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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

All you single folks who say you’re single ‘through choice!’

Was it your choice? Or someone else’s?

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

It was my choice when I became single.... since then not so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im single cos no fucker wants me or could handle me full time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i technically ended it, but then instantly regretted it..

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

We both agreed not really that into each other to take things to relationship stage.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing


"Im single cos no fucker wants me or could handle me full time "

Off topic but that's a superb figure you have there Kelly.

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By *oberts_onMan
over a year ago

King's Lynn

Long single, not by choice...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My choice.

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

Yes it was my choice. I walked away from a toxic marriage. I've had offers of a relationship with some amazing men on here but I'm just not ready.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"i technically ended it, but then instantly regretted it.. "

Nice to see you back posting.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

My choice as i left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I left the relationship and I have decided to stay single for the last 7 years. Can't see it changing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i technically ended it, but then instantly regretted it..

Nice to see you back posting. "

Thanks beautiful, nice to see some familiar names still here x x

Hope you are well x

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"All you single folks who say you’re single ‘through choice!’

Was it your choice? Or someone else’s?"

It's actually mine, but I can totally see why you'd ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chose to exit an abusive marriage.

11 years single.

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery


"All you single folks who say you’re single ‘through choice!’

Was it your choice? Or someone else’s?"

It was my choice then and still is now. Not that I have much choice where I live but I still prefer to be single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been single for the best part of the last 10 yrs. My choice and I cant see that changing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine then, mine now.

Until I meet someone I really like...

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

She ended it, but I'm now thinking I'm too screwed up to be able to give of myself fully to anyone else so I ought to stay single by choice

Because I don't want to put myself or anyone else through the last 12 months again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"All you single folks who say you’re single ‘through choice!’

Was it your choice? Or someone else’s?

It's actually mine, but I can totally see why you'd ask "

I adore you. You’re a catch

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By *wistedbambi69Woman
over a year ago

Somerset


"All you single folks who say you’re single ‘through choice!’

Was it your choice? Or someone else’s?"

Definitely my choice and I think it would take someone pretty amazing to make me change my mind. A friend with benefits is all I'm looking for now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's by unc0nscious choice. I'm not very good at opening myself up fully to other people which makes me a bit boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a good question, but a better question might be why do single people feel like they need to explain their reasons for being so?

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bradford

My choice (technically) she cheated i forgave.. she cheated again i left

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

My choice, 14 years ago I decided I’d had enough of a defunct marriage and became single, several years ago I met someone and decided I didn’t want to be single anymore but the world had other plans and he passed away, definitely not my choice that time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im single cos no fucker wants me or could handle me full time

Off topic but that's a superb figure you have there Kelly."
thank you x

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

It is/was my choice, I have ended the last two relationships I had and neither lasted 12 months (out of 11 years since divorce).

I think Covid has taught me that it’s okay to be alone. There is someone who fills my thoughts often, but I know that will never be, so I think it’s unfair to approach a relationship with another when my feelings lay elsewhere, nobody should be used to fill a gap (fnar).

I have found it liberating to accept that I am going to be on my own for a long time, probably for ever, yes, sometimes I get a little sad about that, sometimes even scared but there is a peace with it too, a calming of the soul. I am still a good friend, I still care about people and mainly because of that, I don’t get romantically involved with them.

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By *eanne1984Woman
over a year ago

wallasey

Walked away from a relationship where aggressive behaviour when drinking was a common theme, broke my heart though because I loved him so much,

Single for 4 weeks now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single ,because he sadly passed away

So I didn't have a choice

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"It is/was my choice, I have ended the last two relationships I had and neither lasted 12 months (out of 11 years since divorce).

I think Covid has taught me that it’s okay to be alone. There is someone who fills my thoughts often, but I know that will never be, so I think it’s unfair to approach a relationship with another when my feelings lay elsewhere, nobody should be used to fill a gap (fnar).

I have found it liberating to accept that I am going to be on my own for a long time, probably for ever, yes, sometimes I get a little sad about that, sometimes even scared but there is a peace with it too, a calming of the soul. I am still a good friend, I still care about people and mainly because of that, I don’t get romantically involved with them. "

That's actually exactly how I feel. Nicely put Devon

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"It is/was my choice, I have ended the last two relationships I had and neither lasted 12 months (out of 11 years since divorce).

I think Covid has taught me that it’s okay to be alone. There is someone who fills my thoughts often, but I know that will never be, so I think it’s unfair to approach a relationship with another when my feelings lay elsewhere, nobody should be used to fill a gap (fnar).

I have found it liberating to accept that I am going to be on my own for a long time, probably for ever, yes, sometimes I get a little sad about that, sometimes even scared but there is a peace with it too, a calming of the soul. I am still a good friend, I still care about people and mainly because of that, I don’t get romantically involved with them. "

I think I'm trying to get to the place where I'm OK with the idea of being alone again, quite possibly for a significant amount of time.

