FabSwingers.com forum: Nice guys finish last

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know that it is a cliche but still to this day I do think that the nicer you are, you do finish last.. girls still today prefer the Bad Lads

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I know that it is a cliche but still to this day I do think that the nicer you are, you do finish last.. girls still today prefer the Bad Lads

That's actually really not true...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know that it is a cliche but still to this day I do think that the nicer you are, you do finish last.. girls still today prefer the Bad Lads

Where do you get your facts from OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know that it is a cliche but still to this day I do think that the nicer you are, you do finish last.. girls still today prefer the Bad Lads

That's actually really not true..."
this....some do sone dont

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I walk away from bad lads, they can keep the drama they create away from me.

Nice men all the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope not true at all.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Nah, nice as a defining feature is just boring. Definitely not into so called bad boys

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Because I seem to receive messages that I am too nice and I need to rough myself up a little bit and when I messaged them back and ask what do they mean. They tell me that I need to be a bad guy to get anywhere

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's like I've noticed on here when people actually reply on the forum when I click on their profile straight away it says I cannot view their profile and it's not due to any age criteria

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't buy that. But then I don't think everyone is totally nice or bad. And I think being over-nice can come across as a bit fake and off putting.

I wouldn't say I was 'nice' and my rock n' roll mad and bad days are well and truly behind me. I would like to think I was a 'decent bloke' and I'm not going to muck anyone around. Aim for being decent.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

There is a difference between being nice and being 'too nice' where it feels a bit like smothering. Especially if you haven't met someone before I find it can be a tricky balance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it's just good manners to let the lady cum her brains out first

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby

Well i'm nice and seem to be having the most amazing journey ever so it is just not true

I do always finish last though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it's nice to be nice"

As true today as always.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It's like I've noticed on here when people actually reply on the forum when I click on their profile straight away it says I cannot view their profile and it's not due to any age criteria

I don't understand this. Do you think people are blocking you or hiding their profile because you're too nice?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As anyone can see from my videos on the sea from my pictures I'm not one of the Bad Lads that's going to get his cock out

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

"Because I seem to receive messages that I am too nice and I need to rough myself up a little bit and when I messaged them back and ask what do they mean. They tell me that I need to be a bad guy to get anywhere

That is their opinion - not everyones. Just be yourself

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Well i'm nice and seem to be having the most amazing journey ever so it is just not true

I do always finish last though

Do ladies really ever finish though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought this was going to be about Greenday

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

Tend to agree to a point op, if you are considerate and selfless without a rough edge to you then you do tend to be at the back of the pack. Of course there are exceptions as always and i think when it comes to finding a sexual partner(s) then it is even more so. For long term i believe it is somewhat different however.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

"Well i'm nice and seem to be having the most amazing journey ever so it is just not true

I do always finish last though

As a gentleman should

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know that it is a cliche but still to this day I do think that the nicer you are, you do finish last.. girls still today prefer the Bad Lads

Where do you get your facts from OP? "

He didn't say it was fact.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"As anyone can see from my videos on the sea from my pictures I'm not one of the Bad Lads that's going to get his cock out

Getting your cock out makes you a bad boy? I'd better change my profile

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By *borofucktoyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Any guy can finish last good or bad,just find a breathing technique that suits you..or have I missed the point here?

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By *borofucktoyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"As anyone can see from my videos on the sea from my pictures I'm not one of the Bad Lads that's going to get his cock out

Getting your cock out makes you a bad boy? I'd better change my profile

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if this is a fact I must be a mob boss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They

Dont

Possibly some of those who think they are nice guys actually aren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's like I've noticed on here when people actually reply on the forum when I click on their profile straight away it says I cannot view their profile and it's not due to any age criteria

That because people have filters to limit the messages they get to people that are more likely to fit what they are looking for.

Its doesn't have anything to do with whether you are a nice guy or not.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Surely it’s confident and amusing guys who are attractive. A mix of Chandler in Friends with the arrogant confidence of Harvey Spector in Suits.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not saying if you get your cock out straight away means that your bad lad it's just that I come to the conclusion that a lot of the time I'm I have received a messages telling me that I'm too nice I'm too cute but not their cup of tea and then it's like... how do I change

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I don’t subscribe to that theory at all.

But then I’m a winner

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Everyone has got an opinion on this, everyone is different. This is just how I feel will with receiving messages back from people

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

"I'm not saying if you get your cock out straight away means that your bad lad it's just that I come to the conclusion that a lot of the time I'm I have received a messages telling me that I'm too nice I'm too cute but not their cup of tea and then it's like... how do I change

You don't change!! They are just not the right fit for you! I certainly don't go for every guy that messages me whether they are in the good or bad category

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

You don't, you find people who are looking for someone like you rather than changing to suit people who aren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kinda agree with the OP here. I've seen so many women end up with the local idiots and dr*g addicts. I can usually foresee what is going to happen sooner or later down the line. They won't pick a good man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You shouldn’t take things to heart on forums/social media or it will drive you insane

Be happy with who you are and what god gave you. You been brought up to be respectful and all that which good.

