with the fact that 99% of the guys I've spoken to end up just wanting sex, or worse, pretend to want something more just so that they can get sex. The other 1% that genuinely do want to date end up being too sexually sheltered compared to men on here. If I'd never heard of fab then maybe I'd be dating someone more vanilla right now, idk. But I tend to intimidate a lot of "normal" men due to my open mindedness and experience. It's a shame there's not a dating version of this site
Have you considered that the 1% could be a lot higher if all the guys either left unanswered in your in box or outside of your preferences, were taken in to account? I don't doubt a lot of guys do use such apps for just sex but even that is not the entire truth in my opinion, it wouldn't surprise me if many guys went on dates and didn't think that the woman was the one but decided they would still have sex with them. Whilst still shitty it is not intent.
As for guys not being open minded enough that still doesn't qualify the 99 figure which is literally based on opinion and not fact, that's an entirely personal preference issue.
No. If they don't match my preferences why would I consider them?
As for your theory about going on a date with someone and deciding to have sex with them even if you don't like them; this has never happened to me. I never have sex on a first date. I'm talking about the men who lie from the outset.
99% may be a figure pulled out of thin air but that's definitely what it feels like after 7 years of dating app experience. Granted I haven't been looking to date during that whole time but ever since I started using them it has been very clear most men are only looking to hook up.
That's fair enough i can't say that i agree but i can respect your experience and how you can come to that view. I have no love for online dating, it's a very unpleasant experience for the most part but i try to remain objective about it and accept that what i see is probably blown out of proportion.
I am assuming that you would be looking for women on dating apps, in which case you are probably more likely to come across people looking for a genuine connection/relationship. There are lots of women who just want to hook up on the apps, lord knows I have been one of them at many points in the past few years, but I think in general more women are looking to date than men. I also think advertising these apps as a place to find dating/relationships is pretty misleading, especially for people of my age. "I'm not sure advertising them that way is misleading at the end of the day that is down to how the users make use of the app and people are very good at taking something and twisting it's use, i do however thing these apps play up to the fact that folk use them that way and do nothing to discourage it. I have a profile on such an app which is there solely to find "the one", it's long winded and a little blunt in it's way but looking for keeps is very different to looking for a fuck in my head at least so I'd rather discourage anyone who won't even put in the effort to read it. On here it's primarily a bit of fun to pass the time but with an open mind since those very same women i want to stick my willy in are still human as much as on any other app. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"There's always a lot of agg on here about women not replying to messages. I get that it's frustrating but it makes me wonder. Do the people who complain about this and also use dating apps obsess over every single person they swipe that doesn't swipe them back? Do they keep a list or something and get more bitter about by the day? Maybe the difference is in the not knowing whether the person you like has rejected you or not. In which case it might be a good idea to delete sent messages so it doesn't get to you. And if you're about to reply that you get far more success on dating apps maybe you should think about how your approach differs from here
So many reasons for no replies
..not attracted
Not interested
No effort
..l also think that the bones of the same applies in real world dating...with online dating or adult sites attraction is the number one trait ..if a person isn't attracted ...then it's game over..l don't think there's any lady that's gonna fuck a guy if she's not attracted to him ..yes it may seem shallow but just ask any lady here if shes gonna spread her legs for a guy she's not attracted to and l do think the answer will be No. ...that's the way it is here ..and l think the same in the real world dating in ladies can swipe left or right and what are they looking at at when they do that. ?? correct...their face's so if they're not attracted ..it's game over before it ever began."The thing is that there have been plenty of men I have been very attracted to in real life that I probably wouldn't have swiped right on if I saw them on paper. Someone's personality can make them way more attractive and this is something you can't really perceive over the Internet. The answer would be to stop using apps/sites full stop but it's SO hard to meet someone in real life as with all these apps no one knows how to talk face to face anymore. ESPECIALLY now. The last time I was asked out on the street was about 3 years ago  (outside a club, we ended up going on 5 or 6 dates)
