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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Serious gatsby post,

Last year i faced upto problems/ issues i had after 6 years and was on prozac for 10 months Now ive been off them for 6 months and am no longer riddled with selfharm thoughts or am i a emotional rollercoaster although i feel emotionally quite numb and detached.

I used to enjoy sex, had such a high sex drive and well now i practically dont have one which is destroying. My sex drive used to be at the point where pretty much ever woman i talked too turned flirty. Now im running a mile at anyone thats slighty flirty.

Ive been back to my doctors and a specialist which have pretty much said my previous actions/character were down to my illness.

Has anybody had a similar experience?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Not had it but perhaps a psychotherapist would be a good next step?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I was on antidepressants for a year and to be honest it wasn't until a few years after coming off them that I started to properly feel myself again. I lost a lot of sexual function, my ability to draw on my vocabulary, my short term memory and my ability to feel totally present in social situations. The main thing is you're still here and managing so the tablets did there job but there's still healing to do. Vitamins, omega 3, excercise, eating well, sleeping well, etc can help but also don't push yourself to be totally okay again too soon .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wasnt on Prozac but have had to use Sertraline..

I am thankfully now off it, but greatful that it saved me from some very VERY low points in my life mentally.

I love sex as much as most of you do, however i am glad to be alive (might sound dramatic to some) and if using an anti depressant meant i was still alive to say these next few words i am glad 'There is more to life than sex'

I can see why it might bother you not feeling sexual, but you have come through some dark periods i'm guessing. Just have faith your sexual side will return. I had a 4 year dry spell through depression.. I just had to 'force myself' through masturbation to start those sparks again..

Hope you find it again lovely x x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What your both describing seems to be exactly how ive felt, im glad its not just me thats experienced this LuL after the meds. Im truly grateful im here as last year at one point i wasnt and agree there is more to life than sex. Its just bloody frustrating

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's not an experience I've had on any SSRI, but I gather it's a common side effect. If it's distressing you, push to try a different medication

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's not an experience I've had on any SSRI, but I gather it's a common side effect. If it's distressing you, push to try a different medication"

Ive been off them for 6 months now i just never realised the side effects would last

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What your both describing seems to be exactly how ive felt, im glad its not just me thats experienced this LuL after the meds. Im truly grateful im here as last year at one point i wasnt and agree there is more to life than sex. Its just bloody frustrating "

You might feel like you are alone in thoughts, but that is the nature of the beast called depression.

Its a longgg road to true self love. Its so easy for me (and others) to tell you that you WILL get there,, because like you i had a similar (no ones battle is ever the same).. but we are all surviving. Still here to share our stories.

I am not going to preach to you, but please if you EVER feel that you wanna chat shite then my inbox is open. Problem shared is a problem halved.

I used to feel like i was boring my friends with my stuff and i was a burden. Some times a forum of relative 'strangers' is easier. x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What your both describing seems to be exactly how ive felt, im glad its not just me thats experienced this LuL after the meds. Im truly grateful im here as last year at one point i wasnt and agree there is more to life than sex. Its just bloody frustrating "

What is frustrating? That you want your old sex drive back? Can you still have a successful wank?

Don't answer if that's too personal. Glad you are feeling better on the whole. X

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"What your both describing seems to be exactly how ive felt, im glad its not just me thats experienced this LuL after the meds. Im truly grateful im here as last year at one point i wasnt and agree there is more to life than sex. Its just bloody frustrating "

It is. Try to appreciate the small wins. Those little moments of happiness. The times you can appreciate the small things that previously didn't fire anything in your brain. Those little sparks of happy chemicals alone mean you've come so far and your brain will learn to make them more and more!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"What your both describing seems to be exactly how ive felt, im glad its not just me thats experienced this LuL after the meds. Im truly grateful im here as last year at one point i wasnt and agree there is more to life than sex. Its just bloody frustrating

It is. Try to appreciate the small wins. Those little moments of happiness. The times you can appreciate the small things that previously didn't fire anything in your brain. Those little sparks of happy chemicals alone mean you've come so far and your brain will learn to make them more and more! "

Absolutely.

I don't know the answer, I wish I did. I only lose my sex drive entirely when my mental health is in the shitter

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"It's not an experience I've had on any SSRI, but I gather it's a common side effect. If it's distressing you, push to try a different medication

Ive been off them for 6 months now i just never realised the side effects would last"

Anti depressants have a really long half life, which is why they take a while to have a positive impact on the symptoms. They take equally long to disappear from your system altogether and your body will take a while to equivalate and restore the "normal" level of all the neuro signallers that the drugs affect. Counselling may also be helpful in coming to terms with your feelings and experiences - we can strongly recommend it.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

not quite, however my sex drive has taken a nosedive.

I'm partly thinking that I WAS using sex as a crutch of sorts, and now I'm content with the *who* I am, needing no validation from anyone or anything, that I'm happy with the odd wank.

