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By *uffnsmov OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds/Wakefield

Finally got a label and an end to the CIS fobia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going to say congratulations and then embarrass myself and ask what CIS is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

CISfobia?

You’re joking right?

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Going to say congratulations and then embarrass myself and ask what CIS is?"

^ What he said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Going to say congratulations and then embarrass myself and ask what CIS is?"

Commonwealth of Independent States. At least it did in the early 90s when I was last relevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"CISfobia?

You’re joking right?"

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Construction Industry Scheme, where a contractor can deduct from payment to a subcontractor to hand on to the government.

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By *uffnsmov OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds/Wakefield

As in Transgender is someone who comfortable with not being defined as any particular group. Then a Cisgender is someone who is comfortable with having a label of a particular group. (My understanding usually wrong )

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By *uffnsmov OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds/Wakefield

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I've got NCIS phobia. I bet there's some Gibbs ophiles on here

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By *uffnsmov OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds/Wakefield


"CISfobia?

You’re joking right?"

That's a very Cisfobic comment

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By *killsMan
over a year ago

Never Never Land

My understanding of CIS is you identify with your birth sex. I’m probably wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As in Transgender is someone who comfortable with not being defined as any particular group. Then a Cisgender is someone who is comfortable with having a label of a particular group. (My understanding usually wrong )"

Not really. It’s just the opposite of transgender. Don’t think it’s anything to do with being comfortable in a particular group. It’s a term used for someone who’s identity is the same as their birth sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

on the same side as

The prefix “cis” means “on the same side as.” So while people who are transgender move “across” genders, people who are cisgender remain on the same side of the gender they were initially identified as at birth.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

Cis doesn't need to be capitalised.

It's just Latin, meaning 'on this side', whereas 'trans' means 'on the other side'.

There's no more need to make a fuss about being called it than there is being called heterosexual.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"As in Transgender is someone who comfortable with not being defined as any particular group. Then a Cisgender is someone who is comfortable with having a label of a particular group. (My understanding usually wrong )

Not really. It’s just the opposite of transgender. Don’t think it’s anything to do with being comfortable in a particular group. It’s a term used for someone who’s identity is the same as their birth sex. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So now that's cleared up, what's your favourite pizza toppings!?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"So now that's cleared up, what's your favourite pizza toppings!? "

I think pineapple is a very afab topping, don't you?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"Cis doesn't need to be capitalised.

It's just Latin, meaning 'on this side', whereas 'trans' means 'on the other side'.

There's no more need to make a fuss about being called it than there is being called heterosexual. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So now that's cleared up, what's your favourite pizza toppings!? "

Cheese. I’m boring!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I still prefer a world where labels are irrelevant and people can just be people x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Cis doesn't need to be capitalised.

It's just Latin, meaning 'on this side', whereas 'trans' means 'on the other side'.

There's no more need to make a fuss about being called it than there is being called heterosexual.

"

Occasionally, for some people, the abbreviation "cishet" comes out.

And some people *really* lose their shit

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I think I still prefer a world where labels are irrelevant and people can just be people x"

When humanity is kind and just enough for that, it might happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus Christ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Finally got a label and an end to the CIS fobia"

Construction Industry Scheme?

Congrats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So now that's cleared up, what's your favourite pizza toppings!?

I think pineapple is a very afab topping, don't you?"

You’re wrong I’m afraid. It’s the worst pizza topping

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"So now that's cleared up, what's your favourite pizza toppings!?

I think pineapple is a very afab topping, don't you?

You’re wrong I’m afraid. It’s the worst pizza topping "

That's because you're amab. You wouldn't understand

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By *aul happyMan
over a year ago

tilgate crawley

why does everything need a label ........just live your life however you want and enjoy

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"why does everything need a label ........just live your life however you want and enjoy "

It's a very cishet observation to make

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So now that's cleared up, what's your favourite pizza toppings!?

I think pineapple is a very afab topping, don't you?

You’re wrong I’m afraid. It’s the worst pizza topping

That's because you're amab. You wouldn't understand"

You’re presuming a lot... I might have had a very good and generous surgeon.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"So now that's cleared up, what's your favourite pizza toppings!?

I think pineapple is a very afab topping, don't you?

You’re wrong I’m afraid. It’s the worst pizza topping

That's because you're amab. You wouldn't understand

You’re presuming a lot... I might have had a very good and generous surgeon. "

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World


"So now that's cleared up, what's your favourite pizza toppings!?

I think pineapple is a very afab topping, don't you?

You’re wrong I’m afraid. It’s the worst pizza topping "

Worse even than a fried egg?

Yes it's a thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So now that's cleared up, what's your favourite pizza toppings!?

I think pineapple is a very afab topping, don't you?

You’re wrong I’m afraid. It’s the worst pizza topping

Worse even than a fried egg?

Yes it's a thing."

Yeah I’ve seen fried egg pizza, I think it’s called florentine style, right?

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London


"why does everything need a label ........just live your life however you want and enjoy "

Because labels can help people understand themselves, find others like them, and find appropriate help if required.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So now that's cleared up, what's your favourite pizza toppings!?

I think pineapple is a very afab topping, don't you?

You’re wrong I’m afraid. It’s the worst pizza topping

Worse even than a fried egg?

Yes it's a thing."

