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Have you ever had your heart broken by someone?

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By *ink-182 OP   Man
over a year ago

Runcorn

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

No, sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have once.

Her x

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By *imbob85Man
over a year ago

inverness

Yes am a soppy git

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, only once and recently.

Unusual I think that I nearly got to 50 without it happening.

I don't think I will ever be the same person I was before.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By *uge G RectionMan
over a year ago

where I like to be... down south

Yes, afew days ago and its not the first time either (think this is about the 5th time now) every time it feels more like your heart being ripped out and then your made to watch as they trample all over it.

Last night things got too much for me to take and I stupidly took some painkillers with alcohol looking to end the pain im still going through... seems im not only a failure in relationships, but also trying to end things for me

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Only by myself... Years of endurance training and events left me with a heart condition.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, afew days ago and its not the first time either (think this is about the 5th time now) every time it feels more like your heart being ripped out and then your made to watch as they trample all over it.

Last night things got too much for me to take and I stupidly took some painkillers with alcohol looking to end the pain im still going through... seems im not only a failure in relationships, but also trying to end things for me "

I've read that it gets harder to deal with as we get older.

Absolutely nobody is worth that though

I hope you find some distraction to give yourself chance to heal.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

No. Im 55 and never had my heart broken

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Twice. Not in a romantic way but lost in a river of grief

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, but then cracks got filled in with more substantial material

;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It got broken and fixed in a couple of days.

Now I cannot understand why I got so broken up about someone.

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By *entlemenpipMan
over a year ago

not far

Mine was shattered many years ago after i spent years thinking I needed to love one person but realised it was my not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, but then cracks got filled in with more substantial material

;-)"

That's a great analogy

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By *inballs99Man
over a year ago

Blackheath

Yes she was a sociopath!!

Caused me to loose everything,i gave her my true heart and she used it like a tissue!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooooooh yeah...

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By *onkyLemonsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Yes, afew days ago and its not the first time either (think this is about the 5th time now) every time it feels more like your heart being ripped out and then your made to watch as they trample all over it.

Last night things got too much for me to take and I stupidly took some painkillers with alcohol looking to end the pain im still going through... seems im not only a failure in relationships, but also trying to end things for me "

Mate, that’s horrific and I’m really sorry to hear that has happened to you

I hope you feel better and that you have someone you can really talk to about how you feel. If not, I think you would genuinely benefit from speaking to a counsellor or someone that’s trained to listen and guide you properly.

You’ve been here before from what you’ve said, so you’re strong enough to recover again! I hope you feel better soon!

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes she was a sociopath!!

Caused me to loose everything,i gave her my true heart and she used it like a tissue!! "

What made her a sociopath?

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By *thena123Woman
over a year ago

Swansea

I have, but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, sure it's a bitch at the time and yeah it hurts like hell, but the heart heals and is always capable of love again.... Just takes that little bit longer to give your heart away next time.xxxx

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes. In time it heals again though. Or maybe I'm just glutton for punishment .

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

3 times abd they broke me

Twice from falling in love

Once from a miscarriage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes! (Churchill nodding dog voice).....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, twice.

Once from a partner, and once from a family member.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not from a partner no. A family member yes

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By *onkyLemonsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yes, we’ve dealt with heartbreak.

We eventually talked it through, healed in time and then got back together. We’re still here and going strong!

It doesn’t last forever guys. You’re all much stronger than you know and you WILL get better!

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Yes...never going there again. I keep my heart firmly under control

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Omg yessss.. 30 years down the drain... But at least it's not more!

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

No but i have a tough heart. I have felt betrayed, disappointed and let down by people but my heart stayed intact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, afew days ago and its not the first time either (think this is about the 5th time now) every time it feels more like your heart being ripped out and then your made to watch as they trample all over it.

Last night things got too much for me to take and I stupidly took some painkillers with alcohol looking to end the pain im still going through... seems im not only a failure in relationships, but also trying to end things for me "

You are not a failure.

Nothing is worth ending your life for. I hope you are getting help this morning, and being looked after. Please be kind to yourself,and allow yourself time. Sending love and strength x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, only once and recently.

