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" Judgement: the ability to make considered decisions or come to sensible conclusions. Forum: a meeting or medium where ideas and views on a particular issue can be exchanged. The J word regularly crops up,when someone responds on the forum. And in my opinion, many folk are over sensitive to someone expressing an opinion contrary to theirs online. But are you that sensitive to such opinions in the real world? Why do the musings of a complete stranger trouble you so much? If you post on here after all you're opening up a debate not a fanbase?" I disagree  | |||
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"Some judgement on here is just totally uncalled for. Weather people are over sensitive or not, some need to remember there are real people behind the usernames and words can hurt. " 
It often comes down to respect. It's obvious when a contrasting opinion is expressed rather than when it's bullishly launched to demean, provoke or ridicule others. | |||
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"I’ve taken it personally when occasionally a thread starts about Tgirls, often the subject is how the site should separate TS from TV. There’s certain people on here who will then pipe up, that Men in dresses are freaks, wrong or disgusting. These are the keyboard warriors that will definitely raise my ire. We all have an opinion and some should be respected but I’ve had that said to my face by aggressive d*unkards on a Friday night, so don’t expect me not to want to defend my right to dress as I wish. If they want to debate that, bring it on and fuck to their ignorance. Rant over "Yeah I hate it when people start with the 'hpw' stuff. Tv's do it too.  | |||
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"I’ve taken it personally when occasionally a thread starts about Tgirls, often the subject is how the site should separate TS from TV. There’s certain people on here who will then pipe up, that Men in dresses are freaks, wrong or disgusting. These are the keyboard warriors that will definitely raise my ire. We all have an opinion and some should be respected but I’ve had that said to my face by aggressive d*unkards on a Friday night, so don’t expect me not to want to defend my right to dress as I wish. If they want to debate that, bring it on and fuck to their ignorance. Rant over
Yeah I hate it when people start with the 'hpw' stuff. Tv's do it too. "I’d agree, nobody should get grief on these forums for their fetishes | |||
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"Interesting OP, we all judge and that's a fact of life. I love a good debate though it's something I'm wary of on here as things seem to escalate far too quickly. Saying eww to someone's kink for example in my mind is unnecessary. It doesn't give anything of value to the debate. However, asking a pertinent question about it and saying it's not for you is fine. I'd love to sit down and have a couple of drinks with you OP and chew the fat. I think we'd disagree on a fair few things but I think we'd have a lot of fun. Disagreements are good as long as you respect those you are disagreeing with "Shit does this mean I'm part of your fan base? What to I get if I am? Please say some stickers and a pencil | |||
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"I like it when people have different opinions to me. Makes me think differently. I may or may not agree with them after we have chatted. I'm open to changing my mind. I don't understand why the world ends when some people disagree. " Good post  | |||
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"I’ve taken it personally when occasionally a thread starts about Tgirls, often the subject is how the site should separate TS from TV. There’s certain people on here who will then pipe up, that Men in dresses are freaks, wrong or disgusting. These are the keyboard warriors that will definitely raise my ire. We all have an opinion and some should be respected but I’ve had that said to my face by aggressive d*unkards on a Friday night, so don’t expect me not to want to defend my right to dress as I wish. If they want to debate that, bring it on and fuck to their ignorance. Rant over "That is disgusting! If I overheard them I would have something to say to them bigots for sure! X | |||
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1.) The forum dynamics can be very complicated and not just about what we see on the surface of a thread. For example I had someone trying too pull me up the other day over not wanting to communicate with someone else in a thread - my reason had nothing to do with the actual replies they were giving, it was to do with things they'd said about me off the thread and to my friends. Yet to some it may have appeared that I was afraid of challenge - not the case at all, I just felt sick that they had the nerve to even quote me once, let alone constantly throughout the thread. So that imho was more forum bullying than judgement and I extracted myself from it. I see it on the same level as the freedom of personal choice we talk so much about in the forum in our sex lives - I'm on a public sex site but I don't have to have sex with anyone I don't want to, and they shouldn't assume that I have to, especially if I tell them I don't want to. Same with forum interaction. Some ppl just don't work well together, not necessarily because of the subject but because of their history and we should always consider that things aren't always simply as they appear on the surface.
2.) Yes we should feel free to debate and challenge each other fairly and politely (juat as we would in the real world). Not abusively or by mocking or with digs. I think ppl leave their manners and sense of consequence in the real world sometimes when they log on to the forums. Yes I've been guilty of this myself in the past too, so I'm not claiming to be perfect, just saying what I think is the decent way to behave. If we don't challenge each other then we'll never learn and never share knowledge and experience it expand as humans, so challenge is very important. I try to challenge myself even when others aren't challenging me, for this very reason - self growth!
Forum judgement - yes please, why not, but respectfully, on topic and without abuse or behind the scenes nonsense if that's ok....  | |||
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"Ooooooh, now this is a complicated one and I kinda have two answers but essentially I'd have to combine them both and says something pathetic like "it depends"...
1.) The forum dynamics can be very complicated and not just about what we see on the surface of a thread. For example I had someone trying too pull me up the other day over not wanting to communicate with someone else in a thread - my reason had nothing to do with the actual replies they were giving, it was to do with things they'd said about me off the thread and to my friends. Yet to some it may have appeared that I was afraid of challenge - not the case at all, I just felt sick that they had the nerve to even quote me once, let alone constantly throughout the thread. So that imho was more forum bullying than judgement and I extracted myself from it. I see it on the same level as the freedom of personal choice we talk so much about in the forum in our sex lives - I'm on a public sex site but I don't have to have sex with anyone I don't want to, and they shouldn't assume that I have to, especially if I tell them I don't want to. Same with forum interaction. Some ppl just don't work well together, not necessarily because of the subject but because of their history and we should always consider that things aren't always simply as they appear on the surface.
