FabSwingers.com forum: Post-meet etiquette

By *ightowling OP Woman
over a year ago

Near Taunton

Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?

Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?

Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.

Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?!

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

It depends. First time with someone I will probably follow up, but if we've met half a dozen times I'm not bothered about a thankyou text.

Same with my mates: if it's someone I rarely see I might drop a message saying how good it was to see them and how we must keep in touch (before not seeing them for another year or two), but I have coffee with my best mate every Sunday and it doesn't occur to either of us to text the other to say thanks. We text each other a few times a day anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.

I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.

I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards."

And if the meet goes badly it's a perfect apology.

Good thinking, I'm going to start doing that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.

I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards.

And if the meet goes badly it's a perfect apology.

Good thinking, I'm going to start doing that."

I’m not just a pretty face.

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

"I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.

I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards."

I love this

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

As I usually go to them I often get home to find I already have a text but if I don't I usually send one myself and they respond with a similar message. Polite thing to do in my opinion.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.

I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards."

Meet goals!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally continue chatting with them as i did before the meet. I meet people I get on with.

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

I usually give them their out of 5 stars rating, a little feedback on how to improve etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.

I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards.

And if the meet goes badly it's a perfect apology.

Good thinking, I'm going to start doing that."

That is a great Idea, for me a simple thank you text is more than sufficient if it went well or not, however if it went superbly then a little voice message might be a better idea

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I’m a pain in the arse for this. I only meet people I’ve talked to for ages and have some kind of friendship with so if they then said nothing I’d be really pissed off and I’d tell them. I understand that people are busy etc but it’s very easy not to make someone feel like a piece of meat and if you have that understanding beforehand I expect someone to be respectful of that. I suppose it might be different for those that meet more casually, but for me manners cost nothing.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

A polite thank you costs nothing.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

A handwritten thank you card for a good meet, with a LIDL gift card and a signed photo of myself enclosed if they were exceptional

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A polite thank you costs nothing."

Oh hell yes

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"A handwritten thank you card for a good meet, with a LIDL gift card and a signed photo of myself enclosed if they were exceptional

Gosh you people are dedicated. I need to up my game. Shall I get souvenir tshirts printed?

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.

I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards."

That’s cute

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"I normally continue chatting with them as i did before the meet. I meet people I get on with. "

Same

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I’d only someone I’ve formed a friendship with, I personally would like the convo to carry on after a meet. It just think it’s polite but then again I always check in on friends outside of fab to see if they got home and just a brief summary of how the night felt and how lovely it was to see them.

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"I’d only someone I’ve formed a friendship with, I personally would like the convo to carry on after a meet. It just think it’s polite but then again I always check in on friends outside of fab to see if they got home and just a brief summary of how the night felt and how lovely it was to see them.

*meet someone

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"I usually give them their out of 5 stars rating, a little feedback on how to improve etc. "

Hahaha no you don’t

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"I’m a pain in the arse for this. I only meet people I’ve talked to for ages and have some kind of friendship with so if they then said nothing I’d be really pissed off and I’d tell them. I understand that people are busy etc but it’s very easy not to make someone feel like a piece of meat and if you have that understanding beforehand I expect someone to be respectful of that. I suppose it might be different for those that meet more casually, but for me manners cost nothing. "

I totally agree with you and like yourself I tend to have to chat for ages before even wanting to meet someone

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By *reywolf_18Man
over a year ago

ayr

"A polite thank you costs nothing."

Absolutely, that's the least I would do

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

"I normally continue chatting with them as i did before the meet. I meet people I get on with.

Same

This..... just carry on chatting

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By *reywolf_18Man
over a year ago

ayr

"I normally continue chatting with them as i did before the meet. I meet people I get on with.

Same

This..... just carry on chatting "

Ideally, yes this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have an A4 sized double sided 10 page feedback booklet I give out in a self addressed envelope as part of me being my best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.

I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards.

And if the meet goes badly it's a perfect apology.

Good thinking, I'm going to start doing that.

I’m not just a pretty face.

I’ll meet you just for the galaxy chocolate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?

Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?

Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.

Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?! "

Indeed I’d like to think there’s a rapport initially then leading to friendship/associations in an ideal scenario

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A handwritten thank you card for a good meet, with a LIDL gift card and a signed photo of myself enclosed if they were exceptional

Gosh you people are dedicated. I need to up my game. Shall I get souvenir tshirts printed?