I still get chatted up on nights out and stuff but it's not the same as they're still just after one nighters... I'd love to have a movie style meet cute, both reaching for the last block of tofu in Whole Foods or something | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"There's always a lot of agg on here about women not replying to messages. I get that it's frustrating but it makes me wonder. Do the people who complain about this and also use dating apps obsess over every single person they swipe that doesn't swipe them back? Do they keep a list or something and get more bitter about by the day? Maybe the difference is in the not knowing whether the person you like has rejected you or not. In which case it might be a good idea to delete sent messages so it doesn't get to you. And if you're about to reply that you get far more success on dating apps maybe you should think about how your approach differs from here "I think overall I can conclude from many’s experiences it’s women who faces hatred. Is it from all men? Or most few? Yes men has a tendency to express his reaction in some way coz it’s a million year evolution can’t blame. But it’s the sixth sense that has made him not to Harass and I think many women would have felt it from those who are sixth sense deficient so please give them time to evolve. They will one day. Coming to the topic I think fab has allowed a lot of open spaces and opportunities to express which is not in most dating apps. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"There's always a lot of agg on here about women not replying to messages. I get that it's frustrating but it makes me wonder. Do the people who complain about this and also use dating apps obsess over every single person they swipe that doesn't swipe them back? Do they keep a list or something and get more bitter about by the day? Maybe the difference is in the not knowing whether the person you like has rejected you or not. In which case it might be a good idea to delete sent messages so it doesn't get to you. And if you're about to reply that you get far more success on dating apps maybe you should think about how your approach differs from here
So many reasons for no replies
..not attracted
Not interested
No effort
..l also think that the bones of the same applies in real world dating...with online dating or adult sites attraction is the number one trait ..if a person isn't attracted ...then it's game over..l don't think there's any lady that's gonna fuck a guy if she's not attracted to him ..yes it may seem shallow but just ask any lady here if shes gonna spread her legs for a guy she's not attracted to and l do think the answer will be No. ...that's the way it is here ..and l think the same in the real world dating in ladies can swipe left or right and what are they looking at at when they do that. ?? correct...their face's so if they're not attracted ..it's game over before it ever began.
The thing is that there have been plenty of men I have been very attracted to in real life that I probably wouldn't have swiped right on if I saw them on paper. Someone's personality can make them way more attractive and this is something you can't really perceive over the Internet. The answer would be to stop using apps/sites full stop but it's SO hard to meet someone in real life as with all these apps no one knows how to talk face to face anymore. ESPECIALLY now. The last time I was asked out on the street was about 3 years ago (outside a club, we ended up going on 5 or 6 dates)
I still get chatted up on nights out and stuff but it's not the same as they're still just after one nighters... I'd love to have a movie style meet cute, both reaching for the last block of tofu in Whole Foods or something " a wee mills & boons story 
My problem is I don’t take guys seriously on a night out when they are chatting me up but that’s more my lack of confidence and my friends are always falling me off  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"There's always a lot of agg on here about women not replying to messages. I get that it's frustrating but it makes me wonder. Do the people who complain about this and also use dating apps obsess over every single person they swipe that doesn't swipe them back? Do they keep a list or something and get more bitter about by the day? Maybe the difference is in the not knowing whether the person you like has rejected you or not. In which case it might be a good idea to delete sent messages so it doesn't get to you. And if you're about to reply that you get far more success on dating apps maybe you should think about how your approach differs from here
I think overall I can conclude from many’s experiences it’s women who faces hatred. Is it from all men? Or most few?
Yes men has a tendency to express his reaction in some way coz it’s a million year evolution can’t blame. But it’s the sixth sense that has made him not to Harass and I think many women would have felt it from those who are sixth sense deficient so please give them time to evolve. They will one day.
Coming to the topic I think fab has allowed a lot of open spaces and opportunities to express which is not in most dating apps.
