FabSwingers.com forum: Reasons for posting

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know people can post whatever threads they want within the rules of Fab but I am often perplexed at why some threads are started.

What is your reason for starting a thread?

Is it something you’ve been thinking about and want other’s opinions?

Is it attention you want?

Or are you looking for brownie points on here?

Or is there some other reason altogether?

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Usually it’s something that I’ve read in another thread that brings the topic to mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% giggles most times. If I can learn something too then all the better....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Usually for information or advice on where to buy something or how to apply wing eyeliner

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I very rarely start threads, but when I do it's something that I've been musing about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I make myself laugh and that can’t be a bad thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I post a thread it’s usually just because I’m feeling social and want to interact with my friend on here.

I don’t tend to post anything overly serious or thoughtful... usually games and stuff or silly sex related nonsense. It’s purely social flirting from me. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Usually it’s something that I’ve read in another thread that brings the topic to mind "

I get that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Usually for information or advice on where to buy something or how to apply wing eyeliner"

101 uses for cucumbers?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Rarely start threads because no one seems to be interested in replying much. I (Mrs) comment on other threads mainly for social fun but sometimes to add something serious/academic where appropriate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Rarely start threads because no one seems to be interested in replying much. I (Mrs) comment on other threads mainly for social fun but sometimes to add something serious/academic where appropriate. "

I’m often surprised at threads that get hardly any responses. I do try and make a comment but sometimes I just can’t add anything worthwhile.

Some threads that do get replies, I wish would die a death

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"If I post a thread it’s usually just because I’m feeling social and want to interact with my friend on here.

I don’t tend to post anything overly serious or thoughtful... usually games and stuff or silly sex related nonsense. It’s purely social flirting from me. X"

Same for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely start them. It’s usually about something me and another fabber have spoke about or something I want some Info on.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I usually start a thread that I know will be uplifting and will attract contributions from users. I only tend to start one or two and not that frequently.

Those who seek attention or validation stick out like a sore thumb and they post frequently. It’s not a criticism at all, they are entitled to but I sometimes wonder what’s going on in their lives to want to seek validation of popularity here.

You’re right OP in your summary .... it does tend to be a little weird here at present

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I know people can post whatever threads they want within the rules of Fab but I am often perplexed at why some threads are started.

What is your reason for starting a thread?

Is it something you’ve been thinking about and want other’s opinions?

Is it attention you want?

Or are you looking for brownie points on here?

Or is there some other reason altogether?"

I rarely start threads anymore but normally would be on something that was on my mind or something fun to liven the day.

I see far too much posting for brownie points and attention seeking of late, which is fine, as ppl can do what they wish. I just won't partake.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is exactly my thoughts too and one of the reasons for this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually start a thread that I know will be uplifting and will attract contributions from users. I only tend to start one or two and not that frequently.

You’re right OP in your summary .... it does tend to be a little weird here at present "

Spot on DC!

I always take a deep look at motivation (even my own) and also the effort and time spent here (again, even my own).

Forums have been shite and utterly lightweight and unchallenging lately imho, hence why I'm not here so much. Even Nippy can't polish a poo....

It'll swing back again at some point, dw....

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

I haven't actually started a thread in ages.I normally post to draw attention to our profile.It certainly works judging from the messages we receive!

Mike

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

In my case it’s a desperate ploy for attention. I live in hope that I may get a photo ‘Fab’ one day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In my case it’s a desperate ploy for attention. I live in hope that I may get a photo ‘Fab’ one day."

Have a few fabs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my case it’s a desperate ploy for attention. I live in hope that I may get a photo ‘Fab’ one day."

Just fabbed you on the beach!

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"In my case it’s a desperate ploy for attention. I live in hope that I may get a photo ‘Fab’ one day."

Or those that come on and just straight out ASK for fabs for their wife or something. I find that really strange

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I post for fun, to play a game with my friends and anyone else that would like to join in. Sometimes it to share smiles and giggles, sometimes it's something that's been playing on my mind and I would like to see what others think on the subject or can just be a moan/whinge because it's can help to just get it out.

Just depends on my mood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I post to join in ... no ones ever going to invite me so for me it’s just to mingle

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Better conversation than at work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An idea pops into my head for a thread title and I go from there (some work, some don't). I'll post to another thread if I think of something 'witty' or, if a more serious thread, I will post my take on the question posited.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it for fun and it's often something that's been said to me or something I read that prompts me. It's certainly not for attention; my in-box gives me that as do my friends. I do wonder about people who feel they have to do the same thread every day or on certain days. It would drive me nuts and be soooo boring?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a mixture of all for me. The conversation is fun and it’s interesting to hear the opinions of other on here. Sometimes, I do post for brownie points, other times I’m bored and what to see what people have to say.

All in all, it varies

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I adore science and debate so always in the virus section

I want to see everyone's thighs co I'm a perv

Random shit pops into my head and I think oooh thats something I want to talk about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why does it matter?

Also there seems to be the assumption that if someone Posts regularly or starts threads a lot they are somehow attention seeking with deficiencies in their lives.

There is also a lot of threads at the moment saying the forums aren't inclusive and also doesn't encourage or welcome newcomers, Well if I was a newbie I would now really worry about posting in case people judge my reason why.

Also people are constantly moaning that there are no new ideas for threads and nothing to comment on and it's the same people who never start their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know people can post whatever threads they want within the rules of Fab but I am often perplexed at why some threads are started.

What is your reason for starting a thread?

Is it something you’ve been thinking about and want other’s opinions?

Is it attention you want?

