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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That some men think women on here are just prostitutes when they read profiles of women that state the man must pay for the hotel room or for the social meet, i.e, a meal out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't realise profiles had that type of thing written on them

But then again, I tend to just look at the pics

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I didn't realise profiles had that type of thing written on them

But then again, I tend to just look at the pics "

Some have a whole load of things they expect the man to pay for

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By *aybeyou2Man
over a year ago

chorley

There are a lot of prostitutes on here to be fair.

My inbox is full of offers!

Provided I’m paying! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't realise profiles had that type of thing written on them

But then again, I tend to just look at the pics

Some have a whole load of things they expect the man to pay for "

Well I suppose somethings may be reasonable, but I'd definitely draw the line at paying for her post coitus covid test

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a few female profiles that say I’ll meet in a hotel at your cost. I’ve seen them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are a few female profiles that say I’ll meet in a hotel at your cost. I’ve seen them. "

There's also countless profiles straight up asking for money and linking amazon wishlists etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are a few female profiles that say I’ll meet in a hotel at your cost. I’ve seen them. "

Me too. I think it’s wrong personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are a few female profiles that say I’ll meet in a hotel at your cost. I’ve seen them.

There's also countless profiles straight up asking for money and linking amazon wishlists etc "

Yeah I’ve seen the Amazon wish lists! Haha. Bloody cheek!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are a few female profiles that say I’ll meet in a hotel at your cost. I’ve seen them.

Me too. I think it’s wrong personally."

Me too. But if men are dumb enough to do it then good on them if that’s what they want! I’m the opposite I have to pay half of everything!

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

It's up to others how they write their profiles. No one is forcing anyone to message these ladies who ask for payment.

We believe in live and let live

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There are a few female profiles that say I’ll meet in a hotel at your cost. I’ve seen them.

There's also countless profiles straight up asking for money and linking amazon wishlists etc "

I’ve never seen a man’s profile asking for payment or Amazon wish lists

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"There are a few female profiles that say I’ll meet in a hotel at your cost. I’ve seen them.

There's also countless profiles straight up asking for money and linking amazon wishlists etc

Yeah I’ve seen the Amazon wish lists! Haha. Bloody cheek!"

I message them with 'Best wishes'

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

Understandable? Yes in so much as i understand people are a weird bunch. Acceptable? No to a degree and not just because a guy shouldn't treat a woman on here as a prostitute but they shouldn't enable an attitude in someone that says they SHOULD be spoilt. In my view fab and sites like it are for consenting adults to engage in their fantasies. Such a fantasy could of include spoiling or being spoilt but that is a world apart from prostitution which i suppose could form part of a fantasy too but if that's what someone wants then why practice it here? There are red light areas for that. The difficulty is that in any situation where money is involved there is a sense by at least one party that something is owed and as it is not lawful to pay for sex and if the "deal" is not clear then one or more parties can be putting themselves at risk.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Really? Jesus - I'd always go halves for things as thats only fair! That was even when I was with my partner too which was a bugbear of his that I had to pay my way with everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are a few female profiles that say I’ll meet in a hotel at your cost. I’ve seen them.

There's also countless profiles straight up asking for money and linking amazon wishlists etc

I’ve never seen a man’s profile asking for payment or Amazon wish lists "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's up to others how they write their profiles. No one is forcing anyone to message these ladies who ask for payment.

We believe in live and let live "

Well yes but I believe it’s against site rules x

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I can see how it may create a grey area, and the only way to combat that would be to state quite clearly that sex is not guaranteed or possibly even on the cards regardless of if he has paid for XYZ.

