FabSwingers.com forum: I cant stop crying i had this mail today on msn

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have a very close man friend i have know for a time... john knows i really care and like him he meet my family here weekend before he left my kids and i spent last night in hotel with him as i never wished him to be alone. He has been working in Afria sudan in the oil feild looking after people he was in the army and he think i am sure that he has nine lives .. he was on here at one time ... to chat to me after i meet him ., i had this mail today ,, ............................................................... Hi x I was getting in contact with you to see if you had heard anything? I text his number the other day and a girl called Alice text back (well whatsapp) it his neice and she said she would get her mum Marie to contact me. Apprently, Im very sorry to tell you this sad news, He has been missing for a month in Africa and last week they found a body so they are waiting to hear stuff and they are trying to contact all of his friends to notify them. I really hope to god it isnt him and he is well suviving in the bushes or smething, listen if you want my number to keep in touch and I will let you know anything as soon as I do, its 07 or if you just want to give me a ring to chat thats fine too.

Kind Regards x I am having a go at finding his sister so i know whats going on .............. this will drive me mad if i dont know .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

last mail i had on AOL MAY his birthday ... he said could not get on net well and wi-fi and not sure when on again but to be sure to know he was thinking of me .. x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes hun it wud drive me nuts 2 i do feelfor u n deffo hope its not ur best buddy ,,,my thoughts n prayers r with u n his family ,,,,gud luk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its odd it hasnt been on sky news

they would normally jump to a story like this ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" last mail i had on AOL MAY his birthday ... he said could not get on net well and wi-fi and not sure when on again but to be sure to know he was thinking of me .. x x"

Fingers crossed Jo xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Last mail i had was may his birthday saying cant get in wi-fi easy and going to sudan ,, and to know he was thinking of me . i cant think a person would say this if not true x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Home Office advice is to not travel to Sudan. I'm pretty sure if a British national had gone missing there we'd know about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear about your worries. I worked for many years in the Oil and Gas business including in various parts of the African Continent. Do you know exactly who he was working for?

Give me a mail if you need any help.

Regards

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The Home Office advice is to not travel to Sudan. I'm pretty sure if a British national had gone missing there we'd know about it"
sould i mail them ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I feel if theres people out there who can help its you lot you know so much . I am crap at all this and dont know where to start .

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By *eighleedsMan
over a year ago

leeds

google missing abroad as well, they maybe able to help

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By *eighleedsMan
over a year ago

leeds

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By *eighleedsMan
over a year ago

leeds

"[Removed by poster at 27/06/12 20:57:47]"

i originally said try now, might be a 24 hour number,

just checked it is so phone and get things started

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 27/06/12 20:57:47]

i originally said try now, might be a 24 hour number,

just checked it is so phone and get things started"
ok i will give it a go ............... and thankyou. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Here i go to phone let see xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i called i have to call 8 in the morning. reakky helfull man chated to me x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i called tonight thay was lovely but uk x said call 8 ... its hard to say when up set ....... i need to keep a clear mind ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The Home Office advice is to not travel to Sudan. I'm pretty sure if a British national had gone missing there we'd know about it sould i mail them ?"

I would say reading this you might be better getting someone to contact the Home Office on your behalf to save any confusion and ensure they take the request seriously.

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By *hickencurryCouple
over a year ago

brisbane

really hope this has a positive outcome for you. Had a similar situation and the not knowing anything and feeling helpless is the worst part.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The Home Office advice is to not travel to Sudan. I'm pretty sure if a British national had gone missing there we'd know about it sould i mail them ?

I would say reading this you might be better getting someone to contact the Home Office on your behalf to save any confusion and ensure they take the request seriously. "
i am very serious tomorrow 8 i am calling ..... and if thay say need a person to see the body i am there ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh darling I am so sorry and have my fingers crossed its not him not religious but will say a prayer he safe know its hard but try and keep your chin up. In my thoughts xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i payed to have him tatooed before he left .......and if a person know its me x

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"The Home Office advice is to not travel to Sudan. I'm pretty sure if a British national had gone missing there we'd know about it sould i mail them ?