I think part of it too was that my last partner always wanted to go wilder, bigger, better, wanted to push boundaries and liked risk and the shock factor. Risk and the shock factor do nothing for me apart from create anxiety make me feel as though I'm not enough.

I think sex and the type of sex we have can be a way of us seemingly gaining control and in some cases a sense of "fuck you" to things that have bothered us in our past. He liked stuff that was blasphemous, and it stemmed from growing up in a strict Catholic household. He couldn't tell his parents how he felt about religion or hated going to church, but gave it the middle finger during sex.

I was cheated on so needed and wanted absolute honesty from sexual partners and take control by cutting people out of my life who attempt to decieve me, and oddly I need to feel as though I'm "the favourite" if they're meeting others too, that their loyalty lies with me.

So yes, I do think it's all intertwined to a degree.

I do want my sex drive to return, and when it does I really hope it's purely in a hedonistic form with the only thing I gain is pleasure rather than temporary emotional healing of the past

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

I was on Prozac (fluoxetine) for a few years and it didn't have any adverse affect on my sex drive, but it didn't do much for my mental health either, I've now been on Remeron (mirtazapine) for almost 3 years, also with no affect to my sex drive and little affect to my MH.

However in the last 3 months my sex drive has pretty much disappeared, but that's down to the behaviour of somebody I was quite close to so I'm not concerned, I'm guessing it will return when I'm able to let myself get close to people again and start trusting, but I'm in no rush.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What your both describing seems to be exactly how ive felt, im glad its not just me thats experienced this LuL after the meds. Im truly grateful im here as last year at one point i wasnt and agree there is more to life than sex. Its just bloody frustrating

It is. Try to appreciate the small wins. Those little moments of happiness. The times you can appreciate the small things that previously didn't fire anything in your brain. Those little sparks of happy chemicals alone mean you've come so far and your brain will learn to make them more and more! "

Completely agree Lacey..

i used to write my 'wins' on a post it note and put them in a jar, and if i had a wobble and could feel the fog, id read through everything i achieved that made me feel good and everything id written down that i was proud of x x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What your both describing seems to be exactly how ive felt, im glad its not just me thats experienced this LuL after the meds. Im truly grateful im here as last year at one point i wasnt and agree there is more to life than sex. Its just bloody frustrating

What is frustrating? That you want your old sex drive back? Can you still have a successful wank?

Don't answer if that's too personal. Glad you are feeling better on the whole. X"

I can look at someone and think fuck me shes fit, but not have that urge. i can have a wank and perform fine. Its just that drive to want to do it, sex feels empty.. i suppose its the pleasure from it i miss... that oh that felt good if you understand me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am still on an SSRI (Paroxetine [Seroxat]) and been on them for a long time as don't feel the time is right to come off of them.

A couple of times I have experienced a manic episode where my sex drive has gone through the roof and been unmanageable.

At the moment I don't have a constant sex drive but I still get turned on and horny when there is a reason to rather than all the time. I also used to use masturbation as a way to lift my mood and purely as stress relief. I now feel my sex drive is a bit more 'normal'.

If you watch porn do you still get turned on? If you have sext chat do you still get turned on? I would say if you do then you are fine but just finding it 'odd' to adjust to a more 'normal' sex drive rather than having constant sexual feelings.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"What your both describing seems to be exactly how ive felt, im glad its not just me thats experienced this LuL after the meds. Im truly grateful im here as last year at one point i wasnt and agree there is more to life than sex. Its just bloody frustrating

It is. Try to appreciate the small wins. Those little moments of happiness. The times you can appreciate the small things that previously didn't fire anything in your brain. Those little sparks of happy chemicals alone mean you've come so far and your brain will learn to make them more and more!

Completely agree Lacey..

i used to write my 'wins' on a post it note and put them in a jar, and if i had a wobble and could feel the fog, id read through everything i achieved that made me feel good and everything id written down that i was proud of x x "

That's such a great idea . Personally I just try to savour my particularly chipper moments. Kust sit there and absorb the feeling and the pleasantness of whatever is making me happy. The company of certain people, the sun on my skin, the comfort of my bed. Really imped the moment in my memory. I often find I can recall these moments at a later date and get a small spark of that feeling again.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I feel highs now that I used to think were impossible. I get them every day. Life is magical now.

(I'm not on an SSRI - I don't tolerate them well - I've been on them and am on another type of antidepressant)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What your both describing seems to be exactly how ive felt, im glad its not just me thats experienced this LuL after the meds. Im truly grateful im here as last year at one point i wasnt and agree there is more to life than sex. Its just bloody frustrating

What is frustrating? That you want your old sex drive back? Can you still have a successful wank?