I don't think that's wrong as such if that's how someone wants to handle their meets, but it's how it's gone about. If you're chatting to someone with a view to meeting and one party can't afford it til payday say, but the other person says fuck it, don't worry I'll pay then cool. But if it's like a demand then to me it's cringey as fuck, like they think they're better than someone else, so much so they're like a celebrity attending a book signing or some shit they get paid for. I can totally see how that can be misjudged and give men the impression women are prostitutes coz effectively in that demandy scenario they're paying for someone's time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a tough one, I personally wouldn't pay a woman for sex, or engage with a person demanding I pay for this and that. But on the other hand, I have paid for hotels rooms, coffee's and drinks, but that's because AI offered, and wasn't with the expectations of getting some nookie. I've done split down the middle also. There's many factors that would come into it, like who's travelled farthest, how well we knew each other to name a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's up to others how they write their profiles. No one is forcing anyone to message these ladies who ask for payment.

We believe in live and let live "

Well no, because it's against the site rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a tough one, I personally wouldn't pay a woman for sex, or engage with a person demanding I pay for this and that. But on the other hand, I have paid for hotels rooms, coffee's and drinks, but that's because AI offered, and wasn't with the expectations of getting some nookie. I've done split down the middle also. There's many factors that would come into it, like who's travelled farthest, how well we knew each other to name a couple. "

Yeah I agree with this. I used to meet someone a lot whose travel was expensive so I’d pay for the hotel etc. And I’ve had meals paid for me but I’ve also paid. To demand it though is different.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"It's a tough one, I personally wouldn't pay a woman for sex, or engage with a person demanding I pay for this and that. But on the other hand, I have paid for hotels rooms, coffee's and drinks, but that's because AI offered, and wasn't with the expectations of getting some nookie. I've done split down the middle also. There's many factors that would come into it, like who's travelled farthest, how well we knew each other to name a couple. "

I agree. It's more of a "thing" you arrange between you depending of varying factors, not a demand or requirement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel left out. I never get approached by prostitutes. I can’t say I have ever clicked on a prostitutes profile either.. they must have me blocked

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I feel left out. I never get approached by prostitutes. I can’t say I have ever clicked on a prostitutes profile either.. they must have me blocked "

They just don't take payment in bottles of snake oil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a tough one, I personally wouldn't pay a woman for sex, or engage with a person demanding I pay for this and that. But on the other hand, I have paid for hotels rooms, coffee's and drinks, but that's because AI offered, and wasn't with the expectations of getting some nookie. I've done split down the middle also. There's many factors that would come into it, like who's travelled farthest, how well we knew each other to name a couple.

Yeah I agree with this. I used to meet someone a lot whose travel was expensive so I’d pay for the hotel etc. And I’ve had meals paid for me but I’ve also paid. To demand it though is different. "

Yes, that is where I'd stand with things really, makes sense. But that's all circumstances at the time and agreement before hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel left out. I never get approached by prostitutes. I can’t say I have ever clicked on a prostitutes profile either.. they must have me blocked

They just don't take payment in bottles of snake oil "

Pfft no taste

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel left out. I never get approached by prostitutes. I can’t say I have ever clicked on a prostitutes profile either.. they must have me blocked "

They must of blocked me too as I've neither been approached or seen these profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a tough one, I personally wouldn't pay a woman for sex, or engage with a person demanding I pay for this and that. But on the other hand, I have paid for hotels rooms, coffee's and drinks, but that's because AI offered, and wasn't with the expectations of getting some nookie. I've done split down the middle also. There's many factors that would come into it, like who's travelled farthest, how well we knew each other to name a couple.

I agree. It's more of a "thing" you arrange between you depending of varying factors, not a demand or requirement. "

Yes, and each situation would be different, and definitely not a demand or requirement from either party.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can see how it may create a grey area, and the only way to combat that would be to state quite clearly that sex is not guaranteed or possibly even on the cards regardless of if he has paid for XYZ.

I don't think that's wrong as such if that's how someone wants to handle their meets, but it's how it's gone about. If you're chatting to someone with a view to meeting and one party can't afford it til payday say, but the other person says fuck it, don't worry I'll pay then cool. But if it's like a demand then to me it's cringey as fuck, like they think they're better than someone else, so much so they're like a celebrity attending a book signing or some shit they get paid for. I can totally see how that can be misjudged and give men the impression women are prostitutes coz effectively in that demandy scenario they're paying for someone's time.

