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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've seen this mentioned by people a few times. I too feel I'm in this category, however I wonder what makes others decide that about a person?

I know on here for many it's all about having fun and not seeking more but this happens outside of fab often.

Is there a certain criteria /list?

Is it just a feeling?

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I feel like people think this about me all the time. I'm pretty amazed they think I'm alright for fun for a start to be honest. But it might be nice to be thought of for more once in a while.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"I've seen this mentioned by people a few times. I too feel I'm in this category, however I wonder what makes others decide that about a person?

I know on here for many it's all about having fun and not seeking more but this happens outside of fab often.

Is there a certain criteria /list?

Is it just a feeling?

"

My criteria for more is vastly longer and less flexible than for just fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i was younger/newly on here i felt this a lot..

But now i am older i have realised the type of man i would date long term and the type of man i'd want to play with are actually two types of man..

perhaps it's the same for men.

Having said that i think there are no excuses for people being cruel bastards and that you can go on 'mate dates' with no romantic intentions.

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By *ax1971Man
over a year ago

St helens

It is a swinging site i know..... but would Love to find that 1 special lady to build up a relationship.... i know i live in a fantasy world..x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think, for me, that would be a generalisation for all people, not just any specific one or 2. It would spawn from my feelings of wanting to remain single but still looking to have some 'fun' and I wouldn't be looking to take thing any further.

However, fun encompasses a lot of things for me, such as just having a laugh in eachothers company. This might feel like something I would with a girlfriend, just relaxing together having a laugh, but these days i would call that a social

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I would say it’s a feeling.

I had loads of meets and fun in clubs.

I wasn’t looking for my fella. We met in a club. I was having so much fun and enjoying life as a singleton. I met him and that was it...... I knew I was his.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to develop friendships with the guys I play with, but never more than that and I tell them that right from the start. It sounds harsh but if they develop stronger feelings then I end it. It's not what I'm looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen this mentioned by people a few times. I too feel I'm in this category, however I wonder what makes others decide that about a person?

I know on here for many it's all about having fun and not seeking more but this happens outside of fab often.

Is there a certain criteria /list?

Is it just a feeling?

"

This is me too, I just don’t think I’m classed as “gf material” by most guys. It’s been that way all my life. I’d be really interested too in what brings people to this conclusion

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Who knows there could and will be many reasons, and possibly different reasons from person to person regarding the same woman.

We all have people we enjoy spending time with but the thought if being with them for more than a few hours gives you a headache.

Too loud

Too quiet

Too needy

Too independent

Too vanilla

Too kinky

The list goes on and on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think many (not all) people want the Facebook/ Instagram illusion of happiness. They are more bothered about how the relationship looks from the outside.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I think many (not all) people want the Facebook/ Instagram illusion of happiness. They are more bothered about how the relationship looks from the outside.

"

Ha! That's so fucking true.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I think it depends on the man/woman you pick.

They have already made their mind up that it will just be fun. There is nothing you can do to change that.

So change them. Swap them for someone who treats you as more than a sexual plaything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it happens it happens, Im going to Tesco in a minute to do some shopping, but if I bump into the future love of my life there, that'd be great....

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Mrs is just for fun , really doesn’t want anything else at the moment. Im the opposite , don’t do the “just for fun” meets anymore , but for the more someone to challenge and inspire me a little, it’s all about respect, personality and appetite for adventure.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Do you mean just for sex? That's all we can really offer along with some good company.

I think it's probably down to attitude. We can't offer any sort of romantic relationship, commitment or permanency so we approach people with that in mind. We assume that anyone who approaches us only wants "fun". It's probably different for single people.

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By *osie xWoman
over a year ago

wolverhampton


"If it happens it happens, Im going to Tesco in a minute to do some shopping, but if I bump into the future love of my life there, that'd be great.... "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think many (not all) people want the Facebook/ Instagram illusion of happiness. They are more bothered about how the relationship looks from the outside.

"

so true.

I'm not looking for a relationship - but if I was then I would look for someone who is relationship material for me.

There are people I've had sex with that I wouldn't want anything more with for various reasons.

For me it's about whether I want to spend time with that person.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

A lot of Fab men don’t take Fab women seriously. It’s the was society has programmed them from birth.