Or are you looking for brownie points on here?

Or is there some other reason altogether?"
Why have you posted a thread ? Maybe you could answer your own question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it matter?

Also there seems to be the assumption that if someone Posts regularly or starts threads a lot they are somehow attention seeking with deficiencies in their lives.

Also people are constantly moaning that there are no new ideas for threads and nothing to comment on and it's the same people who never start their own.

This.

Honestly makes you not wanna bother to try and make it fun and cheer people up

. Some of these comments! Everything has to be analysed. Well that person obviously needs attention and validation, well that person must have mental issues. Jesus people think too much!! Is it not just a bit of fun!

It used to be

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm musing, I'm curious, I feel like it. I have an earworm. Who knows. Who cares.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I tend to post bollocks mainly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it matter?

Also there seems to be the assumption that if someone Posts regularly or starts threads a lot they are somehow attention seeking with deficiencies in their lives.

Also people are constantly moaning that there are no new ideas for threads and nothing to comment on and it's the same people who never start their own.

This.

Honestly makes you not wanna bother to try and make it fun and cheer people up

It used to be

We're not allowed to have fun without submitting our reasons in writing 7 days prior. Didn't you get the memo?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just want a shag

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

In the hope that I interest / impress with my wit & intelligence. Thus getting invites to exciting sexual liaisons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it matter?

Also there seems to be the assumption that if someone Posts regularly or starts threads a lot they are somehow attention seeking with deficiencies in their lives.

Also people are constantly moaning that there are no new ideas for threads and nothing to comment on and it's the same people who never start their own.

This.

Honestly makes you not wanna bother to try and make it fun and cheer people up

It used to be

I have noticed you are agree with me more and more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it matter?

Also there seems to be the assumption that if someone Posts regularly or starts threads a lot they are somehow attention seeking with deficiencies in their lives.

Also people are constantly moaning that there are no new ideas for threads and nothing to comment on and it's the same people who never start their own.

This.

Honestly makes you not wanna bother to try and make it fun and cheer people up

It used to be

I have noticed you are agree with me more and more.

I know! Bit worrying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it matter?

Also there seems to be the assumption that if someone Posts regularly or starts threads a lot they are somehow attention seeking with deficiencies in their lives.

Also people are constantly moaning that there are no new ideas for threads and nothing to comment on and it's the same people who never start their own.

This.

Honestly makes you not wanna bother to try and make it fun and cheer people up

It used to be

We're not allowed to have fun without submitting our reasons in writing 7 days prior. Didn't you get the memo? "

Fuck the memo

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know people can post whatever threads they want within the rules of Fab but I am often perplexed at why some threads are started.

What is your reason for starting a thread?

Is it something you’ve been thinking about and want other’s opinions?

Is it attention you want?

Or are you looking for brownie points on here?

Or is there some other reason altogether? Why have you posted a thread ? Maybe you could answer your own question

I posted it so people could answer my questions of course

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Why does it matter?

Also there seems to be the assumption that if someone Posts regularly or starts threads a lot they are somehow attention seeking with deficiencies in their lives.

Also people are constantly moaning that there are no new ideas for threads and nothing to comment on and it's the same people who never start their own.

This.

Honestly makes you not wanna bother to try and make it fun and cheer people up

It used to be

We're not allowed to have fun without submitting our reasons in writing 7 days prior. Didn't you get the memo? "

2+ metres apart with an N95 and a gallon of antibac, missy, read the fine print!

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Why does it matter?

Also there seems to be the assumption that if someone Posts regularly or starts threads a lot they are somehow attention seeking with deficiencies in their lives.

Also people are constantly moaning that there are no new ideas for threads and nothing to comment on and it's the same people who never start their own.

This.

Honestly makes you not wanna bother to try and make it fun and cheer people up

It used to be

I was just writing that the whole ‘who cares’ and ‘what does it matter’ replies annoy me. Making the OP feel stupid for trying to create some content!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually it’s something that I’ve read in another thread that brings the topic to mind "

This a lot of times, others for shits and giggles.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Why does it matter?

Also there seems to be the assumption that if someone Posts regularly or starts threads a lot they are somehow attention seeking with deficiencies in their lives.

Also people are constantly moaning that there are no new ideas for threads and nothing to comment on and it's the same people who never start their own.

This.

Honestly makes you not wanna bother to try and make it fun and cheer people up

It used to be

I was just writing that the whole ‘who cares’ and ‘what does it matter’ replies annoy me. Making the OP feel stupid for trying to create some content! "

In the interests of clarity, my "who cares" is "who cares what's happening in my brain"

(apparently some people do. Guys, you really don't want to know... trust me

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"I know people can post whatever threads they want within the rules of Fab but I am often perplexed at why some threads are started.

What is your reason for starting a thread?

Is it something you’ve been thinking about and want other’s opinions?

Is it attention you want?

Or are you looking for brownie points on here?

Or is there some other reason altogether?"

I do it because I like opening discussions, perhaps that’s attention?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it matter?

Also there seems to be the assumption that if someone Posts regularly or starts threads a lot they are somehow attention seeking with deficiencies in their lives.

Also people are constantly moaning that there are no new ideas for threads and nothing to comment on and it's the same people who never start their own.

This.

Honestly makes you not wanna bother to try and make it fun and cheer people up

It used to be

I was just writing that the whole ‘who cares’ and ‘what does it matter’ replies annoy me. Making the OP feel stupid for trying to create some content! "

Mine wasn’t a dig at that op, I made sure I messaged her to make that clear. Some of the comments annoyed me. It will make some people not want to post anymore I’m sure it will. Not me you can’t get rid of me that easily

. I just don’t think there’s a need for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it matter?