"

Exactly this

Demands on a profile are different to two people deciding between themselves how they are going to sort things like hotel rooms etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anyway, can anyone help me set up an Amazon wish list please

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

Just that some women recognise their power to choose and impose the filters that they can. Such ladies tend to be authors of the ranty profiles as well, yawn.....

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Shit, we're doing this all wrong! Errrrrrr......

A cutlery set

A designer bathroom rug

Pans

A VHS recorder

A cuddly toy (hurraaaaaay!)

Oh, and a speedboat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jeez I must be doing this wrong

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Shit, we're doing this all wrong! Errrrrrr......

A cutlery set

A designer bathroom rug

Pans

A VHS recorder

A cuddly toy (hurraaaaaay!)

Oh, and a speedboat "

You forgot the fondue

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I see it as no different and just as bad as the "entitlement" that is often aimed at men that expect meets to be honest.

Agree that each to their own profile and how they manage it, but expecting (as opposed to accepting when offered because a guy *wants to) a guy to pay for everything to me is a form of "entitlement" too.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Shit, we're doing this all wrong! Errrrrrr......

A cutlery set

A designer bathroom rug

Pans

A VHS recorder

A cuddly toy (hurraaaaaay!)

Oh, and a speedboat

You forgot the fondue "

One hundred and eighty!! Shit, wrong gameshow

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By *uriousBiSiMan
over a year ago

aldershot


"There are a few female profiles that say I’ll meet in a hotel at your cost. I’ve seen them.

Me too. I think it’s wrong personally.

Me too. But if men are dumb enough to do it then good on them if that’s what they want! I’m the opposite I have to pay half of everything!"

I’ve had a few meets a girl and was asked for a donation. Which I did and still do. Call me stupid if you like but I don’t get any invites any were else.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"There are a few female profiles that say I’ll meet in a hotel at your cost. I’ve seen them.

Me too. I think it’s wrong personally.

Me too. But if men are dumb enough to do it then good on them if that’s what they want! I’m the opposite I have to pay half of everything!

I’ve had a few meets a girl and was asked for a donation. Which I did and still do. Call me stupid if you like but I don’t get any invites any were else. "

Being asked for a "donation" and it being demanded on a profile that you pay for everything are two slightly different things though - personally I wouldn't entertain the latter but if someone asked me to pay half the costs as part of the discussion about meeting then that is slightly different and would be most welcome - it's what I usually prefer to do anyway.

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By *uriousBiSiMan
over a year ago

aldershot


"There are a few female profiles that say I’ll meet in a hotel at your cost. I’ve seen them.

Me too. I think it’s wrong personally.

Me too. But if men are dumb enough to do it then good on them if that’s what they want! I’m the opposite I have to pay half of everything!

I’ve had a few meets a girl and was asked for a donation. Which I did and still do. Call me stupid if you like but I don’t get any invites any were else.

Being asked for a "donation" and it being demanded on a profile that you pay for everything are two slightly different things though - personally I wouldn't entertain the latter but if someone asked me to pay half the costs as part of the discussion about meeting then that is slightly different and would be most welcome - it's what I usually prefer to do anyway."

I don’t mind paying the donation. It’s cheaper than getting an escort and the sex is good but I’d rather not be paying sorry giving a donation. Don’t get me wrong if there are genuine expenses (hotel for one ) I’d be more than happy to pay my share.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"There are a few female profiles that say I’ll meet in a hotel at your cost. I’ve seen them.

Me too. I think it’s wrong personally.

Me too. But if men are dumb enough to do it then good on them if that’s what they want! I’m the opposite I have to pay half of everything!

I’ve had a few meets a girl and was asked for a donation. Which I did and still do. Call me stupid if you like but I don’t get any invites any were else.

