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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Today is like any other day for me me I always try bye and made everyone feel good about themselves that's why I do a video like that like I've recently done. Also try and send as many messages as I can to make the women feel good and beautiful about themselves this morning

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Some people like being dicks though. So if it makes them happy, who are we to stop them.

I'm all for being nice whenever you can and to whomever you can though. So crack on OP, you do a fine job of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven’t I just read this on another thread?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You probably have read this on another thread I do like to repeat myself a lot of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always nice

But yes I agree, being nice is much better than being a dick. Unfortunately some people just can't help themselves. Best way to deal with them is to be even nicer

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I'm always nice

But yes I agree, being nice is much better than being a dick. Unfortunately some people just can't help themselves. Best way to deal with them is to be even nicer "

You're a damn delight wifey. All the time. Obvs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You probably have read this on another thread I do like to repeat myself a lot of the time"

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You probably have read this on another thread I do like to repeat myself a lot of the time"

Me too

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's certainly a lovely idea in principle.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"It's certainly a lovely idea in principle."

You're a damn delight too. Except when you write porn. Then you're evil but I still loves ya.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It's certainly a lovely idea in principle.

You're a damn delight too. Except when you write porn. Then you're evil but I still loves ya."

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"You probably have read this on another thread I do like to repeat myself a lot of the time

Me too "

You're probably a delight but I don't know you. Nice striped shirt though

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"Haven’t I just read this on another thread?"

You're a damn delight as well woman. Especially in red.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree with you OP, although I apply the 2 strike rule. Try to show kindness to others, if not returned, will be a dick.. But in a nice way

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I totally agree with you OP, although I apply the 2 strike rule. Try to show kindness to others, if not returned, will be a dick.. But in a nice way "

You're a delight too

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I totally agree with you OP, although I apply the 2 strike rule. Try to show kindness to others, if not returned, will be a dick.. But in a nice way "

I prefer firm boundaries myself.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I totally agree with you OP, although I apply the 2 strike rule. Try to show kindness to others, if not returned, will be a dick.. But in a nice way

I prefer firm boundaries myself."

I prefer a firm hand. Is that the same?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I totally agree with you OP, although I apply the 2 strike rule. Try to show kindness to others, if not returned, will be a dick.. But in a nice way

I prefer firm boundaries myself.

I prefer a firm hand. Is that the same? "

No it is not

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I totally agree with you OP, although I apply the 2 strike rule. Try to show kindness to others, if not returned, will be a dick.. But in a nice way

I prefer firm boundaries myself.

I prefer a firm hand. Is that the same?

No it is not "

Darn...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I totally agree with you OP, although I apply the 2 strike rule. Try to show kindness to others, if not returned, will be a dick.. But in a nice way

You're a delight too "

I have that in writing now and a few witnesses

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I totally agree with you OP, although I apply the 2 strike rule. Try to show kindness to others, if not returned, will be a dick.. But in a nice way

I prefer firm boundaries myself.

I prefer a firm hand. Is that the same?

No it is not

Darn..."

Yeah. Takes work, unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I totally agree with you OP, although I apply the 2 strike rule. Try to show kindness to others, if not returned, will be a dick.. But in a nice way

I prefer firm boundaries myself.

I prefer a firm hand. Is that the same?

No it is not

Darn...

Yeah. Takes work, unfortunately "

Spank her Swing because you know, why not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I totally agree with you OP, although I apply the 2 strike rule. Try to show kindness to others, if not returned, will be a dick.. But in a nice way

I prefer firm boundaries myself."

Ah, well that's me buggered, I'm a softie really and some people have had got to 3 or 4 strikes

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I totally agree with you OP, although I apply the 2 strike rule. Try to show kindness to others, if not returned, will be a dick.. But in a nice way

I prefer firm boundaries myself.

Ah, well that's me buggered, I'm a softie really and some people have had got to 3 or 4 strikes "

Lessons I've learned the hard way.

Less a softy more just an idiot myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I totally agree with you OP, although I apply the 2 strike rule. Try to show kindness to others, if not returned, will be a dick.. But in a nice way

I prefer firm boundaries myself.

Ah, well that's me buggered, I'm a softie really and some people have had got to 3 or 4 strikes

Lessons I've learned the hard way.

