FabSwingers.com forum: Should I let them

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My gf and I have a very sexy relationship and we enjoy having mmf meets, however a male friend she has played with in the past has left me wondering what to do.

We have agreed to meet as a threeaome but he has asked me to agree to fuck her alone first, the thought excites me a lot but still not sure, he’s even said I could watch via webcam think that would blow my mind.

What would you do??

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Ask your GF what she thinks first

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By *ove outsideCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Ask her what she thinks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She is very keen to fuck him alone then come back and fuck me

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By *eoeclipseWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

I think this is where you need to decide if you can mentally handle it or not.

if you cant then say so, she should understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

If everyone is ok with the scenario I'm not sure what the issue is?

Unless you have doubts. You definitely all need to be on the same page or it's likely to blow up in your faces.

Reality can be a whole lot different to the fantasy.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

"If everyone is ok with the scenario I'm not sure what the issue is?

Unless you have doubts. You definitely all need to be on the same page or it's likely to blow up in your faces.

Reality can be a whole lot different to the fantasy.

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like the start of an affair.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I wouldn't be letting someone outside my relationship dictate to me.

You say he's "even said I can watch via webcam"

. I'd be telling him to give his head a very big wobble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She is very keen to fuck him alone then come back and fuck me"

Would she ever let you fuck another woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She is very keen to fuck him alone then come back and fuck me

Would she ever let you fuck another woman "

Also if she’s that keen on this guy will they be fucking without your consent or knowledge

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By *ad-HunterMan
over a year ago

near Watford / hemel / St Albans

Been in this situation myself but I placed the lad there myself whilst I went to work on nights and I can tell you now it done my head in. even though he was still there as arranged and we had a 3some before I slept but each day I left for work they trotted off upstairs whilst I dealt with the mental anguish .

I'd say DON'T DO IT as much as I LOVED the 3somes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks fir your views she is happy for me to play with knowledge with a female and the meet would be arranged though it would turn me on right now do my head in

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

If in doubt, don’t do it. Your gut instinct is telling you something, so listen to it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If in doubt, don’t do it. Your gut instinct is telling you something, so listen to it."

Yeah very true

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

When it stops being fun and doubts creep in, its time for you two as a couple to have a honest chat about both of your wants, remember that the couple should always come first when adding playmates

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

That's really considerate of him to let you watch !

Sounds like there might be more to it and who is he to dictate terms if it's your gf ?

Is she actually a proper gf (you've got a singles profile) or more someone you occasionally meet for sex ?

Good luck either way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the fact you ve queried it here and in your head that Id say your mind is worried about it...even if you re not registering it as worry...if you need to ask then you also need to think..imo bud.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you don’t want to do is agree to something that you can’t recover from. And you might be trying to be at ease with it because you know she’d have a good time. But if you know you can’t deal with it, you have to be honest with yourself.

If you do go through with it, she should have her phone with her and on loud so if you change your mind, she can stop and come back to you immediately.

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

Communication...communication...communication!

(I’m doing my best Tony Blair impression whilst saying that and slapping the back of one hand into the other for emphasis)

If after discussing the scenario in detail with your GF, if either of you have doubts, don’t do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Communication...communication...communication!

(I’m doing my best Tony Blair impression whilst saying that and slapping the back of one hand into the other for emphasis)

If after discussing the scenario in detail with your GF, if either of you have doubts, don’t do it.

but also

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

Literally need to talk out every detail with her so you have no doubts in your mind at all. Any little doubt will put your mind in overdrive and make you go crazy. We had a list of dos and donts and then relayed them to the guy and these were non negotiable. The first time i was at work and it drove me mad not knowing what was happening but i agreed to try again and it does get easier as you tend to build trust if its with the same person.

I feel alot more comfortable with it these days and the reclaim sex is out this world

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Literally need to talk out every detail with her so you have no doubts in your mind at all. Any little doubt will put your mind in overdrive and make you go crazy. We had a list of dos and donts and then relayed them to the guy and these were non negotiable. The first time i was at work and it drove me mad not knowing what was happening but i agreed to try again and it does get easier as you tend to build trust if its with the same person.

I feel alot more comfortable with it these days and the reclaim sex is out this world

Thanks helps a lot

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By *iceButtSlimMan
over a year ago

somewhere

I feel alot more comfortable with it these days and the reclaim sex is out this world

I agree with this, it is all about trust and communication. When the wife went on her first play meet alone there were rules and I had mixed feelings at the time. Gradually over time these rules have eased and brought new mixed emotions. But now it is at that stage of do what you're comfortable with but don't hide it, infact send as many pictures as you can.

For us though it's never been with an ex, so I can imagine your situation can be a little bit different on the emotional front.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well it’s not a ex ex just a guy she played with in the past think we will set some guidelines for the meet and when I’m ready will let them play.

Know will get very worked up as I watch but the thought of her coming up filled up our sex would be amazing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course what your wife says is crucial, but it sounds to me as this guy's making a standard power grab for your wife. He'll soon be wanting to dispense with the webcam, then you'll be asked to go out when he's around, then she'll be staying at his for the weekend etc. He'll be getting off on your humiliation. It's a standard progression that you can see on the web - Our Hot Wives etc. All that might turn you on right now, but you should know what's coming.