Just red lacy knickers as a calling card

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By *ightowling OP Woman
over a year ago

Near Taunton

"I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.

I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards."

Brilliant!

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

"I usually give them their out of 5 stars rating, a little feedback on how to improve etc.

Hahaha no you don’t

You got me it's usually the other way round, so far 4 meets down, 1 more and I'll have a 5 star rating!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

we don't expect anything from the people we meet but usually continue chatting

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By *unmatt888Man
over a year ago

Duns

I record a full, personalised cover version of "I Just Had Sex" by The Lonely Island and send them the music video.

Least I can do.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?

Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?

Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.

Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?! "

Do you send one ?

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?

Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?

Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.

Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?! "

I agree it’s bloody rude.

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Fuck n go

I'm gone

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?

Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?

Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.

Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?!

Do you send one ?"

i was going to ask this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone didn't message me afterwards then I'd be disappointed with myself for misjudging that person as someone i wanted to sleep with.

Not my scene to be treated like that.

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Isn't a hand shake sufficient anymore?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As I usually go to them I often get home to find I already have a text but if I don't I usually send one myself and they respond with a similar message. Polite thing to do in my opinion. "

Same..manners make a difference xx

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

I fucked a bird once and she didn't even thank m

Can you believe it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A polite thank you costs nothing."

Manners ....... it’s just polite

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If someone didn't message me afterwards then I'd be disappointed with myself for misjudging that person as someone i wanted to sleep with.

Not my scene to be treated like that."

couldn't you message them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's takes me a lot of chatting and getting to know some one before I meet,so I'd be more upset that I judged him wrong,if I didn't here from him,and I would surely tell him

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I only meet people I've chatted to for a while, and tend to keep in touch with them afterwards. But if I didn't get a "it was lovely to see you" text, I'd be furious x

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"If someone didn't message me afterwards then I'd be disappointed with myself for misjudging that person as someone i wanted to sleep with.

Not my scene to be treated like that."

Imagine if the man felt exactly the same???

It could be suggested that many men send a gushing thank you thank you thank you message within half hour

It could be suggested that some women may take such a thank you or prompt contact as needy

It could be suggested some of us wait for our text as its alwsys nice to be appreciated

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

are we women still expecting men to be grateful to us for having sex with them?

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By *ich_ChesterMan
over a year ago

Chester

Usually send a message to continue the chat we had pre meet or just to make sure the got home ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?

Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?

Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.

Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?! "

Manners cost nothing and regardless of how the meet went,a thank you for meeting is always a given ,even if a further meet is never gonna happen .

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"A handwritten thank you card for a good meet, with a LIDL gift card and a signed photo of myself enclosed if they were exceptional

Gosh you people are dedicated. I need to up my game. Shall I get souvenir tshirts printed?

Baseball caps

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"are we women still expecting men to be grateful to us for having sex with them?"

Well, yeah. But I'm grateful to them for having sex with me too.

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By *ightowling OP Woman
over a year ago

Near Taunton

"Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?

Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?

Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.

Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?!

Do you send one ?"

Yes I do. Do you?

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?

Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?

Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.

Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?!

Do you send one ?

Yes I do. Do you? "

When appropriate absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"are we women still expecting men to be grateful to us for having sex with them?"

Well ,thing is ,it's not gonna happen or never will happen unless the lady decides it's gonna happen so tbh in a sort of way in a joint like this , Men should be grateful ...l mean you only have to read on the forums how guys are always saying it's so difficult to get meets

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"are we women still expecting men to be grateful to us for having sex with them?

Woh

Speak for yourself thanks

I meet on equal terms thank you muchly

I dont need to thank or be thanked for a mutual meeting

A post meet message from me would never be or need to be a thank you nor do I need a thank you

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By *ightowling OP Woman
over a year ago

Near Taunton

"are we women still expecting men to be grateful to us for having sex with them?"

I think we women are expecting to be treated with a bit of courtesy / manners, extended from one human being to another. Especially a sex-partner who you've just been very intimate with. I guess as a couple you have that post-sex 'aftercare' with your partner. Are you saying a little aftercare is too much to expect from a sex partner as a single person?

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By *easeandplease1Couple
over a year ago

South Bucks

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By *easeandplease1Couple
over a year ago

South Bucks

"I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.