Less a softy more just an idiot myself "

Lessons are sometimes best learnt the hard way.. So some people say.

And yeah, that maybe describes me better.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I totally agree with you OP, although I apply the 2 strike rule. Try to show kindness to others, if not returned, will be a dick.. But in a nice way

I prefer firm boundaries myself.

Ah, well that's me buggered, I'm a softie really and some people have had got to 3 or 4 strikes

Lessons I've learned the hard way.

Less a softy more just an idiot myself

Lessons are sometimes best learnt the hard way.. So some people say.

And yeah, that maybe describes me better. "

Nothing worthwhile ever came easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m always nice even to my own detriment sometimes

BUT if you fuck with someone I care about, then I suddenly go from kind to “I’ll cut you down with a sentence.”

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I try so hard to not be a dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a theory that most people are actually dicks. The amount of dickishnes they show however varies depending on two things, first their levels of self awareness and second the social cost of showing their dickishness.

We are horrified by the atrocities that have been committed (and still are) at various times and places but the fact is the same type of people who would denounce Anne Frank or hack their neighbour to death in Rwanda or burn the homes of Muslims in Myanmar live around us all the time. The only reason they don't behave like this is that the social cost of doing so is too high.

People who are genuinely kind at all times and in all places are incredibly rare and even more rarely recognised as such. As Rowling said through Dumbledore 'you're unfailingly kind, a trait people never fail to underestimate'

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people think they are nice but they are supremely oblivious.

Glitter

Cake

Yada yada

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I have a theory that most people are actually dicks. The amount of dickishnes they show however varies depending on two things, first their levels of self awareness and second the social cost of showing their dickishness.

We are horrified by the atrocities that have been committed (and still are) at various times and places but the fact is the same type of people who would denounce Anne Frank or hack their neighbour to death in Rwanda or burn the homes of Muslims in Myanmar live around us all the time. The only reason they don't behave like this is that the social cost of doing so is too high.

People who are genuinely kind at all times and in all places are incredibly rare and even more rarely recognised as such. As Rowling said through Dumbledore 'you're unfailingly kind, a trait people never fail to underestimate'

Mr"

I think unfailing kindness is a mistake that one should not make. There's a place for kindness, a big one, but it's not the only thing to consider when working out how to deal with people.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Whilst not being a dick, or even dick-ess, is something we should all strive for as much as possible, sometimes one person's dick is another person's nice and it comes down to individual perception - so for me I just try to be authentically me, without "trying" to be anything - if people warm to me then great, if people think I'm a dick then that's their prerogative and if they give me reason to believe I've behaved like one I'll take it on the chin and hold my hands up to it, but I'll also reserve my right to defend why I don't think I have too, if I truly believe I haven't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coming across as kind in these forums or even over text is hard work because it can be difficult to find the words that everyone can accept.

Also, I do like winding people up a bit in a jokey way which I've held back so it's not interpreted as me being a dickhead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a theory that most people are actually dicks. The amount of dickishnes they show however varies depending on two things, first their levels of self awareness and second the social cost of showing their dickishness.

We are horrified by the atrocities that have been committed (and still are) at various times and places but the fact is the same type of people who would denounce Anne Frank or hack their neighbour to death in Rwanda or burn the homes of Muslims in Myanmar live around us all the time. The only reason they don't behave like this is that the social cost of doing so is too high.

People who are genuinely kind at all times and in all places are incredibly rare and even more rarely recognised as such. As Rowling said through Dumbledore 'you're unfailingly kind, a trait people never fail to underestimate'

Mr"

Self awareness is rare. People don't like if you point out to them that they are doing the things they complain about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Self awareness is rare. People don't like if you point out to them that they are doing the things they complain about. "

That is very true, we are all far more tolerant of our own mistakes than those of others. I've never had a solo rant at myself when I've forgotten to indicate at a roundabout ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Coming across as kind in these forums or even over text is hard work because it can be difficult to find the words that everyone can accept.

