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How do you feel when you’ve messaged every woman within 20 miles and no takers

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By *unylinguist OP   Man
over a year ago

aldershot

To old, wrong sex, dicks to Small, not tall enough, body the wrong shape, wrong colour, wrong sexual persuasion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *unylinguist OP   Man
over a year ago

aldershot


"Not the best punchline, but still better than some of nowheremans "
the joys of being a normal dad bod newbie.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I wouldn't ever message every woman within a certain radius, but if I had I'd firstly be questioning how selective I was being and whether I just saw every hole as a goal, and secondly if none of them had replied I'd be looking at what I could change to improve my chances of getting a reply, including whether I should be looking for people that I matched what they were looking for, and they matched what I was, rather than blanket bombing everyone within that radius.

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I feel normal as use to being ignored

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

seriously op did you read every woman within 20miles profile and was so well suited you message them or did you just randomly message them without a thoughy whether you where compatable or not

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By *unylinguist OP   Man
over a year ago

aldershot


"I wouldn't ever message every woman within a certain radius, but if I had I'd firstly be questioning how selective I was being and whether I just saw every hole as a goal, and secondly if none of them had replied I'd be looking at what I could change to improve my chances of getting a reply, including whether I should be looking for people that I matched what they were looking for, and they matched what I was, rather than blanket bombing everyone within that radius."
i know what ya saying . I started off with the ones I fancied. All nice and polite, introducing my self. Not to long not to short not pushy not pleading. That didn’t work. May a short punchy message then, Nope. Ok maybe cheeky will work, nope not that either. Ok message the ones that I wouldn’t want to meet , they’ll answer and I’ll have to make my excuses. Nope even they don’t want me. New profile name and new photos, nope.

So I’m turning gay see if that will help Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ummmmm. I will let you know if I ever do!

But, seriously don't lose hope. People are fickle, what they like/don't like changes on a given day.

Perhaps look at your profile and see if it can be improved. Change what you say in your messages.

Just hang around the forums, let people get to know you!

Don't give up. How many women have you chatted up in the pub have straight away jumped you?

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By *unylinguist OP   Man
over a year ago

aldershot


"seriously op did you read every woman within 20miles profile and was so well suited you message them or did you just randomly message them without a thoughy whether you where compatable or not"
nah just trying some response even the ones I wouldn’t touch with yours.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I wouldn't ever message every woman within a certain radius, but if I had I'd firstly be questioning how selective I was being and whether I just saw every hole as a goal, and secondly if none of them had replied I'd be looking at what I could change to improve my chances of getting a reply, including whether I should be looking for people that I matched what they were looking for, and they matched what I was, rather than blanket bombing everyone within that radius.i know what ya saying . I started off with the ones I fancied. All nice and polite, introducing my self. Not to long not to short not pushy not pleading. That didn’t work. May a short punchy message then, Nope. Ok maybe cheeky will work, nope not that either. Ok message the ones that I wouldn’t want to meet , they’ll answer and I’ll have to make my excuses. Nope even they don’t want me. New profile name and new photos, nope.

So I’m turning gay see if that will help Lol. "

I do hope your tongue is well and truly in your cheek with all of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So I’m turning gay see if that will help Lol. "

Let me know how it goes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't ever message every woman within a certain radius, but if I had I'd firstly be questioning how selective I was being and whether I just saw every hole as a goal, and secondly if none of them had replied I'd be looking at what I could change to improve my chances of getting a reply, including whether I should be looking for people that I matched what they were looking for, and they matched what I was, rather than blanket bombing everyone within that radius.i know what ya saying . I started off with the ones I fancied. All nice and polite, introducing my self. Not to long not to short not pushy not pleading. That didn’t work. May a short punchy message then, Nope. Ok maybe cheeky will work, nope not that either. Ok message the ones that I wouldn’t want to meet , they’ll answer and I’ll have to make my excuses. Nope even they don’t want me. New profile name and new photos, nope.

So I’m turning gay see if that will help Lol. "

The only word I have is wow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go up to 30 miles

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By *unylinguist OP   Man
over a year ago

aldershot


"

So I’m turning gay see if that will help Lol.

Let me know how it goes! "

im gonna start messaging TS’s that’s if I can find one that looks like woman and not a boxer in woman’s knickers and a bad wig

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm sounds like any hole is a goal to you OP,I would never even think about messaging every guy local to me,never mind do it

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

Fuck me, they’re all out tonight. We’re off to bed but please, whatever happens don’t drink the kool-aid.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"seriously op did you read every woman within 20miles profile and was so well suited you message them or did you just randomly message them without a thoughy whether you where compatable or notnah just trying some response even the ones I wouldn’t touch with yours. "

Jesus christ!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go on to the men.