Are you sure it’s fried and put on there? A florentine pizza will have the raw egg cooked on top and is delightful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I lived in Sweden they used to put banana on a pizza. Like we would pineapple. At the time I was thinking that’s disgusting but now decades later I’m thinking actually that could work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So now that's cleared up, what's your favourite pizza toppings!?

I think pineapple is a very afab topping, don't you?

You’re wrong I’m afraid. It’s the worst pizza topping

Worse even than a fried egg?

Yes it's a thing."

All top chefs know that a fried egg improves any dish. A bit like melted cheese.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"why does everything need a label ........just live your life however you want and enjoy

Because labels can help people understand themselves, find others like them, and find appropriate help if required.

"

Yes! And be aware of other people's shared experiences so we meet people more where they are.

Labels are not boxes, they're springboards getting you closer to where you need to be.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"When I lived in Sweden they used to put banana on a pizza. Like we would pineapple. At the time I was thinking that’s disgusting but now decades later I’m thinking actually that could work."

I'm going to plead foreign and say that tuna and corn on pizza... wtf I do not understand and never will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so glad I was identified at birth otherwise I'd have been at a loss

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport


"When I lived in Sweden they used to put banana on a pizza. Like we would pineapple. At the time I was thinking that’s disgusting but now decades later I’m thinking actually that could work.

I'm going to plead foreign and say that tuna and corn on pizza... wtf I do not understand and never will."

Yeah we all know tuna and red onion is the pizza toppings of kings/queen's/royal title of choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thread successfully hijacked, my job here is done!

Pepperoni for the win!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"When I lived in Sweden they used to put banana on a pizza. Like we would pineapple. At the time I was thinking that’s disgusting but now decades later I’m thinking actually that could work.

I'm going to plead foreign and say that tuna and corn on pizza... wtf I do not understand and never will.

Yeah we all know tuna and red onion is the pizza toppings of kings/queen's/royal title of choice"

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Seafood pizza. Prawns, calamari.

That's the business.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport


"on the same side as

The prefix “cis” means “on the same side as.” So while people who are transgender move “across” genders, people who are cisgender remain on the same side of the gender they were initially identified as at birth."

Spot on. It's a prefix that has been in general usage in sciences for at least a century. The application to gender identity is relatively new, probably no more than 30 years. Cisgender is to transgender the same as heterosexual is to homosexual.

Cisgender isn't any sort of insult, it's just a statement of fact, and only needs using when there is any distinction needed to be made. Some people say "I'm not cisgender, I'm just normal" and moan that we trans are "looking for an excuse to be offended". Try putting it into the framework of other binary categories applied to people...

"I'm not homosexual, I'm normal".

"I'm not crippled, I'm normal".

"I'm not black, I'm normal".

"I'm not Catholic, I'm normal".

"I'm not a swinger, I'm normal".

"I'm not vegetarian, I'm normal".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing normal about vegetarians....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"on the same side as

The prefix “cis” means “on the same side as.” So while people who are transgender move “across” genders, people who are cisgender remain on the same side of the gender they were initially identified as at birth.

Spot on. It's a prefix that has been in general usage in sciences for at least a century. The application to gender identity is relatively new, probably no more than 30 years. Cisgender is to transgender the same as heterosexual is to homosexual.

Cisgender isn't any sort of insult, it's just a statement of fact, and only needs using when there is any distinction needed to be made. Some people say "I'm not cisgender, I'm just normal" and moan that we trans are "looking for an excuse to be offended". Try putting it into the framework of other binary categories applied to people...

"I'm not homosexual, I'm normal".

"I'm not crippled, I'm normal".

"I'm not black, I'm normal".

"I'm not Catholic, I'm normal".

"I'm not a swinger, I'm normal".

"I'm not vegetarian, I'm normal".

"

Spot. On.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, back to pizza....

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"Nothing normal about vegetarians.... "

I beg to differ! x

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"So now that's cleared up, what's your favourite pizza toppings!? "

I like a meat feast...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So now that's cleared up, what's your favourite pizza toppings!?

I like a meat feast..."

So I've seen

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By *he roc2369Man
over a year ago

limerick birmingham

All top chefs a very very wrong then, couldnt pay me enough to have the yoke(usually chefie soft/runny)of an egg anywhere near or on anything im about to eat, just the smell alone is enough to force me to leave the room , no no no, just no

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"I think I still prefer a world where labels are irrelevant and people can just be people x"

Must be nice.

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By *he roc2369Man
over a year ago

limerick birmingham

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By *he roc2369Man
over a year ago

limerick birmingham


"Nothing normal about vegetarians.... "

This ^^^^^

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I think I still prefer a world where labels are irrelevant and people can just be people x

Must be nice. "

It is - in Rwanda they just about got rid of ethnicity, and look at the results

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Went to Japan like 10 years ago, they have mayonnaise on pizza...yuk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Went to Japan like 10 years ago, they have mayonnaise on pizza...yuk "

Garlic mayo on pizza is amazing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So now that's cleared up, what's your favourite pizza toppings!?

I think pineapple is a very afab topping, don't you?

You’re wrong I’m afraid. It’s the worst pizza topping

Worse even than a fried egg?

Yes it's a thing."

Here it’s not even fried it’s raw as in uncooked.

Yuk!!

T

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