Also, I do like winding people up a bit in a jokey way which I've held back so it's not interpreted as me being a dickhead "

Yes, written words are very difficult to get right.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I treat others as I would have them treat me

- i'm nice to those who are nice in turn and clearly not a dick

- indifferent to those I don't like or I perceive as being a dick

- i'm a dick to those who treat me that way

Simple.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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"Whilst not being a dick, or even dick-ess, is something we should all strive for as much as possible, sometimes one person's dick is another person's nice and it comes down to individual perception - so for me I just try to be authentically me, without "trying" to be anything - if people warm to me then great, if people think I'm a dick then that's their prerogative and if they give me reason to believe I've behaved like one I'll take it on the chin and hold my hands up to it, but I'll also reserve my right to defend why I don't think I have too, if I truly believe I haven't."

This - it's very subjective. As I said in a different thread recently, I've had PMS in the past telling me that I'm nasty for things that I've posted in here - but I've never had so much as a warning, never mind a ban. It's all about perception, and unfortunately I have no control over how people perceive my words and actions. So I'll continue to display my one and only face, and not hide behind and kind of veil or persona.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I think unfailing kindness is a mistake that one should not make. There's a place for kindness, a big one, but it's not the only thing to consider when working out how to deal with people."

This is rare but I actually disagree with you on this. Being kind doesn't preclude having boundaries, nor does it preclude doing things that others don't like. For the benefit of society it may be necessary to lock people up in prisons but that doesn't mean they can't be treated kindly - even if that does get you nowhere. It may be necessary to remove people from your life, but again, that can be done with kindness and respect, there is no need to say or do unkind things.

I do get that this can seem like splitting hairs, but when someone by their own behavoir puts themselves outside your boundaries then enforcing those boundaries isn't unkind, it is necessary - if only out of being kind to yourself.

Mr

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"

I think unfailing kindness is a mistake that one should not make. There's a place for kindness, a big one, but it's not the only thing to consider when working out how to deal with people.

This is rare but I actually disagree with you on this. Being kind doesn't preclude having boundaries, nor does it preclude doing things that others don't like. For the benefit of society it may be necessary to lock people up in prisons but that doesn't mean they can't be treated kindly - even if that does get you nowhere. It may be necessary to remove people from your life, but again, that can be done with kindness and respect, there is no need to say or do unkind things.

I do get that this can seem like splitting hairs, but when someone by their own behavoir puts themselves outside your boundaries then enforcing those boundaries isn't unkind, it is necessary - if only out of being kind to yourself.

Mr"

Oh it's very subjective and yes, I suspect splitting hairs. I get it and it's not a criticism.

For me, I start with a presumption of kindness, I treat people charitably. Whether that continues depends very much on what follows.

I think dignity should be a given, always. Compassion usually. But with kindness... Sometimes being kind to X means leaving Y at a disadvantage. It comes down to principles and values. (Y might be you, or someone else)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Today is like any other day for me me I always try bye and made everyone feel good about themselves that's why I do a video like that like I've recently done. Also try and send as many messages as I can to make the women feel good and beautiful about themselves this morning "

Do you know what Simon even so called nice people can be Seen by some to be dicks.!!

T

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Today is like any other day for me me I always try bye and made everyone feel good about themselves that's why I do a video like that like I've recently done. Also try and send as many messages as I can to make the women feel good and beautiful about themselves this morning

Do you know what Simon even so called nice people can be Seen by some to be dicks.!!

T"

Certainly.

Those who matter won't mind and those who mind don't matter

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I treat others as I would have them treat me

- i'm nice to those who are nice in turn and clearly not a dick

- indifferent to those I don't like or I perceive as being a dick

- i'm a dick to those who treat me that way

Simple."
I like to find out more about a person before I just " perceive " them to be a dick or not . Everyone writes stuff for a reason and I like to find out more before deriding someone for the odd post . Just my take on that

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I treat others as I would have them treat me

- i'm nice to those who are nice in turn and clearly not a dick

- indifferent to those I don't like or I perceive as being a dick

- i'm a dick to those who treat me that way

Simple.

I like to find out more about a person before I just " perceive " them to be a dick or not . Everyone writes stuff for a reason and I like to find out more before deriding someone for the odd post . Just my take on that "

That's the way to do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Self awareness is rare. People don't like if you point out to them that they are doing the things they complain about.

That is very true, we are all far more tolerant of our own mistakes than those of others. I've never had a solo rant at myself when I've forgotten to indicate at a roundabout .... "

I'm always swearing about my driving. And all the other things that I'm shit at.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


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Self awareness is rare. People don't like if you point out to them that they are doing the things they complain about.