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By *exycouplesswingCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

The best thing is that this thread will really help you......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't ever message every woman within a certain radius, but if I had I'd firstly be questioning how selective I was being and whether I just saw every hole as a goal, and secondly if none of them had replied I'd be looking at what I could change to improve my chances of getting a reply, including whether I should be looking for people that I matched what they were looking for, and they matched what I was, rather than blanket bombing everyone within that radius.i know what ya saying . I started off with the ones I fancied. All nice and polite, introducing my self. Not to long not to short not pushy not pleading. That didn’t work. May a short punchy message then, Nope. Ok maybe cheeky will work, nope not that either. Ok message the ones that I wouldn’t want to meet , they’ll answer and I’ll have to make my excuses. Nope even they don’t want me. New profile name and new photos, nope.

So I’m turning gay see if that will help Lol. "
that bit about messaging the ones you wouldn't meet, kind of sums up why you aren't getting meets, think about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block list is now one bigger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To old, wrong sex, dicks to Small, not tall enough, body the wrong shape, wrong colour, wrong sexual persuasion. "

May I suggest not sending dick pics out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To old, wrong sex, dicks to Small, not tall enough, body the wrong shape, wrong colour, wrong sexual persuasion.

May I suggest not sending dick pics out?"

Dont tell 'em that

I'm gonna have to totally rewrite my profile text now, and I'm a very busy woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you have any requirements?

Or do you just message anything with a pulse?

I’m pretty sure any woman you message who may read this post will feel exceptionally flattered and wanted now...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread will really help, I'm sure.

It's a great filter for us women anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s why the forum is here...it’s a waiting room for people looking for more people to arrive within their radius.

Some people have been here between 18 to 99 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not the best punchline, but still better than some of nowheremans the joys of being a normal dad bod newbie. "
its the same for all blokes on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well then I think that Tuesday might be different.

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By *hezuMan
over a year ago

London

Wow this is the saddest thing ive read on the forum *plays worlds smallest violin*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow this is the saddest thing ive read on the forum *plays worlds smallest violin*"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Words fail me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were you actually attracted to every woman you messaged?

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Clearly that's the point you realise that every womans account on here are fakes and time wasters?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Unbelievable, I think you are completely out of touch.

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By *atcherwankerMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Not the best punchline, but still better than some of nowheremans the joys of being a normal dad bod newbie. its the same for all blokes on here"

Speak for yourself, chief.

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

Why would you message everyone? Surely you have your own preferences?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fuck me, they’re all out tonight. We’re off to bed but please, whatever happens don’t drink the kool-aid. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So I’m turning gay see if that will help Lol.

Let me know how it goes!

im gonna start messaging TS’s that’s if I can find one that looks like woman and not a boxer in woman’s knickers and a bad wig "

That will probably yield even worse results for you , well unless the paper comes out prior to get the meet for an hour

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By *rghYeTimbersMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

Option 1 keep trying

Option 2 form a group

Option 3 become a TV/TS

Option 4 give up

Option 5 life of crime

Let's face it men here outnumber the women 100:1 so they are fickle n fussy. If you're not a tall sex God your going to have to have something else get very lucky, with clubs closed it's tough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message them all again op, they may have bulk deleted and missed your message

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

have you thought of waiting until the Covid thing is over??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't ever message every woman within a certain radius, but if I had I'd firstly be questioning how selective I was being and whether I just saw every hole as a goal, and secondly if none of them had replied I'd be looking at what I could change to improve my chances of getting a reply, including whether I should be looking for people that I matched what they were looking for, and they matched what I was, rather than blanket bombing everyone within that radius.i know what ya saying . I started off with the ones I fancied. All nice and polite, introducing my self. Not to long not to short not pushy not pleading. That didn’t work. May a short punchy message then, Nope. Ok maybe cheeky will work, nope not that either. Ok message the ones that I wouldn’t want to meet , they’ll answer and I’ll have to make my excuses. Nope even they don’t want me. New profile name and new photos, nope.

So I’m turning gay see if that will help Lol. "

I wouldn't bother messaging any woman. I look at their profile and that's enough. If they want they can message me.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Expecting something in three months is hopeful. Expecting something in three months during a global pandemic could be unrealistic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To old, wrong sex, dicks to Small, not tall enough, body the wrong shape, wrong colour, wrong sexual persuasion. "

Enough about the women, whats wrong with you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work out, get rich, dress smart, drive a cool car and you'll get tonnes of women.

