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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A serious thread from me for a change.

I have horrendous anxiety. Not the type where I get a bit anxious but the kinda anxiety where life stops and the world seems like an uninhabitable and terrifying place.

With more local lockdowns being put in place and the news seeming like a big ball of doom it's a bit of a scary time for everyone but my anxiety just seems to be weighing an awful lot heavier.

I've deleted social media and all news apps and I'm going to take the next two weeks isolating to just hide from the world and not let anxiety take hold.

If you're a fellow little anxious brain then have a cuddle from me. Even if you're not have a cuddle.

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By *lueWonderMan
over a year ago

Preston.....ish

Sorry to hear this OP.....

Have a little hug from me

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Hugs to you too OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Sending big hugs

. I struggled in the beginning with it being everywhere and my partners way of coping was to religiously watch the daily updates which was the worst thing for me. We've reached a middle grlund now between his need to be informed and my need to escape when I'm home. Feel good films helped and chatting to friends about non covid things.

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By *akjourneyMan
over a year ago

Weston

It is a constant battle. Those who have not experienced it have no idea how energy sapping it is.

I feel my medication does very little but what do I know.

Hugs coming your way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll take a cuddle

I wise man with the voice of an angel and the greatest vocabulary ever heard by humans once sang...

Stop watching the news

Because the news contrives to frighten you

To make you feel small and alone

To make you feel that your mind isn't your own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven’t watched the news for two years, I’ll continue not to watch the news.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A serious thread from me for a change.

I have horrendous anxiety. Not the type where I get a bit anxious but the kinda anxiety where life stops and the world seems like an uninhabitable and terrifying place.

With more local lockdowns being put in place and the news seeming like a big ball of doom it's a bit of a scary time for everyone but my anxiety just seems to be weighing an awful lot heavier.

I've deleted social media and all news apps and I'm going to take the next two weeks isolating to just hide from the world and not let anxiety take hold.

If you're a fellow little anxious brain then have a cuddle from me. Even if you're not have a cuddle.

Hello... Why we blushing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ll take a cuddle

I wise man with the voice of an angel and the greatest vocabulary ever heard by humans once sang...

Stop watching the news

Because the news contrives to frighten you

To make you feel small and alone

To make you feel that your mind isn't your own

Mm Morrissey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"(((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))"

Thanks Nip x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have anxiety to the point its life changing.

So, huge hugs to you OP and any one else affected by it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"(((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))

Thanks Nip x"

I used to have spells where I kinda felt a bit paralysed just by the responsibility of not fucking up as a parent being left alone. Been cool now for many many years but I do know it's not fun when you're going through it....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"(((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))

Thanks Nip x

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It's fucking awful. I had a little spell where I didn't go outside without having a panic attack which wasnt fun. It's just such a scary and uncertain time x

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

Indigo you have my empathy, anxiety is horrible dealing with, mine used to be so bad that my left hand would shake uncontrollably, shortness of breath and a heart rate of 140 bpm. I eventually stopped going outside to avoid the anxiety attacks & my mind has kept me a prisoner in my own home for over 18 months.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

Hide from the world, but don't forget the keep in contact with people. Even if it's a few key support freinds. Lonliness can be just as crippling.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

You're reaching out which means you've got control of it. I get in I have anxiety and can have panic attacks though they are mostly in control these days. Hugs OP x

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By *ai24Man
over a year ago

Hull

Every dark day you conquer is an accomplishment, the minds a powerful beast at times.

I’ve not got shares or anything but if you’ve not read it The chimp paradox is an interesting read on mind management techniques.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

OP I didn’t leave the house for over a year because I was terrified of the outside world after surgery and prescription drug withdrawal.. then the virus hit and I’d just got back to some kind of normality and routine where I was able to go to work and step into shops... this is not an easy time for anyone who suffers and anxiety is completely understandable on every level. If you’ve overcome it before you’ll know that this is a crappy temporary feeling. Your brains struggling to cope with such change and uncertainty. Give yourself a break. It’s ok x it’ll pass.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thank you everyone. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP I didn’t leave the house for over a year because I was terrified of the outside world after surgery and prescription drug withdrawal.. then the virus hit and I’d just got back to some kind of normality and routine where I was able to go to work and step into shops... this is not an easy time for anyone who suffers and anxiety is completely understandable on every level. If you’ve overcome it before you’ll know that this is a crappy temporary feeling. Your brains struggling to cope with such change and uncertainty. Give yourself a break. It’s ok x it’ll pass. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Indigo you have my empathy, anxiety is horrible dealing with, mine used to be so bad that my left hand would shake uncontrollably, shortness of breath and a heart rate of 140 bpm. I eventually stopped going outside to avoid the anxiety attacks & my mind has kept me a prisoner in my own home for over 18 months.

Always here for a chat x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry you're finding things tough atm OP.

My inbox is always open if you need a friendly chat!