That is very true, we are all far more tolerant of our own mistakes than those of others. I've never had a solo rant at myself when I've forgotten to indicate at a roundabout ....

I'm always swearing about my driving. And all the other things that I'm shit at.

"

Me too

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I treat others as I would have them treat me

- i'm nice to those who are nice in turn and clearly not a dick

- indifferent to those I don't like or I perceive as being a dick

- i'm a dick to those who treat me that way

Simple.

I like to find out more about a person before I just " perceive " them to be a dick or not . Everyone writes stuff for a reason and I like to find out more before deriding someone for the odd post . Just my take on that

That's the way to do it "

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm more of a twat than a dick but opinions vary...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably best to just be ourselves, try not to be a cunt and try not worry too much about what others think.....

Let it flow on by, eh.....

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By *moothman2000Man
over a year ago

Leicestershire

The art of diplomacy is being able to tell someone to fuck off and go to hell and leave them smiling and looking forward to their impending journey...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being nice isn't always easy though Op,I consider myself to be nice and trust me some take advantage of that

As for being a dick,needs must at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea but I’m on holiday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I think unfailing kindness is a mistake that one should not make. There's a place for kindness, a big one, but it's not the only thing to consider when working out how to deal with people.

This is rare but I actually disagree with you on this. Being kind doesn't preclude having boundaries, nor does it preclude doing things that others don't like. For the benefit of society it may be necessary to lock people up in prisons but that doesn't mean they can't be treated kindly - even if that does get you nowhere. It may be necessary to remove people from your life, but again, that can be done with kindness and respect, there is no need to say or do unkind things.

I do get that this can seem like splitting hairs, but when someone by their own behavoir puts themselves outside your boundaries then enforcing those boundaries isn't unkind, it is necessary - if only out of being kind to yourself.

Mr

Oh it's very subjective and yes, I suspect splitting hairs. I get it and it's not a criticism.

For me, I start with a presumption of kindness, I treat people charitably. Whether that continues depends very much on what follows.

I think dignity should be a given, always. Compassion usually. But with kindness... Sometimes being kind to X means leaving Y at a disadvantage. It comes down to principles and values. (Y might be you, or someone else)"

True - classic trolley problem right there

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


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I think unfailing kindness is a mistake that one should not make. There's a place for kindness, a big one, but it's not the only thing to consider when working out how to deal with people.

This is rare but I actually disagree with you on this. Being kind doesn't preclude having boundaries, nor does it preclude doing things that others don't like. For the benefit of society it may be necessary to lock people up in prisons but that doesn't mean they can't be treated kindly - even if that does get you nowhere. It may be necessary to remove people from your life, but again, that can be done with kindness and respect, there is no need to say or do unkind things.

I do get that this can seem like splitting hairs, but when someone by their own behavoir puts themselves outside your boundaries then enforcing those boundaries isn't unkind, it is necessary - if only out of being kind to yourself.

Mr

Oh it's very subjective and yes, I suspect splitting hairs. I get it and it's not a criticism.

For me, I start with a presumption of kindness, I treat people charitably. Whether that continues depends very much on what follows.

I think dignity should be a given, always. Compassion usually. But with kindness... Sometimes being kind to X means leaving Y at a disadvantage. It comes down to principles and values. (Y might be you, or someone else)

True - classic trolley problem right there "

That's it in a nutshell

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I’d rather an honest truthful dick that say what they think objectively, than a masked fake dick who says what they think others want to hear it to be seen as sweetness & light !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d rather an honest truthful dick that say what they think objectively, than a masked fake dick who says what they think others want to hear it to be seen as sweetness & light ! "

This sums it up for me too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think being genuine is more important.

If you understand why someone is being a dick, you may understand.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I think sometimes people think that people are being fake when actually they're just people who want to make others smile.

I'm an arsehole. To myself. All the time. But I spent a long time being a punching bag for someone and one of the things I ended up taking away from that was that a smile or a kind word from a stranger (or a friend) is sometimes all it takes to change that person's day and possibly even their life.