I classify myself as a gent and nice/etc. Different story behind closed doors though

haha

#TeamGent

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I kinda agree with the OP here. I've seen so many women end up with the local idiots and dr*g addicts. I can usually foresee what is going to happen sooner or later down the line. They won't pick a good man. "

But before anyone says it everyone one has got their own mindset on who they want to be with we can't change their minds so to speak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just have to be a nice man with edge, like you’re a gentleman but at any given moment you can knock some sense into someone who’s threatening you and your lady, women love that

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Can I ask if it's the same with women as I'm trying to figure out why I can't get a relationship?? Other than the fact I'm a complete psycho ofcourse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice girls always finish last to OP

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Just be yourself don’t change for anybody. Especially for the negative.

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

"Can I ask if it's the same with women as I'm trying to figure out why I can't get a relationship?? Other than the fact I'm a complete psycho ofcourse

It is a really shit time to find a relationship god knows I've been trying long enough to no effect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just throw in a few throat chops when you meet. Win win situation

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Just have to be a nice man with edge, like you’re a gentleman but at any given moment you can knock some sense into someone who’s threatening you and your lady, women love that "

Erm no. I don't do violence. Massive deal breaker for me.

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By *borofucktoyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Never think you should change to suit someone else's preferences,unless were talking about a toxic quality which this isnt! For every woman chasing a bad boy there's one that's sick of them.

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

Been through this mindset myself at times. But eventually you just accept and realise you are who you are and if others don't like it then you move on. Everyone has their own tastes but there's someone out there for everyone. Better to be true and yourself than false because it's what you think someone else wants.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"I know that it is a cliche but still to this day I do think that the nicer you are, you do finish last.. girls still today prefer the Bad Lads

Not the women’s I know!

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Just throw in a few throat chops when you meet. Win win situation

Must admit this made me laugh

Calm down Hong kong fuey!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I don't like the bad lads, I have a very lovely one here at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just throw in a few throat chops when you meet. Win win situation

Must admit this made me laugh

Calm down Hong kong fuey! "

Been watching Cobra Kai

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know that it is a cliche but still to this day I do think that the nicer you are, you do finish last.. girls still today prefer the Bad Lads

Shy guys finish last, don't be shy and they're over looked because of lack of confidence, they go unnoticed, be a nice guy, be a gentleman, own it and have confidence in yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just have to be a nice man with edge, like you’re a gentleman but at any given moment you can knock some sense into someone who’s threatening you and your lady, women love that "

Thats not true for me. Any violence towards anyone and I'm gone.

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By *inaryGuyMan
over a year ago

Near the River

Sometimes being nice gets confused with shyness, less outgoing, less assertiveness etc. It’s a jungle in fabland where guys vastly outnumber women, who are inundated with messages and so it can be difficult to get noticed

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By *EXY_PILOTMan
over a year ago

Manchester, North West, UK

"I know that it is a cliche but still to this day I do think that the nicer you are, you do finish last.. girls still today prefer the Bad Lads

Agree with you, it gives me great satisfaction when my partner has cummed first and me 2nd!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I promise you that that’s not that case with me. I don’t understand the whole “bad boy” thing

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By *irsty bTV/TS
over a year ago

blackpool

Not all girls like bad lads give me a nice guy anytime

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I know that it is a cliche but still to this day I do think that the nicer you are, you do finish last.. girls still today prefer the Bad Lads

Not true, I'd say that you might be using that as an excuse for not having luck with the ladies.

Some ladies will like a bad lad others won't and you can't have a one size fits all for people's preferences

Sometimes you've got to look at yourself before finding an easy way to take the blame away,

Good luck anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just have to be a nice man with edge, like you’re a gentleman but at any given moment you can knock some sense into someone who’s threatening you and your lady, women love that "

Wrong on many levels

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Its down to the people you are engaging with, their preferences and how they view you from your profile and interactions with them.

A couple messaged us expressing interest in play, and then told us they were likely too extreme for us! I mean I suppose it could be true, but.... ifs a first for me to be told Im not extreme enough!

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By *he Yorkshire StripperMan
over a year ago

Laceby

You’re a good looking guy...just be yourself then the people you attract see the real you.

Pretending to be something you are not on FAB is a potential disaster. As if you meet they could expect to you to be someone you aren’t.