Being asked for a "donation" and it being demanded on a profile that you pay for everything are two slightly different things though - personally I wouldn't entertain the latter but if someone asked me to pay half the costs as part of the discussion about meeting then that is slightly different and would be most welcome - it's what I usually prefer to do anyway.

I don’t mind paying the donation. It’s cheaper than getting an escort and the sex is good but I’d rather not be paying sorry giving a donation. Don’t get me wrong if there are genuine expenses (hotel for one ) I’d be more than happy to pay my share. "

Oh you didn't mean a donation to costs? More a "donation"? Then personally not for me and also against site rules

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By *uriousBiSiMan
over a year ago

aldershot


"There are a few female profiles that say I’ll meet in a hotel at your cost. I’ve seen them.

Me too. I think it’s wrong personally.

Me too. But if men are dumb enough to do it then good on them if that’s what they want! I’m the opposite I have to pay half of everything!

I’ve had a few meets a girl and was asked for a donation. Which I did and still do. Call me stupid if you like but I don’t get any invites any were else.

Being asked for a "donation" and it being demanded on a profile that you pay for everything are two slightly different things though - personally I wouldn't entertain the latter but if someone asked me to pay half the costs as part of the discussion about meeting then that is slightly different and would be most welcome - it's what I usually prefer to do anyway.

I don’t mind paying the donation. It’s cheaper than getting an escort and the sex is good but I’d rather not be paying sorry giving a donation. Don’t get me wrong if there are genuine expenses (hotel for one ) I’d be more than happy to pay my share.

Oh you didn't mean a donation to costs? More a "donation"? Then personally not for me and also against site rules "

I know but if I didn’t “make a donation” I’d have the choice of seeing escorts (nah) or DIY (getting bored of that)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it understandable

That some men think women on here are just prostitutes when they read profiles of women that state the man must pay for the hotel room or for the social meet, i.e, a meal out?

"

It's believable that a small minority of men would judge all women on here by the demands and expectations of a few. Just as a minority of women on here might judge all the men as abusive because of the degrading messages they get from a few...but that doesn't make either judgement understandable to most reasonable people on here...at least I hope it doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No its not understandable that some men think the woman on here are prostitutes just because the small majority of women on her ask for money or gifts.

Iv been offered money several times and absolutely nothing on my profile suggests thats what I'm looking for.

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By *eachAndyMan
over a year ago

Studland


"That some men think women on here are just prostitutes when they read profiles of women that state the man must pay for the hotel room or for the social meet, i.e, a meal out?

"

A lovely lady I know from here was actually offered money for a meet recently! Interested to find out if this is something you lovely ladies get offered on here and thoughts...

My thoughts FYI very very very odd and very disrespectful.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"That some men think women on here are just prostitutes when they read profiles of women that state the man must pay for the hotel room or for the social meet, i.e, a meal out?

A lovely lady I know from here was actually offered money for a meet recently! Interested to find out if this is something you lovely ladies get offered on here and thoughts...

My thoughts FYI very very very odd and very disrespectful.

"

Yes, we've been offered money and asked what I charge for various sexual favours. Delete!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That some men think women on here are just prostitutes when they read profiles of women that state the man must pay for the hotel room or for the social meet, i.e, a meal out?

A lovely lady I know from here was actually offered money for a meet recently! Interested to find out if this is something you lovely ladies get offered on here and thoughts...

My thoughts FYI very very very odd and very disrespectful.

"

Yes its not uncommon and alot of women have these kinds of messages.

Not alot though, iv been here 3 years and probably had 5 or 6 of these.

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By *eachAndyMan
over a year ago

Studland


"That some men think women on here are just prostitutes when they read profiles of women that state the man must pay for the hotel room or for the social meet, i.e, a meal out?

A lovely lady I know from here was actually offered money for a meet recently! Interested to find out if this is something you lovely ladies get offered on here and thoughts...

My thoughts FYI very very very odd and very disrespectful.

