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By *herubCheeks OP   Woman
over a year ago

seaside

Good Morning

Happy Thursday

Expect nothing but a debate on this post !

I want to know if you had a disability would you tell any future meets you had in mind ? Or would you leave till you met?

Some disabilities are invisible and guess some will worry that your to shallow to meet if they told you .

I've met a disabled guy in the past ..if he had told me it wouldn't change my opinion of him as a person ..was bit of shock when we got going to find what I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The minimum I expect from anyone I meet is that they disclose anything that might impact our meet. It's common courtesy and I reserve the right to walk away if they aren't what they appear to be.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"The minimum I expect from anyone I meet is that they disclose anything that might impact our meet. It's common courtesy and I reserve the right to walk away if they aren't what they appear to be. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always be upfront, saves a lot of awkwardness for other couple, we have done it other way and had very few rejections but it does put people on the spot for a couple of minutes x m

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By *herubCheeks OP   Woman
over a year ago

seaside


"Always be upfront, saves a lot of awkwardness for other couple, we have done it other way and had very few rejections but it does put people on the spot for a couple of minutes x m "

Yes I think if you can see their face when you discuss it ..will tell all!

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By *herubCheeks OP   Woman
over a year ago

seaside


"The minimum I expect from anyone I meet is that they disclose anything that might impact our meet. It's common courtesy and I reserve the right to walk away if they aren't what they appear to be. "

Well yes but some don't I think it's unfair to cover and shock !

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

My disability is invisible and wouldn't affect a meet in any way so I've never thought to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to be told if it’s going to affect the time we spend together in any possible way.

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By *herubCheeks OP   Woman
over a year ago

seaside


"My disability is invisible and wouldn't affect a meet in any way so I've never thought to. "

Likewise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met a few people who have hidden disabilities. They've told me on the meet. It makes no difference to me.

If it was something very obvious, I would probably be surprised. Disabilities shouldn't define someone, but then they can also definately impact how things are carried out.

It's hard finding the balance of openness, many ppl WOULD walk away when supplied with certain information. Which then leaves the other feeling worthless.

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By *herubCheeks OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"I've met a few people who have hidden disabilities. They've told me on the meet. It makes no difference to me.

If it was something very obvious, I would probably be surprised. Disabilities shouldn't define someone, but then they can also definately impact how things are carried out.

It's hard finding the balance of openness, many ppl WOULD walk away when supplied with certain information. Which then leaves the other feeling worthless. "

Yes lots of shallow men around

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By *amish SMan
over a year ago

Eastleigh

Upfront prior to meet would be best, but if it became evident at the meet, then you can always say thanks, but no thanks. Disability is massively diverse list, where to start I could not imagine, each on its own merits is how I would take it.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

My disability status is pretty obvious via our pics, but I do point out the wheelchair before going any further. It's happened both ways- some don't mind. Some do. We've had abuse because of it too, but bollocks to them *shrug*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to point it out pretty early on...

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Upfront prior to meet would be best, but if it became evident at the meet, then you can always say thanks, but no thanks. Disability is massively diverse list, where to start I could not imagine, each on its own merits is how I would take it."

It's not that I'm deliberately noy upfront, it's just that people could know me for years, including sexually and never know so I've just never even thought about it before meeting someone.

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By *herubCheeks OP   Woman
over a year ago

seaside


"Upfront prior to meet would be best, but if it became evident at the meet, then you can always say thanks, but no thanks. Disability is massively diverse list, where to start I could not imagine, each on its own merits is how I would take it."

True

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Upfront prior to meet would be best, but if it became evident at the meet, then you can always say thanks, but no thanks. Disability is massively diverse list, where to start I could not imagine, each on its own merits is how I would take it."

I can't imagine how that would go.

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By *ll of a QuiverCouple
over a year ago

Douglas

Our profile gives a heads up about the health issues my Mrs has to deal with.

We decided it was better for people to know before they decide to get in touch with us if they wish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The minimum I expect from anyone I meet is that they disclose anything that might impact our meet. It's common courtesy and I reserve the right to walk away if they aren't what they appear to be. "

What she said!

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By *exy Two-Shoes40Man
over a year ago

bolton

some disabilities are visible and some are not

there is nothing to be ashamed about being disabled there are human beings just like the rest of us

and they deserve Sexual life like us all there are no different between you and them they have got desires just like anybody else so please do not judge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines invisible and not performance affecting so no. I don’t need to disclose but here we are.. letting it all out lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am resgisted as blind but can see abit that class as disability I also have Baker cyst on my left leg

If I meet someone with disabitly It wouldn't change anything

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By *elvet_OrchidWoman
over a year ago

Banbury

It certainly wouldnt put me off meeting anyone but I do like honesty. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am always upfront about my limited mobility at the begining of discussing meeting, i would expect to be told about a disability before meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have Aspergers which is a mild form of Autism which I do handle & I would definitely go with anyone who has a disability everyone deserves fun & happiness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also wear bags due to a non working bladder , but the way I look at it is I’m alive , I had a kidney transplant in April 2009

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"My disability is invisible and wouldn't affect a meet in any way so I've never thought to. "

Same. And my isn't always considered a disability either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got an unstable pelvis and lower spine problems. So we would always tell anyone we meet for sex as I've got to be careful. There is always different ways that don't cause pain.

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By *rMrs84Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

We do. Mrs has some invisible disabilities. Nothing serious but depending on how her health is on a day it can impact what she’s up for and change our expectations for a meet at the last minute. We figure it’s fair to let people know that we may have to scale back at the last minute and, if we go ahead, a little more care may be needed with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a hidden disability....

Just type louder.....

It'll be fine..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like you all to know that if anyone would like to chat I’m here for everyone , I would also like to ask for your advice , if a guy told you that he wore a bag , what would you say & would it put you off ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MrMrs84, you both look a lovely couple , are you both doing ok ?

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
over a year ago

Darlaston

I'm disabled where I lost the use of one arm but I've never told anyone before a meet as it does not affect the way I play

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