Unusual I think that I nearly got to 50 without it happening.

I don't think I will ever be the same person I was before."

Exactly the same for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, afew days ago and its not the first time either (think this is about the 5th time now) every time it feels more like your heart being ripped out and then your made to watch as they trample all over it.

Last night things got too much for me to take and I stupidly took some painkillers with alcohol looking to end the pain im still going through... seems im not only a failure in relationships, but also trying to end things for me "

Well you should be glad you live to fight another day and that you are bad at trying to end things, that would have really sucked for that to be what came out as a success for these people to have pushed you to.

When it comes to heartbreak, not a single person on this earth is worth losing your life over no matter how much it hurts.

Try to focus on the good things you have going for you which are all to often easily forgotten about but they really are there.

I hope you bounce back from this and realise there is more to life than the person who did this to you.

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By *r SxxMan
over a year ago

Kent

Yepp!

My First and only girlfriend.... Broke me heart, hurt... Not been able to trust or been right since I think!

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By *rnaughtyMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

yes my ex wife who destroyed our family in the process

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Thought so once but looking back not x

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Yes.

I often think that it's strange when a person hasn't experienced heartbreak in their lives, I guess it's a blessing that they haven't as it's an awful thing to go through, it's also one of the most relatable things that a person can experience.

If you haven't then you're very lucky or you haven't loved truly, which is another sadness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, only once and recently.

Unusual I think that I nearly got to 50 without it happening.

I don't think I will ever be the same person I was before.

Exactly the same for me too "

Same here - except I didn't quite make it to 40. I'd like to go back to being the person I was but I honestly don't know how to.

Mr

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Yes.

I often think that it's strange when a person hasn't experienced heartbreak in their lives, I guess it's a blessing that they haven't as it's an awful thing to go through, it's also one of the most relatable things that a person can experience.

If you haven't then you're very lucky or you haven't loved truly, which is another sadness "
I think what you said is spot on. Id never had my heartbroken because id never truelly been in love. That changed when i was 41 and met jay. I live in total denial of what is going to happen to me when he dies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes a few times.

The one who most recently broke my heart, well I don’t hate him for it, things were not working for some time and we have become friends now. He will always have a place in my heart and I will always care about his well being but it’s nice that we have managed to come out the other side.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes a few times.

The one who most recently broke my heart, well I don’t hate him for it, things were not working for some time and we have become friends now. He will always have a place in my heart and I will always care about his well being but it’s nice that we have managed to come out the other side. "

I’m sure if he reads this he will be very pleased that you got to a place where you can be friends. And just for the record I’m sure he will always care about your wellbeing and would be there if you ever needed anything

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By *arrapsMan
over a year ago

port talbot

Twice, the first time over 35 years ago and the most recent 3 years ago.

Doesn’t matter how old you are, heartbreak is a bitch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes 3 times,once when I was very young and thought our love would last for ever

And second/third time when 2 very special men in my life passed away

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By *eventysixCouple
over a year ago

glossop

I was left bringing up both my girls because their mum couldn't keep her knickers on. that was just the start I left her moved miles away to be away from her but what broke my heart was that the kids mum ended up murdering someone and is now in prison my heart broke for my kids

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By *uffnsmovCouple
over a year ago

Leeds/Wakefield

Heart broken most days, another plaster on and on we go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it hurt's

Forgive, forget and keep smiling

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Several times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Theres no feeling worse

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Not in the romantic partner sense, no. I'm quite lucky in that regard, I've had some really great relationships before but both of those I have truly loved I'm still seeing.

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By *iffler 2019Woman
over a year ago

Saltash aka Fraggle Rock

Yes quite a few times tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Hence my strong feelings against cheats.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Yes.

I often think that it's strange when a person hasn't experienced heartbreak in their lives, I guess it's a blessing that they haven't as it's an awful thing to go through, it's also one of the most relatable things that a person can experience.

