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By *went OP   Man
over a year ago

blackpool

What’s people’s thoughts when they know their ex Is out?

I know I get a bit obsessed and hate the thought someone else may be chatting her up etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she’s your ex why you bothered about that, move on, it’s time to groove on?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they can fucking having him! good luck! haha

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By *iking-RaiderMan
over a year ago

suffolk

The only time it bothered me is when we had just broken up and she used to come into the club I worked the doors at, that was distracting... nowadays I couldn't care less

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

No fucks given. They’re all ex’s for good reason.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

Nope not arsed......

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

No offence OP but isn't that a bit hypocritical when you're on a swinging site with the intention of chatting up multiple others?

An ex is an ex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I split up with her then no not fussed. If she split up with me and it was fairly recent then yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No thought at all,he's an ex for a reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it’s a recent ex, I can understand OP. Especially if she left you. The main thing is to understand that it’s over and she is entitled to see whoever she wants to and be chatted up by whoever wants to chat her up.

Take a breath and occupy your time. It’ll get easier with time. X

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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

Bloody wish someone would chat her up... would stop her moaning at me still...

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By *went OP   Man
over a year ago

blackpool


"No offence OP but isn't that a bit hypocritical when you're on a swinging site with the intention of chatting up multiple others?

An ex is an ex."

No offence taken, even though an ex. I still have feelings about her and worry that she’s safe.

It is a bit hypocritical but never like the thought of her with someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably won’t be chatting her up as she’ll be sat at a table metres away from anyone else with no human traffic as everyone has to stay at their tables.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

She’s someone else’s problem now

I’m single and ready to mingle (after COVID)

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By *went OP   Man
over a year ago

blackpool


"She’s someone else’s problem now

I’m single and ready to mingle (after COVID) "

Yes true, but Doesn’t mean a person doesn’t care.

Some people say they don’t care, but most times if you break it down I bet they still bothered deep down.

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull


"No offence OP but isn't that a bit hypocritical when you're on a swinging site with the intention of chatting up multiple others?

An ex is an ex.

No offence taken, even though an ex. I still have feelings about her and worry that she’s safe.

It is a bit hypocritical but never like the thought of her with someone else.

"

I understand what that's like to worry if they're safe or not, but there is no point worrying if they don't care about you, as hard as it is you need to concentrate on your own happiness without her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Considering i watched him fuck others when we were together, i couldnt give a flying fuck who or what he fucks now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't give a shit about mine

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By *bw44DDWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"What’s people’s thoughts when they know their ex Is out?

I know I get a bit obsessed and hate the thought someone else may be chatting her up etc. "

They are welcome to him. Good luck

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"She’s someone else’s problem now

I’m single and ready to mingle (after COVID)

Yes true, but Doesn’t mean a person doesn’t care.

Some people say they don’t care, but most times if you break it down I bet they still bothered deep down. "

Nope I mean what I say, she’s the Mother of my Children, that cheated on me and left me as a part time Dad.

I have absolutely no feelings for her at all and I keep being nice, to ensure there’s no issues with keeping in contact with my children.

I’m extremely loyal in any relationship but if I’m crossed, goodbye and I won’t look back. If that makes me cold hearted so be it, I won’t lose any sleep over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I se my ex out o with another guy she makes a be line for me and we play up on it as we still get along and fuck sometimes when needs must

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This may (unintentionally) seem harsh OP but if you do care for her the wish the best for her in any new relationship she finds, and move on.

Sounds like you're still grieving for the relationship, and that's natural. Give yourself time to grieve.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"No offence OP but isn't that a bit hypocritical when you're on a swinging site with the intention of chatting up multiple others?

An ex is an ex.

No offence taken, even though an ex. I still have feelings about her and worry that she’s safe.

It is a bit hypocritical but never like the thought of her with someone else.

I understand what that's like to worry if they're safe or not, but there is no point worrying if they don't care about you, as hard as it is you need to concentrate on your own happiness without her "

Whilst I kinda get the safe sentiment, she's an adult. We must presume she can look after herself. She doesn't need (nor want, one assumes) to be "protected". One person's protection is another's possessiveness. I'm a grown woman and I certainly do not look to my husband for any form of protection or whatever and I'd hate it if he thought I needed/wanted protecting. I'm not a child.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Not bothered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No offence OP but isn't that a bit hypocritical when you're on a swinging site with the intention of chatting up multiple others?

An ex is an ex.

No offence taken, even though an ex. I still have feelings about her and worry that she’s safe.

It is a bit hypocritical but never like the thought of her with someone else.

I understand what that's like to worry if they're safe or not, but there is no point worrying if they don't care about you, as hard as it is you need to concentrate on your own happiness without her

Whilst I kinda get the safe sentiment, she's an adult. We must presume she can look after herself. She doesn't need (nor want, one assumes) to be "protected". One person's protection is another's possessiveness. I'm a grown woman and I certainly do not look to my husband for any form of protection or whatever and I'd hate it if he thought I needed/wanted protecting. I'm not a child. "

If a lion came bounding down the biscuit aisle at Asda you'd probably appreciate it if your hubby lobbed a box of jaffa cakes at his head and knocked it out. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She’s someone else’s problem now

I’m single and ready to mingle (after COVID)

Yes true, but Doesn’t mean a person doesn’t care.