I suppose it depends on what type of messages you are sending people. Being overly nice may be considered boring.

Be polite, keep the conversation going and just go with the flow.

Use the site for your means, don’t let it take over your life and drag you down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nah, nice as a defining feature is just boring. Definitely not into so called bad boys

If the only thing a guy has going for him is that he's "nice", then he's probably not very interesting.

And then there's the fact that if someone has to tell you that they're nice, maybe they're not actually very nice.

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby

"Well i'm nice and seem to be having the most amazing journey ever so it is just not true

I do always finish last though

Do ladies really ever finish though?

That is so true they really dont and thats fine by me

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby

"Well i'm nice and seem to be having the most amazing journey ever so it is just not true

I do always finish last though

As a gentleman should

Of course a gentleman will always allow a lady to go first

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"I know that it is a cliche but still to this day I do think that the nicer you are, you do finish last.. girls still today prefer the Bad Lads

Not true at all.

But then does anyone who is classed as a bad guy by others actually see themselves as one. Highly unlikely for most I'd say most will still claim they are nice.

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By *hezuMan
over a year ago

London

Maybe you're nice like if they fucked you it'd feel like they were fucking their dad lol because the whole personality is based on being nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I disagree the guys who I’ve met have appeared to be nice guys at the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah...we all like different things.

No one appeals to everyone.

Everyone appeals to someone.

Focus on those who ARE interested and less on those who aren't.

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By *eeky goodnessMan
over a year ago

Worcester

The whole too nice thing....I’ve got a good one from when I was in my early 20’s.... “you know your too nice...you’ll probably d*e alone” from my then girlfriend talking about me ...who had been drinking I will say.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Just have to be a nice man with edge, like you’re a gentleman but at any given moment you can knock some sense into someone who’s threatening you and your lady, women love that "

No they don’t!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The whole too nice thing....I’ve got a good one from when I was in my early 20’s.... “you know your too nice...you’ll probably d*e alone” from my then girlfriend talking about me ...who had been drinking I will say.

I genuinely cannot understand how you are single...

I'm sure as shit you won't stay that way tho, some lucky girl will snap you up!

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

As long as you are not a doormat or push over, it's possible to win. I've heard time and time again, the man "does everything I say" and it always ends with the woman walking away.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Let’s not get confused. Yes ladies like quiet confident not arrogance. They don’t want bad guys.

Don’t confuse all this with quiet shyness. That won’t get you very far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I disagree the guys who I’ve met have appeared to be nice guys at the time "

Appear to nice ? So they were bad boys ?

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By *eeky goodnessMan
over a year ago

Worcester

I genuinely cannot understand how you are single...

I'm sure as shit you won't stay that way tho, some lucky girl will snap you up!

You are always so sweet Lu

I have my own theories

But we will see what the future brings

Double G

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By *andystick72Man
over a year ago

kinky Street

Manners and respect

Not selfish in the bedroom

Always put the lady first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genuinely cannot understand how you are single...

I'm sure as shit you won't stay that way tho, some lucky girl will snap you up!

You are always so sweet Lu

I have my own theories

But we will see what the future brings

Double G

She has to deserve you...

So she'll have to be super awesome!

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By *eeky goodnessMan
over a year ago

Worcester

I genuinely cannot understand how you are single...

I'm sure as shit you won't stay that way tho, some lucky girl will snap you up!

You are always so sweet Lu

I have my own theories

But we will see what the future brings

Double G

She has to deserve you...

So she'll have to be super awesome!

Will you come judge If she does Lu?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it does seem that the kinds of male profiles with the most verifications from meets are also the ones you might expect to see driving a 150k supercar around a council estate. So yeah, probably onto something there OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genuinely cannot understand how you are single...

I'm sure as shit you won't stay that way tho, some lucky girl will snap you up!

You are always so sweet Lu

I have my own theories

But we will see what the future brings

Double G

She has to deserve you...

So she'll have to be super awesome!

Will you come judge If she does Lu?

I expect to be on the girlfriend vetting panel

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Well it does seem that the kinds of male profiles with the most verifications from meets are also the ones you might expect to see driving a 150k supercar around a council estate. So yeah, probably onto something there OP. "

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By *eeky goodnessMan
over a year ago

Worcester

I genuinely cannot understand how you are single...

I'm sure as shit you won't stay that way tho, some lucky girl will snap you up!

You are always so sweet Lu

I have my own theories

But we will see what the future brings

Double G

She has to deserve you...

So she'll have to be super awesome!

Will you come judge If she does Lu?

I expect to be on the girlfriend vetting panel

Aha would you like to be the head judge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice guys always finish last. Selfless guys, first. Usually within 5 minutes while the woman finishes last with a toy lol!

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