Yes, we've been offered money and asked what I charge for various sexual favours. Delete! "

Wow, well on behalf of the not so f'd upped guys out there I apologise, pretty new to this but absolutely certain that's not what this site is for.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"No its not understandable that some men think the woman on here are prostitutes just because the small minority of women on her ask for money or gifts.

Iv been offered money several times and absolutely nothing on my profile suggests thats what I'm looking for. "

Of course it's not understandable that anyone should think that, but sadly it happens - likewise to me it's not understandable that anyone should "expect" someone to pay all of the costs of meeting either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never charged and I report anyone who offers a gift or money.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"That some men think women on here are just prostitutes when they read profiles of women that state the man must pay for the hotel room or for the social meet, i.e, a meal out?

A lovely lady I know from here was actually offered money for a meet recently! Interested to find out if this is something you lovely ladies get offered on here and thoughts...

My thoughts FYI very very very odd and very disrespectful.

Yes, we've been offered money and asked what I charge for various sexual favours. Delete!

Wow, well on behalf of the not so f'd upped guys out there I apologise, pretty new to this but absolutely certain that's not what this site is for. "

No need to apologise for what is not your fault. That's why there's a delete button and a block button! It's certainly NOT the ethos of the site and it's against the rules to boot, so.......

We just want to have fun times when times aren't Covid-y. Nothing money related.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No its not understandable that some men think the woman on here are prostitutes just because the small minority of women on her ask for money or gifts.

Iv been offered money several times and absolutely nothing on my profile suggests thats what I'm looking for.

Of course it's not understandable that anyone should think that, but sadly it happens - likewise to me it's not understandable that anyone should "expect" someone to pay all of the costs of meeting either."

Or i agree but if people message and exept the terms thats up them like preference i guess. I'm not saying its appropriate on here but I am saying its wrong to assume most women on her are wanting to gain financially or out for that they get based on a tiny percentage of profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That some men think women on here are just prostitutes when they read profiles of women that state the man must pay for the hotel room or for the social meet, i.e, a meal out?

A lovely lady I know from here was actually offered money for a meet recently! Interested to find out if this is something you lovely ladies get offered on here and thoughts...

My thoughts FYI very very very odd and very disrespectful.

"

Were you thinking it was only your lady friend that had been offered money?

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By *eachAndyMan
over a year ago

Studland


"That some men think women on here are just prostitutes when they read profiles of women that state the man must pay for the hotel room or for the social meet, i.e, a meal out?

A lovely lady I know from here was actually offered money for a meet recently! Interested to find out if this is something you lovely ladies get offered on here and thoughts...

My thoughts FYI very very very odd and very disrespectful.

Were you thinking it was only your lady friend that had been offered money?"

Not at all just wanted an idea of how widespread this is. There's plenty of sites out there for that kind of thing if it floats your boat, just didn't think this was one of them but I guess there's no escaping them.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That some men think women on here are just prostitutes when they read profiles of women that state the man must pay for the hotel room or for the social meet, i.e, a meal out?

A lovely lady I know from here was actually offered money for a meet recently! Interested to find out if this is something you lovely ladies get offered on here and thoughts...

My thoughts FYI very very very odd and very disrespectful.

Were you thinking it was only your lady friend that had been offered money?

Not at all just wanted an idea of how widespread this is. There's plenty of sites out there for that kind of thing if it floats your boat, just didn't think this was one of them but I guess there's no escaping them..... "

It doesn't happen that often and there aren't that many profiles asking for gifts, have wishlists ect but like any site it does happen.

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By *eachAndyMan
over a year ago

Studland


"That some men think women on here are just prostitutes when they read profiles of women that state the man must pay for the hotel room or for the social meet, i.e, a meal out?

A lovely lady I know from here was actually offered money for a meet recently! Interested to find out if this is something you lovely ladies get offered on here and thoughts...

My thoughts FYI very very very odd and very disrespectful.

Were you thinking it was only your lady friend that had been offered money?