Also there seems to be the assumption that if someone Posts regularly or starts threads a lot they are somehow attention seeking with deficiencies in their lives.

Also people are constantly moaning that there are no new ideas for threads and nothing to comment on and it's the same people who never start their own.

This.

Honestly makes you not wanna bother to try and make it fun and cheer people up

It used to be

I was just writing that the whole ‘who cares’ and ‘what does it matter’ replies annoy me. Making the OP feel stupid for trying to create some content! "

However that's exactly what raising a question like this does.

It makes others who start threats feel they are being judged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it matter?

Also there seems to be the assumption that if someone Posts regularly or starts threads a lot they are somehow attention seeking with deficiencies in their lives.

Also people are constantly moaning that there are no new ideas for threads and nothing to comment on and it's the same people who never start their own.

This.

Honestly makes you not wanna bother to try and make it fun and cheer people up

It used to be

I was just writing that the whole ‘who cares’ and ‘what does it matter’ replies annoy me. Making the OP feel stupid for trying to create some content!

However that's exactly what raising a question like this does.

It makes others who start threats feel they are being judged.

Threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it matter?

Also there seems to be the assumption that if someone Posts regularly or starts threads a lot they are somehow attention seeking with deficiencies in their lives.

Also people are constantly moaning that there are no new ideas for threads and nothing to comment on and it's the same people who never start their own.

This.

Honestly makes you not wanna bother to try and make it fun and cheer people up

It used to be

I was just writing that the whole ‘who cares’ and ‘what does it matter’ replies annoy me. Making the OP feel stupid for trying to create some content!

However that's exactly what raising a question like this does.

It makes others who start threats feel they are being judged.

Threads. "

So ppl should start threads and make replies about anything they like and be free from judgement as long as it's not a thread like this or things we don't agree with.....?

Surely a forum is a leveler where everyone has equal voice as long as they're civil and keep within the rules?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've usually had a funny idea in my head and want to chat about something stupid. I don't do serious threads well

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Why does it matter?

Also there seems to be the assumption that if someone Posts regularly or starts threads a lot they are somehow attention seeking with deficiencies in their lives.

Also people are constantly moaning that there are no new ideas for threads and nothing to comment on and it's the same people who never start their own.

I hear your point Lorna it wasn’t a criticism it was just how and others perceive it. Just an opinion nothing more...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it matter?

Also there seems to be the assumption that if someone Posts regularly or starts threads a lot they are somehow attention seeking with deficiencies in their lives.

Also people are constantly moaning that there are no new ideas for threads and nothing to comment on and it's the same people who never start their own.

This.

Honestly makes you not wanna bother to try and make it fun and cheer people up

It used to be

I was just writing that the whole ‘who cares’ and ‘what does it matter’ replies annoy me. Making the OP feel stupid for trying to create some content!

However that's exactly what raising a question like this does.

It makes others who start threats feel they are being judged.

Threads.

So ppl should start threads and make replies about anything they like and be free from judgement as long as it's not a thread like this or things we don't agree with.....?

Surely a forum is a leveler where everyone has equal voice as long as they're civil and keep within the rules?"

I didn't say that. I think you need to read what I said again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it matter?

Also there seems to be the assumption that if someone Posts regularly or starts threads a lot they are somehow attention seeking with deficiencies in their lives.

Also people are constantly moaning that there are no new ideas for threads and nothing to comment on and it's the same people who never start their own.

I hear your point Lorna it wasn’t a criticism it was just how and others perceive it. Just an opinion nothing more..."

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

So ppl should start threads and make replies about anything they like and be free from judgement as long as it's not a thread like this or things we don't agree with.....?

Surely a forum is a leveler where everyone has equal voice as long as they're civil and keep within the rules?"

I think this is a valid point, those on the periphery may have a difference of opinion about something or a valid point of view but this does get drowned out.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Why does it matter?

Also there seems to be the assumption that if someone Posts regularly or starts threads a lot they are somehow attention seeking with deficiencies in their lives.

Also people are constantly moaning that there are no new ideas for threads and nothing to comment on and it's the same people who never start their own.

This.

Honestly makes you not wanna bother to try and make it fun and cheer people up

It used to be

I was just writing that the whole ‘who cares’ and ‘what does it matter’ replies annoy me. Making the OP feel stupid for trying to create some content!

. I just don’t think there’s a need for it. "

It’s just one of those threads where everyone’s opinions differ as they often do here

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

As a point NSP started a thread yesterday that she ended up requesting was deleted as it upset her so much. She was making a similar point about the same things. That’s why this place is sometimes to be left alone when it brings out the vexatious because we don’t all think alike

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

People who post threads are, on the whole, wanting attention. We all are. I don't see what's wrong with a) owning that or b) recognising that.

I quite like threads that offer an insight into how someone's mind works (like this one), they are more interesting to me than the snog ones.

So when I start a thread I'm wanting attention because

- I'm feeling a bit sad/lonely/need distracting from real life crap.

- I've been thinking about something and want others opinions.

- I'm feeling in a playful mood and want to bounce off others.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"As a point NSP started a thread yesterday that she ended up requesting was deleted as it upset her so much. She was making a similar point about the same things. That’s why this place is sometimes to be left alone when it brings out the vexatious because we don’t all think alike

It's definitely a difficult balance at times

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"People who post threads are, on the whole, wanting attention. We all are. I don't see what's wrong with a) owning that or b) recognising that.