The saddest thing I read on here was from a woman who wrote about a guy she had been seeing from Fab regularly. He turned round to her and said “I could never date a woman from Fab”

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

This is a swinging site, so people will want to explore meeting different people.

While I would luv to find a gf, I'll be here to make friends, chat, hang out and enjoy some intimacy along the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it happens it happens, Im going to Tesco in a minute to do some shopping, but if I bump into the future love of my life there, that'd be great.... "

What a coincidence,I'm off to Tesco's to ,see you by the trollies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of Fab men don’t take Fab women seriously. It’s the was society has programmed them from birth.

The saddest thing I read on here was from a woman who wrote about a guy she had been seeing from Fab regularly. He turned round to her and said “I could never date a woman from Fab”

"

This is so true.

I think its the wrong place to look for a relationship.

Obviously there are the exceptions.

I don't take Fab men seriously - I'm just here for the sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of Fab men don’t take Fab women seriously. It’s the was society has programmed them from birth.

The saddest thing I read on here was from a woman who wrote about a guy she had been seeing from Fab regularly. He turned round to her and said “I could never date a woman from Fab”

This is so true.

I think its the wrong place to look for a relationship.

Obviously there are the exceptions.

I don't take Fab men seriously - I'm just here for the sex "

I really think that I need to take a leaf out of your book lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I don't take Fab men seriously - I'm just here for the sex

I really think that I need to take a

leaf out of your book lol"

Haha think like a man

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By *P994Man
over a year ago

Travelling

It’s very much a case of the environment you meet people in IMO. If you go round someone’s house have a cup a tea then get down in the bedroom and that’s all it is then it’ll never develop past that and also same thing if you go to a club with someone you’ll get the same results and people will just expect that.

If you want something more you have to branch out and go on dates and spend time together with no expectations of anything sexual which isn’t really what most people on fab want in most cases. That’s more something you’d find on a dating site. Not to say it would never happen through fab but it’s unlikely unless you tell people you want something more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I don't take Fab men seriously - I'm just here for the sex

I really think that I need to take a

leaf out of your book lol

Haha think like a man "

And be one step ahead of them to lol

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’ve had relationships with three lovely ladies from Fab. Fortunately I can see past the Fab banner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had relationships with three lovely ladies from Fab. Fortunately I can see past the Fab banner. "

That's good to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen this mentioned by people a few times. I too feel I'm in this category, however I wonder what makes others decide that about a person?

I know on here for many it's all about having fun and not seeking more but this happens outside of fab often.

Is there a certain criteria /list?

Is it just a feeling?

"
unfortunately i feel like this but i do live in hope that will change one day

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

People who are "relationship material" can be found anywhere, including here. The issue is certain places, such as fab, will likely attract the personality types who do not want a relationship that goes anything beyond casual fun.

Proper dating is hard enough as it is in today's modern society and even more difficult through a platform whose premise is built on NSA and the potential of multiple sexual partners.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Who knows there could and will be many reasons, and possibly different reasons from person to person regarding the same woman.

We all have people we enjoy spending time with but the thought if being with them for more than a few hours gives you a headache.

Too loud

Too quiet

Too needy

Too independent

Too vanilla

Too kinky

The list goes on and on

"

For me my next companion must

Want to travel in a van

Ski snowboard mountain bike sail mountain climb not be racist enjoy spicy food and be below 5'3 oh and enjoy cards chess and scrabble and be philosophical and funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’re looking for more than just sex this definitely isn’t the right place. Exceptions to this would be people who would like to have a swinging relationship or people who would like to continue being on the site even if they were in a relationship.

For singles who want a ‘normal’ relationship and by normal I mean exclusive to each other and not want to meet anyone else or have any type of swinging relationship, you won’t find that on here.

Yes two people may meet and fall madly in love and leave the site completely but that’s the exception, not the rule.

On here *most* guys wouldn’t even consider dating a woman from here and would consider them as only good for a fuck, nothing else.

In the real world it’s just as bad, people are very disposable these days. You have guys in their mid to late thirties saying they’re not looking for relationships because they really do have all the time in the world.