Not at all just wanted an idea of how widespread this is. There's plenty of sites out there for that kind of thing if it floats your boat, just didn't think this was one of them but I guess there's no escaping them.....

It doesn't happen that often and there aren't that many profiles asking for gifts, have wishlists ect but like any site it does happen. "

Fair enough, guess its just an aspect I'm not that used to, another one to add to the list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That some men think women on here are just prostitutes when they read profiles of women that state the man must pay for the hotel room or for the social meet, i.e, a meal out?

A lovely lady I know from here was actually offered money for a meet recently! Interested to find out if this is something you lovely ladies get offered on here and thoughts...

My thoughts FYI very very very odd and very disrespectful.

Were you thinking it was only your lady friend that had been offered money?

Not at all just wanted an idea of how widespread this is. There's plenty of sites out there for that kind of thing if it floats your boat, just didn't think this was one of them but I guess there's no escaping them.....

It doesn't happen that often and there aren't that many profiles asking for gifts, have wishlists ect but like any site it does happen.

Fair enough, guess its just an aspect I'm not that used to, another one to add to the list.

"

Its something to be aware of but don't let it spoil your enjoyment of the site.

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By *eachAndyMan
over a year ago

Studland


"That some men think women on here are just prostitutes when they read profiles of women that state the man must pay for the hotel room or for the social meet, i.e, a meal out?

A lovely lady I know from here was actually offered money for a meet recently! Interested to find out if this is something you lovely ladies get offered on here and thoughts...

My thoughts FYI very very very odd and very disrespectful.

Were you thinking it was only your lady friend that had been offered money?

Not at all just wanted an idea of how widespread this is. There's plenty of sites out there for that kind of thing if it floats your boat, just didn't think this was one of them but I guess there's no escaping them.....

It doesn't happen that often and there aren't that many profiles asking for gifts, have wishlists ect but like any site it does happen.

Fair enough, guess its just an aspect I'm not that used to, another one to add to the list.

Its something to be aware of but don't let it spoil your enjoyment of the site. "

Thanks, I won't, enjoying the site just trying to get an idea of the messages you ladies get. Can imagine it's a bit much to say the least...

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"No its not understandable that some men think the woman on here are prostitutes just because the small minority of women on her ask for money or gifts.

Iv been offered money several times and absolutely nothing on my profile suggests thats what I'm looking for.

Of course it's not understandable that anyone should think that, but sadly it happens - likewise to me it's not understandable that anyone should "expect" someone to pay all of the costs of meeting either.

Or i agree but if people message and exept the terms thats up them like preference i guess. I'm not saying its appropriate on here but I am saying its wrong to assume most women on her are wanting to gain financially or out for that they get based on a tiny percentage of profiles. "

Of course it's up to the individual whether to accept how someone chooses to run their profile as I said further up - but personally I find a woman "demanding" a guy pay for everything just as "entitled" as a guy "expecting" to get meets just for being on here.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Some are into that FinDom lifestyle

But while there are desperados gagging for attention, the unemployed tax-evading women will take advantage of the free money and gifts. It's a self-perpetuating system.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some are into that FinDom lifestyle

But while there are desperados gagging for attention, the unemployed tax-evading women will take advantage of the free money and gifts. It's a self-perpetuating system."

Thats a massive judgement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That some men think women on here are just prostitutes when they read profiles of women that state the man must pay for the hotel room or for the social meet, i.e, a meal out?

A lovely lady I know from here was actually offered money for a meet recently! Interested to find out if this is something you lovely ladies get offered on here and thoughts...

My thoughts FYI very very very odd and very disrespectful.

"

Yes, I've been offered money or the guys who tell me if I meet them how they will 'spoil me generously'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some are into that FinDom lifestyle

But while there are desperados gagging for attention, the unemployed tax-evading women will take advantage of the free money and gifts. It's a self-perpetuating system."

