FabSwingers.com forum: Hard limits- What are yours?

By *irth Vader OP Man
over a year ago

Busby

I have been chatting to a lady for a few weeks now and yesterday she asked what my hard limits were. Up until this point I have never thought about or been asked about them. To be honest I didn’t know where to start

I am quite open minded and am happy to try most things with the right partner but it’s got my head in a spin.

What are your limits?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wont go near McDonalds/kfc thats about my limit

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Fisting up to the elbow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fisting up to the elbow "

But just before the elbow is ok?? Hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a really good think OP, there's nothing wrong with being open to trying anything at all but think about anything your not willing to do at all or even what you may think are small things (they are all important) that you really don't like will class as a hard limit.

As for asking other people's, I find that a really personal question and one I generally only answer if it's someone I'm seriously considering playing with but two of mine are no pee or poo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always find it curious when I see people have written ‘no limits’ on their profiles. I’m like, surely that can’t be right. Everyone must have some kind of limit (I hope)

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"I always find it curious when I see people have written ‘no limits’ on their profiles. I’m like, surely that can’t be right. Everyone must have some kind of limit (I hope) "

^ this

Even with an open mind there are things I definitely wouldn’t do, two I can mention is poop and feet play

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By *unkym34Man
over a year ago

London

"Wont go near McDonalds/kfc thats about my limit

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for me it’s Nando’s

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By *ruckingscouser69Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've done the pee thing to a limited extent (she was on the toilet, I needed to go, aimed between her legs, then aimed for her belly etc, she found it quite erotic) but the other P is a definite no no, don't wanna shame anyone who IS into that, but I just don't get it, nor the throat fucking to vomit thing either, maybe I've just been watching too much extreme porn and nobody really DOES do that, I don't know!

Apart from that and extreme pain (spanking is great, limited experience with paddling, no experience with caning but I think I'd like to try it, giving not receiving btw)

I think that's probably my limits

Sorry for hijacking the thread

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

"Wont go near McDonalds/kfc thats about my limit

Well I hope yoy have a good alternative option then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never liked my Balls being touched. Makes me feel sick

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Hard limits is a difficult one depending on your mindset I guess. For some people they will try anything if they have that trusting relationship even if they thought at first it was something they would never do. Limits change and evolve over time so communication is always key

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

My hard limits mainly revolve around BDSM and related kinks, there's too many to list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s fair to say Fred & Rose West had no limits!

Saying no limits is quite dumb and narrow minded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hard limits is a difficult one depending on your mindset I guess. For some people they will try anything if they have that trusting relationship even if they thought at first it was something they would never do. Limits change and evolve over time so communication is always key

This is so true. Had some fun experiences I never contemplated before, just had to be the right person

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

In bed by 8 otherwise we go home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fisting up to the elbow

But just before the elbow is ok?? Hehe

Just use a loose wrist watch as a kind of gauge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PPP are out. Hard no!

Most other things I’ll try once.

I do have a very strong limit about people I choose to sleep beside. I couldn’t sleep next to someone unless I trusted them unconditionally, so that’s a thing for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"PPP are out. Hard no!

Most other things I’ll try once.

I do have a very strong limit about people I choose to sleep beside. I couldn’t sleep next to someone unless I trusted them unconditionally, so that’s a thing for me. "

Ok, I'll let you sleep on the couch while I take the bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never u der stood the term "no limit". But then I was never a fan of mid nineties dance duos... More a rock/goth/metal chick myself....

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Off the top of my head - scat, needles, staples, blood, cutting, spitting in the face, ass to mouth, branding, piercing, fisting, extreme penetration, double penetration in the same hole, nappies.

I also have a number of soft limits which are a no in 99% of cases but not a never with the right person.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Never u der stood the term "no limit". But then I was never a fan of mid nineties dance duos... More a rock/goth/metal chick myself.... "

Yeah it's a silly thing to say and often by niave people. No limits? Ok let me chop your arm off then? No didn't think so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"PPP are out. Hard no!

Most other things I’ll try once.

I do have a very strong limit about people I choose to sleep beside. I couldn’t sleep next to someone unless I trusted them unconditionally, so that’s a thing for me.

Ok, I'll let you sleep on the couch while I take the bed

Such a gentleman

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

Limits should always include anything illegal.

Age related or animals at very least.

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By *ruckingscouser69Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Limits should always include anything illegal.

Age related or animals at very least."

They shouldn't even be considered tbf, that should be a given

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"PPP are out. Hard no!

Most other things I’ll try once.

I do have a very strong limit about people I choose to sleep beside. I couldn’t sleep next to someone unless I trusted them unconditionally, so that’s a thing for me.

Ok, I'll let you sleep on the couch while I take the bed

Such a gentleman

I'll let you have the duvet though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"PPP are out. Hard no!

Most other things I’ll try once.

I do have a very strong limit about people I choose to sleep beside. I couldn’t sleep next to someone unless I trusted them unconditionally, so that’s a thing for me.

Ok, I'll let you sleep on the couch while I take the bed

Such a gentleman

I'll let you have the duvet though!"

Fuck off

you can curl up at the base of the bed like a good puppy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"PPP are out. Hard no!

Most other things I’ll try once.

I do have a very strong limit about people I choose to sleep beside. I couldn’t sleep next to someone unless I trusted them unconditionally, so that’s a thing for me.

Ok, I'll let you sleep on the couch while I take the bed

Such a gentleman

I'll let you have the duvet though!

Fuck off

you can curl up at the base of the bed like a good puppy

Kitten showing her claws

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"PPP are out. Hard no!

Most other things I’ll try once.

I do have a very strong limit about people I choose to sleep beside. I couldn’t sleep next to someone unless I trusted them unconditionally, so that’s a thing for me.

Ok, I'll let you sleep on the couch while I take the bed

Such a gentleman

I'll let you have the duvet though!

Fuck off

you can curl up at the base of the bed like a good puppy

Kitten showing her claws

Just for you darling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is having anything up my ass, a partner tried with a finger and I didn't like it.

I also find it hard to sleep beside someone I don't trust implicitly, most of the time I end up wide away and end up trying to have more sex just to pass the time which understandably annoys some partners.

Definitely no PPP!

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

"Limits should always include anything illegal.

Age related or animals at very least.

They shouldn't even be considered tbf, that should be a given"

Indeed but it makes a mockery of saying no limits

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I assume this is from a sexual context, and so there is no meed to mention cutting hair, providing bank details/PIN’s etc?

Most people have limits, they just haven't experienced or thought of them.

You could search through porn clip websites looking at the titles and activities,

You could look up a BDSM checklist that lists all the kinds of activities and if you like/dislike them (different to the BDSM test people often post to determine their roles),

You could read online erotica to determine your likes and limits

From experience this is what most people we have played with have included in their limits

No poo

No pee

No pain / heavy pain

No marks

No blood

No face slapping

No body punching

No choking

No anal/anal play

No cum play

No blindfolds

No enclosed spaces

No sensory deprivation hoods

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there's no trust there's no point in anything else...

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Poop play is a definite no, everything else has to be tried before I would dismiss it

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By *reywolf_18Man
over a year ago

ayr

Pee and poo, and pain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The right person could make me do anything.....

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

Poo, blood and extreme pain. I enjoy being spanked and quiet enjoy watersports.

Anything else legal is fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been chatting to a lady for a few weeks now and yesterday she asked what my hard limits were. Up until this point I have never thought about or been asked about them. To be honest I didn’t know where to start

I am quite open minded and am happy to try most things with the right partner but it’s got my head in a spin.

What are your limits?

I won’t shag anyone with a English accent....

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