"I've only got about 60 years left, if I'm lucky  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Maybe it would be better if there were more/better filters so women could block out the noise so to speak and men were unable to message past these filters. Age filter works but what about smokers/attached/unverified/no pictures/distance and any others. I try to avoid messaging unsuitable profiles and dont get bothered if im deleted/blocked " You can’t stop someone in public to stop talking to u. U can just not hear or get away. Please feel free to block whom u think inappropriate once u get a mail from them. Once he faces that lesson he will change for u definitely | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"There's always a lot of agg on here about women not replying to messages. I get that it's frustrating but it makes me wonder. Do the people who complain about this and also use dating apps obsess over every single person they swipe that doesn't swipe them back? Do they keep a list or something and get more bitter about by the day? Maybe the difference is in the not knowing whether the person you like has rejected you or not. In which case it might be a good idea to delete sent messages so it doesn't get to you. And if you're about to reply that you get far more success on dating apps maybe you should think about how your approach differs from here
So many reasons for no replies
..not attracted
Not interested
No effort
..l also think that the bones of the same applies in real world dating...with online dating or adult sites attraction is the number one trait ..if a person isn't attracted ...then it's game over..l don't think there's any lady that's gonna fuck a guy if she's not attracted to him ..yes it may seem shallow but just ask any lady here if shes gonna spread her legs for a guy she's not attracted to and l do think the answer will be No. ...that's the way it is here ..and l think the same in the real world dating in ladies can swipe left or right and what are they looking at at when they do that. ?? correct...their face's so if they're not attracted ..it's game over before it ever began.
The thing is that there have been plenty of men I have been very attracted to in real life that I probably wouldn't have swiped right on if I saw them on paper. Someone's personality can make them way more attractive and this is something you can't really perceive over the Internet. The answer would be to stop using apps/sites full stop but it's SO hard to meet someone in real life as with all these apps no one knows how to talk face to face anymore. ESPECIALLY now. The last time I was asked out on the street was about 3 years ago (outside a club, we ended up going on 5 or 6 dates)
I still get chatted up on nights out and stuff but it's not the same as they're still just after one nighters... I'd love to have a movie style meet cute, both reaching for the last block of tofu in Whole Foods or something
a wee mills & boons story
My problem is I don’t take guys seriously on a night out when they are chatting me up but that’s more my lack of confidence and my friends are always falling me off "You need more liquid courage in my experience when I've had a few I can approach guys who I would normally think are WAAYYYY out of my league, but not gonna lie I get a lot of confidence from alcohol and that confidence seems to be a turn on. One of my friends always jokes that she can tell when it starts because I start flipping my hair | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"There's always a lot of agg on here about women not replying to messages. I get that it's frustrating but it makes me wonder. Do the people who complain about this and also use dating apps obsess over every single person they swipe that doesn't swipe them back? Do they keep a list or something and get more bitter about by the day? Maybe the difference is in the not knowing whether the person you like has rejected you or not. In which case it might be a good idea to delete sent messages so it doesn't get to you. And if you're about to reply that you get far more success on dating apps maybe you should think about how your approach differs from here
So many reasons for no replies
..not attracted
Not interested
No effort
..l also think that the bones of the same applies in real world dating...with online dating or adult sites attraction is the number one trait ..if a person isn't attracted ...then it's game over..l don't think there's any lady that's gonna fuck a guy if she's not attracted to him ..yes it may seem shallow but just ask any lady here if shes gonna spread her legs for a guy she's not attracted to and l do think the answer will be No. ...that's the way it is here ..and l think the same in the real world dating in ladies can swipe left or right and what are they looking at at when they do that. ?? correct...their face's so if they're not attracted ..it's game over before it ever began.