If you haven't then you're very lucky or you haven't loved truly, which is another sadness I think what you said is spot on. Id never had my heartbroken because id never truelly been in love. That changed when i was 41 and met jay. I live in total denial of what is going to happen to me when he dies"

It's not denial, it's enjoying your time together. If you ruminate on what happens after then you'll ruin the time that you do have. Enjoy your love, don't let it be stolen by worry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, my heart, my trust and for many years my spirit. I’ve come through it a different person not sure I can love that much again x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Yes.

I often think that it's strange when a person hasn't experienced heartbreak in their lives, I guess it's a blessing that they haven't as it's an awful thing to go through, it's also one of the most relatable things that a person can experience.

If you haven't then you're very lucky or you haven't loved truly, which is another sadness I think what you said is spot on. Id never had my heartbroken because id never truelly been in love. That changed when i was 41 and met jay. I live in total denial of what is going to happen to me when he dies

It's not denial, it's enjoying your time together. If you ruminate on what happens after then you'll ruin the time that you do have. Enjoy your love, don't let it be stolen by worry"
thanks thats exactly what we do not like i didnt know he was a lot older when we met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, afew days ago and its not the first time either (think this is about the 5th time now) every time it feels more like your heart being ripped out and then your made to watch as they trample all over it.

Last night things got too much for me to take and I stupidly took some painkillers with alcohol looking to end the pain im still going through... seems im not only a failure in relationships, but also trying to end things for me "

What breaks us makes us stronger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe once. But I'm usually the heartbreaker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

From love and by family/friends. I've had it broken, stamped on and handed back to me in a million pieces.

It takes time to heal and repair and although it is now mostly repaired, it is also and will forever more, be very guarded. I will not hand it over anymore as there is no way it would survive another breakage.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Yes, I watched my best friend loose her battle to ovarian cancer. Would I change anything to prevent that heartbreak no, I'm a better person for knowing her

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Yes when I was a lot younger. Luke

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Yes a long time ago and it was horrible. It's one of the worst feelings as you can't get rid of that horrible empty feeling for a good while. At least physical pain heals a bit every day this pain every day you wake up it's just as bad as the day before it took me a long time to get over it but as with everything in life I took it as a life lesson and realised some people are just not worth it and will now always listen to my head over my heart. Back then I ignored the warning signs now I'm matured enough to realise if one person is making all the effort then it isn't worth it.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"Yes.

I often think that it's strange when a person hasn't experienced heartbreak in their lives, I guess it's a blessing that they haven't as it's an awful thing to go through, it's also one of the most relatable things that a person can experience.

If you haven't then you're very lucky or you haven't loved truly, which is another sadness I think what you said is spot on. Id never had my heartbroken because id never truelly been in love. That changed when i was 41 and met jay. I live in total denial of what is going to happen to me when he dies

It's not denial, it's enjoying your time together. If you ruminate on what happens after then you'll ruin the time that you do have. Enjoy your love, don't let it be stolen by worry"
Met my husband when I was 16 and he was 17 and we are more in love now than ever so in that way I’ve never had my heart broken and I’m extremely lucky..Had my heart broken when my Dad died but I guess that’s a different kind of heartbreak..

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Twice it's happened to me, from romantic partners. Once when I was 30,and second time this year now I'm 47

It's a lot harder to deal with this time round, somehow, and although I've not actively tried to end it all I have given it a lot of thought and know exactly how I'll do it if things ever get that far.

I'm feeling a bit better these past few days, although there are still underlying issues with self esteem and confidence that I need to address and resolve before I can say I'm ready to move on fully.

However, I'm also fairly certain I break my mum's heart on a regular basis, through worrying about me and being disappointed in me

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Yes and it hurts like fuck, it's excruciating.

Good news is the pain eventually fades, even if the memory of it doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes a few times.

The one who most recently broke my heart, well I don’t hate him for it, things were not working for some time and we have become friends now. He will always have a place in my heart and I will always care about his well being but it’s nice that we have managed to come out the other side.

I’m sure if he reads this he will be very pleased that you got to a place where you can be friends. And just for the record I’m sure he will always care about your wellbeing and would be there if you ever needed anything "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

The first time when I was very young. I was in love in the way that only a 14 year old girl can be with a man who emotionally and physically abused me. Obviously at the time I didn’t realise what he was doing to me, and so I loved him with thoughtless devotion, despite everything he did/caused. The heartbreak from that was a very adult level of pain in a very young and hurt body. It took me a long time to recover from the repercussions of that “relationship” and the emotional damage took a long time to heal.