Not there yet, though, annoyingly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been single a long time now and haven't put any effort into meeting anyone else or have I come across anyone I'd like to be in a relationship with.

I'm not sure if I'm single through choice or not.

I can't see myself in a traditional relationship again to be honest.

I've made my peace with being alone - relationships make me feel mental

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"It is/was my choice, I have ended the last two relationships I had and neither lasted 12 months (out of 11 years since divorce).

I think Covid has taught me that it’s okay to be alone. There is someone who fills my thoughts often, but I know that will never be, so I think it’s unfair to approach a relationship with another when my feelings lay elsewhere, nobody should be used to fill a gap (fnar).

I have found it liberating to accept that I am going to be on my own for a long time, probably for ever, yes, sometimes I get a little sad about that, sometimes even scared but there is a peace with it too, a calming of the soul. I am still a good friend, I still care about people and mainly because of that, I don’t get romantically involved with them.

I think I'm trying to get to the place where I'm OK with the idea of being alone again, quite possibly for a significant amount of time.

Not there yet, though, annoyingly "

It isn’t for everyone Mr Gorilla. The choice should be an active one and not dictated by circumstance or self-esteem. If you still have love to give, then do not close the door on that.

I always advise other singles not to be like me, it is self indulgent and a little selfish. It works for me because that’s the way my head is built, but don’t shut yourself away from your feelings, if that isn’t you. Just take a breather. Being forever single is not taking the easy way out.

Be well Mr Gorilla

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Well it's my choice in the sense I can't find someone stupid enough to want to date me

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By *eanne1984Woman
over a year ago

wallasey


"Single ,because he sadly passed away

So I didn't have a choice"

This is heartbreaking xxx

Sorry for your loss lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single due to no fucker wanting me

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

Joint decision.

We grew out of love and were both unhappy.

Decided we both deserve to be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single ,because he sadly passed away

So I didn't have a choice

This is heartbreaking xxx

Sorry for your loss lovely "

Thank you xx

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I'm a better person when Im single as I'm a roamer and need to have independence and freedom, tried a committed mono relationship once and that failed because I felt caged.

So I stick to what I know is good for me and that is loving friendships with men that I occasionally have sex with x

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I ended my 12 year marriage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm only (barely) good enough to fuck, not to date.

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By *entleman Blue EyesMan
over a year ago

Saffron Walden

I was in unbalanced marriage. It was my choice to leave but perhaps not in the manner I'd hoped.

But life moves on and you learn from your experiences and start your new chapter of life with a bit more depth, character and knowledge...

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

I know who I want to be with...but unfortunately I don't think it's gonna happen.

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By *az2019Man
over a year ago

Yorkshire/stockport

Single 3 years and now time to find a good lady xx

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"It isn’t for everyone Mr Gorilla. The choice should be an active one and not dictated by circumstance or self-esteem. If you still have love to give, then do not close the door on that.

I always advise other singles not to be like me, it is self indulgent and a little selfish. It works for me because that’s the way my head is built, but don’t shut yourself away from your feelings, if that isn’t you. Just take a breather. Being forever single is not taking the easy way out.

Be well Mr Gorilla "

Thank you for those kind words. Made me a bit emotional, if I'm honest

I think I do have something to give but something weird always happens to me whenever I try to get into a relationship, on that like Compersion said above, I somehow feel caged. I need to figure out exactly what it is that works for me, but I also have some other issues to work through first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It isn’t for everyone Mr Gorilla. The choice should be an active one and not dictated by circumstance or self-esteem. If you still have love to give, then do not close the door on that.

I always advise other singles not to be like me, it is self indulgent and a little selfish. It works for me because that’s the way my head is built, but don’t shut yourself away from your feelings, if that isn’t you. Just take a breather. Being forever single is not taking the easy way out.

Be well Mr Gorilla

Thank you for those kind words. Made me a bit emotional, if I'm honest

I think I do have something to give but something weird always happens to me whenever I try to get into a relationship, on that like Compersion said above, I somehow feel caged. I need to figure out exactly what it is that works for me, but I also have some other issues to work through first "

Hugs

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"It isn’t for everyone Mr Gorilla. The choice should be an active one and not dictated by circumstance or self-esteem. If you still have love to give, then do not close the door on that.

I always advise other singles not to be like me, it is self indulgent and a little selfish. It works for me because that’s the way my head is built, but don’t shut yourself away from your feelings, if that isn’t you. Just take a breather. Being forever single is not taking the easy way out.

Be well Mr Gorilla

Thank you for those kind words. Made me a bit emotional, if I'm honest

I think I do have something to give but something weird always happens to me whenever I try to get into a relationship, on that like Compersion said above, I somehow feel caged. I need to figure out exactly what it is that works for me, but I also have some other issues to work through first "

You will get there Mr Gorilla, because it sounds like you want too. Good fortune.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'd rather not be, in so much that I'd have preferred things to have worked out and have my dreams come true but...