I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards."

Oh that would put an extra smile on my face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually send a message to continue the chat we had pre meet or just to make sure the got home ok"

This is it! I always go to their place. So yes, I would expect a message to make sure I got home safely and to thank me for driving over. It's not about them thanking me for sleeping with them. But in that context, I do think if I'm the one driving home, it's nice for them to message me.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"are we women still expecting men to be grateful to us for having sex with them?

We men also like said courtesy

No one likes to feel used or a notch

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Usually send a message to continue the chat we had pre meet or just to make sure the got home ok

Context is everything

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"are we women still expecting men to be grateful to us for having sex with them?

well for us sex is a mutual thing, I don't expect anyone to be grateful to me and I wouldn't expect to be grateful to them . If we've had a mutually enjoyable time we can show mutual appreciation surely. This is 2020 not 1950

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always send a message after whether it was a social or sex.

If I dont recieve one in return then it just shows me that they're a twat

It always makes me laugh when they message a week or so later expecting another meet! Ain't happening. I lead them on for a few days and then ghost them. Childish, I know but funny as when they're messages get nasty.

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By *ightowling OP Woman
over a year ago

Near Taunton

I believe the saying 'thanks' is more alluding to the fact you've hosted someone, rather than the sex! I mean to host generally means: clean sheets, tidy up, sort the drinks etc, more clean sheets. I mean you'd thank a mate for hosting an evening wouldn't you?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it when they care enough to make sure I got home ok

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"are we women still expecting men to be grateful to us for having sex with them?

No. Are you expecting to receive after care first before you offer it yourself? Isn't sex mutually enjoyable?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I believe the saying 'thanks' is more alluding to the fact you've hosted someone, rather than the sex! I mean to host generally means: clean sheets, tidy up, sort the drinks etc, more clean sheets. I mean you'd thank a mate for hosting an evening wouldn't you?! "

we always send a thank you message if we've been guests, we take host/ess gifts too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually send a message to continue the chat we had pre meet or just to make sure the got home ok"

Yes I have had the same experience and post meet chat is good as I'm very choosy about who I meet in anycase.

If he's a nice guy and we both enjoyed each others company then be rude not to in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing would make me feel odd.

Definitely a message is in order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always at least a thanks...

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

As we tend to host, I always ask them to let me know when they get home as well as sending a thank you message.

From an aftercare point of view I check in with them for the next few days to ensure they are feeling ok and not suffering any drop related issues, and then carry on with the chatting.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Definitely a cheeky message afterwards and carry on the Laughter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last lady I played with from here unfortunately seems to have had her number disconnected and we never got the chance to meet again...But she sent me the following thoughtful message the day after :-

' Dear Aloysius,

Thank you for a wonderful time last evening. I must apologise once again for my behaviour. I'm sorry I screamed when I saw your face initially, and subsequently asking you to remove 'that hideous halloween mask', as it being October I mistakenly believed you were wearing one. I also regret drinking your room's mini-bar dry before we got down to play. Likewise sorry for saying 'please tell me you are cold and you're a grower ?' when you undressed, I can only imagine it was the drink talking.

Thank you for agreeing to wear my makeup bag on your face, it was good of you to indulge my fetish and I'm sorry you almost suffocated. Thank you for subsequently allowing me to turn off the lights, as my eyes are very sensitive after alcohol. I'm sorry for asking you 'Is it in yet ?', as you may appreciate my senses become limited in the dark. I can only put it down to the rapturous pleasure you caused me when I shouted 'Thank F##K that's over !' three minutes later, I don't know what came over me...probably you ?

Again I must restate how regrettable it was that I feel asleep during the enthralling cunilingus you performed on me, I must have drifted to another realm of pleasure.

Sorry again about my uncle Tom disturbed us. I was as so surprised when he called to say he was in the corridor outside our room and needed a place to stay for the night. It was so understanding of you to leave so we could catch up. It must seem strange to you that he greeted me by saying 'Hello Chardonnay, it's me Tom, 9 pm ?'...he gets confused and often calls me my sister's name, then panics and states his own name and the time, poor dear.

It was so good of you to go halves on the room Aloysius, and I totally agree it was very bad form of the hotel management to ring me just before you arrived and double the rate to £400 per person. I can assure you I let them know of our mutual annoyance at the front desk next morning, as did Uncle Tim.