If men had a biological clock like women do and their cut off point to have children was in their forties, they would understand why women simply don’t have time to waste with men who aren’t looking for something long term.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I've seen this mentioned by people a few times. I too feel I'm in this category, however I wonder what makes others decide that about a person?

I know on here for many it's all about having fun and not seeking more but this happens outside of fab often.

Is there a certain criteria /list?

Is it just a feeling?

"

I would strongly advise criteria / list for a relationship , a feeling will normally be wildly inaccurate.

If you set your standards high, respect yourself and are very clear what you want you become instantly very attractive to the right men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who are "relationship material" can be found anywhere, including here. The issue is certain places, such as fab, will likely attract the personality types who do not want a relationship that goes anything beyond casual fun.

Proper dating is hard enough as it is in today's modern society and even more difficult through a platform whose premise is built on NSA and the potential of multiple sexual partners. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who knows there could and will be many reasons, and possibly different reasons from person to person regarding the same woman.

We all have people we enjoy spending time with but the thought if being with them for more than a few hours gives you a headache.

Too loud

Too quiet

Too needy

Too independent

Too vanilla

Too kinky

The list goes on and on

For me my next companion must

Want to travel in a van

Ski snowboard mountain bike sail mountain climb not be racist enjoy spicy food and be below 5'3 oh and enjoy cards chess and scrabble and be philosophical and funny "

So you don't have a type then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't date anyone off here because I wouldn't trust them.

But that's my problem not theirs. This site has people who are 100% trustworthy, right down to those who are 0%. Same as the rest of the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be honest from the start about what you want and don’t meet someone if they’re not what you’re looking for. Seems simple to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a message from someone yesterday who said he wanted someone to do things with that he wouldn’t want the mother of his children to do.

I found it really insulting. Like he was looking down at the women of fab.

Like many here I have a respectable career and I’m a mother- a good one- my sex life has no bearing on that.

Not that I’m looking for a relationship, but that’s not the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love to develop friendships with the guys I play with, but never more than that and I tell them that right from the start. It sounds harsh but if they develop stronger feelings then I end it. It's not what I'm looking for."

You’re actually unreal I’d have some craic with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’re looking for more than just sex this definitely isn’t the right place. Exceptions to this would be people who would like to have a swinging relationship or people who would like to continue being on the site even if they were in a relationship.

For singles who want a ‘normal’ relationship and by normal I mean exclusive to each other and not want to meet anyone else or have any type of swinging relationship, you won’t find that on here.

Yes two people may meet and fall madly in love and leave the site completely but that’s the exception, not the rule.

On here *most* guys wouldn’t even consider dating a woman from here and would consider them as only good for a fuck, nothing else.

In the real world it’s just as bad, people are very disposable these days. You have guys in their mid to late thirties saying they’re not looking for relationships because they really do have all the time in the world.

If men had a biological clock like women do and their cut off point to have children was in their forties, they would understand why women simply don’t have time to waste with men who aren’t looking for something long term. "

Very good points on everything. We men do have a clock tho. I’m 37 and if I want children, which I think I do, I’d like to live to see them possibly get married themselves or have a child or two....and I’m certainly quite limited at my age bring still single.

So while we don’t have your more harsh clock, we certainly have similarish time scales of we want a truly full relationship cycle with our potential children

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a message from someone yesterday who said he wanted someone to do things with that he wouldn’t want the mother of his children to do.

I found it really insulting. Like he was looking down at the women of fab.

Like many here I have a respectable career and I’m a mother- a good one- my sex life has no bearing on that.

Not that I’m looking for a relationship, but that’s not the point. "

I’d say he has some stuff to figure out. After all he’s here too. I’d love to do any sexual stuff with any long term partner- off here or in more usual circumstances

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say it’s just a personal feeling, you can almost sense a persons energy immediately.

I’ve had women in the past that were purely for fun & would never cross into anything more than that & it was purely because I didn’t see them hitting the qualities I wanted.

Just as I have been for women I’m sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen this mentioned by people a few times. I too feel I'm in this category, however I wonder what makes others decide that about a person?

I know on here for many it's all about having fun and not seeking more but this happens outside of fab often.