I quite like threads that offer an insight into how someone's mind works (like this one), they are more interesting to me than the snog ones.

So when I start a thread I'm wanting attention because

- I'm feeling a bit sad/lonely/need distracting from real life crap.

- I've been thinking about something and want others opinions.

- I'm feeling in a playful mood and want to bounce off others.

Agreed. We're being social. On a social site.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

It's definitely a difficult balance at times"

Absolutely it is ..... safe people as you so well described it yesterday

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

That’s awful! What kind of topic was it?

I found a thread yesterday that I made last year where the replies were pretty nasty, it upset me at the time. Re-read it though and the people that were being off I now know to be ‘the usual suspects’ though who seem to take a thrill in trying to put others down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who post threads are, on the whole, wanting attention. We all are. I don't see what's wrong with a) owning that or b) recognising that.

I quite like threads that offer an insight into how someone's mind works (like this one), they are more interesting to me than the snog ones.

So when I start a thread I'm wanting attention because

- I'm feeling a bit sad/lonely/need distracting from real life crap.

- I've been thinking about something and want others opinions.

- I'm feeling in a playful mood and want to bounce off others.

Agree

. It is about being sociable and finding connections with others. In posting on the forum you can show your 'personality' which you can't always do on just a profile.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's definitely a difficult balance at times

Absolutely it is ..... safe people as you so well described it yesterday "

I try to be a safe person or facilitate safe spaces for those who need them. And seek out my own (definitely not on the forum, my own displays of vulnerability are for different purposes: solidarity through radical vulnerability)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know people can post whatever threads they want within the rules of Fab but I am often perplexed at why some threads are started.

What is your reason for starting a thread?

Is it something you’ve been thinking about and want other’s opinions?

Is it attention you want?

Or are you looking for brownie points on here?

Or is there some other reason altogether?"

Attention, to flirt and be flirted with!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

That’s awful! What kind of topic was it?

It was about niceness, which has become a contentious topic around here.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

That’s awful! What kind of topic was it?

It was about niceness, which has become a contentious topic around here."

Oh heck. How ironic

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

That’s awful! What kind of topic was it?

It was about niceness, which has become a contentious topic around here.

Oh heck. How ironic "

Isn't it just

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So ppl should start threads and make replies about anything they like and be free from judgement as long as it's not a thread like this or things we don't agree with.....?

Surely a forum is a leveler where everyone has equal voice as long as they're civil and keep within the rules?

I think this is a valid point, those on the periphery may have a difference of opinion about something or a valid point of view but this does get drowned out.

I think this sort of thing often leads to talk of forum cliques and to newbies feeling unwelcome etc, which I think is utter nonsense. When regs or outspoken types post comments saying "anyone can do or post anything as long as it's something I like" or "You can't challenge a person because you might might spoil their experience" (whilst simultaneously challenging you and attempting to spoil your experience) - ummmmm nope, anyone can post anything whether we like it or not just as long as it's within rules. I think that often if we let go of trying to control or direct others then we might actually learn something from opinions that are different to our own. This is purely my own opinion of course because I wouldn't want to tell anyone how to behave on a free public forum....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who post threads are, on the whole, wanting attention. We all are. I don't see what's wrong with a) owning that or b) recognising that.

I quite like threads that offer an insight into how someone's mind works (like this one), they are more interesting to me than the snog ones.

So when I start a thread I'm wanting attention because

- I'm feeling a bit sad/lonely/need distracting from real life crap.

- I've been thinking about something and want others opinions.

- I'm feeling in a playful mood and want to bounce off others.

Wise as always!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it matter?

Also there seems to be the assumption that if someone Posts regularly or starts threads a lot they are somehow attention seeking with deficiencies in their lives.

Also people are constantly moaning that there are no new ideas for threads and nothing to comment on and it's the same people who never start their own.

It matters , because the OP was curious about why people post, she asked a question and got some honest replies, until it got to your post then you turned it into a travesty thread for new people who read the replies and are put off. I'm afraid your post here lorna would put people off imo , moreso than the OPS question. While you never probably meant it to , from my perspective it sounds very bitchy and was even followed up by someone agreeing with it. I would say the biggest turn off for newbies is the bitching and cliqueness that often happens in threads.

Anyway OP , I start threads when I see a situation in real life and think ooh there's a potential for different opinions here, think I'll start a thread and get different views on it. Some times all hell breaks loose and other times it stays friendly lol. It's all good in the forums.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Wise words O Nippy one. I believe that people should post what they want and feel comfortable doing so (as long as it's within site rules, obviously). If I was regularly upset or offended by differing opinions then I would seriously question whether a public forum was the best place to spend time...not every person I've met in my life has 100% agreed with me, so I'd never presume that everyone on a forum would either

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It can be an interesting community. Lots of different ways of thinking. I've made some great friends and I've been entertained by the people watching. And I've had my thoughts challenged. I find posting very rewarding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can be an interesting community. Lots of different ways of thinking. I've made some great friends and I've been entertained by the people watching. And I've had my thoughts challenged. I find posting very rewarding

. Same it’s like people watching. I love people watching. Love seeing how people think etc.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

. Same it’s like people watching. I love people watching. Love seeing how people think etc. "

I learn a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can be an interesting community ... I find posting very rewarding

It is an interesting community full of diverse people. I get a kick out of posting (threads or comments) and a lift if it gets a reply. It's fun and if something I post makes someone laugh or think then that's a bonus.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It can be an interesting community ... I find posting very rewarding

Absolutely! And don't we all need to stand together (apart) in these challenging times.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

If kept within forum / site rules, people are free to start threads, post and comment on anything that's up at will.