Life ain't like that tho, and even though I know that not everyone lies, cheats or misleads, the truth is there are more that do than don't, so, for that reason I'm single by choice.

I wish that wasn't the case tho

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"I'd rather not be, in so much that I'd have preferred things to have worked out and have my dreams come true but...

Life ain't like that tho, and even though I know that not everyone lies, cheats or misleads, the truth is there are more that do than don't, so, for that reason I'm single by choice.

I wish that wasn't the case tho "

I'm sure that if you want, you will find that person that you can trust and be happy with one day.

It's just a shame so many people out there make trusting so difficult.

(big hug)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine. Just can't be doing with a relationship

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"It isn’t for everyone Mr Gorilla. The choice should be an active one and not dictated by circumstance or self-esteem. If you still have love to give, then do not close the door on that.

I always advise other singles not to be like me, it is self indulgent and a little selfish. It works for me because that’s the way my head is built, but don’t shut yourself away from your feelings, if that isn’t you. Just take a breather. Being forever single is not taking the easy way out.

Be well Mr Gorilla

Thank you for those kind words. Made me a bit emotional, if I'm honest

I think I do have something to give but something weird always happens to me whenever I try to get into a relationship, on that like Compersion said above, I somehow feel caged. I need to figure out exactly what it is that works for me, but I also have some other issues to work through first

You will get there Mr Gorilla, because it sounds like you want too. Good fortune. "

Thank you. It's a bit Catch 22, though, as I know who the person I want to be with is, but it's too late. There's too much water under the bridge, and history would probably just repeat itself

And thank you, Sassy, for the hug

Much appreciated

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live


"All you single folks who say you’re single ‘through choice!’

Was it your choice? Or someone else’s?"

Not my choice.. but.. then it has been me choosing to be single for two ish years.. and now I'm single cos noone wants me

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By *eviant KnightMan
over a year ago

Norton


"It was my choice when I became single.... since then not so much"

This is me

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By *littyclittybangbangMan
over a year ago

Kenilworth

Dare a man admit.... ran away from her coercive control and mental abuse.

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"Dare a man admit.... ran away from her coercive control and mental abuse. "

Yes feel free to admit it. And be proud, too.

Good for you, fella, for getting out

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"It was my choice when I became single.... since then not so much"

It was our choice when I became single

It's been my choice since then

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’m Fab single and it’s my choice but sssshhhh don’t tell the ball and chain

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Single by choice. Eighteen years and counting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine. Just can't be doing with a relationship "

This, maybe one day I'll choose to be in one again, but not right now.

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bradford


"I ended my 12 year marriage. "
bet that was hard . 12 years is a long time x

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By *akjourneyMan
over a year ago

Weston

Someone else's but things had run the course.

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By *aCaiMan
over a year ago

Telford

Been single for a long time. I think I prefer it

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By *heGentleman2024Man
over a year ago

North West

Single by choice..if it doesn’t make you happy there’s no point in staying...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single independent woman.

37 years old,to get married a year later. Independent me paid for all of it

Left him no choice of leaving after an abusive cheating person he turned out to be.

2010 to 2020 single and proud and independent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m single because I’m widowed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn't become single by choice, but been happy single the last 4 years.

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By *herubCheeksWoman
over a year ago

seaside

Single 4 years but happy

Not through choice !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was nobodies choice to become single. It is mine to remain it though

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Deffo my choice to b single and intend to remain that way! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My choice.

Sometimes I think I might like a relationship, but then I remember I find people exhausting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last relationship I had fizzled out and just stopped. Last ten years being single is through my choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and no. I'd actually quite like someone now tbh.....

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

My choice 9 years ago to end my 17 yr marriage and although I’ve dabbled in dating I’ve always ended it either cause I was bored or they were planning to far ahead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All you single folks who say you’re single ‘through choice!’

Was it your choice? Or someone else’s?"

My last relationship ended badly and it's been 'my choice' to be single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fiancée passed away three years ago so not single through choice, but at the same time still single through choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My choice.

Sometimes I think I might like a relationship, but then I remember I find people exhausting "

I find people exhausting too.

It's getting worse as I get older.

I like nothing more than getting home and shutting the door.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My choice.

Sometimes I think I might like a relationship, but then I remember I find people exhausting

I find people exhausting too.

It's getting worse as I get older.

I like nothing more than getting home and shutting the door."

Exactly the same.

The last of my 5 children left for uni last month and I just feel so content.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My choice.

Sometimes I think I might like a relationship, but then I remember I find people exhausting

I find people exhausting too.

It's getting worse as I get older.

I like nothing more than getting home and shutting the door."

It certainly gets harder as you get older, it’s all different now........dating scares me to death now

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By *ingmaster1Man
over a year ago

coulsdon

my choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single but looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forced upon me really as didnt get on with stepson and situation was becoming toxic so we decided go seperate ways some days I regret we split.

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By *ornado69Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Single and looking.... Ideally would love to find a lady who appreciates this lifestyle

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

My choice.

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