Is there a certain criteria /list?

Is it just a feeling?

"

I think I’m too much fun.

I’m exhausting.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land


"I love to develop friendships with the guys I play with, but never more than that and I tell them that right from the start. It sounds harsh but if they develop stronger feelings then I end it. It's not what I'm looking for."

I concur with this, at this point in my life

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I like to be friends with people first but nothing more past that. Its nothing to do with the other person it's more the fact that it's taken a lot of time for me to get my life they way I want it and I'm happy and content with how it is, so don't really want to change it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd probably fall in to this category nowadays. Even if I wanted something more (which I don't anytime soon) I think I'd struggle to find it. I'm bouncy, annoying, pretty independent and tend to just do my own thing. I'm also quite stubborn, doesn't go down well with most people for anything other than a bit of fun.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I'm on fab because I want a fuck-buddy arrangement, I truly don't want a relationship (they don't suit me).

I've had guys develop feelings and look for more in the past, and things have ended when I've been clear that my feelings and wishes haven't changed at all.

If I was looking for a relationship I wouldn't discount anyone I met on here though; if the connection and the desire was there on both sides then why not? At least you know you have interests in common!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of Fab men don’t take Fab women seriously. It’s the was society has programmed them from birth.

The saddest thing I read on here was from a woman who wrote about a guy she had been seeing from Fab regularly. He turned round to her and said “I could never date a woman from Fab”

This is so true.

I think its the wrong place to look for a relationship.

Obviously there are the exceptions.

I don't take Fab men seriously - I'm just here for the sex "

I agree definitely the wrong place to find a relationship. I think sometimes some men & woman forget that this is a sex site & not a dating site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

everyone is on fab for different reasons and I don't think you can discount relationships being built on here there's lots of cples met on here some work some don't personally i'm not here for a relationship but also not here for notches on bedpost my personal circumstances worklife balance means its difficult to start a relationship but still need adult company and fun times so this suits me at the moment and I'm sure plenty are in the same boat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of Fab men don’t take Fab women seriously. It’s the was society has programmed them from birth.

The saddest thing I read on here was from a woman who wrote about a guy she had been seeing from Fab regularly. He turned round to her and said “I could never date a woman from Fab”

This is so true.

I think its the wrong place to look for a relationship.

Obviously there are the exceptions.

I don't take Fab men seriously - I'm just here for the sex

I agree definitely the wrong place to find a relationship. I think sometimes some men & woman forget that this is a sex site & not a dating site. "

It’s whatever you want it to be

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"If you’re looking for more than just sex this definitely isn’t the right place. Exceptions to this would be people who would like to have a swinging relationship or people who would like to continue being on the site even if they were in a relationship.

For singles who want a ‘normal’ relationship and by normal I mean exclusive to each other and not want to meet anyone else or have any type of swinging relationship, you won’t find that on here.

Yes two people may meet and fall madly in love and leave the site completely but that’s the exception, not the rule.

On here *most* guys wouldn’t even consider dating a woman from here and would consider them as only good for a fuck, nothing else.

In the real world it’s just as bad, people are very disposable these days. You have guys in their mid to late thirties saying they’re not looking for relationships because they really do have all the time in the world.

If men had a biological clock like women do and their cut off point to have children was in their forties, they would understand why women simply don’t have time to waste with men who aren’t looking for something long term. "

This is right on the money. In my opinion, men also look for younger women who will be mothers rather than women who will play the field until later in life then hope to meet mr right and have kids in a short time frame. Men can smell the desperation and run for the hills!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"If you’re looking for more than just sex this definitely isn’t the right place. Exceptions to this would be people who would like to have a swinging relationship or people who would like to continue being on the site even if they were in a relationship.

For singles who want a ‘normal’ relationship and by normal I mean exclusive to each other and not want to meet anyone else or have any type of swinging relationship, you won’t find that on here.

Yes two people may meet and fall madly in love and leave the site completely but that’s the exception, not the rule.

On here *most* guys wouldn’t even consider dating a woman from here and would consider them as only good for a fuck, nothing else.

In the real world it’s just as bad, people are very disposable these days. You have guys in their mid to late thirties saying they’re not looking for relationships because they really do have all the time in the world.