I would say reading this you might be better getting someone to contact the Home Office on your behalf to save any confusion and ensure they take the request seriously. i am very serious tomorrow 8 i am calling ..... and if thay say need a person to see the body i am there ,"

It's the Foreign Office you need to contact and not the Home Office, and they won't be asking you to fly out to see a body if it's the Sudan....it's on the Foreign Office 'Do not venture' list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The Home Office advice is to not travel to Sudan. I'm pretty sure if a British national had gone missing there we'd know about it sould i mail them ?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I would have thought the officials would only speak to relatives anyway...but as someone else has said, surely it would have been in the news?

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Any company or agency working in Sudan would have detailed plans about staff safety, so if he is missing they would already be dealing with the relevant authorities Im sure.

If he has a niece and a sister they would be the ones contacted by the Foreign Office - I very much doubt they would share information with friends when there are family members available

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By *RS79Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Contact the Foreign and commonwealth office in London and explain things to them - they nay only speak to the family but it is worth a try

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The Home Office advice is to not travel to Sudan. I'm pretty sure if a British national had gone missing there we'd know about it sould i mail them ?

After reading this thread I really would suggest getting someone to contact them on your behalf as its confusing to follow your points and may be better expressed by someone who articulates themselves well and can get the Home office to take things seriously. It would save frustration and heartache all round. "
if home offic say thay need a person see if it him.. i am on the plane.AS some would think about costs i would get him home. i am living in hope he is alive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i am calling at 8 in the mnrning ..... and if i have them saying very little i am going to the office ... tomorrow.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

The Home Office won't be talking to you about a British National missing abroad....it's not a Home Office matter, it's the brief of the Foreign Office.

And they will only speak to a close family relative or the representative of an employer.

Plus you won't get a visa to travel to Sudan unless you are working for a recognised agency.

The country is in a state of civil war.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The Home Office advice is to not travel to Sudan. I'm pretty sure if a British national had gone missing there we'd know about it sould i mail them ?

After reading this thread I really would suggest getting someone to contact them on your behalf as its confusing to follow your points and may be better expressed by someone who articulates themselves well and can get the Home office to take things seriously. It would save frustration and heartache all round. if home offic say thay need a person see if it him.. i am on the plane.AS some would think about costs i would get him home. i am living in hope he is alive."

You have lost me there and to be honest if you message the home office like that they won't take you seriously. If you want them to take you seriously then I suggest getting someone to contact them for you who can talk to them clearly without confusing them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i am closer then his family so i will have to some how swing this x i know what your saying .......... but i have to give this a go, we was lovers .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

when no ones around but me ????????? how do i do this ? the only way i can .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no offence but as a soldier I think you have been told lies as more would be done abot this in a civilion case

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"no offence but as a soldier I think you have been told lies as more would be done abot this in a civilion case"
yes SAS he new and i was there night he left saying dont his 8 year old son and me hated him going .. was money him thinging he could pay for things and life would be better. its not if dead.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

if dead no one win x money cant fill the place of a dad .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"no offence but as a soldier I think you have been told lies as more would be done abot this in a civilion case yes SAS he new and i was there night he left saying dont his 8 year old son and me hated him going .. was money him thinging he could pay for things and life would be better. its not if dead."

I think someone has been telling you porkie pies as the SAS are NOT operating in Sudan and even if they were they would not be dealing with civilians in the oilfields.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whopper trust me

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

with cheese n bacon?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think someone has been telling you porkie pies as the SAS are NOT operating in Sudan and even if they were they would not be dealing with civilians in the oilfields.

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he left the army and was a diver years ,, and was looking to make some money with his frirnd.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think someone has been telling you porkie pies as the SAS are NOT operating in Sudan and even if they were they would not be dealing with civilians in the oilfields.

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i know him better them most .. and he never tell porkies lol i wish he did , lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think someone has been telling you porkie pies as the SAS are NOT operating in Sudan and even if they were they would not be dealing with civilians in the oilfields.

he left the army and was a diver years ,, and was looking to make some money with his frirnd."