Thank you again for a magical 53 minutes, it felt so much longer.

Laquandice x '

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By *unmatt888Man
over a year ago

Duns

To be honest, I think people can get far too hung-up on whose "responsibility" it is to message first after a meet - what matters if that one person does message, not sending at least one reply is the height of bellendery.

But please don't sit and fume that the other person hasn't sent a message, when neither have you!

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

I’m going to do party bags, besides cake what should I put in them?

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By *unmatt888Man
over a year ago

Duns

"I’m going to do party bags, besides cake what should I put in them? "

Cake, wetwipes and a home pregnancy test should suffice.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The last lady I played with from here unfortunately seems to have had her number disconnected and we never got the chance to meet again...But she sent me the following thoughtful message the day after :-

' Dear Aloysius,

Again I must restate how regrettable it was that I feel asleep during the enthralling cunilingus you performed on me, I must have drifted to another realm of pleasure.

Thank you again for a magical 53 minutes, it felt so much longer.

Laquandice x '

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I like it when they care enough to make sure I got home ok "

Exactly this

I’d expect this if nothing else and so far it’s always happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like it when they care enough to make sure I got home ok

Exactly this

I’d expect this if nothing else and so far it’s always happened"

Common courtesy eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wanting someone to thank me for having sex with them sounds absolutely cringeworthy. I don't want it or expect it. If they made an effort hosting or as a visitor they bought a gift etc, thanks for that would be given there and then and I would expect the same in return. If it was a one time only situation I think keeping up a conversation after the event confuses matters. A clean break should be made as you part ways. Whoever has visited should be wished a safe journey home and then that's it. If it's a regular event then contact should continue as before and not regress into a "when can you next open your legs?" situation.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I like it when they care enough to make sure I got home ok

Exactly this

I’d expect this if nothing else and so far it’s always happened

Common courtesy eh?"

Exactly

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.

I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards."

Mmmmm Galaxy is my favourite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.

I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, I wouldn’t meet someone unless we’d been talking for a while and had really gotten to know each other, so that continuing to talk afterwards is already second nature.

I’d always message after a meet regardless, because I want to make sure whoever I’m with gets home safe etc. since I’d have to care enough about their safety to want to sleep with them!!

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

"Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?

Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?

Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.

Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?! "

I’m happy either way. However personally I like to be a bit chatty but I’m fully aware a lot of women are not as bothered.

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By *ED00Woman
over a year ago

South Devon... Torbaydos

I like a lot of you will only meet after I've been chatting a while by messages on here and then on the phone, I cant have sex without some form of connection. Recently I met a guy who prior to meeting, we had been texting and talking every night. We both seemed to want the same thing, a regular FWB without the relationship trappings and had talked about this. He came to mine we had a great night and he stayed over. He talked about making it a regular thing and all was dandy. He left I sent a short text saying how much I had enjoyed his company and looked forward to a rematch. He replied said defo to a rematch. That was 2 wks ago. It's gone from everyday text and calls to no calls and half a dozen text and me feeling annoyed and irritated with myself for having sex with him !! I'm not a confident person but things like this knock my confidence even more. I would much rather he would of said thanks but no thanks than this limbo. Maybe I'm not cut out for this kind of scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m a smother her in affection and send her a bar of galaxy chocolate in the post.

I try and post it the day before the meet so it arrives the morning afterwards."

Jesus Sam, leave some women for the rest of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like a lot of you will only meet after I've been chatting a while by messages on here and then on the phone, I cant have sex without some form of connection. Recently I met a guy who prior to meeting, we had been texting and talking every night. We both seemed to want the same thing, a regular FWB without the relationship trappings and had talked about this. He came to mine we had a great night and he stayed over. He talked about making it a regular thing and all was dandy. He left I sent a short text saying how much I had enjoyed his company and looked forward to a rematch. He replied said defo to a rematch. That was 2 wks ago. It's gone from everyday text and calls to no calls and half a dozen text and me feeling annoyed and irritated with myself for having sex with him !! I'm not a confident person but things like this knock my confidence even more. I would much rather he would of said thanks but no thanks than this limbo. Maybe I'm not cut out for this kind of scene. "

The only way to try and avoid this in the future is by taking sex off the table the first time you meet

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

The only way to try and avoid this in the future is by taking sex off the table the first time you meet "

That doesn't always work, I had a social first and he still ghosted me after a later sex meet, we had been chatting daily for months, he confessed in a sorry message a month later that he only liked the excitement of the chase

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By *ugga MannMan
over a year ago

Heathrow

When I see this kind of discussion, I am disappointingly reminded that many people on here are just here to get shags.