Sending big hugs your way.

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

Always here for a chat x"

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry you're finding things tough atm OP.

My inbox is always open if you need a friendly chat!

Sending big hugs your way.

Thanks beautiful x

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By *ab50Man
over a year ago

bexhill

Anxiety is a bitch... It creeps up on you and f*cks you.. I hate it..

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By *amish SMan
over a year ago

Eastleigh

It is hard, but try and deal with the things you can influence yourself. If you have any you can't deal with then they are most probably not worth any input from yourself and can be discarded or parked.

Like this virus, I don't particularly want to catch it, but if I do then there is little I can do, but there is a lot I can do to reduce the liklihood of catching it in the first place so I focus more on that.

Some good advice from the fabbers above, specialists can advise and help you pick the tricks and tools for you to use. It can be overcome.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Sending hugs to everyone. I don't suffer from anxiety or panic attacks myself but I have seen 1st hand how awful it is.

There are lots of techniques called 'Decider Skills' which are really good to help calm you when you start to feels anxious.

Also a technique to stop a panic attack is to suck on an ice cube - not fun but better than the alternative! The science behind it is that it tricks your brain out of panic by getting it to make saliva which it doesn't do in 'fight or flight' panic mode thus letting the initial panic pass more easily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have anxiety and have done for most of my life.

It comes and goes but has been quite bad for almost a year.

I'm not anxious about the virus. Just anxious in general.

Its exhausting.

Big hugs all round

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By *razyhappyguys04Couple
over a year ago

London.

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By *razyhappyguys04Couple
over a year ago

London.

Have you tried magnesium and vitamin d supplements, very good for anxiety ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surprisingly covid and the situation hasn't triggered my anxiety or panic attacks. Even when I went to the hairdresser's for the first time since lockdown I didn't get a panic attack.

The usual stuff still triggers anxiety and worry but I seem to have the panic attacks under control (I recognised them as panic attacks when they occured and forced myself to stay put and ride them out until the feelings passed).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs

I’m back to the GP tomorrow as I am having some mental health issues again, well they are taking over again and I’m losing my ability to control it but I know when it’s happening and learning to ask for help. I was finally diagnosed with borderline personality disorder at the start of lockdown as I had such a big breakdown over being isolated from the world it finally got me the help I needed then I ignore all news and mute all friends that discuss it on social media because I’m not sure I’ll come out of another lockdown it absolutely terrifies me! X

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By *oachman 9CoolMan
over a year ago

derby

Without doubt people that don,t suffer from any form of anxiety can count themselves lucky its left its mark on me and I,m haveing to deal with the consequences presently.. due to new meds not properly kicking in yet. I hope things pick up for you soon..xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also suffer with anxiety ,and like you OP I won't watch the news,I tend to hide my anxiety with humour ,but these latest restrictions are making me thing whatever if this,or what if that happens

Anxiety is crippling and if those who have never experienced any form of anxiety where to walk In someones shoes who suffers with anxiety for just one day they would get a little glimpse of what living with anxiety is all about

So hugs to you OP and anyone else who suffers

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

Loving the support on here. Sometimes the forums can get so tetchy.

OP I empathise with you, and I admire your openness. I hope the nice comments are helping you x

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

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By *utterflyandArtificeCouple
over a year ago

Trowbridge

Hey OP hugs right back, I (bloke) get real anxiety, but recently things have begun to change after I signed onto headspace and am currently learning a great deal and best of all you need nothing but you, your anxiety and your phone.

Its free to trial for a while; I have subscribed and its helping me cope. It had been affecting my physical health, stomach cramps, heightened awareness and an encroaching addiction to caffeine and high carb food (I am caffeine free and now back to low carbs).

Anxiety sucks ass and causes you to think what if? And so what? About every single detail, almost fabricating a reason not to do something....

Headspace has helped me; I am still anxious; I am wired that way but I now meditate and try to be conscious of me.

You even get brilliant sounds to fall asleep to if you wish.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hey OP hugs right back, I (bloke) get real anxiety, but recently things have begun to change after I signed onto headspace and am currently learning a great deal and best of all you need nothing but you, your anxiety and your phone.

Anxiety sucks ass and causes you to think what if? And so what? About every single detail, almost fabricating a reason not to do something....

Headspace has helped me; I am still anxious; I am wired that way but I now meditate and try to be conscious of me.

You even get brilliant sounds to fall asleep to if you wish."

Aw I do use headspace! It's a great app. Sometimes my brain is just a little too intense x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This thread filled me with so much positivity. Thank you for the messages and replies

. If anyone needs to talk although I'm an anxious little bear at the mo I can do listening too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A serious thread from me for a change.

I have horrendous anxiety. Not the type where I get a bit anxious but the kinda anxiety where life stops and the world seems like an uninhabitable and terrifying place.

With more local lockdowns being put in place and the news seeming like a big ball of doom it's a bit of a scary time for everyone but my anxiety just seems to be weighing an awful lot heavier.