Don't answer if that's too personal. Glad you are feeling better on the whole. X

I can look at someone and think fuck me shes fit, but not have that urge. i can have a wank and perform fine. Its just that drive to want to do it, sex feels empty.. i suppose its the pleasure from it i miss... that oh that felt good if you understand me "

Yes that makes sense to me.

I agree with what p6545 just said about maybe getting used to a different kind of sex drive. Maybe the previous hypersexual drive wasn't 'normal' for you. It's just a case of getting used to the new you. Doesn't mean you aren't normal now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The lack of MOJO could be nothing to do with medication could just be Covid..

Ive always thought i was fairly highly sexed but since March im just kinda 'off' the idea right now. x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The lack of MOJO could be nothing to do with medication could just be Covid..

Ive always thought i was fairly highly sexed but since March im just kinda 'off' the idea right now. x

"

Yeah, global trauma doesn't help. It's really normal to be psychologically off right now.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"The lack of MOJO could be nothing to do with medication could just be Covid..

Ive always thought i was fairly highly sexed but since March im just kinda 'off' the idea right now. x

"

Also very much this.

Could be your brain "protecting" you from frustration in that area. We all know we can't meet people so your subconscious could very well have taken that info and is doing what it feels it needs to do to make things as easy as possible

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The lack of MOJO could be nothing to do with medication could just be Covid..

Ive always thought i was fairly highly sexed but since March im just kinda 'off' the idea right now. x

Also very much this.

Could be your brain "protecting" you from frustration in that area. We all know we can't meet people so your subconscious could very well have taken that info and is doing what it feels it needs to do to make things as easy as possible "

I'm very much an anxiety freezer.

Stuff gets too much and my brain just goes... nope.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The lack of MOJO could be nothing to do with medication could just be Covid..

Ive always thought i was fairly highly sexed but since March im just kinda 'off' the idea right now. x

Also very much this.

Could be your brain "protecting" you from frustration in that area. We all know we can't meet people so your subconscious could very well have taken that info and is doing what it feels it needs to do to make things as easy as possible "

You could very much be correct with that. I dont have any worries in life im very very relaxed and have ridded my life of presure. Maybe it is this pandemic subconsciously effecting me.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Serious gatsby post,

Last year i faced upto problems/ issues i had after 6 years and was on prozac for 10 months Now ive been off them for 6 months and am no longer riddled with selfharm thoughts or am i a emotional rollercoaster although i feel emotionally quite numb and detached.

I used to enjoy sex, had such a high sex drive and well now i practically dont have one which is destroying. My sex drive used to be at the point where pretty much ever woman i talked too turned flirty. Now im running a mile at anyone thats slighty flirty.

Ive been back to my doctors and a specialist which have pretty much said my previous actions/character were down to my illness.

Has anybody had a similar experience? "

Standard. I was the same on citalopram.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Serious gatsby post,

Last year i faced upto problems/ issues i had after 6 years and was on prozac for 10 months Now ive been off them for 6 months and am no longer riddled with selfharm thoughts or am i a emotional rollercoaster although i feel emotionally quite numb and detached.

I used to enjoy sex, had such a high sex drive and well now i practically dont have one which is destroying. My sex drive used to be at the point where pretty much ever woman i talked too turned flirty. Now im running a mile at anyone thats slighty flirty.

Ive been back to my doctors and a specialist which have pretty much said my previous actions/character were down to my illness.

Has anybody had a similar experience?

Standard. I was the same on citalopram. "

Clem i actually changed from citlopram to prozac, did it take long to get that urge back? Its not a unable to perform its a cant really be bothered to feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you got a really understanding friend with benefit?

So after my 4 year dry spell i was proper bricking it about getting back on it.. and said to my ex 'We are fucking tonight else its not gonna happen' as the longer i left it, the worse my anxiety would become.. If i was a shit shag he never had to see me again.. but if it was good and i enjoyed it.. WINNING..

turns out once i popped i couldnt stop

Maybe just force yourself to physically go through the emotions of sex.. see if that might re ignite anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prozac is well known for killing your libido.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The lack of MOJO could be nothing to do with medication could just be Covid..

Ive always thought i was fairly highly sexed but since March im just kinda 'off' the idea right now. x

Also very much this.

Could be your brain "protecting" you from frustration in that area. We all know we can't meet people so your subconscious could very well have taken that info and is doing what it feels it needs to do to make things as easy as possible

You could very much be correct with that. I dont have any worries in life im very very relaxed and have ridded my life of presure. Maybe it is this pandemic subconsciously effecting me.