2.) Yes we should feel free to debate and challenge each other fairly and politely (juat as we would in the real world). Not abusively or by mocking or with digs. I think ppl leave their manners and sense of consequence in the real world sometimes when they log on to the forums. Yes I've been guilty of this myself in the past too, so I'm not claiming to be perfect, just saying what I think is the decent way to behave. If we don't challenge each other then we'll never learn and never share knowledge and experience it expand as humans, so challenge is very important. I try to challenge myself even when others aren't challenging me, for this very reason - self growth!
Forum judgement - yes please, why not, but respectfully, on topic and without abuse or behind the scenes nonsense if that's ok.... "Usually long responses can send me to sleep,but actually you've covered most of it with honesty and sincerity. There's always going to be unsavoury and unnecessary comments, but calling people out on their behaviour or challenging isn't always a bad thing. Just because someone says something doesn't mean they're right? Spot on with the challenging oneself though. That's growth in my book. | |||
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"Ooooooh, now this is a complicated one and I kinda have two answers but essentially I'd have to combine them both and says something pathetic like "it depends"...
1.) The forum dynamics can be very complicated and not just about what we see on the surface of a thread. For example I had someone trying too pull me up the other day over not wanting to communicate with someone else in a thread - my reason had nothing to do with the actual replies they were giving, it was to do with things they'd said about me off the thread and to my friends. Yet to some it may have appeared that I was afraid of challenge - not the case at all, I just felt sick that they had the nerve to even quote me once, let alone constantly throughout the thread. So that imho was more forum bullying than judgement and I extracted myself from it. I see it on the same level as the freedom of personal choice we talk so much about in the forum in our sex lives - I'm on a public sex site but I don't have to have sex with anyone I don't want to, and they shouldn't assume that I have to, especially if I tell them I don't want to. Same with forum interaction. Some ppl just don't work well together, not necessarily because of the subject but because of their history and we should always consider that things aren't always simply as they appear on the surface.
2.) Yes we should feel free to debate and challenge each other fairly and politely (juat as we would in the real world). Not abusively or by mocking or with digs. I think ppl leave their manners and sense of consequence in the real world sometimes when they log on to the forums. Yes I've been guilty of this myself in the past too, so I'm not claiming to be perfect, just saying what I think is the decent way to behave. If we don't challenge each other then we'll never learn and never share knowledge and experience it expand as humans, so challenge is very important. I try to challenge myself even when others aren't challenging me, for this very reason - self growth!
Forum judgement - yes please, why not, but respectfully, on topic and without abuse or behind the scenes nonsense if that's ok....
Usually long responses can send me to sleep,but actually you've covered most of it with honesty and sincerity.
There's always going to be unsavoury and unnecessary comments, but calling people out on their behaviour or challenging isn't always a bad thing. Just because someone says something doesn't mean they're right?
Spot on with the challenging oneself though. That's growth in my book."Fancy a bum now?  | |||
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"Ooooooh, now this is a complicated one and I kinda have two answers but essentially I'd have to combine them both and says something pathetic like "it depends"...
1.) The forum dynamics can be very complicated and not just about what we see on the surface of a thread. For example I had someone trying too pull me up the other day over not wanting to communicate with someone else in a thread - my reason had nothing to do with the actual replies they were giving, it was to do with things they'd said about me off the thread and to my friends. Yet to some it may have appeared that I was afraid of challenge - not the case at all, I just felt sick that they had the nerve to even quote me once, let alone constantly throughout the thread. So that imho was more forum bullying than judgement and I extracted myself from it. I see it on the same level as the freedom of personal choice we talk so much about in the forum in our sex lives - I'm on a public sex site but I don't have to have sex with anyone I don't want to, and they shouldn't assume that I have to, especially if I tell them I don't want to. Same with forum interaction. Some ppl just don't work well together, not necessarily because of the subject but because of their history and we should always consider that things aren't always simply as they appear on the surface.
2.) Yes we should feel free to debate and challenge each other fairly and politely (juat as we would in the real world). Not abusively or by mocking or with digs. I think ppl leave their manners and sense of consequence in the real world sometimes when they log on to the forums. Yes I've been guilty of this myself in the past too, so I'm not claiming to be perfect, just saying what I think is the decent way to behave. If we don't challenge each other then we'll never learn and never share knowledge and experience it expand as humans, so challenge is very important. I try to challenge myself even when others aren't challenging me, for this very reason - self growth!
Forum judgement - yes please, why not, but respectfully, on topic and without abuse or behind the scenes nonsense if that's ok....
Usually long responses can send me to sleep,but actually you've covered most of it with honesty and sincerity.
There's always going to be unsavoury and unnecessary comments, but calling people out on their behaviour or challenging isn't always a bad thing. Just because someone says something doesn't mean they're right?
Spot on with the challenging oneself though. That's growth in my book.
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"There's always going to be unsavoury and unnecessary comments, but calling people out on their behaviour or challenging isn't always a bad thing. Just because someone says something doesn't mean they're right? " Absolutely and such is the nature of internet forums regardless of the subject matter - there will always be those that make unsavoury and unnecessary comments, just as there will always be those that set themselves up as some kind of forum grandee who think that people hang off their every word. Sometimes challenging is the way to go, sometimes just stepping away with a roll of the eyes is the easier course of action, especially as at times context and meaning can be lost in textual interactions, or if faced with someone that you know won't listen. But absolutely just because someone says something doesn't mean they're in the slightest bit right, just as because you disagree with them it doesn't necessarily make you right either. It comes back to the "judgement" vs "judging" thing I mentioned earlier and when and how to use both. | |||
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