Mostly I enjoy being part of a community of likeminded souls who enjoy physically exploring and enjoying the bodies (and minds) of people we like, with whom we have developed a connection. Hence my preference for regular playmates. Parties and clubs are different but I still look for a connection of some kind.

Shag and go does not fit well with this!!

Of course we keep talking - we’ve just been about as intimate as you can be with another person so why would we stop chatting? Unless you’ve scored your goal and being a shallow arse you’re heartlessly moving on.

It’s only common decency to make sure someone got home OK. It’s proper adult behaviour to be interested and at least respectful.

Not everyone will share my point of view but then I would be interested in meeting with them anyway!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only way to try and avoid this in the future is by taking sex off the table the first time you meet

Yeah, there's no real guarantees of how other people will behave

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

This has never been a problem for us.We're ALWAYS blocked after a meet!

Mike

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only way to try and avoid this in the future is by taking sex off the table the first time you meet

I’m finding a lot of guys are more into the excitement of the chase...

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By *ightowling OP Woman
over a year ago

Near Taunton

"When I see this kind of discussion, I am disappointingly reminded that many people on here are just here to get shags.

Shag and go does not fit well with this!!

It’s only common decency to make sure someone got home OK. It’s proper adult behaviour to be interested and at least respectful.

Not everyone will share my point of view but then I would be interested in meeting with them anyway!!"

I like this

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Ransoms I've never messaged, some are just one off meets. Friends, I message anyway. Ms

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By *ED00Woman
over a year ago

South Devon... Torbaydos

These posts have made me feel so much better. Even though I'm sorry that so many of us do get treated with no or little post meet respect, it's made me let out a huge sigh of relief that it's not just me lol. I shall be taking sex off the table for the first meet.... fingers crossed.... and pulling on my big girl pants and getting over it. Thanks all xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"are we women still expecting men to be grateful to us for having sex with them?

Well, yeah. But I'm grateful to them for having sex with me too. "

The feeling would be mutual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"These posts have made me feel so much better. Even though I'm sorry that so many of us do get treated with no or little post meet respect, it's made me let out a huge sigh of relief that it's not just me lol. I shall be taking sex off the table for the first meet.... fingers crossed.... and pulling on my big girl pants and getting over it. Thanks all xxx"

Quite sensible My kinda Girl

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

Not just you lovely not at all ..... onwards and upwards xxx

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By *fweonlymeettwiceMan
over a year ago

Madrid

I Just leave a feedback book on my bedside drawers, its empty at the moment

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Anything is reasonable except abuse. If it's from the heart, or groin, that's fine. Or silence is golden too

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By *imis3Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

' Dear Aloysius,

Again I must restate how regrettable it was that I feel asleep during the enthralling cunilingus you performed on me, I must have drifted to another realm of pleasure.

Thank you again for a magical 53 minutes, it felt so much longer.

Laquandice x '

LMAO

I love a bloke who has a healthy perspective on this site

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By *addoggyMan
over a year ago

leeds

"Hi everyone, what do you like or are your expectations for post-meet etiquette?

Do you like/expect a quick 'thanks for having me I had a great time' text after, or are you quite OK with nothing?

Personally, if there's been lots of text chat up to the meet, then nothing after... for maybe days... I think that's a bit rubbish.

Usually if I've spent time with a friend (in normal life not a fab meet), I'd send a quick thank you text and so do most people I know! Is sex exempt from this etiquette?! "
if you let me meet you and taste your pussy I promise I will text saying thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually send a quick message if I haven’t got one off them.

But I don’t expect to hear of them much after that... great if you do but it’s all about fun and no drama

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By *addoggyMan
over a year ago

leeds

I just take of the tie wraps and the gag and tell them how lucky they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I find that the Restraining Order they have inevitably executed, stops all contact from me

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Nice to be nice...always send a message & expect one also ..xx

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"As I usually go to them I often get home to find I already have a text but if I don't I usually send one myself and they respond with a similar message. Polite thing to do in my opinion. "

Are you supposed to leave after?

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