If men had a biological clock like women do and their cut off point to have children was in their forties, they would understand why women simply don’t have time to waste with men who aren’t looking for something long term. "

I’m sorry. I know people who met on here. They are in committed relationships and have left fab. It can be done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a message from someone yesterday who said he wanted someone to do things with that he wouldn’t want the mother of his children to do.

I found it really insulting. Like he was looking down at the women of fab.

Like many here I have a respectable career and I’m a mother- a good one- my sex life has no bearing on that.

Not that I’m looking for a relationship, but that’s not the point. "

That’s just the good old Madonna/whore thing isn’t it? I can’t believe some people still think like that in this day and age. It’s very insulting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what they mean by fun ?

I wouldn't be interested in sleeping with someone I didn't find really attractive, interesting and good company...that's my definition of fun.

If I wouldn't consider 'anything more' after that it's cause I think she's a person most happy single or our personalities wouldn't be suited as romantically involved couple...which happens to be the case with lots of platonic friends of the opposite gender...and probably the same for lots of the same gender and orientation.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't think about this as necessarily a judgement of worth. I've met some people where the sex was great, but we should have left it at that, because the attempted friendship was a disaster. Utterly incompatible except for genital fit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a message from someone yesterday who said he wanted someone to do things with that he wouldn’t want the mother of his children to do.

I found it really insulting. Like he was looking down at the women of fab.

Like many here I have a respectable career and I’m a mother- a good one- my sex life has no bearing on that.

Not that I’m looking for a relationship, but that’s not the point.

That’s just the good old Madonna/whore thing isn’t it? I can’t believe some people still think like that in this day and age. It’s very insulting."

Those types marry the 'Madonna' then get pissed off when she won't shag him and they end up on here looking for a 'whore'.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think about this as necessarily a judgement of worth. I've met some people where the sex was great, but we should have left it at that, because the attempted friendship was a disaster. Utterly incompatible except for genital fit."

'great meet, very genitally comparable' is a great new description for verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compatible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a couple of experiences where after seeing someone a few times, I assumed it was more than it was and that stings. Also had the fact i am a 'fab woman' thrown back at me more than once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being honest here ..and l mean totally honest ..no bullshit ..this place is as good as any to meet someone that you really and l mean really.. click with ..and on a level that you've never been on before..

....now to the other point that a lot of folk have touched on here on this thread ..what others think ...yes it is the site it is ..yes there are guys that treat ladies like meat..yes there are ladies that treat guys like crap ..this is a jungle than contains all sorts ..but the real world also does ..full of great people and not so great people.. arrogant condescending obnoxious pompous self centered..so the thing here is ,like real life ,to know exactly the type the person you're dealing with ..ladies here deserve every ounce of respect from guys ONCE the guys give respect ,just as much as the guys deserve respect from ladies that get respect ,l know not all guys and ladies here give respect ,the forums are full of the proof of it . Those here should realise what the consequences if they they ,and they alone ,start to think that there might be something else or more between them and another meet if the other person doesn't but like l said that also happens in the real world too ..many a heart was broken ever before fab came along

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

If a lady smiles and says 'Hi' on first meeting when I say 'morning' or 'hello' that is a big hurdle overcome for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’re looking for more than just sex this definitely isn’t the right place. Exceptions to this would be people who would like to have a swinging relationship or people who would like to continue being on the site even if they were in a relationship.

For singles who want a ‘normal’ relationship and by normal I mean exclusive to each other and not want to meet anyone else or have any type of swinging relationship, you won’t find that on here.

Yes two people may meet and fall madly in love and leave the site completely but that’s the exception, not the rule.

On here *most* guys wouldn’t even consider dating a woman from here and would consider them as only good for a fuck, nothing else.

In the real world it’s just as bad, people are very disposable these days. You have guys in their mid to late thirties saying they’re not looking for relationships because they really do have all the time in the world.