The thing is that there have been plenty of men I have been very attracted to in real life that I probably wouldn't have swiped right on if I saw them on paper. Someone's personality can make them way more attractive and this is something you can't really perceive over the Internet. The answer would be to stop using apps/sites full stop but it's SO hard to meet someone in real life as with all these apps no one knows how to talk face to face anymore. ESPECIALLY now. The last time I was asked out on the street was about 3 years ago (outside a club, we ended up going on 5 or 6 dates)
I still get chatted up on nights out and stuff but it's not the same as they're still just after one nighters... I'd love to have a movie style meet cute, both reaching for the last block of tofu in Whole Foods or something
a wee mills & boons story
My problem is I don’t take guys seriously on a night out when they are chatting me up but that’s more my lack of confidence and my friends are always falling me off
You need more liquid courage in my experience when I've had a few I can approach guys who I would normally think are WAAYYYY out of my league, but not gonna lie I get a lot of confidence from alcohol and that confidence seems to be a turn on. One of my friends always jokes that she can tell when it starts because I start flipping my hair "Ha ha I will remember in future - alcohol and hair flips  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"it always amazes me the number of people from fab that I see on dating apps. They'll chat on there but not on fab.. i guess its a different approach on dating apps than it is on here! Nowts a strange as folk I think most women aren't flattered that a man wants to put their cock into one of their orifices. A dating site feels like that the man actually wants to get to know them as a person and not just empty their balls.
Although sadly the latter is still the case on a lot of dating sites "The thing is this... my housemate get lots of attention on the dating apps. I've lost count of the dates etc that he's been on where its metal that they shag etc on first date then he gets ghosted. So its not just a man trait. The main problem seems that not everyone is clear what they want. And as ivd said it amazes me how you can chat to someone on a dating app. Realise you're both on fab and then she doesn't want you know anymore.. kinda double standards. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Nonetheless, to answer the OP, i think the situation is more complex:
1) disparity between stated aims vs actual motives
2) more men than women on these platforms
3) men generally machine gun messaging women for an instashag experience
4) underlying driver for women to gloat in the "unwanted" attention they receive
5) women complain about overwhelming attention so stop messaging altogether and put up filters (just look at Facepic Friday behaviours)
6) genuine guys can't get an edge in since they can't make the first move yet women still expect the guys to message first if they pass all the rules of the profile
7) women complain about lack of "decent" guys
8) perpetual cycle continues of horny frustrated people all round
..
On tinder, I'm rarely matched. On Bumble, women never seen to message or reply...i care not... Yet,i still seem to prefer fab. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I keep seeing people saying that there are apps where there are more women than men, and people are looking for sex rather than A Proper Relationship™. Could someone let me know what these apps actually are, please? Because it isn't any of the ones I've tried. It definitely isn't Tinder, which is *flooded* with people looking for The One™. " Bad news. It’s tinder | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Not in any city where I've used it. Oh well. Living in a mononormative patriarchy sucks. " That’s the spirit | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I keep seeing people saying that there are apps where there are more women than men, and people are looking for sex rather than A Proper Relationship™. Could someone let me know what these apps actually are, please? Because it isn't any of the ones I've tried. It definitely isn't Tinder, which is *flooded* with people looking for The One™. " I don't think it exist. Just need to except for most women, they prefer meaningful relationship. Hence why men pay for sex. I find these days, it's more common for really young adults interested in "fun only" times | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Wow, some insecure folk on this thread
Nonetheless, to answer the OP, i think the situation is more complex:
1) disparity between stated aims vs actual motives
2) more men than women on these platforms
3) men generally machine gun messaging women for an instashag experience
4) underlying driver for women to gloat in the "unwanted" attention they receive
5) women complain about overwhelming attention so stop messaging altogether and put up filters (just look at Facepic Friday behaviours)
6) genuine guys can't get an edge in since they can't make the first move yet women still expect the guys to message first if they pass all the rules of the profile
7) women complain about lack of "decent" guys
8) perpetual cycle continues of horny frustrated people all round
..
On tinder, I'm rarely matched. On Bumble, women never seen to message or reply...i care not... Yet,i still seem to prefer fab."define what is a "genuine guy" on fab? | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Wow, some insecure folk on this thread
Nonetheless, to answer the OP, i think the situation is more complex:
1) disparity between stated aims vs actual motives
2) more men than women on these platforms
3) men generally machine gun messaging women for an instashag experience
4) underlying driver for women to gloat in the "unwanted" attention they receive
5) women complain about overwhelming attention so stop messaging altogether and put up filters (just look at Facepic Friday behaviours)
6) genuine guys can't get an edge in since they can't make the first move yet women still expect the guys to message first if they pass all the rules of the profile
7) women complain about lack of "decent" guys
8) perpetual cycle continues of horny frustrated people all round
..