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By *hat BlokeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

It is difficult punching through the barriers that women need to put up with your first message but you may be going about it in the wrong way. Stay calm and optimistic and honest. Don’t message those that you are not interested in. That’s just like more junk mail through their letter boxes. It’s only ever going to go in the bin.

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Desperate.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I'd say stop messaging.

You are just going to annoy people, especially now they have all seen you are now just sending them out to people you don't even fancy

The ladies on here are inundated with messages. Just because they don't reply doesn't mean they wouldn't be interested, they may have just missed it.

Instead use the forums, get chatting, have fun.

Eventually people will start to see who you are and you will naturally start making friends and connections... as long as your not a complete dick.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"seriously op did you read every woman within 20miles profile and was so well suited you message them or did you just randomly message them without a thoughy whether you where compatable or notnah just trying some response even the ones I wouldn’t touch with yours. "

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By *unylinguist OP   Man
over a year ago

aldershot


"Work out, get rich, dress smart, drive a cool car and you'll get tonnes of women. "

You forgot, stretch ya Willy to 10”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Work out, get rich, dress smart, drive a cool car and you'll get tonnes of women.

You forgot, stretch ya Willy to 10”"

Ew nobody wants that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To old, wrong sex, dicks to Small, not tall enough, body the wrong shape, wrong colour, wrong sexual persuasion. "

men are commodities i'm afraid. finding sincreity on the other hand is in short supply

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Work out, get rich, dress smart, drive a cool car and you'll get tonnes of women.

You forgot, stretch ya Willy to 10”

Ew nobody wants that"

No...

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By *rink Me xxWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire

Hard to understand how you havent been snapped up OP. Such charm

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By *al37Man
over a year ago

manchester

What is the best 1st message to get ppl attention????

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside


"What is the best 1st message to get ppl attention????"

Send a pic of your cock with a polite "wanna meet round the back of the pound shop?" Women are easy like that on here. Feel free to copy paste like the rest of us, that way you can get through more with little effort

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"What is the best 1st message to get ppl attention????"

Something normal not come sit on my face ! Just a friendly hello how are u mabe something witty x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I always think, Never mind Granny the next one will want to buy your exercise bike.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like it’s time to move locations again

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

OP after messaging everyone with a pulse within 20 miles and getting no takers I usually follow it up with a status message

“Cake!!!!! Free cake!!!!!!”

You’ll thank me later

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"OP after messaging everyone with a pulse within 20 miles and getting no takers I usually follow it up with a status message

“Cake!!!!! Free cake!!!!!!”

You’ll thank me later "

Cake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why a lot of guys move on to TV's, the next best thing ha ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel normal as use to being ignored "
yep just a normal day to day experience for me too

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Not another one of these 'I'm invisible' threads...

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"OP after messaging everyone with a pulse within 20 miles and getting no takers I usually follow it up with a status message

“Cake!!!!! Free cake!!!!!!”

You’ll thank me later

Cake? "

See OP......

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Try cake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not another one of these 'I'm invisible' threads... "

Oh god , not another thread about feeling left out in the cold.....boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll try 25 miles

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"I'll try 25 miles "

F&B Top Tip #9

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Middle aged men are invisible, its not for nothing the suicide rate for men in this demographic is very high, about four times that of women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll try 25 miles

F&B Top Tip #9 "

Can't wait for the #10

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

I do like that even those you planned to reject got there first

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By *unylinguist OP   Man
over a year ago

aldershot

Thank you Mr & Mrs Marmite for your PM and subsequent block so that I can’t reply.

No I’m not desperate nor am I sad

My post was meant tongue in cheek. If you can’t see that, I’m sorry.

Yes I’ve messaged a good number of women. And I only messaged those who genuinely match my preferences. And yes it is quite annoying when you read a long profile to find in the last sentence.

That your to old the wrong sex to short wrong colour wrong sexual orientation.

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By *unylinguist OP   Man
over a year ago

aldershot


"What is the best 1st message to get ppl attention????

Send a pic of your cock with a polite "wanna meet round the back of the pound shop?" Women are easy like that on here. Feel free to copy paste like the rest of us, that way you can get through more with little effort "

Bugger that didn’t work.

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Dunno OP, never done it, nor would I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To old, wrong sex, dicks to Small, not tall enough, body the wrong shape, wrong colour, wrong sexual persuasion. "

Just another day at the fab office

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're just after a shag you'll most likely have better luck hitting on women down your local.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're just after a shag you'll most likely have better luck hitting on women down your local.

"

Hello!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're just after a shag you'll most likely have better luck hitting on women down your local.

Hello! "

*waves*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Free...

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