If men had a biological clock like women do and their cut off point to have children was in their forties, they would understand why women simply don’t have time to waste with men who aren’t looking for something long term. "
I know I'm early 30s at 32 but you have just described me, I'm genuinely happy single and come up with stupid reasons to stop seeing women after a few weeks when dating becomes more because I feel like there is no rush even tho I would like kids it just seems nowadays there is no reason to settle down.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

We're looking for fun (in normal times obviously) and as a couple, aren't trying to find a long term relationship or anything like that. However, we'd like to get to know people and become friends with benefits rather than play just randomly. Does that make sense?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to disagree with most of this thread to be honest. I found this site by accident when I searched bicurious. Never intended meeting any men originally. I’m not a swinger and I don’t do one offs and random meets. Twice I’ve found long term exclusive FWBs which is what I was looking for. I don’t want a “proper” relationship and never will. It’s rubbish that it’s “just a sex site” and the fact that you won’t find what you’re looking for here. Like I said before it’s whatever you want it to be and you usually can find what you want eventually, whatever that may be. It’s your choice what you do and who you meet not anyone else’s. As I’ve often been told, and I probably agree, I’m not at all “fablike” but it’s worked for me. Xx

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"We're looking for fun (in normal times obviously) and as a couple, aren't trying to find a long term relationship or anything like that. However, we'd like to get to know people and become friends with benefits rather than play just randomly. Does that make sense?! "

Absolutely it does!

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"I love to develop friendships with the guys I play with, but never more than that and I tell them that right from the start. It sounds harsh but if they develop stronger feelings then I end it. It's not what I'm looking for."

Exactly the same for me.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"We're looking for fun (in normal times obviously) and as a couple, aren't trying to find a long term relationship or anything like that. However, we'd like to get to know people and become friends with benefits rather than play just randomly. Does that make sense?!

Absolutely it does!"

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I would love to find someone to grow old with but unfortunately I don't think thats in my future. I see spinster shawls (green or black but always a bit sparkly) and probably a fair few pets - more likely dogs than cats

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

This is mainly why I seek out hothusband's and a few like minded singles, I'm not looking for a proper relationship and am happy just as I am, I've found a balance of real life and fab life that suits me down to the ground

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’re looking for more than just sex this definitely isn’t the right place. Exceptions to this would be people who would like to have a swinging relationship or people who would like to continue being on the site even if they were in a relationship.

For singles who want a ‘normal’ relationship and by normal I mean exclusive to each other and not want to meet anyone else or have any type of swinging relationship, you won’t find that on here.

Yes two people may meet and fall madly in love and leave the site completely but that’s the exception, not the rule.

On here *most* guys wouldn’t even consider dating a woman from here and would consider them as only good for a fuck, nothing else.

In the real world it’s just as bad, people are very disposable these days. You have guys in their mid to late thirties saying they’re not looking for relationships because they really do have all the time in the world.

If men had a biological clock like women do and their cut off point to have children was in their forties, they would understand why women simply don’t have time to waste with men who aren’t looking for something long term.

I’m sorry. I know people who met on here. They are in committed relationships and have left fab. It can be done! "

That would be covered by my paragraph that says “Yes two people may meet and fall madly in love and leave the site completely but that’s the exception, not the rule”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’re looking for more than just sex this definitely isn’t the right place. Exceptions to this would be people who would like to have a swinging relationship or people who would like to continue being on the site even if they were in a relationship.

For singles who want a ‘normal’ relationship and by normal I mean exclusive to each other and not want to meet anyone else or have any type of swinging relationship, you won’t find that on here.

Yes two people may meet and fall madly in love and leave the site completely but that’s the exception, not the rule.

On here *most* guys wouldn’t even consider dating a woman from here and would consider them as only good for a fuck, nothing else.

In the real world it’s just as bad, people are very disposable these days. You have guys in their mid to late thirties saying they’re not looking for relationships because they really do have all the time in the world.

If men had a biological clock like women do and their cut off point to have children was in their forties, they would understand why women simply don’t have time to waste with men who aren’t looking for something long term.