Some people say they don’t care, but most times if you break it down I bet they still bothered deep down.

Nope I mean what I say, she’s the Mother of my Children, that cheated on me and left me as a part time Dad.

I have absolutely no feelings for her at all and I keep being nice, to ensure there’s no issues with keeping in contact with my children.

I’m extremely loyal in any relationship but if I’m crossed, goodbye and I won’t look back. If that makes me cold hearted so be it, I won’t lose any sleep over it "

I don't think it's cold hearted to hide bad feelings for your ex to protect your relationship with your kids.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"No offence OP but isn't that a bit hypocritical when you're on a swinging site with the intention of chatting up multiple others?

An ex is an ex.

No offence taken, even though an ex. I still have feelings about her and worry that she’s safe.

It is a bit hypocritical but never like the thought of her with someone else.

I understand what that's like to worry if they're safe or not, but there is no point worrying if they don't care about you, as hard as it is you need to concentrate on your own happiness without her

Whilst I kinda get the safe sentiment, she's an adult. We must presume she can look after herself. She doesn't need (nor want, one assumes) to be "protected". One person's protection is another's possessiveness. I'm a grown woman and I certainly do not look to my husband for any form of protection or whatever and I'd hate it if he thought I needed/wanted protecting. I'm not a child.

If a lion came bounding down the biscuit aisle at Asda you'd probably appreciate it if your hubby lobbed a box of jaffa cakes at his head and knocked it out. X"

But he'd do the same for any other person in firing line of said lion, as would I for him and others. Yes, I'd like him to treat me as a human being (which he does). I dislike the whole "man must protect woman" trope. Why does the world not ask about women protecting men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex moved out and within days I had a text from a friend asking for my ex’s number as they were interested...

they’re welcome to each other.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"My ex moved out and within days I had a text from a friend asking for my ex’s number as they were interested...

they’re welcome to each other. "

Some friend

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By *ecydogMan
over a year ago

wales


"they can fucking having him! good luck! haha "

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

I’m feckin glad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No offence OP but isn't that a bit hypocritical when you're on a swinging site with the intention of chatting up multiple others?

An ex is an ex.

No offence taken, even though an ex. I still have feelings about her and worry that she’s safe.

It is a bit hypocritical but never like the thought of her with someone else.

I understand what that's like to worry if they're safe or not, but there is no point worrying if they don't care about you, as hard as it is you need to concentrate on your own happiness without her

Whilst I kinda get the safe sentiment, she's an adult. We must presume she can look after herself. She doesn't need (nor want, one assumes) to be "protected". One person's protection is another's possessiveness. I'm a grown woman and I certainly do not look to my husband for any form of protection or whatever and I'd hate it if he thought I needed/wanted protecting. I'm not a child.

If a lion came bounding down the biscuit aisle at Asda you'd probably appreciate it if your hubby lobbed a box of jaffa cakes at his head and knocked it out. X

But he'd do the same for any other person in firing line of said lion, as would I for him and others. Yes, I'd like him to treat me as a human being (which he does). I dislike the whole "man must protect woman" trope. Why does the world not ask about women protecting men? "

Not a chance I'd lose my jaffa cakes. The lion could eat my man.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"No offence OP but isn't that a bit hypocritical when you're on a swinging site with the intention of chatting up multiple others?

An ex is an ex.

No offence taken, even though an ex. I still have feelings about her and worry that she’s safe.

It is a bit hypocritical but never like the thought of her with someone else.

I understand what that's like to worry if they're safe or not, but there is no point worrying if they don't care about you, as hard as it is you need to concentrate on your own happiness without her

Whilst I kinda get the safe sentiment, she's an adult. We must presume she can look after herself. She doesn't need (nor want, one assumes) to be "protected". One person's protection is another's possessiveness. I'm a grown woman and I certainly do not look to my husband for any form of protection or whatever and I'd hate it if he thought I needed/wanted protecting. I'm not a child.

If a lion came bounding down the biscuit aisle at Asda you'd probably appreciate it if your hubby lobbed a box of jaffa cakes at his head and knocked it out. X

But he'd do the same for any other person in firing line of said lion, as would I for him and others. Yes, I'd like him to treat me as a human being (which he does). I dislike the whole "man must protect woman" trope. Why does the world not ask about women protecting men?

Not a chance I'd lose my jaffa cakes. The lion could eat my man. "

If that works best for you, marvellous. Oh, you have crumbs down your top, just an FYI

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

There's no way we could back together , was beautiful what happened but we wished good luck to each other , shes happy and i'm happy we never felt jealous of each other , we trusted each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex moved out and within days I had a text from a friend asking for my ex’s number as they were interested...

they’re welcome to each other.

Some friend "

Yep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a cliche but give it time.

You will move on and will have your own life.

I wish my ex the best now - but when we first split up I needed to know what he was doing etc .. it's destructive behaviour that will get you nowhere.

Trust me it gets better and you will care less

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d buy them a drink

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I’d buy them a drink "

No it's ok dont want that drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d buy them a drink

No it's ok dont want that drink "

Not even your favourite White Lightening?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I’d buy them a drink

No it's ok dont want that drink

Not even your favourite White Lightening? "

Oh ok x

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