I am not on about diveing? I was referring to the SAS remark as not being true. If he told you this in relation to Sudan then it wasn't true. Sorry but the whole thread is confusing and maybe you should be talking to a solicitor if you can afford and feel strongly about it rather than posting on a swingers forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you where serious about a man losing his life would you use "lol"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think someone has been telling you porkie pies as the SAS are NOT operating in Sudan and even if they were they would not be dealing with civilians in the oilfields.

he left the army and was a diver years ,, and was looking to make some money with his frirnd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think someone has been telling you porkie pies as the SAS are NOT operating in Sudan and even if they were they would not be dealing with civilians in the oilfields.

i know him better them most .. and he never tell porkies lol i wish he did , lol"

If he told you about the SAS knowing he was in Sudan then that's not true as its not their area. Something is just not right with this whole tail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The next message from so called family will be asking you for money to hire a private detective to find him. Mark my words. I found all this hard to read and Phathom to be honest. Few screws loose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This just doesn't ring true at all... Is this really the place to talking about stuff like this?

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

His skills as a diver will be lost on the Sudan then.....it's land based oil exploration and not off-shore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sniff sniff I smell shite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i am now chating to his siter on face book and tomorrow home office ........ and if nothing i am in my car and on a plane ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeh ok keep us in the loop

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Or more likely. Can any fabbers donate some money to help me get the flight to Sudan to help find my friend

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he is my friend and no money nothing ....... cant you see i would do what ever it take .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm confused. Who was that person who emailed you?

And can you not get in touch with his family?

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"i am now chating to his siter on face book and tomorrow home office ........ and if nothing i am in my car and on a plane ,"

You can't enter The Sudan without a visa Jo......and it's not the Home Office, it's the Foreign Office.

The security company he is working for will have all the information his family needs....all they need to do is contact them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i am now chating to his siter on face book and tomorrow home office ........ and if nothing i am in my car and on a plane ,"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i am now chating to his siter on face book and tomorrow home office ........ and if nothing i am in my car and on a plane ,

Sorry but this has to be a joke for a start no planes go to Sudan and it is a restricted access country. All this tales of the SAS gave it away. Have you thought this man may just be wanting to disappear and avoid as a female half of a couple persuing a single male is not what many single men would expect here. I hope its all drink talking and with luck you will sleep well without too much of a hangover. "
he never got a plane there ,, god no calls nothing its a war zone . wi fi everything is out , i chated to him in may and now thay say missing a month just a body . his sister i hope will help me and if not i will sort it some how as need closer on this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How i am going to do it god only know ... but where there a will there a way . I have money i have a will ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i am now chating to his siter on face book and tomorrow home office ........ and if nothing i am in my car and on a plane ,

Sorry but this has to be a joke for a start no planes go to Sudan and it is a restricted access country. All this tales of the SAS gave it away. Have you thought this man may just be wanting to disappear and avoid as a female half of a couple persuing a single male is not what many single men would expect here. I hope its all drink talking and with luck you will sleep well without too much of a hangover. he never got a plane there ,, god no calls nothing its a war zone . wi fi everything is out , i chated to him in may and now thay say missing a month just a body . his sister i hope will help me and if not i will sort it some how as need closer on this."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i am now chating to his siter on face book and tomorrow home office ........ and if nothing i am in my car and on a plane ,

Sorry but this has to be a joke for a start no planes go to Sudan and it is a restricted access country. All this tales of the SAS gave it away. Have you thought this man may just be wanting to disappear and avoid as a female half of a couple persuing a single male is not what many single men would expect here. I hope its all drink talking and with luck you will sleep well without too much of a hangover. he never got a plane there ,, god no calls nothing its a war zone . wi fi everything is out , i chated to him in may and now thay say missing a month just a body . his sister i hope will help me and if not i will sort it some how as need closer on this.

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over a year ago

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Ex military personnel who undertake rig or pipe line security work do so via recognised international security companies.

They don't just turn up in The Sudan with a rucksack and a reference from the British Army looking for employment.

