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By *ummy mummy OP   Woman
over a year ago

southampton-ish

their ex has a "ruin my fun" radar? Over the past 2 months or so I have pretty much had to cancel almost everymeet I have planned due to the ex at the last minute not having the kids when he is supposed to...starting to think that he has some sort of radar that goes off as soon as I start trying to plan something...Today I was planning my weekend, as I would as it is not a weekend that I am to have the kids and minutes after confirming a meet I get a text from him saying that he is most likely not going to be coming for the kids this weekend as the job he is on this week is going slow so will probably be working this weekend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"their ex has a "ruin my fun" radar? Over the past 2 months or so I have pretty much had to cancel almost everymeet I have planned due to the ex at the last minute not having the kids when he is supposed to...starting to think that he has some sort of radar that goes off as soon as I start trying to plan something...Today I was planning my weekend, as I would as it is not a weekend that I am to have the kids and minutes after confirming a meet I get a text from him saying that he is most likely not going to be coming for the kids this weekend as the job he is on this week is going slow so will probably be working this weekend. "

Dont realy on him ask a friend or family to baby sit !!

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By *ummy mummy OP   Woman
over a year ago

southampton-ish


"their ex has a "ruin my fun" radar? Over the past 2 months or so I have pretty much had to cancel almost everymeet I have planned due to the ex at the last minute not having the kids when he is supposed to...starting to think that he has some sort of radar that goes off as soon as I start trying to plan something...Today I was planning my weekend, as I would as it is not a weekend that I am to have the kids and minutes after confirming a meet I get a text from him saying that he is most likely not going to be coming for the kids this weekend as the job he is on this week is going slow so will probably be working this weekend.

Dont realy on him ask a friend or family to baby sit !!"

it is not a question of relying on him...it is during time that is his court ordered time to have his children...and as for family mine are all in Canada so a bit of a hop for a night of babysitting lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"their ex has a "ruin my fun" radar? Over the past 2 months or so I have pretty much had to cancel almost everymeet I have planned due to the ex at the last minute not having the kids when he is supposed to...starting to think that he has some sort of radar that goes off as soon as I start trying to plan something...Today I was planning my weekend, as I would as it is not a weekend that I am to have the kids and minutes after confirming a meet I get a text from him saying that he is most likely not going to be coming for the kids this weekend as the job he is on this week is going slow so will probably be working this weekend. "

We have had the same thing with a few meets last year but put it down to bad luck. We all have unexpected issues pop up its a matter of making the best of a situation.

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By *acciWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Tell him that altho you know he has to work,the children must come first and he cnt keep letting them down. If he took the time to go to court then he should honour the access set out,if he doesnt tell him your going back to court to have his access stopped. That way you can plan ahead for babysitters,but more importantly the children will have a routine

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By *reenonionsMan
over a year ago

Nr Exeter

Be real - stuff happens and you need to be flexible, anyhow, I thought kids were a joy to have and be the light of any parents life???

Otherwise, don't make 'em - simples!

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By *ummy mummy OP   Woman
over a year ago

southampton-ish


"Be real - stuff happens and you need to be flexible, anyhow, I thought kids were a joy to have and be the light of any parents life???

Otherwise, don't make 'em - simples!"

When did I say I did not want my children? My kids come first,that is why I only play the weekends they go to their dad's...because when they are with me I am not thinking of getting a sitter to have more time away from them.yes,this time it was work but the other times it was him just deciding at last second he was not coming for them which is not fair to them...the whole point of my post was kind of laughing that it is only the weekends that I made plans he did not come for the kids....like he had a sixth sense that I was going to go out and enjoy myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yip and also psychic. Seem to get all interested in you again when you are meeting someone else x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes I seen the point of ur post! lol

wish people would properly read sometimes ffs!

its also like friends who havent bee in touch, uve been hoping o meet up with them(non fab/sex type of friends lol)...and Uve already got something planned or in planning for the weekend...then bOOm...they wanna catchup!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yip and also psychic. Seem to get all interested in you again when you are meeting someone else x"

OOOer Cherry on top! (of me)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only a man would say 'simples'

Life with children is never simple..fact. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be real - stuff happens and you need to be flexible, anyhow, I thought kids were a joy to have and be the light of any parents life???

Otherwise, don't make 'em - simples!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yip and also psychic. Seem to get all interested in you again when you are meeting someone else x

OOOer Cherry on top! (of me)"

Just the way you(d) like it lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yip and also psychic. Seem to get all interested in you again when you are meeting someone else x

OOOer Cherry on top! (of me)

Just the way you(d) like it lol xxx"

faster...faster x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell him that altho you know he has to work,the children must come first and he cnt keep letting them down. If he took the time to go to court then he should honour the access set out,if he doesnt tell him your going back to court to have his access stopped. That way you can plan ahead for babysitters,but more importantly the children will have a routine"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be real - stuff happens and you need to be flexible, anyhow, I thought kids were a joy to have and be the light of any parents life???

Otherwise, don't make 'em - simples!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be real - stuff happens and you need to be flexible, anyhow, I thought kids were a joy to have and be the light of any parents life???

Otherwise, don't make 'em - simples!

"

still the OP's POINT has been missed...........

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Hmmmm what if you try arranging all your meets at the wrong time?

The static might confuse his no fun radar

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter


"their ex has a "ruin my fun" radar? Over the past 2 months or so I have pretty much had to cancel almost everymeet I have planned due to the ex at the last minute not having the kids when he is supposed to...starting to think that he has some sort of radar that goes off as soon as I start trying to plan something...Today I was planning my weekend, as I would as it is not a weekend that I am to have the kids and minutes after confirming a meet I get a text from him saying that he is most likely not going to be coming for the kids this weekend as the job he is on this week is going slow so will probably be working this weekend. "

Just tell him thats ok He can pay the childminder for the weekend as you have already made plans. ..

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By *ummy mummy OP   Woman
over a year ago

southampton-ish


"Hmmmm what if you try arranging all your meets at the wrong time?

The static might confuse his no fun radar

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good thinking batman

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By *ucsparkMan
over a year ago

dudley

I had the same problem time and again.

I even tried reminding my ex of parental responsibility all to no avail. Learnt slowly that not all parents take seeing their children that seriously.

You could always play him at his own game, good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah i can relate to your problem.. its very frustrating when you make plans and then have to cancel

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

i'm quite sure both my sons have a pager attached to my knob,cause every time i get a semi,one of them walks in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i'm quite sure both my sons have a pager attached to my knob,cause every time i get a semi,one of them walks in. "

haha sorry i laughed out loud at that

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"i'm quite sure both my sons have a pager attached to my knob,cause every time i get a semi,one of them walks in.

haha sorry i laughed out loud at that"

tis sad but true.

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