Sounds dramatic and maybe it is, but it's also true. So I choose to continue trying to make people smile. If I'm having a bad day and I let things get to me I might come across as a dickhead but I'll apologise for that as and when it happens. I'm human after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think sometimes people think that people are being fake when actually they're just people who want to make others smile.

I'm an arsehole. To myself. All the time. But I spent a long time being a punching bag for someone and one of the things I ended up taking away from that was that a smile or a kind word from a stranger (or a friend) is sometimes all it takes to change that person's day and possibly even their life.

Sounds dramatic and maybe it is, but it's also true. So I choose to continue trying to make people smile. If I'm having a bad day and I let things get to me I might come across as a dickhead but I'll apologise for that as and when it happens. I'm human after all."

Many valid points, but sometimes people telling others to be kind and smile, whilst a great sentiment, isn't always helpful to those experiencing difficulties?

Of course everyone should make an effort, but its best to concentrate on how you behave as noone knows another's reasons for their conduct?

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I think sometimes people think that people are being fake when actually they're just people who want to make others smile.

I'm an arsehole. To myself. All the time. But I spent a long time being a punching bag for someone and one of the things I ended up taking away from that was that a smile or a kind word from a stranger (or a friend) is sometimes all it takes to change that person's day and possibly even their life.

Sounds dramatic and maybe it is, but it's also true. So I choose to continue trying to make people smile. If I'm having a bad day and I let things get to me I might come across as a dickhead but I'll apologise for that as and when it happens. I'm human after all."

I loves ya xx

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I think sometimes people think that people are being fake when actually they're just people who want to make others smile.

I'm an arsehole. To myself. All the time. But I spent a long time being a punching bag for someone and one of the things I ended up taking away from that was that a smile or a kind word from a stranger (or a friend) is sometimes all it takes to change that person's day and possibly even their life.

Sounds dramatic and maybe it is, but it's also true. So I choose to continue trying to make people smile. If I'm having a bad day and I let things get to me I might come across as a dickhead but I'll apologise for that as and when it happens. I'm human after all.

Many valid points, but sometimes people telling others to be kind and smile, whilst a great sentiment, isn't always helpful to those experiencing difficulties?

Of course everyone should make an effort, but its best to concentrate on how you behave as noone knows another's reasons for their conduct?"

That's exactly what I'm saying though. I'm not saying everyone should be kind and smile, I'm saying that's what I choose to do, and I hope that it makes others' days better too.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I think sometimes people think that people are being fake when actually they're just people who want to make others smile.

I'm an arsehole. To myself. All the time. But I spent a long time being a punching bag for someone and one of the things I ended up taking away from that was that a smile or a kind word from a stranger (or a friend) is sometimes all it takes to change that person's day and possibly even their life.

Sounds dramatic and maybe it is, but it's also true. So I choose to continue trying to make people smile. If I'm having a bad day and I let things get to me I might come across as a dickhead but I'll apologise for that as and when it happens. I'm human after all.

I loves ya xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think sometimes people think that people are being fake when actually they're just people who want to make others smile.

I'm an arsehole. To myself. All the time. But I spent a long time being a punching bag for someone and one of the things I ended up taking away from that was that a smile or a kind word from a stranger (or a friend) is sometimes all it takes to change that person's day and possibly even their life.

Sounds dramatic and maybe it is, but it's also true. So I choose to continue trying to make people smile. If I'm having a bad day and I let things get to me I might come across as a dickhead but I'll apologise for that as and when it happens. I'm human after all.

Many valid points, but sometimes people telling others to be kind and smile, whilst a great sentiment, isn't always helpful to those experiencing difficulties?

Of course everyone should make an effort, but its best to concentrate on how you behave as noone knows another's reasons for their conduct?"

This^ Some folk CAN'T smile and have nothing happy to say, particularly if they're going through a hard time or just having a bad day and dealing with it their own way, so they'll feel shit and excluded when we tell em to be all lovely, and yet they're the ones who actually need the love, innit....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think it's an interesting forum trope of late, different interpretations of niceness. Certainly food for thought.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Always nice just miss understood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a dick is a lot easier than being nice..for me it is anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think sometimes people think that people are being fake when actually they're just people who want to make others smile.