The second time was with my hubby. We’d been together for about 2 years when he broke up with me out of the blue. I told him to stay away from me for a couple of months to let my heart heal... we managed a couple of weeks

I’ve never found out why we split up, but it doesn’t matter now because 10 years have passed with us together through good times and bad, still deeply in love.

Heartbreak hurts. It’s awful. But if you don’t make yourself vulnerable you’ll never find love. I’d take heartbreak every single time to feel the love.

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool

3 times

It hurts like hell

I'm not sure about that adage about it makes you stronger.

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"Heartbreak hurts. It’s awful. But if you don’t make yourself vulnerable you’ll never find love. I’d take heartbreak every single time to feel the love. "

Im not sure I'd agree, to be honest. With what I've been feeling recently I never want to feel it again. I probably will, though, as I'm a fool unto myself.

A friend did say that it's possibly better to feel sad than to feel nothing and, no disrespect to her, I replied that I'd rather feel nothing....

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"Heartbreak hurts. It’s awful. But if you don’t make yourself vulnerable you’ll never find love. I’d take heartbreak every single time to feel the love.

Im not sure I'd agree, to be honest. With what I've been feeling recently I never want to feel it again. I probably will, though, as I'm a fool unto myself.

A friend did say that it's possibly better to feel sad than to feel nothing and, no disrespect to her, I replied that I'd rather feel nothing.... "

It's a tough one.

In the aftermath you would take nothing at all over those feelings of utter despair.

I read someone it makes you a more rounded human being..I suppose that experience makes you deeper.

I'd rather be as shallow as a puddle than having to go through all that again.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

Nope... simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, only once and recently.

Unusual I think that I nearly got to 50 without it happening.

I don't think I will ever be the same person I was before."

Same! To all of the above x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Twice now, both times it as taken alot toget over, issue now is that I think i put barriers up, had a few short relationships but end as soon as I feel we are getting too close. Im hoping to find the one who i can trust. Whilst this site is great I miss the companionship of a relationship.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Through grief, yes.

Romantically? Sort of. I mourned the loss of a boyfriend who was my best friend and what we once had. But that had changed and was no longer sustainable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, I watched my best friend loose her battle to ovarian cancer. Would I change anything to prevent that heartbreak no, I'm a better person for knowing her "

Love you thinking... Hugs x

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Yes i had once long time ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Heartbreak hurts. It’s awful. But if you don’t make yourself vulnerable you’ll never find love. I’d take heartbreak every single time to feel the love.

Im not sure I'd agree, to be honest. With what I've been feeling recently I never want to feel it again. I probably will, though, as I'm a fool unto myself.

A friend did say that it's possibly better to feel sad than to feel nothing and, no disrespect to her, I replied that I'd rather feel nothing....

It's a tough one.

In the aftermath you would take nothing at all over those feelings of utter despair.

I read someone it makes you a more rounded human being..I suppose that experience makes you deeper.

I'd rather be as shallow as a puddle than having to go through all that again.

"

If I didn’t feel the agony of loss then I wouldn’t know how precious what I have is.

I’m not going to pretend it doesn’t hurt. I’ve had my heart broken a couple of more times in different ways and all it does is remind me the depth of emotions I can feel for someone, which is something I am proud of.

If I love, I do it without reservation. That is who I am. If that means I suffer pain, so be it, at least I won’t have compromised myself.

I know not everyone thinks this way, and I respect that, it’s just the way I do. I expect to fall in love and have my heart broken many times in my life... but at least I’ll never regret not loving or being loved.

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By *rambuie100Man
over a year ago

essex/suffolk border


"Yes, afew days ago and its not the first time either (think this is about the 5th time now) every time it feels more like your heart being ripped out and then your made to watch as they trample all over it.

Last night things got too much for me to take and I stupidly took some painkillers with alcohol looking to end the pain im still going through... seems im not only a failure in relationships, but also trying to end things for me "

It is horrible fella. I am so sorry to hear of your struggles right now. No one is worth doing that. No matter how dark things seem at the moment.