If people are upset by differing opinions and see general commentary as directed at them when it isn't, that's their problem. No topic or subject of conversation will ever generate complete consensus. As has been mentioned before, if people can't deal with this perhaps they should question if participating in a public forum is best for them.

No one should have to tailor or dial down honest opinions, comments or assessments for fear of offending someone else either.

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over a year ago

I very rarely start threads.

I’m happiest just flitting around in the forum background mostly.

If I do start a thread it’s with the sole intention of connecting with people and try to reply to every poster.

I’m definitely not pretending I don’t seek attention occasionally because I do want to be noticed but I’m very good looking and have a truly magnificent penis so that comes with more than enough attention usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does it matter?

Also there seems to be the assumption that if someone Posts regularly or starts threads a lot they are somehow attention seeking with deficiencies in their lives.

Also people are constantly moaning that there are no new ideas for threads and nothing to comment on and it's the same people who never start their own.

I did agree with her. No cliqueness there. Lorna and I have always tended to disagree more often than not. I don’t get involved in the “back your mates up” stuff. I have my own opinions and views. I also disagree that some of these comments won’t put newbies off from posting too. I’m always inclusive in my threads, so much so that I answer everyone and worry it makes it boring!

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over a year ago

"I very rarely start threads.

I’m happiest just flitting around in the forum background mostly.

If I do start a thread it’s with the sole intention of connecting with people and try to reply to every poster.

You had us in the first half

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can be an interesting community ... I find posting very rewarding

Absolutely! And don't we all need to stand together (apart) in these challenging times."

Agreed. The forum can be an escape from your everyday life, provide distraction and let you socialise in some form.

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over a year ago

"I very rarely start threads.

I’m happiest just flitting around in the forum background mostly.

If I do start a thread it’s with the sole intention of connecting with people and try to reply to every poster.

Is replying to everyone ok? I do that but often I get told off about it.... ....I just feel rude if I don't reply to everyone and also it's a nice warm feeling when someone quote/replies you so I like to spread the love and show appreciation for participation....

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think the last time I started a thread was the day before Anne Boleyn lost her head - certainly can't remember what it was about.

Always have been more of a contributor than a thread starter..twisted thread starter

People are entitled to post what they like and for whatever reasons they like, likewise though others are entitled to draw their own conclusions from what others post and how they post, the problems start when inference and perception blur and people start to see things that simply aren't there, usually because someone else has a differing opinion.

I'll be honest though and say just lately the forums have held less and less appeal to me - which may in part be down to me and my current circumstances, but I do think more and more lately contention is seen where there is none - in the past when people disagreed it would provoke debate and yes could get contentious at times, don't deny that at all, but now it seems far more prevalent that people get upset at the slightest perceived sleight and threads go off the rails.

I said the other day on another thread that it seemed to be mostly a "Lounge" thing too - the other forums seem to be far more "adult" in the way differences of opinion are approached and dealt with.

Personally I just post when I see something that interests me - or that I feel I have something to add, I'll probably never be much of a thread starter either, when I do it tends to be a thought that has occurred to me, and I think would be interesting to discuss, I certainly don't sit thinking "what can I post?" though.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I very rarely start threads.

I’m happiest just flitting around in the forum background mostly.

If I do start a thread it’s with the sole intention of connecting with people and try to reply to every poster.

I think there's a balance to be found - some threads it's good to be inclusive and respond to all, some it's good to let them run their course and just chip in along with others.

There are times though when you open a thread and see every other post is the OP or the OP and their "friends" and it can have the opposite effect of the "inclusive" feeling a thread set out to achieve.

Not a criticism, before anyone thinks it is (as has been established, anyone is entitled to post what they like within site rules), but an observation.

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over a year ago

"I very rarely start threads.

I’m happiest just flitting around in the forum background mostly.

If I do start a thread it’s with the sole intention of connecting with people and try to reply to every poster.

I think there's a balance to be found - some threads it's good to be inclusive and respond to all, some it's good to let them run their course and just chip in along with others.

Not a criticism, before anyone thinks it is (as has been established, anyone is entitled to post what they like within site rules), but an observation."

Isn't that a little over analytical? If you want to join in on a thread, then why not join in and see how it works out? On one of mine you'd be guaranteed a reply and a return question at the very least

. If it looks like a bunch of "friends" chatting however and you're not interested then you perhaps already have your answer, but then maybe you're still missing out on the chance of making some important new friends. I don't expect anyone to craft their threads specifically for me to participate - I either do or I don't participate and my use of the forum tends to be fairly organic, it just depends if threads interest me. This one interested me because it talked about motivation, which fascinates me, and it cut through and got to the point....

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By *ary Mary not so hairyWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

As my did used to say if you are bored shitless find something to do. So posting here is doing something.

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over a year ago

"I very rarely start threads.

I’m happiest just flitting around in the forum background mostly.

If I do start a thread it’s with the sole intention of connecting with people and try to reply to every poster.

I think there's a balance to be found - some threads it's good to be inclusive and respond to all, some it's good to let them run their course and just chip in along with others.

Not a criticism, before anyone thinks it is (as has been established, anyone is entitled to post what they like within site rules), but an observation."

Im kinda new back to the forums after 3 years off the site and its a really strange vibe this time around and not entirely sure why. Could simply be that i have grown up and more grumpy/less tolerable of other people.