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

"Of course what your wife says is crucial, but it sounds to me as this guy's making a standard power grab for your wife. He'll soon be wanting to dispense with the webcam, then you'll be asked to go out when he's around, then she'll be staying at his for the weekend etc. He'll be getting off on your humiliation. It's a standard progression that you can see on the web - Our Hot Wives etc. All that might turn you on right now, but you should know what's coming."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never do anything that makes you feel in any way uncomfortable. It will only lead to resentment and problems in your relationship. If something feels wrong, 9 times out of 10 it'll still feel wrong.

Stick to your guns. Communicate with your partner, not the 3rd party as to what feels right/good for both of you.

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

"I wouldn't be letting someone outside my relationship dictate to me.

You say he's "even said I can watch via webcam"

. I'd be telling him to give his head a very big wobble"

Absolutely this

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

I personally think if you have to ask in a group for their advice, then I think you shouldn't do it. If you no you would enjoy it then youd already have made up your mind

Mr Gs

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By *otmale5Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Don’t ask us what we would do. Discuss this with your partner. Most of all, do not let him dictate pace. It may well excite you at the thought of her having sex with him alone but you could get yourself into a situation which your not comfortable with.. discuss with your partner.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Whose problem is it and why? Go from there

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

While I can see the "thrill" in what's been suggested OP - be very very careful before you even contemplate going down that route.

Threesomes where you're both there and can make that "connection" with your partner still are one thing, a "Hotwife" scenario where you get to hear the detail after (or the detail they want to let you know anyway) are quite another.

Don't get me wrong, it works for some and is a big thing for them - but it can also be an incredible mindfuck that leads to resentment, insecurity and worse.

So first of all *you* need to be 100% sure it's something *you* are comfortable with, and that's not something you can decide overnight, or even in a couple of days, live with the idea for a number of weeks and really, and I mean really, think about it, how you think it will make you feel, whether you can cope with the idea of your partner being with someone else while you're left at home wondering, what you think of the other guy, how it will feel when she comes home and tells you what an amazing time she had and how many times he made her cum etc. Imagine in your head the worst possible scenario and ask yourself if you could cope.

Once you're sure, then sit down and discuss it with your partner, and again really talk it through and get an understanding of her thoughts on it, what she thinks about the other guy, how she sees it happening and how often, whether she'd expect to stay with him overnight, whether she'd want to socialise with him or just see him for sex etc, what boundaries you both think should apply.

If you said "no, I don't think this is what I want" even after you've agreed it, or after she's met him at any point, what do you think she'd say?

Of course there's an element of you won't know unless you try about this, but you need to be sure that (a) you're happy to take that step and (b) that if you take it you can back away from it at *any* point.

One thing that is for sure though - you should absolutely not allow the other guy to dictate any "terms" yes he's part of it, and should rightly have a say in any discussions, but they should fall within any boundaries you and your partner agree between you and if they fall outside those boundaries they should be completely non-negotiable.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Never understood why people ask strangers for advice that's personal to them. None of us will be affected if this goes tits up so discuss it with those involved.

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By *r and Mrs PenguinCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

It will blow ur mind. Haha.

This is how myself and Mr P started out our solo play.

It was only meant to be oral, giving and receiving but got rather hot and when Mr p asked would I like to fuck him while he watched, why would a girl have to think twice about that right?.

Hehe xx.

We have now done this many many times. With the same guy.

We are all very comfortable with the dynamic and it's very natural now. If we can not cam because of timings then we send lots of video clips as well as record the whole thing x x x

For us/me it is amazing.

We are yet to meet as a 3sum as we live in spain, I travel regular to uk so this is how we enjoy our meets and Mr p joins when it's possible for him to take the trip over for meets. X x

Set ur boundaries and talk about it before it happens.

I can guarantee u will need a dry pair of shorts after wards. Lol..

Tip....

Make sure u know what u want to see before setting up the cam, it's not fun to keep stopping and starting. Mr p loves my face, my reactions, especially when I look at him and speak to him on cam while it's happening. Feeling involved is key. X x

Hope u guys enjoy it as much as we do. X x x

Mrs p. X x x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It will blow ur mind. Haha.

This is how myself and Mr P started out our solo play.

It was only meant to be oral, giving and receiving but got rather hot and when Mr p asked would I like to fuck him while he watched, why would a girl have to think twice about that right?.

Hehe xx.

We have now done this many many times. With the same guy.

We are all very comfortable with the dynamic and it's very natural now. If we can not cam because of timings then we send lots of video clips as well as record the whole thing x x x

For us/me it is amazing.

We are yet to meet as a 3sum as we live in spain, I travel regular to uk so this is how we enjoy our meets and Mr p joins when it's possible for him to take the trip over for meets. X x

Set ur boundaries and talk about it before it happens.

I can guarantee u will need a dry pair of shorts after wards. Lol..

Tip....

Hope u guys enjoy it as much as we do. X x x

Mrs p. X x x "

Great insight and many thanks for the advice very much appreciated xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *ooking for fun30Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Think long and hard (no pun intended) if thats what you both want. Then do it. But if one of your is uncomfortable with it for a second then don’t do it. Have a chat with your girl friend about it.

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