On tinder, I'm rarely matched. On Bumble, women never seen to message or reply...i care not... Yet,i still seem to prefer fab.
define what is a "genuine guy" on fab? "Emmmm us here  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I keep seeing people saying that there are apps where there are more women than men, and people are looking for sex rather than A Proper Relationship™. Could someone let me know what these apps actually are, please? Because it isn't any of the ones I've tried. It definitely isn't Tinder, which is *flooded* with people looking for The One™. I don't think it exist. Just need to except for most women, they prefer meaningful relationship. Hence why men pay for sex. I find these days, it's more common for really young adults interested in "fun only" times" That's currently my conclusion too, but I live in hope that I'm wrong. I know I'm an outlier, but I'm often surprised and disappointed by just how far out I actually lie. Ho hum. I live in a city with two massive universities, so I see quite a bit of what The Youth™ are looking for on Tinder. They seem just as focused on securing a dual income as older people are. Hooray for late-stage capitalism. I often really do feel like I'm on the wrong planet. I want to join a civilization where people actually enjoy sex and try to have as much of it as possible. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I keep seeing people saying that there are apps where there are more women than men, and people are looking for sex rather than A Proper Relationship™. Could someone let me know what these apps actually are, please? Because it isn't any of the ones I've tried. It definitely isn't Tinder, which is *flooded* with people looking for The One™. I don't think it exist. Just need to except for most women, they prefer meaningful relationship. Hence why men pay for sex. I find these days, it's more common for really young adults interested in "fun only" times" I’m young realised no fun without meaning. Soon everyone will do. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Wow, some insecure folk on this thread
Nonetheless, to answer the OP, i think the situation is more complex:
1) disparity between stated aims vs actual motives
2) more men than women on these platforms
3) men generally machine gun messaging women for an instashag experience
4) underlying driver for women to gloat in the "unwanted" attention they receive
5) women complain about overwhelming attention so stop messaging altogether and put up filters (just look at Facepic Friday behaviours)
6) genuine guys can't get an edge in since they can't make the first move yet women still expect the guys to message first if they pass all the rules of the profile
7) women complain about lack of "decent" guys
8) perpetual cycle continues of horny frustrated people all round
..
On tinder, I'm rarely matched. On Bumble, women never seen to message or reply...i care not... Yet,i still seem to prefer fab.
define what is a "genuine guy" on fab? " why? | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"There's always a lot of agg on here about women not replying to messages. I get that it's frustrating but it makes me wonder. Do the people who complain about this and also use dating apps obsess over every single person they swipe that doesn't swipe them back? Do they keep a list or something and get more bitter about by the day? Maybe the difference is in the not knowing whether the person you like has rejected you or not. In which case it might be a good idea to delete sent messages so it doesn't get to you. And if you're about to reply that you get far more success on dating apps maybe you should think about how your approach differs from here "I tend to only message people that I have met in clubs so I get reply from them. It can be tricky as a lot of fake profiles here | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Wow, some insecure folk on this thread
Nonetheless, to answer the OP, i think the situation is more complex:
1) disparity between stated aims vs actual motives
2) more men than women on these platforms
3) men generally machine gun messaging women for an instashag experience
4) underlying driver for women to gloat in the "unwanted" attention they receive
5) women complain about overwhelming attention so stop messaging altogether and put up filters (just look at Facepic Friday behaviours)
6) genuine guys can't get an edge in since they can't make the first move yet women still expect the guys to message first if they pass all the rules of the profile
7) women complain about lack of "decent" guys
8) perpetual cycle continues of horny frustrated people all round
..