I've started some light hearted what i deem to be 'inclusive' threads, and yesterday morning started a silly thread about 'breakfast'.. thats the only thread where i did try to reply to every single poster who made the effort to contribute in a fun light hearted way.

I do feel there is a lot of arse licking and love ins,, some users overtly flirt with every male that has a pulse and thats cool too. I choose not to bother myself with them, its their prerogative.

Forums for me are kinda like a pub.. you stand back and can observe behaviours in people and you can learn alot by what people choose to interact with.. the cool kids, the loud d*unk ones, the flirts, the ones who are just gunning for a fight, the quiet logical types you'd totally want for the pub quiz.. the hotties at the bar who love themselves.. the hotties that slip under the radar that catch your eye...

So yeah its a great mix. All i can be is me.. and just toodle along doing my own thing. If you arent used to posting it can be scary..

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over a year ago

"I very rarely start threads.

I’m happiest just flitting around in the forum background mostly.

If I do start a thread it’s with the sole intention of connecting with people and try to reply to every poster.

He’s also super modest

Sexy and the most modest!

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I post for a variety of reasons, attention seeking is a part of it, sometimes it's to clarify something I've been mulling over others just because to feel part of the fab community. Each time I do it's for a different reason and tend not to give it much thought tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry if I don’t reply to everyone, my son is off to university today so making sure he has everything packed before the locksmith comes round to change the locks

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Sorry if I don’t reply to everyone, my son is off to university today so making sure he has everything packed before the locksmith comes round to change the locks

Aren’t they all trying to come back home? Lol

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"If kept within forum / site rules, people are free to start threads, post and comment on anything that's up at will.

No one should have to tailor or dial down honest opinions, comments or assessments for fear of offending someone else either."

Another wise one of the forums ...

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I very rarely start threads.

I’m happiest just flitting around in the forum background mostly.

If I do start a thread it’s with the sole intention of connecting with people and try to reply to every poster.

I think there's a balance to be found - some threads it's good to be inclusive and respond to all, some it's good to let them run their course and just chip in along with others.

Not a criticism, before anyone thinks it is (as has been established, anyone is entitled to post what they like within site rules), but an observation.

And you say I was being "over analytical"?

I wasn't looking for answers, I already know my answer and act accordingly, was merely answering the interesting question you posed. I also don't "expect" anyone to do anything for me when it comes to the forums - I use them my way, just as others do theirs, how we each interpret that and the actions of others is an individual thing.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I very rarely start threads.

I’m happiest just flitting around in the forum background mostly.

If I do start a thread it’s with the sole intention of connecting with people and try to reply to every poster.

I feel the same. If people take time to post in a thread I started I include them for giving their time, it’s both polite and inclusive

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I very rarely start threads.

I’m happiest just flitting around in the forum background mostly.

If I do start a thread it’s with the sole intention of connecting with people and try to reply to every poster.

He’s also super modest

Sexy and the most modest!

He certainly is.. both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a crackingly good thread to read. Some great posts and (dare I say it) one of the best adult non sniping, even though difference of opinion, threads in a long time.

I have tried to start a few threads previously as it was something I thought may interest others. On every occasion they'd died quickly and after seeing a more regular poster, on more than one occasion, post practically the same question a few days or a week or so later, and the thread fly, I decided no more starting threads for me.

After 6 months I'm struggling to find new threads too. I would like to see the analytical break down to threads started for the 6 months before April 2020 and then how many for the following 6 months. I think we have drowned ourselves and currently going through rinse and repeat.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

As an enigma, I start a thread at an average once per season on the basis of a conversation I've had with someone, or to draw attention to surprise, or flirt, my cake, my shirt, my eyes or my thighs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I very rarely start threads.

I’m happiest just flitting around in the forum background mostly.

If I do start a thread it’s with the sole intention of connecting with people and try to reply to every poster.

I think there's a balance to be found - some threads it's good to be inclusive and respond to all, some it's good to let them run their course and just chip in along with others.

Not a criticism, before anyone thinks it is (as has been established, anyone is entitled to post what they like within site rules), but an observation.

And you say I was being "over analytical"?

A very interesting reply, thanks, and I learned something from it. A wisdom giver yet not a receiver, nothing to learn - which makes me wonder how that wisdom accumulated in the first place and consider it's true value. Not that you need my assessment of course....

Peace fella, have a great evening....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s vital that I share my random bollocks with people, they’re an antidote for all that is humdrum in this work a day world, they’re nothing more than flights of fancy, streams of consciousness that are floating in the ether, I like to think that they bring people together, but once I press send it’s out of my hands, it goes beyond me then and beyond the people who comment, it’s bigger than all of us. It’s very much like holding a balloon and letting it go, where it floats to is anyone’s guess, it’s not for me to control, but it’s out there doing it’s own thing. They often mean different things to different people, it’s not for me to say who’s right and wrong, but often people say your threads gave my life meaning, it brought me and my wife back together, that’s just a bonus if I can improve people’s outlook along the way, I’m just happy I can play a small part at changing people’s life’s Radically for the better.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’ve only ever started two threads and they were advice based.

I much prefer to contribute, although I do that less and less these days (not for any particular reason).

I use Fab as a distraction - something to do when the telly is boring, or when I’m looking to meet, which I won’t be doing for the foreseeable future.

I am not particularly bothered why others post, they have just as much right to post as I do and who knows, they could be feeling low and are looking to distract themselves or just want to have some fun so I let them get on with it.

I’ve gotten much better at walking away from threads that are kicking off and I’m just here to chill and take in the positivity.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"This is a crackingly good thread to read. Some great posts and (dare I say it) one of the best adult non sniping, even though difference of opinion, threads in a long time.

