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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ever feel like your tied up in knots and the more you try to wriggle out of them the worse they get?

Like the more you try to see reason and understanding, it just equates to information overload?

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By *obbychickWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Ever feel like your tied up in knots and the more you try to wriggle out of them the worse they get?

Like the more you try to see reason and understanding, it just equates to information overload?

"

All the time....it doesn’t help that I’m an over thinker too, I tend to make things a lot worse than it has to be most time

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

All the time

I tend to go into rabbit holes trying to find stuff out and end up giving myself headaches.

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

There comes a point when you have to simply stop looking for reason, accept you may never understand especially if someone else holds the keys to the perspective you need to truely unravel a tangled mess. Switch off, stop fighting it, let your mind unfocus and before you know it that knot will loosen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not just me then ladies. Makes me feel slightly more 'normal'

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There comes a point when you have to simply stop looking for reason, accept you may never understand especially if someone else holds the keys to the perspective you need to truely unravel a tangled mess. Switch off, stop fighting it, let your mind unfocus and before you know it that knot will loosen."

This sounds exactly like what I should do but I'm very bad at doing it.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"There comes a point when you have to simply stop looking for reason, accept you may never understand especially if someone else holds the keys to the perspective you need to truely unravel a tangled mess. Switch off, stop fighting it, let your mind unfocus and before you know it that knot will loosen."

easier said than done mind! Switching off....where’s that bloody switch

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside


"There comes a point when you have to simply stop looking for reason, accept you may never understand especially if someone else holds the keys to the perspective you need to truely unravel a tangled mess. Switch off, stop fighting it, let your mind unfocus and before you know it that knot will loosen.

easier said than done mind! Switching off....where’s that bloody switch "

You're not wrong at all but i think the brain reaches a point when the shutdown is triggered naturally or just needs a little push

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There comes a point when you have to simply stop looking for reason, accept you may never understand especially if someone else holds the keys to the perspective you need to truely unravel a tangled mess. Switch off, stop fighting it, let your mind unfocus and before you know it that knot will loosen.

easier said than done mind! Switching off....where’s that bloody switch "

Think mines broken

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"There comes a point when you have to simply stop looking for reason, accept you may never understand especially if someone else holds the keys to the perspective you need to truely unravel a tangled mess. Switch off, stop fighting it, let your mind unfocus and before you know it that knot will loosen."

Got it in one - some things, especially when it comes to the actions of others, will never be explained or make sense, so can never be understood or explicable so no point wasting time trying to figure them out - best to move on and forget it/them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ever feel like your tied up in knots and the more you try to wriggle out of them the worse they get?

Like the more you try to see reason and understanding, it just equates to information overload?

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I feel that so hard right now.

Like you have no room to breath because you’re all tied up in knots of overthinking. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There comes a point when you have to simply stop looking for reason, accept you may never understand especially if someone else holds the keys to the perspective you need to truely unravel a tangled mess. Switch off, stop fighting it, let your mind unfocus and before you know it that knot will loosen.

Got it in one - some things, especially when it comes to the actions of others, will never be explained or make sense, so can never be understood or explicable so no point wasting time trying to figure them out - best to move on and forget it/them."

See, this is resonable and logical. It makes perfect sense but what I should do and what actually ends up happening end up being two different things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ever feel like your tied up in knots and the more you try to wriggle out of them the worse they get?

Like the more you try to see reason and understanding, it just equates to information overload?

I feel that so hard right now.

Like you have no room to breath because you’re all tied up in knots of overthinking. X"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not just me then ladies. Makes me feel slightly more 'normal' "

Everyone is different shades of normal.

Have you tried writing it down? Maybe like each thought on a post it that you can then put into groups to try and make better sense of it all.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Ever feel like your tied up in knots and the more you try to wriggle out of them the worse they get?

Like the more you try to see reason and understanding, it just equates to information overload?

"

Take a step back, and breathe

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

course I do.

Time normally gives the answers tho rather than searching for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Accepting the here and now is all that matters helps.

Actions/thoughts of other people... Not my concern or control.

I try to let things, feelings and emotions wash over me, they come but also go. Accept what is and don't get caught up second guessing every little detail.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"Ever feel like your tied up in knots and the more you try to wriggle out of them the worse they get?

Like the more you try to see reason and understanding, it just equates to information overload?

"

Oh, yes! That's when I have to take a step back and trust that it will settle in time. Let the thoughts do their thing without chasing them down. Easy to say, not so easy to do.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ever feel like your tied up in knots and the more you try to wriggle out of them the worse they get?

Like the more you try to see reason and understanding, it just equates to information overload?

All the time....it doesn’t help that I’m an over thinker too, I tend to make things a lot worse than it has to be most time "

Similarly I'm an over thinker and at times it does my head in and I need to step back and let my mind go blank, or go do something else that occupies my mind elsewhere. I like my overthinking though because its regularly avoided me from surprise in many situations because I've previously ran those outcomes through my head. I can deal with it better if I've previously thought about it, if even for just a minute.

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By *hilliandspiceMan
over a year ago

Wimborne


"Ever feel like your tied up in knots and the more you try to wriggle out of them the worse they get?

Like the more you try to see reason and understanding, it just equates to information overload?

I feel that so hard right now.

Like you have no room to breath because you’re all tied up in knots of overthinking. X"

Resolving problems is done one of several ways, but when they become a difficult problem I find there are two ways of dealing with it.

1. Force yourself into a decision and blindly use the sledgehammer approach until either proven right (all is good) proven wrong in which case you have a mess to deal with but at least you have your answer.

2. Put the problem to one side and let the hind brain tick over with it (usually hind brain already has the answer anyway). Go make a brew, think about something else.

3. Many problems aren't that simple though to be able to deal with like the above. Especially if they deal with people or feelings. In which case usually if it's a decision you need to make but aren't sure which is the right choice. Then 99% of the time deep down you do actually know the decision but the clutter of top level thinking is doing the paranoid check and balances.

The trick is to ask yourself the right questions. For example, decision to make, think about how you would feel a year on from each of the choices.

Sometimes it feels like there is a bloody big wall in your way and you have to take a different view or approach to see the problem in a different perspective.

Good luck with your tangledness. Hope you resolve it.

Thing to remember is we all make wrong choices in life but life is too short to not make any at all.

Jeepers, where did all that come from, way too deep for a Sunday afternoon, think I will go have a cold shower

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I had a moment recently where I was trying to get my head around different immune modulations of the plague (listening to virology).

It was some time into the headache I gave myself before I reminded myself. Swing. You've not had any formal science education since you were sixteen. Immunology is hard for people who know what they're talking about. Go read a book you idiot

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had a moment recently where I was trying to get my head around different immune modulations of the plague (listening to virology).

It was some time into the headache I gave myself before I reminded myself. Swing. You've not had any formal science education since you were sixteen. Immunology is hard for people who know what they're talking about. Go read a book you idiot "

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