"

Happens. Brains are tricky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm up and down, my illness causes me to have a manic sex drive one minute and nothing the next, struggle to keep an erection, thank fuck for sildenafil but can't cum. I've had numerous anti depressants, some make the erection issues worse than others but seem to not be as bad on my most recent meds

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm up and down, my illness causes me to have a manic sex drive one minute and nothing the next, struggle to keep an erection, thank fuck for sildenafil but can't cum. I've had numerous anti depressants, some make the erection issues worse than others but seem to not be as bad on my most recent meds "

I had those issues when i was on the meds but now im off them i can perform, get and maintain a erection & cum, its more the desire to do it thats been a issue for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it’s the pressure of sex. When I’m not feeling myself the pressure that comes with sex is enough to put me off. Sometimes just the thought of spending time with someone that understands is enough. Cuddles just laying there together or maybe kissing with no pressure of it going further at that time can be enough to awaken my sexual feelings again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm up and down, my illness causes me to have a manic sex drive one minute and nothing the next, struggle to keep an erection, thank fuck for sildenafil but can't cum. I've had numerous anti depressants, some make the erection issues worse than others but seem to not be as bad on my most recent meds

I had those issues when i was on the meds but now im off them i can perform, get and maintain a erection & cum, its more the desire to do it thats been a issue for me. "

How do you feel in yourself? Could this be a depression kicking in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've heard nothing but bad things about prozac including yours op seemingly they have made some people I know feel worse than before they took them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've heard nothing but bad things about prozac including yours op seemingly they have made some people I know feel worse than before they took them "

Any anti depressant makes you worse before they make you feel better. It's a known side effect, my increase in dosage at the minute is doing just that x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've heard nothing but bad things about prozac including yours op seemingly they have made some people I know feel worse than before they took them "

They definitely helped me i was on citalopram and they were terrible i was flat, sleepy, coulding function sexually, just felt zombied. Prozac suited me better, its just the 'sexual disire' is taking some time to come back.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"I've heard nothing but bad things about prozac including yours op seemingly they have made some people I know feel worse than before they took them

They definitely helped me i was on citalopram and they were terrible i was flat, sleepy, coulding function sexually, just felt zombied. Prozac suited me better, its just the 'sexual disire' is taking some time to come back. "

Would snuggly boobie hugs help

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've heard nothing but bad things about prozac including yours op seemingly they have made some people I know feel worse than before they took them

They definitely helped me i was on citalopram and they were terrible i was flat, sleepy, coulding function sexually, just felt zombied. Prozac suited me better, its just the 'sexual disire' is taking some time to come back.

Would snuggly boobie hugs help "

They would indeed

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"I've heard nothing but bad things about prozac including yours op seemingly they have made some people I know feel worse than before they took them

They definitely helped me i was on citalopram and they were terrible i was flat, sleepy, coulding function sexually, just felt zombied. Prozac suited me better, its just the 'sexual disire' is taking some time to come back.

Would snuggly boobie hugs help

They would indeed "

Have you got female friends who would be happy just to cuddle after a meal and watch movies ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on Fluoxetine for a while but it also had some rubbish side effects for me. I swapped to sertraline which has changed everything. Sometimes you have to try different ones to get the right one for you.

I agree with everyone else about the impact of COVID .... I certainly have lost my mojo too!

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"Serious gatsby post,

Last year i faced upto problems/ issues i had after 6 years and was on prozac for 10 months Now ive been off them for 6 months and am no longer riddled with selfharm thoughts or am i a emotional rollercoaster although i feel emotionally quite numb and detached.

I used to enjoy sex, had such a high sex drive and well now i practically dont have one which is destroying. My sex drive used to be at the point where pretty much ever woman i talked too turned flirty. Now im running a mile at anyone thats slighty flirty.

Ive been back to my doctors and a specialist which have pretty much said my previous actions/character were down to my illness.

Has anybody had a similar experience?

Standard. I was the same on citalopram.

Clem i actually changed from citlopram to prozac, did it take long to get that urge back? Its not a unable to perform its a cant really be bothered to feel "

I was on citalopram for years and only changed to fluoxetane as capsules were easier to swallow. Within 3 weeks I felt amazing. I'm still on it now, and recognise that I will always need to be on it. I just think that citalopram didn't work for me. I have no problems with my libido now, but I

I think I did previously, as I was always too down.

I hope things pick up for you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Citalopram rendered my penis completely lifeless.

Sertraline was much better for me in the sense I had no issues with getting hard but it made it very hard to orgasm

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By *AFBODMan
over a year ago

Woodhall Spa

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"Citalopram rendered my penis completely lifeless.

Sertraline was much better for me in the sense I had no issues with getting hard but it made it very hard to orgasm

"

A male friend of mine had the exact same issue with both. He used to stop taking it, because of this, with disastrous results.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I was on Citalopram for about a year when I was 24, it did initially help me out of the depression and anxiety I was going through but it made me feel very flat emotionally and I found I struggled to come when I was actually interested sexually.

The psychiatrist tried telling me I needed to stay on it if I wanted to get better when I had a meeting about coming off it. 14 years later I've never taken it again or felt I needed to.

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