Good comments

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I think it’s vital that I share my random bollocks with people, they’re an antidote for all that is humdrum in this work a day world, they’re nothing more than flights of fancy, streams of consciousness that are floating in the ether, I like to think that they bring people together, but once I press send it’s out of my hands, it goes beyond me then and beyond the people who comment, it’s bigger than all of us. It’s very much like holding a balloon and letting it go, where it floats to is anyone’s guess, it’s not for me to control, but it’s out there doing it’s own thing. They often mean different things to different people, it’s not for me to say who’s right and wrong, but often people say your threads gave my life meaning, it brought me and my wife back together, that’s just a bonus if I can improve people’s outlook along the way, I’m just happy I can play a small part at changing people’s life’s Radically for the better. "

Funnily enough... your threads/posts aren't quite as full of as much bollocks these days as they used to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to spread positivity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It passes the time of day

Right now, meets aren't really sensible

Mooching around here, you get a take on other peoples views on life, find out stuff you didn't know about and can lose whole afternoons to reading pure tripe

It's great

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Mostly boredom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to engage and court response. Sometimes I genuinely like getting an insight into others perspectives.

Sadly sometimes its predatory sarcasm.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

As a side note, since the pandemic started, I have found the lounge to be very quiet - it takes ages for some threads to fill that would have reached closing point in no time previously.

And I think that this highlights the same folk posting more than it would than if the forum was busier.

Swingers forum also doesn’t tend to have “regular” posters. That’s like a free for all.

It’s the lounge and the virus section that seem to have “regulars” and I think sometimes folk post when their fuse is a bit short and it’s noticed more.

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over a year ago

"As a side note, since the pandemic started, I have found the lounge to be very quiet - it takes ages for some threads to fill that would have reached closing point in no time previously.

And I think that this highlights the same folk posting more than it would than if the forum was busier.

Swingers forum also doesn’t tend to have “regular” posters. That’s like a free for all.

It’s the lounge and the virus section that seem to have “regulars” and I think sometimes folk post when their fuse is a bit short and it’s noticed more.

Its odd isn't it. You'd have thought it would be busier with more at home.

As for the short fuse...I try to step away, because I never calm down on here if I feel that happening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my threads have been asking what you’re having for dinner ... gives me ideas for the next shop

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By *moothman2000Man
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"I think the last time I started a thread was the day before Anne Boleyn lost her head - certainly can't remember what it was about.

Was it "Itchy neck - good or bad luck?"

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

" I like to engage and court response. Sometimes I genuinely like getting an insight into others perspectives.

Sadly sometimes its predatory sarcasm.

And it's all people watching

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I very rarely start threads.

I’m happiest just flitting around in the forum background mostly.

If I do start a thread it’s with the sole intention of connecting with people and try to reply to every poster.

I think there's a balance to be found - some threads it's good to be inclusive and respond to all, some it's good to let them run their course and just chip in along with others.

Not a criticism, before anyone thinks it is (as has been established, anyone is entitled to post what they like within site rules), but an observation.

And you say I was being "over analytical"?

Peace fella, have a great evening....

If you wish to think you've learned something from that then it is of course your prerogative - shame that you've chosen to take my answering *your* question in such a way - but then as you are fond of saying about yourself, people make assumptions based on forum posts and not truly taking the time to get to know you, so I guess the same applies here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know people can post whatever threads they want within the rules of Fab but I am often perplexed at why some threads are started.

What is your reason for starting a thread?

Is it something you’ve been thinking about and want other’s opinions?

Is it attention you want?

Or are you looking for brownie points on here?

Or is there some other reason altogether?"

When I was on here before I started threads to try and spark some debate. To try and make people think outside their usual way of thinking.

I find it interesting reading different opinions. I like having my views challenged and often change my mind or see things in ways I hadn't before.

My threads were intended to be like a group chatting in a pub.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

As long as the threads are not abusive and are within the forum rules then people should be able to post whatever they want .Even if some might find “what’s for tea” boring others will find it useful.I have never started a thread as I’m more of a reader and observer.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"As long as the threads are not abusive and are within the forum rules then people should be able to post whatever they want .Even if some might find “what’s for tea” boring others will find it useful.I have never started a thread as I’m more of a reader and observer."

I suspect there's an is and ought distinction. Something may be within forum rules but it might be uncharitable, or unhelpful, or unkind. People can certainly post these things, but, is it necessary? Is the cost (to yourself or others) worth the potential gain?

Some of these questions are unanswerable and it's hard to predict some threads, sometimes. But what one does post, what one may post, and what one is wise to post, are often different things.

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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago

leeds

"I know people can post whatever threads they want within the rules of Fab but I am often perplexed at why some threads are started.

What is your reason for starting a thread?

Is it something you’ve been thinking about and want other’s opinions?

Is it attention you want?

Or are you looking for brownie points on here?

Or is there some other reason altogether?"

A lot are people trying to start convo and finding out what others are into. Some are for attention though. Usually men sadly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know people can post whatever threads they want within the rules of Fab but I am often perplexed at why some threads are started.

What is your reason for starting a thread?

Is it something you’ve been thinking about and want other’s opinions?

Is it attention you want?

Or are you looking for brownie points on here?

Or is there some other reason altogether?"

Maybe it's a way for a guy to come out of his shell a little bit to help his self esteem?

Maybe as most guys get ignored on here anyway.. so perhaps it's a way for them to let their personalities shine?