I've deleted social media and all news apps and I'm going to take the next two weeks isolating to just hide from the world and not let anxiety take hold.

If you're a fellow little anxious brain then have a cuddle from me. Even if you're not have a cuddle.

I feel exactly the same OP.

Big hugs flying to you.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Aww sorry to hear this indigo... While i don't suffer anxiety, I'm a decent listener. And if you don't want to talk, I'll entertain you with general gibberish

So here's loads of lovin ((((hugs)))) and know that there's someone here for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Aww sorry to hear this indigo... While i don't suffer anxiety, I'm a decent listener. And if you don't want to talk, I'll entertain you with general gibberish

So here's loads of lovin ((((hugs)))) and know that there's someone here for you

Thanks. Good husband right there

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Have a cuddle back...and happy birthday for yesterday

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Sending big hugs

I can certainly relate with this and the OP. I struggled big time when the lockdown hit. Not with the actual lockdown itself, that didn't bother me at all (and like many I even found a kind of relief and calm from it). My anxiety came from the relentless news reports and the over the top doom mongers. I've suffered greatly in the past from anxiety but in recent years I felt I'd turned a corner with it. I stopped reading newspapers and kept all other kinds of news media at arms length. But during the lockdown I struggled to keep it at bay. It was everywhere. The worst was at work where people wouldn't stop talking about it (which I guess in some ways was understandable). The daily relaying of death counts and having to endure people's theories on what caused it and how we were going to fix it and every other crackpot idea going. I wish people had more consideration. Not everyone wants or needs to hear this stuff. I felt I was living every new Covid story going every single day. I simply didn't want that but I had no way of shutting it out. I have elderly parents who I was worried about and others too who I worry about and having to endure this every single day really sent me to a horrible place that I hadn't been to for a long time. In recent months I've managed to get back on a much more even keel as things have got back more to normal. But then these last couple of weeks with all this talk of a second wave and the numbers increasing I've started to feel my anxiety rising again. I admit I'm struggling a bit at the minute to keep it in check.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Hey indigo, we spoke a few times and our daughter is very similar to you. It will be ok, this is only temporary and things will be good again, even better. Humans have a track record of solving big complex things like this and adapting/adjusting - we just gotta get through this initial tough phase. Hugs

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Sending big hugs

I was exactly the same. It was like I was in a constant state of stress. I hardly drink normally but started drinking to get to sleep, especially before work (I work in healthcare). It was only one or two but it just wasn't normal for me at all. I normally easily go weeks or months without drinking at all. It really was inescapable. I've certainly managed to get it under wraps again too thank god. No more evening drinking and even on weekends I'm giving it a miss as I just don't think it helps. I can't remember the last time I drank alcohol now. Being able to go back to the gym again has also helped massively. I'm putting a lot of focus into that which is helping. I think one thing that made the beginning of lockdown so hard was the inability to make any plans or have anything to look forward to. It was like living in a constant state of limbo. It may only be something small but being able to plan my next workout and set myself targets has just really helped me feel like life isn't just standing still at the moment. My insomnia crept back in a few weeks ago but I've solved that with omega 3 supplements. Getting enough sleep really helps. I hope you manage to keep things under wraps too and not end up in a bad place again, it's certainly not fun

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Sending big hugs

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Thank you. I hope you manage to keep it at bay the best you can too. The same goes for anyone else who may be suffering.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Thank you. I hope you manage to keep it at bay the best you can too. The same goes for anyone else who may be suffering."

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

OP has gone UNLOS

Indigosunshine.

Hopefully she is ok and returns

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I totally feel your anxiety and need some relief from it. I have a job that keeps me glued to my PC every day and it is very hard to avoid the doom and gloom merchants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP has gone UNLOS

Indigosunshine.

Hopefully she is ok and returns "

Ah that’s sad. I like her. Hope she’s ok

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

"OP has gone UNLOS

Indigosunshine.

Hopefully she is ok and returns

Ah that’s sad. I like her. Hope she’s ok

yeah she seemed nice, she did say above that she was going to isolate for 2 weeks, wasn't expecting an UNLOS though

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Life's tough at the moment. Hope OP is ok. We'll get through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A serious thread from me for a change.

I have horrendous anxiety. Not the type where I get a bit anxious but the kinda anxiety where life stops and the world seems like an uninhabitable and terrifying place.

With more local lockdowns being put in place and the news seeming like a big ball of doom it's a bit of a scary time for everyone but my anxiety just seems to be weighing an awful lot heavier.

I've deleted social media and all news apps and I'm going to take the next two weeks isolating to just hide from the world and not let anxiety take hold.

If you're a fellow little anxious brain then have a cuddle from me. Even if you're not have a cuddle.

You’re doing great , stay resilient like you are right now, , it’s a daunting feeling but you’re still here and speaking about it and that is very admirable x

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