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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I slip further and further into depression.......whats the point of everyting.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know that feeling brother! Have you got people that you can talk to?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Please speak to someone. The Samaritans, your doctor, a friend.

Life doesn't have to be this way.

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By * girl with a dirty sideWoman
over a year ago

Redditch

Get out do some walking fresh air can help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey, the downward slope is way too easy but hang in there..things will come right..it may take time but its looking at what you have now and enjoying those things..whether it is family, friends...life is pretty crap but it could be far worse. Look at the positives in your life. Put on some music, far better than tv, dont let silence and boredom bite. Talk to someone, suprise someone but equally dont hide it away..let it out..tears and friends make great cleansers...take it from me..I do know. Find a focus and lock into it.chin up eh and don t hide. Take care...rememver Bob Hoskins " its good to talk".

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

Hugs op, I can’t tell you how to fix everything or what you need right in this moment but I can tell you you’re needed and wanted more then you realise, you’re strong and can fight this, everyone here is proud of you for making this post and speaking up, keep going strong, you’ve got this, you’re not alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just remember...

There’s always someone trying to push that pull door

I suffer with P.T.S.D and usually hide it with humour.

Group hug for the OP

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Be gentle with yourself. Lots of psychological rest. Do things that bring you joy and meaning.

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By *onzoDog74Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

Citalopram Don’t overwork and make it easy on yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Please speak to someone. The Samaritans, your doctor, a friend.

Life doesn't have to be this way."

You can find other helplines/listening services on the MIND website.

CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably) also runs a helpline.

Sounds like you really need to contact a GP and tell them how you are feeling.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Please speak to someone. The Samaritans, your doctor, a friend.

Life doesn't have to be this way.

You can find other helplines/listening services on the MIND website.

CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably) also runs a helpline.

Sounds like you really need to contact a GP and tell them how you are feeling."

Definitely

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Citalopram Don’t overwork and make it easy on yourself."

Citalopram is one of the first line antidepressants offered, but if one is offered meds it'll be up to the doctor which and why.

There's no shame in needing medication - I've been taking an antidepressant most of my life, happens - but recommending specific prescription medication is counterproductive.

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By *onzoDog74Man
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Citalopram Don’t overwork and make it easy on yourself.

Citalopram is one of the first line antidepressants offered, but if one is offered meds it'll be up to the doctor which and why.

There's no shame in needing medication - I've been taking an antidepressant most of my life, happens - but recommending specific prescription medication is counterproductive."

Yes I meant to go and see a doctor and see what they say not to circumvent and self med from the internet. Sorry if that wasn’t clear.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Citalopram Don’t overwork and make it easy on yourself.

Citalopram is one of the first line antidepressants offered, but if one is offered meds it'll be up to the doctor which and why.

There's no shame in needing medication - I've been taking an antidepressant most of my life, happens - but recommending specific prescription medication is counterproductive.

Yes I meant to go and see a doctor and see what they say not to circumvent and self med from the internet. Sorry if that wasn’t clear. "

No worries xx

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"I slip further and further into depression.......whats the point of everything....... "

Lifeline is a telephone based charity, give them a call.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

... There's no shame in needing medication - I've been taking an antidepressant most of my life, happens ... "

Agree there's no shame in taking medication. I'm still taking antidepressants, and have been for a long time, and they just stop my moods spiral downwards.

If you feel you can't control your mood and it just keeps getting lower and lower you need to speak to a GP.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

... There's no shame in needing medication - I've been taking an antidepressant most of my life, happens ...

Agree there's no shame in taking medication. I'm still taking antidepressants, and have been for a long time, and they just stop my moods spiral downwards.

If you feel you can't control your mood and it just keeps getting lower and lower you need to speak to a GP."

Yes. It's my safety net.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

MIND has a list of all of the meds that are currently in use. They date from the 1980s and 1990s. Not exactly cutting edge.

You need to find out what works and what doesn't. A hard slog? Yes.

If you can live with a particular pill's side effects, then OK. If not move on, after a couple of months as they tend to hang around as you keep on the meds.