I'm an arsehole. To myself. All the time. But I spent a long time being a punching bag for someone and one of the things I ended up taking away from that was that a smile or a kind word from a stranger (or a friend) is sometimes all it takes to change that person's day and possibly even their life.

Sounds dramatic and maybe it is, but it's also true. So I choose to continue trying to make people smile. If I'm having a bad day and I let things get to me I might come across as a dickhead but I'll apologise for that as and when it happens. I'm human after all."

It sounds dramatic but it's absolutely true. It can make the difference to someone without you even realising and make their day happier.

I'm sorry if you think I was being a dickhead yesterday, I know it came across that way. No point me saying anything else as people on here won't change their opinion.

You make a lot of people smile on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always try to be nice and a gentleman treat people as you would like to be treated

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I think sometimes people think that people are being fake when actually they're just people who want to make others smile.

I'm an arsehole. To myself. All the time. But I spent a long time being a punching bag for someone and one of the things I ended up taking away from that was that a smile or a kind word from a stranger (or a friend) is sometimes all it takes to change that person's day and possibly even their life.

Sounds dramatic and maybe it is, but it's also true. So I choose to continue trying to make people smile. If I'm having a bad day and I let things get to me I might come across as a dickhead but I'll apologise for that as and when it happens. I'm human after all.

It sounds dramatic but it's absolutely true. It can make the difference to someone without you even realising and make their day happier.

I'm sorry if you think I was being a dickhead yesterday, I know it came across that way. No point me saying anything else as people on here won't change their opinion.

You make a lot of people smile on here. "

Thank you. I really appreciate that.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

you NSP

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


" you NSP"

you Swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d like an operational definition of being a dick. I need to know which specific behaviours are considered being dickish so I can put them on my profile to warn people that I behave in that way from time to time.

Seriously kindness is definitely a desirable behaviour and one that I value, but recognise I’m a hypocrite and behave unkindly from time to time. I usually feel shit about it and apologise if I can. I cannot be kind all the time, I’m flawed, but I’ll endeavour to do my best as often as I can.

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By *irsty bTV/TS
over a year ago

blackpool

It's nice to be nice

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Nice gets you nowhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d like an operational definition of being a dick. I need to know which specific behaviours are considered being dickish so I can put them on my profile to warn people that I behave in that way from time to time.

Seriously kindness is definitely a desirable behaviour and one that I value, but recognise I’m a hypocrite and behave unkindly from time to time. I usually feel shit about it and apologise if I can. I cannot be kind all the time, I’m flawed, but I’ll endeavour to do my best as often as I can. "

I’ve also said it before and I’ll say it again, being ‘nice’ was something I did when I was a boy. I was renowned for being ‘such a nice boy’ by my parent’s friends and acquaintances. I stopped being nice in my teenage years. I don’t really do ‘nice’ anymore.

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

I live by treating others as you expect to be treated. But if they want to treat you like a dick then watch out as it works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I said earlier, I always try to be kind. Also, if I'm having a shitty day, or feeling down, I generally won't interact much. That's not being disingenuous or fake. I've had the odd rant, or twined on here a couple of times, but didn't feel any better for it, it didn't solve any problems. So when I do interact on here, it's usually when I'm in a good place and wanting to share that with others, spread some positivity. I don't see how that equates to not being genuine. I've more than likely said some dickish things, and offended some people, but my inbox is always open, or on forums if wanting to discuss.

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan
over a year ago

London

Biggest problem is many people can start being nice and end up being a dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are varying levels of dickness

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"There are varying levels of dickness"

That's a very close up dick you've got there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are varying levels of dickness

That's a very close up dick you've got there"

Level 5

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"There are varying levels of dickness

That's a very close up dick you've got there

Level 5"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are varying levels of dickness

That's a very close up dick you've got there

Level 5

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


" you NSP

you Swing"

Love affair right here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's good to know that we have so many self proclaimed non dicks here. A Trumpism that seems to be catching on.

To all the saints on this thread... green arrow tells all.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I read some of the dickish comments on here, and I like to think they make me a nicer person.

Likewise I read the lovely/daft/comical comments and they make me smile

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

And I have no fear of the green arrow....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


" you NSP

you Swing

Love affair right here "

Too damn right

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

As much as being a dick seems to be frowned up on, on here, its clearly not a barrier to becoming PM or other high cabinet positions.

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