The security company involved will arrange the Visas of their staff, will register them with the Foreign Office under the 'Locate Registration Scheme' and will be in direct contact with the Foreign Office if an incident occurs.

They will have insurance for the repatriation of dead personnel, they won't need a woman who once had sex with him to fly out to identify his body as they will in all likelyhood have his DNA on a database.

In short it all sounds ridiculous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i am now chating to his siter on face book and tomorrow home office ........ and if nothing i am in my car and on a plane ,

Sorry but this has to be a joke for a start no planes go to Sudan and it is a restricted access country. All this tales of the SAS gave it away. Have you thought this man may just be wanting to disappear and avoid as a female half of a couple persuing a single male is not what many single men would expect here. I hope its all drink talking and with luck you will sleep well without too much of a hangover. he never got a plane there ,, god no calls nothing its a war zone . wi fi everything is out , i chated to him in may and now thay say missing a month just a body . his sister i hope will help me and if not i will sort it some how as need closer on this.

Hang on you were saying above you was going to get a plane out there! I was addressing the fact you can't because its a war zone, you are avoiding the fact the SAS knowing he was there is plainly not true, I will be totally honest and say you really can't expect people to take this seriously and without being too rude does look a little stalkerish for a married woman to think she can do more than this guys sister. I would leave it to family as its far more appropriate. Sorry if its a little harsh but you need to take a step back as its more than a little obsessive to do all this on an open forum. its a war zone sudan yes 12 people a day die and i would maybe go see his body .......... and thats closer for me . i have the money the time and he was a big part of my life ."
Why on earth do you keep brining money up? It just looks like some sort of bragging issue, and 12 people a day die? There will be a lot more than that in Sudan I would have though. If you are not able to discuss this lover with your husband then find someone close you can sit down and discuss it with as I really don't think this is the place.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i am now chating to his siter on face book and tomorrow home office ........ and if nothing i am in my car and on a plane ,

You can't enter The Sudan without a visa Jo......and it's not the Home Office, it's the Foreign Office.

The security company he is working for will have all the information his family needs....all they need to do is contact them."
yes i know you need a visa i hope tomorrow after chating to hme office here in uk ..... thay give me number to call ,,,, tomorrow said i need to call after 8 .. i mailed his sister so fingers crossed i will get some news .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i am now chating to his siter on face book and tomorrow home office ........ and if nothing i am in my car and on a plane ,

Sorry but this has to be a joke for a start no planes go to Sudan and it is a restricted access country. All this tales of the SAS gave it away. Have you thought this man may just be wanting to disappear and avoid as a female half of a couple persuing a single male is not what many single men would expect here. I hope its all drink talking and with luck you will sleep well without too much of a hangover. he never got a plane there ,, god no calls nothing its a war zone . wi fi everything is out , i chated to him in may and now thay say missing a month just a body . his sister i hope will help me and if not i will sort it some how as need closer on this.

Hang on you were saying above you was going to get a plane out there! I was addressing the fact you can't because its a war zone, you are avoiding the fact the SAS knowing he was there is plainly not true, I will be totally honest and say you really can't expect people to take this seriously and without being too rude does look a little stalkerish for a married woman to think she can do more than this guys sister. I would leave it to family as its far more appropriate. Sorry if its a little harsh but you need to take a step back as its more than a little obsessive to do all this on an open forum. its a war zone sudan yes 12 people a day die and i would maybe go see his body .......... and thats closer for me . i have the money the time and he was a big part of my life .Why on earth do you keep brining money up? It just looks like some sort of bragging issue, and 12 people a day die? There will be a lot more than that in Sudan I would have though. If you are not able to discuss this lover with your husband then find someone close you can sit down and discuss it with as I really don't think this is the place."
i can do what i like .. my husband meet him week befor he come to my home to meet my kids ..... i was there in hotel night he left . We are close yes like family x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i am now chating to his siter on face book and tomorrow home office ........ and if nothing i am in my car and on a plane ,

Sorry but this has to be a joke for a start no planes go to Sudan and it is a restricted access country. All this tales of the SAS gave it away. Have you thought this man may just be wanting to disappear and avoid as a female half of a couple persuing a single male is not what many single men would expect here. I hope its all drink talking and with luck you will sleep well without too much of a hangover. he never got a plane there ,, god no calls nothing its a war zone . wi fi everything is out , i chated to him in may and now thay say missing a month just a body . his sister i hope will help me and if not i will sort it some how as need closer on this.