On tinder, I'm rarely matched. On Bumble, women never seen to message or reply...i care not... Yet,i still seem to prefer fab."You're right these are the factors making this site a boring place with not enough action. I'm honest and my intentions are clear but responses are few and far between | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Wow, some insecure folk on this thread
Nonetheless, to answer the OP, i think the situation is more complex:
1) disparity between stated aims vs actual motives
2) more men than women on these platforms
3) men generally machine gun messaging women for an instashag experience
4) underlying driver for women to gloat in the "unwanted" attention they receive
5) women complain about overwhelming attention so stop messaging altogether and put up filters (just look at Facepic Friday behaviours)
6) genuine guys can't get an edge in since they can't make the first move yet women still expect the guys to message first if they pass all the rules of the profile
7) women complain about lack of "decent" guys
8) perpetual cycle continues of horny frustrated people all round
..
On tinder, I'm rarely matched. On Bumble, women never seen to message or reply...i care not... Yet,i still seem to prefer fab.
You're right these are the factors making this site a boring place with not enough action. I'm honest and my intentions are clear but responses are few and far between "I would contest point 6 as I definitely send out messages when a profile interests me. And no, I don't always receive a reply. In fact I get ignored more than I get replied to. See, it's hard for everyone | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Wow, some insecure folk on this thread
Nonetheless, to answer the OP, i think the situation is more complex:
1) disparity between stated aims vs actual motives
2) more men than women on these platforms
3) men generally machine gun messaging women for an instashag experience
4) underlying driver for women to gloat in the "unwanted" attention they receive
5) women complain about overwhelming attention so stop messaging altogether and put up filters (just look at Facepic Friday behaviours)
6) genuine guys can't get an edge in since they can't make the first move yet women still expect the guys to message first if they pass all the rules of the profile
7) women complain about lack of "decent" guys
8) perpetual cycle continues of horny frustrated people all round
..
On tinder, I'm rarely matched. On Bumble, women never seen to message or reply...i care not... Yet,i still seem to prefer fab.
You're right these are the factors making this site a boring place with not enough action. I'm honest and my intentions are clear but responses are few and far between
I would contest point 6 as I definitely send out messages when a profile interests me. And no, I don't always receive a reply. In fact I get ignored more than I get replied to. See, it's hard for everyone "Do you think a lot of fake ppl in fab?? | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Wow, some insecure folk on this thread
Nonetheless, to answer the OP, i think the situation is more complex:
1) disparity between stated aims vs actual motives
2) more men than women on these platforms
3) men generally machine gun messaging women for an instashag experience
4) underlying driver for women to gloat in the "unwanted" attention they receive
5) women complain about overwhelming attention so stop messaging altogether and put up filters (just look at Facepic Friday behaviours)
6) genuine guys can't get an edge in since they can't make the first move yet women still expect the guys to message first if they pass all the rules of the profile
7) women complain about lack of "decent" guys
8) perpetual cycle continues of horny frustrated people all round
..
On tinder, I'm rarely matched. On Bumble, women never seen to message or reply...i care not... Yet,i still seem to prefer fab.
You're right these are the factors making this site a boring place with not enough action. I'm honest and my intentions are clear but responses are few and far between
I would contest point 6 as I definitely send out messages when a profile interests me. And no, I don't always receive a reply. In fact I get ignored more than I get replied to. See, it's hard for everyone
Do you think a lot of fake ppl in fab??"Yeh I do. I think theres a lot of fake profiles. Not sure if they're automated or people deleting and starting new ones but they're definitely out there | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Wow, some insecure folk on this thread
Nonetheless, to answer the OP, i think the situation is more complex:
1) disparity between stated aims vs actual motives
2) more men than women on these platforms
3) men generally machine gun messaging women for an instashag experience
4) underlying driver for women to gloat in the "unwanted" attention they receive
5) women complain about overwhelming attention so stop messaging altogether and put up filters (just look at Facepic Friday behaviours)
6) genuine guys can't get an edge in since they can't make the first move yet women still expect the guys to message first if they pass all the rules of the profile
7) women complain about lack of "decent" guys
8) perpetual cycle continues of horny frustrated people all round
..
On tinder, I'm rarely matched. On Bumble, women never seen to message or reply...i care not... Yet,i still seem to prefer fab.