Sertraline 2 years and Citalopram 3 months+ gave me ED, IBS and stopped me from GRRRR moments and laughing...cling filmed emotions is a good description. My sleep did improve and stability is always a good thing. So I went cold turkey this year as ED & IBS is no fun. TF for Viagra and my Fab weekend wifey!

You need to do what what ever makes you happy. It's your right.

Covid's not helping, so if you can find a support network: take it.

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By *ama Raised a RebelWoman
over a year ago

Walsall

Its hitting a lot of people right now its all a bit gloomy out there right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I slip further and further into depression.......whats the point of everyting....... "

Hey xx

.so a fellow "dweller" here, although mine is PTSD.

Come drop in my inbox, it's a funky place with all sorts of crap to discuss! Usually what is best in a sandwich filling or the perfect mix of washing liquid to conditioner!

It's random but it's safe and secure! It's also friendly and non judgemental! It's kinda a secure homely place where you can let off steam and put the world to rights!

Ok so I may not like dick pics but it's a safe haven!!

And it has the best jokes around... Well, I think so!

Huge snugs to everyone xxx

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"I slip further and further into depression.......whats the point of everyting.......

Hey xx

.so a fellow "dweller" here, although mine is PTSD.

Come drop in my inbox, it's a funky place with all sorts of crap to discuss! Usually what is best in a sandwich filling or the perfect mix of washing liquid to conditioner!

It's random but it's safe and secure! It's also friendly and non judgemental! It's kinda a secure homely place where you can let off steam and put the world to rights!

Ok so I may not like dick pics but it's a safe haven!!

And it has the best jokes around... Well, I think so!

Huge snugs to everyone xxx"

What a lovely message! You're a wonderful person xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Know the feeling brother, just try to keep your chin up (easier said than done). Life does get better, and worse again, but it must go on with the hope contentment is around the corner.

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By *reamblueMan
over a year ago

London

Strenuous exercise or something else you can really concentrate on often work for me. I've been there and I know it is possible to get out of the shit. Doing random acts of kindness can also help

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for your kind messages.

One of these days it will be over.

and I wont hurt inside....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you for your kind messages.

One of these days it will be over.

and I wont hurt inside...."

I’m always happy to talk to anyone struggling, I suffer myself and I think I can understand what you Mean when you say this. I hope you get some help or find someone to talk to that can help you vent and say what you need to say

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

"Please speak to someone. The Samaritans, your doctor, a friend.

Life doesn't have to be this way.

You can find other helplines/listening services on the MIND website.

CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably) also runs a helpline.

Sounds like you really need to contact a GP and tell them how you are feeling."

Just to tack on, if you don’t like speaking into he phone you can txt SHOUT to 85258 and they will speak to you via txt only, it’s helped me a few times when I've needed to speak to someone but don’t have the privacy needed (ie unhelpful friends or family)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have fought with depression for a few years. I slip in and out and it can take hold. I have been at the bottom. Tried to check out. I have been in therapy And been in great places since. There’s no one thing that triggers a slide. It’s important to talk. However you do that and to whom ever. I have. Found solace in the most unlikely people and found the ones I needed distant and out of reach. I lost my job in March and have been struggling to find regular work. I have my coping mechanisms Learned through therapy. but talking and listening are the best ones. By far. Pm me if you like. I can listen. Depression is the most underestimated killer we have. Stay strong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

get yourself a punch bag.

hang it up and start belting it.

you'll be very surprised how this develops a strong will and determination which can hep break a depressing cycle.

it focuses the mind elsewhere

good luck

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By *iddle ManMan
over a year ago

Walsall

I feel you pain and I'm sure I speak for everyone here, your not alone. You can always direct message.

As people have said there are people there that can help.

I've thought with depression on two serve occasions in the past, I'm always aware that it's so easy to fall back. Both times I'm didn't even realise until it was too late.

Just do things that make you happy, fine things that help and find others that you can talk to and that will help you in person too. I'm sure they are they if you ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This seems a cry for help, Madame Jennifer. First stop should be your GP to see if there's something physical wrong. Medication may help a bit and for a while, but from your profile and your post, I suspect you have a deeper self-esteem problem that you need to address. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess I really need someone to hold me close.

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