Just wow

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I would imagine with the a serious economic down turn and mass redundancies on the card historical trends will continue and we will see more women selling sexual services. People do what they need to survive and because of nature of society as it is there's always been a ready market for women to sell their bodies. Not that I'm anti sex worker, far from it. Just sad that some people find their only option is to do a very personal job that makes them feel horrid about themselves and only done out of complete desperation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some are into that FinDom lifestyle

But while there are desperados gagging for attention, the unemployed tax-evading women will take advantage of the free money and gifts. It's a self-perpetuating system."

Just as they do on other sites. Or do some people think Instagram etc are just friendship sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That some men think women on here are just prostitutes when they read profiles of women that state the man must pay for the hotel room or for the social meet, i.e, a meal out?

"

I imagine they get very confused. Some people appear to be asking for 'gifts' in return for sex. Some people are giving away sex/ sex chat (verifications)/ sex pics/ sex vids .... for free !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That some men think women on here are just prostitutes when they read profiles of women that state the man must pay for the hotel room or for the social meet, i.e, a meal out?

I imagine they get very confused. Some people appear to be asking for 'gifts' in return for sex. Some people are giving away sex/ sex chat (verifications)/ sex pics/ sex vids .... for free ! "

I demand their soul in payment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That some men think women on here are just prostitutes when they read profiles of women that state the man must pay for the hotel room or for the social meet, i.e, a meal out?

I imagine they get very confused. Some people appear to be asking for 'gifts' in return for sex. Some people are giving away sex/ sex chat (verifications)/ sex pics/ sex vids .... for free !

I demand their soul in payment "

Swingers don't have souls!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Understandable? Yes in so much as i understand people are a weird bunch. Acceptable? No to a degree and not just because a guy shouldn't treat a woman on here as a prostitute but they shouldn't enable an attitude in someone that says they SHOULD be spoilt. In my view fab and sites like it are for consenting adults to engage in their fantasies. Such a fantasy could of include spoiling or being spoilt but that is a world apart from prostitution which i suppose could form part of a fantasy too but if that's what someone wants then why practice it here? There are red light areas for that. The difficulty is that in any situation where money is involved there is a sense by at least one party that something is owed and as it is not lawful to pay for sex and if the "deal" is not clear then one or more parties can be putting themselves at risk."

Actually in the U.K. you can legally pay for sex. The way some guys on Fab treat women Fabbers with their crude messages they would be better to pay a prostitute in my opinion.

I don’t think that Fab is the right place for them though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That some men think women on here are just prostitutes when they read profiles of women that state the man must pay for the hotel room or for the social meet, i.e, a meal out?

A lovely lady I know from here was actually offered money for a meet recently! Interested to find out if this is something you lovely ladies get offered on here and thoughts...

My thoughts FYI very very very odd and very disrespectful.

"

I have never had this happen over the past years that I have been on Fab but when I re-joined this year I did have one guy message me and ask if I would meet him that day if he paid me. I just blocked him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People that judge the majority on the few aren't that clever are they.

Assuming that all the women on here have a price has nothing to do with the few women that do.

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

I'm just an old fashioned guy who expects to pay the bill. Its how I got brought up. I find it awkward if a lady insists on paying. Anyway, that's why women don't have pockets in their dresses, nowhere to put a purse! So the guy has to pay.

I just think, it should be received in the spirit it's given. I don't ever mix up sex and money tho. Some things should always be free

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Some are into that FinDom lifestyle

But while there are desperados gagging for attention, the unemployed tax-evading women will take advantage of the free money and gifts. It's a self-perpetuating system."

Sex work is real work

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"That some men think women on here are just prostitutes when they read profiles of women that state the man must pay for the hotel room or for the social meet, i.e, a meal out?

A lovely lady I know from here was actually offered money for a meet recently! Interested to find out if this is something you lovely ladies get offered on here and thoughts...

My thoughts FYI very very very odd and very disrespectful.

"

If I go a month without being offered money it's rare.

I must either have the look of 'desperate for money' or a 'Jack the Ripper target'

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