For me... it's the laughs, the flirt, the interaction.. or something that's been on my mind that I'd like to share

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Some of these questions are unanswerable and it's hard to predict some threads, sometimes. But what one does post, what one may post, and what one is wise to post, are often different things. "

Oh, so much this!

Mrs TMN x

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"People who post threads are, on the whole, wanting attention. We all are. I don't see what's wrong with a) owning that or b) recognising that.

I quite like threads that offer an insight into how someone's mind works (like this one), they are more interesting to me than the snog ones.

So when I start a thread I'm wanting attention because

- I'm feeling a bit sad/lonely/need distracting from real life crap.

- I've been thinking about something and want others opinions.

- I'm feeling in a playful mood and want to bounce off others.

Meli wrote my answer already

I have really enjoyed this thread! Thanks OP x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know people can post whatever threads they want within the rules of Fab but I am often perplexed at why some threads are started.

What is your reason for starting a thread?

Is it something you’ve been thinking about and want other’s opinions?

Is it attention you want?

Or are you looking for brownie points on here?

Or is there some other reason altogether?

When I was on here before I started threads to try and spark some debate. To try and make people think outside their usual way of thinking.

I find it interesting reading different opinions. I like having my views challenged and often change my mind or see things in ways I hadn't before.

My threads were intended to be like a group chatting in a pub. "

Your threads were always thought provoking.

I always enjoyed them because they made me think.

I wish you’d do more

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People who post threads are, on the whole, wanting attention. We all are. I don't see what's wrong with a) owning that or b) recognising that.

I quite like threads that offer an insight into how someone's mind works (like this one), they are more interesting to me than the snog ones.

So when I start a thread I'm wanting attention because

- I'm feeling a bit sad/lonely/need distracting from real life crap.

- I've been thinking about something and want others opinions.

- I'm feeling in a playful mood and want to bounce off others.

Meli wrote my answer already

I have really enjoyed this thread! Thanks OP x"

Thank you

I was just interested in the thought process behind threads.

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By *moothman2000Man
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Some of these questions are unanswerable and it's hard to predict some threads, sometimes. But what one does post, what one may post, and what one is wise to post, are often different things. "

I have a far simpler rule when it comes to posting.

If what I'm saying would get me a deserved smack in the mouth in the real world, then I just don't bother saying it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

couple of women on here start very interesting threads which i respond to but i cant remember them

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I know people can post whatever threads they want within the rules of Fab but I am often perplexed at why some threads are started.

What is your reason for starting a thread?

Is it something you’ve been thinking about and want other’s opinions?

Is it attention you want?

Or are you looking for brownie points on here?

Or is there some other reason altogether?

When I was on here before I started threads to try and spark some debate. To try and make people think outside their usual way of thinking.

I find it interesting reading different opinions. I like having my views challenged and often change my mind or see things in ways I hadn't before.

My threads were intended to be like a group chatting in a pub.

Your threads were always thought provoking.

I always enjoyed them because they made me think.

I wish you’d do more

I do enjoy thought provoking posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know people can post whatever threads they want within the rules of Fab but I am often perplexed at why some threads are started.

What is your reason for starting a thread?

Is it something you’ve been thinking about and want other’s opinions?

Is it attention you want?

Or are you looking for brownie points on here?

Or is there some other reason altogether?"

For me it would be, on the very rare occasion I post a thread, it's either because of something I've been thinking about, possibly attention seeking, or just shits and giggles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"couple of women on here start very interesting threads which i respond to but i cant remember them

That good eh

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I generally post to amuse myself.

If it amuses other people too, well that's great

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I know people can post whatever threads they want within the rules of Fab but I am often perplexed at why some threads are started.

What is your reason for starting a thread?

Is it something you’ve been thinking about and want other’s opinions?

Is it attention you want?

Or are you looking for brownie points on here?

Or is there some other reason altogether?"

first reason for me

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"couple of women on here start very interesting threads which i respond to but i cant remember them

can you remember the topic of the thread rather than who posts it?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

all sorts of reasons.

- to spread some humour

- to express my displeasure

- to ask for help/advice

- to share how awesomely awesome I am

- to inform others of something amazing

- to give people hope, remind them they aren't alone, and to show them someone is always listening .... even if it's words on a screen

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"all sorts of reasons.

- to spread some humour

- to express my displeasure

- to ask for help/advice

- to share how awesomely awesome I am

- to inform others of something amazing

- to give people hope, remind them they aren't alone, and to show them someone is always listening .... even if it's words on a screen "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"all sorts of reasons.

- to spread some humour

- to express my displeasure

- to ask for help/advice

- to share how awesomely awesome you are OP

- to inform others of something amazing

- to give people hope, remind them they aren't alone, and to show them someone is always listening .... even if it's words on a screen "

Aw, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm way too busy cave painting to start threads...

To those who do, thank you. It matters not why you post but without your contributions I would having nothing to read, all the libraries being shut and men in strange uniforms locking us all in our homes....

I'm becoming more of an occasional lurker, here less,contribute less, read and just wander away without comment so often. Its a cycle that others go through too, so not that strange,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This was an interesting thread to read OP. You should do more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very very rarely start threads but when I do it usually comes from the heart, a burning question, a need almost, like why are we here, can all this really mean nothing and if it does then why go to the effort of creating a universe over billions of years just so that we Can comment on a swinging forum for all this to mean nothing would be in someways Beautiful and poignant, but ultimately a comment waste of time.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Mostly boredom. Sometimes for opinions on something.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This was an interesting thread to read OP. You should do more.

I will follow your lead

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