I know I'm early 30s at 32 but you have just described me, I'm genuinely happy single and come up with stupid reasons to stop seeing women after a few weeks when dating becomes more because I feel like there is no rush even tho I would like kids it just seems nowadays there is no reason to settle down. "

A lot of men have that attitude. If you take into account that guys in their 30’s are dating women in their 30’s yet the guy has no desire to settle down, he’s just wasting that woman’s time. When a woman is born she has something like 2 million eggs, she can’t produce more like a guy produces sperm. By the time a woman is 35 she has around 60 thousand left and they die every year. Pregnancy after 35 is higher risk so if a woman’s goal is to have a family and all she meets is guys that don’t want to settle down because they have all the time in the world, it’s a pretty unfair balance.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"If you’re looking for more than just sex this definitely isn’t the right place. Exceptions to this would be people who would like to have a swinging relationship or people who would like to continue being on the site even if they were in a relationship.

For singles who want a ‘normal’ relationship and by normal I mean exclusive to each other and not want to meet anyone else or have any type of swinging relationship, you won’t find that on here.

Yes two people may meet and fall madly in love and leave the site completely but that’s the exception, not the rule.

On here *most* guys wouldn’t even consider dating a woman from here and would consider them as only good for a fuck, nothing else.

In the real world it’s just as bad, people are very disposable these days. You have guys in their mid to late thirties saying they’re not looking for relationships because they really do have all the time in the world.

If men had a biological clock like women do and their cut off point to have children was in their forties, they would understand why women simply don’t have time to waste with men who aren’t looking for something long term.

I know I'm early 30s at 32 but you have just described me, I'm genuinely happy single and come up with stupid reasons to stop seeing women after a few weeks when dating becomes more because I feel like there is no rush even tho I would like kids it just seems nowadays there is no reason to settle down.

A lot of men have that attitude. If you take into account that guys in their 30’s are dating women in their 30’s yet the guy has no desire to settle down, he’s just wasting that woman’s time. When a woman is born she has something like 2 million eggs, she can’t produce more like a guy produces sperm. By the time a woman is 35 she has around 60 thousand left and they die every year. Pregnancy after 35 is higher risk so if a woman’s goal is to have a family and all she meets is guys that don’t want to settle down because they have all the time in the world, it’s a pretty unfair balance. "

Maybe settle down earlier?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’re looking for more than just sex this definitely isn’t the right place. Exceptions to this would be people who would like to have a swinging relationship or people who would like to continue being on the site even if they were in a relationship.

For singles who want a ‘normal’ relationship and by normal I mean exclusive to each other and not want to meet anyone else or have any type of swinging relationship, you won’t find that on here.

Yes two people may meet and fall madly in love and leave the site completely but that’s the exception, not the rule.

On here *most* guys wouldn’t even consider dating a woman from here and would consider them as only good for a fuck, nothing else.

In the real world it’s just as bad, people are very disposable these days. You have guys in their mid to late thirties saying they’re not looking for relationships because they really do have all the time in the world.

If men had a biological clock like women do and their cut off point to have children was in their forties, they would understand why women simply don’t have time to waste with men who aren’t looking for something long term.

I know I'm early 30s at 32 but you have just described me, I'm genuinely happy single and come up with stupid reasons to stop seeing women after a few weeks when dating becomes more because I feel like there is no rush even tho I would like kids it just seems nowadays there is no reason to settle down.

A lot of men have that attitude. If you take into account that guys in their 30’s are dating women in their 30’s yet the guy has no desire to settle down, he’s just wasting that woman’s time. When a woman is born she has something like 2 million eggs, she can’t produce more like a guy produces sperm. By the time a woman is 35 she has around 60 thousand left and they die every year. Pregnancy after 35 is higher risk so if a woman’s goal is to have a family and all she meets is guys that don’t want to settle down because they have all the time in the world, it’s a pretty unfair balance.

Maybe settle down earlier?"

You think a guy in his twenties would be more willing to settle down and have children than a guy in his thirties or forties?

The majority of guys these days aren’t interested at all in relationships.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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We all have people we enjoy spending time with but the thought if being with them for more than a few hours gives you a headache.

Too loud

Too quiet

Too needy

Too independent

Too vanilla

Too kinky

The list goes on and on

"

Pretty much

But at same time (unless it was an accident and we had zero in common, or it was a planned no strings 1 night total stranger) id want to stay friendly with anyone I've "had fun with". Or at least try to stay in touch.

Not nessesarily for more, but just because must have got on to get it on.

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