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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

to get. You spend weeks even months chatting to someone but you feel like your making no progress. Do you find yourself losing interest in them?

Just wondered how long fabbers carry on chatting to someone you want to eventually meet before you give up on the idea because you think it's going nowhere.

No negativity please.

Peace and Love

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not long...i wouldn't bother unless I knew they were into me too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Years

I have been here years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t even think about it, other people are on instagram or Facebook you are on here as it’s more discrete. Such is life

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Depends how interesting the conversation was. If it was all "what you up to", "how r u" etc then my interest would wane pretty quickly. If I'm enjoying the conversation for its own sake then I'm not going to give up on it just because it's not leading me to more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends how interesting the conversation was. If it was all "what you up to", "how r u" etc then my interest would wane pretty quickly. If I'm enjoying the conversation for its own sake then I'm not going to give up on it just because it's not leading me to more."

^^This^^

If it's a good conversation and interesting then I'm carrying on with it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I find the longer the conversation stays in text form, I start to lose interest.

I feel the need to hear a voice to make sure who I am interacting with. Like an assurance the other person is who they say they are. Then it can go back to texting with the odd phone chat when suitable.

Maybe a bad experience in the past has made me think like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dislike when people assume that people are ‘playing hard to get’.

Maybe they just aren’t interested.

It’s the same kind of people who complain about the ‘friend zone’ - if you’re only chatting to people with the hopes of sex/relationship, then you’re not a nice person. No one owes you anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi. I had a couple contact me. Initially I let the conversation flow with no problems as i felt it was polite to do so. The 2nd and 3rd conversation I felt my questions to them were being ignored. So I asked again which they appeared to not like. Im not botheredat this point because I've lost patience now. I've always given 100% respect to people but I do have my own self respect and it was time to walk away. This is all about respect for myself and others and all to get on and have some fun.

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By *reddy fMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I find if they aren't willing to move to conversation off fab after weeks it won't happen.

However, lockdown has changed how long people are willing to wait for things.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"I find the longer the conversation stays in text form, I start to lose interest.

Maybe a bad experience in the past has made me think like this."

If you don't find them interesting then don't meet them.

We find somebody we can chat to over a long period is likely to be somebody we want to meet. We think it's a good sign.

If somebody was only chatting to us because they wanted a shag then we wouldn't want to know them. For us, sex starts with friendships. We don't seek sex for its own sake. If you are talking to somebody with that attitude and it's not yours then I would suggest you are not compatible.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I retain long term relationships, some of whom I haven't been able to meet in 8 months, but it is what you make it. Sometimes life changes and the natural fade is inevitable, even if you do get on really well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dislike when people assume that people are ‘playing hard to get’.

Maybe they just aren’t interested.

That's you being assumptious about my motives, that's not being nice.

Please read my profile and it makes it clear, yet they engage with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"to get. You spend weeks even months chatting to someone but you feel like your making no progress. Do you find yourself losing interest in them?

Just wondered how long fabbers carry on chatting to someone you want to eventually meet before you give up on the idea because you think it's going nowhere.

No negativity please.

Peace and Love

Have never had this happen much on Fab before but now finding guys who either string you along or chat for about a week and then ghost you. Oh for emotionally mature men who can say they have changed their mind or admit they are only interested in virtual fantasy, not real.

I will give it a couple of weeks but if not prepared to meet for a social then it’s goodbye from me.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"to get. You spend weeks even months chatting to someone but you feel like your making no progress. Do you find yourself losing interest in them?

Just wondered how long fabbers carry on chatting to someone you want to eventually meet before you give up on the idea because you think it's going nowhere.

No negativity please.

Peace and Love

It was very pleasant to talk on phone to you this afternoon

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

Just chat and see where it goes, it's got to be natural and there needs to be a connection. If it drags on then so long as the chat doesn't just fizzle out i keep going, friends are just as good with or without the benefits.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"to get. You spend weeks even months chatting to someone but you feel like your making no progress. Do you find yourself losing interest in them?

Just wondered how long fabbers carry on chatting to someone you want to eventually meet before you give up on the idea because you think it's going nowhere.

No negativity please.

Peace and Love

It was very pleasant to talk on phone to you this afternoon

Likewise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not all about meets for me. I talk to interesting and funny people and sometimes we end up meeting. I think if I only chatted with people who I knew I was definitely going to meet then my experience would be pretty dull and I also probably wouldn't meet anyone because I wouldn't know I wanted to meet them without chatting.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not all about meets for me. I talk to interesting and funny people and sometimes we end up meeting. I think if I only chatted with people who I knew I was definitely going to meet then my experience would be pretty dull and I also probably wouldn't meet anyone because I wouldn't know I wanted to meet them without chatting.....

In that I mean, my meets come from conversation rather than my conversations leading to meets, if that makes sense....

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Yes

If I feel I'm doing all the work it soon loses its appeal

I'd sooner be chased than chase

Jo x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want a social within a week of first chatting, otherwise we won't ever meet.

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By *onkyLemonsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Depends on the person/(s) involved?

We both like to feel that anyone we potentially meet to play with is also someone that we could meet just for a beer and a chit chat. So getting to know someone to that level takes a bit of time...

We’re also horribly difficult to pin down for a commitment to meet and play due to work life and family life commitments.

We tend to keep people hooked by drop feeding them smutty pictures and terrible Dad jokes....

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

"Depends on the person/(s) involved?

We both like to feel that anyone we potentially meet to play with is also someone that we could meet just for a beer and a chit chat. So getting to know someone to that level takes a bit of time...

We’re also horribly difficult to pin down for a commitment to meet and play due to work life and family life commitments.

We tend to keep people hooked by drop feeding them smutty pictures and terrible Dad jokes....

Hey where's my dad joke!!

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By *onkyLemonsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Depends on the person/(s) involved?

We both like to feel that anyone we potentially meet to play with is also someone that we could meet just for a beer and a chit chat. So getting to know someone to that level takes a bit of time...

We’re also horribly difficult to pin down for a commitment to meet and play due to work life and family life commitments.

We tend to keep people hooked by drop feeding them smutty pictures and terrible Dad jokes....

Hey where's my dad joke!!"

I thought you weren’t interested in couples! Didn’t think we had to keep you hooked, because you weren’t interested anyway!

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

"Depends on the person/(s) involved?

We both like to feel that anyone we potentially meet to play with is also someone that we could meet just for a beer and a chit chat. So getting to know someone to that level takes a bit of time...

We’re also horribly difficult to pin down for a commitment to meet and play due to work life and family life commitments.

We tend to keep people hooked by drop feeding them smutty pictures and terrible Dad jokes....

Hey where's my dad joke!!

I thought you weren’t interested in couples! Didn’t think we had to keep you hooked, because you weren’t interested anyway!

Well you never mentioned anything about jokes did you!

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