You're right these are the factors making this site a boring place with not enough action. I'm honest and my intentions are clear but responses are few and far between
I would contest point 6 as I definitely send out messages when a profile interests me. And no, I don't always receive a reply. In fact I get ignored more than I get replied to. See, it's hard for everyone
Do you think a lot of fake ppl in fab??"Yes. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Wow, some insecure folk on this thread
Nonetheless, to answer the OP, i think the situation is more complex:
1) disparity between stated aims vs actual motives
2) more men than women on these platforms
3) men generally machine gun messaging women for an instashag experience
4) underlying driver for women to gloat in the "unwanted" attention they receive
5) women complain about overwhelming attention so stop messaging altogether and put up filters (just look at Facepic Friday behaviours)
6) genuine guys can't get an edge in since they can't make the first move yet women still expect the guys to message first if they pass all the rules of the profile
7) women complain about lack of "decent" guys
8) perpetual cycle continues of horny frustrated people all round
..
On tinder, I'm rarely matched. On Bumble, women never seen to message or reply...i care not... Yet,i still seem to prefer fab.
You're right these are the factors making this site a boring place with not enough action. I'm honest and my intentions are clear but responses are few and far between
I would contest point 6 as I definitely send out messages when a profile interests me. And no, I don't always receive a reply. In fact I get ignored more than I get replied to. See, it's hard for everyone
Do you think a lot of fake ppl in fab??
Yes."Fake people everywhere in life | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"A lot of people complain about their lack of success on Fab but won’t change their profile, approach or photos... If something isn’t working, try to rectify that and if it’s still not working why continue to use it?" Same reason I kept trying Weight Watchers. Wishful thinking and seeing everyone else get results. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Wow, some insecure folk on this thread
Nonetheless, to answer the OP, i think the situation is more complex:
1) disparity between stated aims vs actual motives
2) more men than women on these platforms
3) men generally machine gun messaging women for an instashag experience
4) underlying driver for women to gloat in the "unwanted" attention they receive
5) women complain about overwhelming attention so stop messaging altogether and put up filters (just look at Facepic Friday behaviours)
6) genuine guys can't get an edge in since they can't make the first move yet women still expect the guys to message first if they pass all the rules of the profile
7) women complain about lack of "decent" guys
8) perpetual cycle continues of horny frustrated people all round
..
On tinder, I'm rarely matched. On Bumble, women never seen to message or reply...i care not... Yet,i still seem to prefer fab.
You're right these are the factors making this site a boring place with not enough action. I'm honest and my intentions are clear but responses are few and far between
I would contest point 6 as I definitely send out messages when a profile interests me. And no, I don't always receive a reply. In fact I get ignored more than I get replied to. See, it's hard for everyone "You are probably one of the few then. Although, I'll admit i ignore some messages from women if they're just "hi, i like your pics" ....zzzzz.... So either you're picking the wrong people to message, or your messaging needs work just an opinion. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Wow, some insecure folk on this thread
Nonetheless, to answer the OP, i think the situation is more complex:
1) disparity between stated aims vs actual motives
2) more men than women on these platforms
3) men generally machine gun messaging women for an instashag experience
4) underlying driver for women to gloat in the "unwanted" attention they receive
5) women complain about overwhelming attention so stop messaging altogether and put up filters (just look at Facepic Friday behaviours)
6) genuine guys can't get an edge in since they can't make the first move yet women still expect the guys to message first if they pass all the rules of the profile
7) women complain about lack of "decent" guys
8) perpetual cycle continues of horny frustrated people all round
..
On tinder, I'm rarely matched. On Bumble, women never seen to message or reply...i care not... Yet,i still seem to prefer fab.
You're right these are the factors making this site a boring place with not enough action. I'm honest and my intentions are clear but responses are few and far between
I would contest point 6 as I definitely send out messages when a profile interests me. And no, I don't always receive a reply. In fact I get ignored more than I get replied to. See, it's hard for everyone
You are probably one of the few then.
Although, I'll admit i ignore some messages from women if they're just "hi, i like your pics" ....zzzzz....
So either you're picking the wrong people to message, or your messaging needs work just an opinion."Or maybe it's just that not everyone is attracted to me and I'm okay with that | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| Post new Message to Thread |
| back to top |  |