Hang on you were saying above you was going to get a plane out there! I was addressing the fact you can't because its a war zone, you are avoiding the fact the SAS knowing he was there is plainly not true, I will be totally honest and say you really can't expect people to take this seriously and without being too rude does look a little stalkerish for a married woman to think she can do more than this guys sister. I would leave it to family as its far more appropriate. Sorry if its a little harsh but you need to take a step back as its more than a little obsessive to do all this on an open forum. its a war zone sudan yes 12 people a day die and i would maybe go see his body .......... and thats closer for me . i have the money the time and he was a big part of my life .Why on earth do you keep brining money up? It just looks like some sort of bragging issue, and 12 people a day die? There will be a lot more than that in Sudan I would have though. If you are not able to discuss this lover with your husband then find someone close you can sit down and discuss it with as I really don't think this is the place. i can do what i like .. my husband meet him week befor he come to my home to meet my kids ..... i was there in hotel night he left . We are close yes like family x"

Yes you can do what you like but frankly any sympathy from me has run out as after going through all this it comes across as pure "once upon a time" I keep expecting to read about fairies, dwarves and elves but frankly it has become even more unbelievable than that now and looks like a alcohol fired cry for help. You ignore advice and will do as you wish so I will leave you to add your flying dragon and horde of gold to this tail as I I have ceased believing there is any credibility left in it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i am now chating to his siter on face book and tomorrow home office ........ and if nothing i am in my car and on a plane ,

Sorry but this has to be a joke for a start no planes go to Sudan and it is a restricted access country. All this tales of the SAS gave it away. Have you thought this man may just be wanting to disappear and avoid as a female half of a couple persuing a single male is not what many single men would expect here. I hope its all drink talking and with luck you will sleep well without too much of a hangover. he never got a plane there ,, god no calls nothing its a war zone . wi fi everything is out , i chated to him in may and now thay say missing a month just a body . his sister i hope will help me and if not i will sort it some how as need closer on this.

Hang on you were saying above you was going to get a plane out there! I was addressing the fact you can't because its a war zone, you are avoiding the fact the SAS knowing he was there is plainly not true, I will be totally honest and say you really can't expect people to take this seriously and without being too rude does look a little stalkerish for a married woman to think she can do more than this guys sister. I would leave it to family as its far more appropriate. Sorry if its a little harsh but you need to take a step back as its more than a little obsessive to do all this on an open forum. its a war zone sudan yes 12 people a day die and i would maybe go see his body .......... and thats closer for me . i have the money the time and he was a big part of my life .Why on earth do you keep brining money up? It just looks like some sort of bragging issue, and 12 people a day die? There will be a lot more than that in Sudan I would have though. If you are not able to discuss this lover with your husband then find someone close you can sit down and discuss it with as I really don't think this is the place. i can do what i like .. my husband meet him week befor he come to my home to meet my kids ..... i was there in hotel night he left . We are close yes like family x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do i sit here do nothing think ooo never mind ... could be him maybe 2 ... 3 month he will mail ....... god i would hate that , i know my spelling crap but i say it how it is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Bad to the bone sympathy no i got help them saying call home office ... as i never new what to do . He was here on fab chating to me my friend .. and i have friends here and thay mailed me and its really helped . Not everday you get a letter like this on your msn .

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over a year ago

Just been reading through this Thread and I find some of the people who have added to this really need to take a step back and find somewhere else to play the conspiracy theories and accuse people of 'fairy tales' etc. And the lady that made the suggestion Jo would be asking for donations from Fabbers should be ashamed and apologise. I know it was retracted but hey ..too late! It should never have been written in the first place.

I have had the pleasure of knowing Jo for a number of years and its a priviledge to have her call me her friend. So I know 3 very simple things about Jo:

Firstly she is dyslexic (and she has said this in public) and finds it really hard to write things as maybe we would but she keeps on trying to beat it. So maybe give the lady a break in her use of language especially as she is very upset.

Secondly she is the most generous and kind hearted person anyone could know and I fully understand if someone she holds dear is in trouble, let alone possibly dead, she will move heaven and earth to sort it out even if she doesn't understand the difficulties involved.

Finally she doesn't need assistance fianancially so the little digs and smears are totally unfounded.

Seems to me if you can't be helpful and courteous, especially in a Thread like this, then maybe better to just keep the f**k out of it

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Seems to me if you can't be helpful and courteous, especially in a Thread like this, then maybe better to just keep the f**k out of it"

There is no need for that, even if you don't like the answers given.

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Hopefully there is a positive end to this your friend is ok, safe and sound. Regardless of where he is. It may be better wating further information from his family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what's the update?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I called and had a long chat and they wished to know all the ins and outs only thing i could not tell them was his passport number they are now looking into it and going to call me back ... With out that man telling me to call home office i would be going mad here today Thank-you so much. xx .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I remember the man in question

Wasn't he involved in some sort of heated dispute in the forum just prior to his departure ?

I know you are a kind hearted soul and from this and other postings, it is obvious that you have a depth of feeling for the guy.

Just be careful. There are some cruel people out there. There are some vengeful people out there.

I do hope that is does turn out to be a sick 'joke' because as horrible as that sounds, it would be the better outcome than if it is true.

I hope you get some closure and soon x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And i never really been a face book person as family there but i new B had a profile .. still cant find his sister but one other same surname i mail saying i was worried and had a Email not sure if true or not ... i never wished to go into a lot until i know whats going on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you were obviously very upset last night and you seem a bit calmer now.

I still haven't found the information who has sent that email to you? Someone you know?

And I thought you spoke to his sister on facebook? Must be frustrating to try and get to the bottom of things with your hands so tight as you're not a relative.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"you were obviously very upset last night and you seem a bit calmer now.

I still haven't found the information who has sent that email to you? Someone you know?

And I thought you spoke to his sister on facebook? Must be frustrating to try and get to the bottom of things with your hands so tight as you're not a relative. "
I had mail on MSN yesterday this lady was there in his friends list i had not seen before and she wished to make me a friend i add her and she mailed me told me she had chatted to them when she tex his phone. i know B has a sister and this lady who mailed said she was on face book so i was looking her up but i cant find her ... again i was going to just say i was worried not had mail from him for weeks last time was his birthday in may. I just needed to know he was ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ah ok thanks for clarifying it

I really hope you can find your friend soon and this has all been just a bad nightmare!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Jo...don't you find it a bit strange that this stranger you have never seen before turns up asking to be a friend and then says she has been in touch with your friends friend called Alice by text?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"you were obviously very upset last night and you seem a bit calmer now.

I still haven't found the information who has sent that email to you? Someone you know?

And I thought you spoke to his sister on facebook? Must be frustrating to try and get to the bottom of things with your hands so tight as you're not a relative. "
I never lied to home office i told them i was his girl friend and he was really nice and said he could understand why i needed to know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Jo...don't you find it a bit strange that this stranger you have never seen before turns up asking to be a friend and then says she has been in touch with your friends friend called Alice by text?"
I find it all strange thats why i need the truth as it will drive me mad here if i dont know it.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Jo, I have to be honest here....but I think someone is playing on your good nature xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im finding the whole scenario somewhat bewildering......anyone that is that close would surely be known to the family and be able to be contactable in an emergency??? without the need of msn messages from a friend of a friend who says his sister is on facebook???

i hope there is a positive outcome in this story as so far its coming across as being rather difficult to believe

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By *j_markCouple
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over a year ago

Totteridge/Whetstone

And on that note, we'll close this thread. You've had lots of good advice

Admin x

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