Im glad you failed last night. Im sure every other forumite is too.

Keep on posting on here, we will keep your chin up mate.

Onwards and upwards, you are not a failure

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"Through grief, yes.

Romantically? Sort of. I mourned the loss of a boyfriend who was my best friend and what we once had. But that had changed and was no longer sustainable."

I think I'm having such a hard time with this us because I've always seen myself, in my mind's eye, as the eternal bachelor. Even when I was involved with someone.

But with the most recent one it changed, and I started to see and dream about what it would be like to be in a proper partnership and relationship. But then we split up, and I'm having to refocus all my dreams and ambitions back down to it just being me again

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"Through grief, yes.

Romantically? Sort of. I mourned the loss of a boyfriend who was my best friend and what we once had. But that had changed and was no longer sustainable.

I think I'm having such a hard time with this us because I've always seen myself, in my mind's eye, as the eternal bachelor. Even when I was involved with someone.

But with the most recent one it changed, and I started to see and dream about what it would be like to be in a proper partnership and relationship. But then we split up, and I'm having to refocus all my dreams and ambitions back down to it just being me again "

“down to it just being me again”.... for now. I know it’s hard to think about now, but there are a lot of women in the world with a lot of love to give. Stay hopeful, and in the meantime enjoy life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. Hence my strong feelings against cheats."

^^ this

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"Heartbreak hurts. It’s awful. But if you don’t make yourself vulnerable you’ll never find love. I’d take heartbreak every single time to feel the love.

Im not sure I'd agree, to be honest. With what I've been feeling recently I never want to feel it again. I probably will, though, as I'm a fool unto myself.

A friend did say that it's possibly better to feel sad than to feel nothing and, no disrespect to her, I replied that I'd rather feel nothing....

It's a tough one.

In the aftermath you would take nothing at all over those feelings of utter despair.

I read someone it makes you a more rounded human being..I suppose that experience makes you deeper.

I'd rather be as shallow as a puddle than having to go through all that again.

If I didn’t feel the agony of loss then I wouldn’t know how precious what I have is.

I’m not going to pretend it doesn’t hurt. I’ve had my heart broken a couple of more times in different ways and all it does is remind me the depth of emotions I can feel for someone, which is something I am proud of.

If I love, I do it without reservation. That is who I am. If that means I suffer pain, so be it, at least I won’t have compromised myself.

I know not everyone thinks this way, and I respect that, it’s just the way I do. I expect to fall in love and have my heart broken many times in my life... but at least I’ll never regret not loving or being loved. "

You put it way better than ne

I think when you have your heart broken in a relationship it's almost like a bereavement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Heartbreak hurts. It’s awful. But if you don’t make yourself vulnerable you’ll never find love. I’d take heartbreak every single time to feel the love.

Im not sure I'd agree, to be honest. With what I've been feeling recently I never want to feel it again. I probably will, though, as I'm a fool unto myself.

A friend did say that it's possibly better to feel sad than to feel nothing and, no disrespect to her, I replied that I'd rather feel nothing....

It's a tough one.

In the aftermath you would take nothing at all over those feelings of utter despair.

I read someone it makes you a more rounded human being..I suppose that experience makes you deeper.

I'd rather be as shallow as a puddle than having to go through all that again.

If I didn’t feel the agony of loss then I wouldn’t know how precious what I have is.

I’m not going to pretend it doesn’t hurt. I’ve had my heart broken a couple of more times in different ways and all it does is remind me the depth of emotions I can feel for someone, which is something I am proud of.

If I love, I do it without reservation. That is who I am. If that means I suffer pain, so be it, at least I won’t have compromised myself.

I know not everyone thinks this way, and I respect that, it’s just the way I do. I expect to fall in love and have my heart broken many times in my life... but at least I’ll never regret not loving or being loved.

You put it way better than ne

I think when you have your heart broken in a relationship it's almost like a bereavement. "

It is a bereavement. You’re mourning love lost. That’s grief no matter the form.

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"I think when you have your heart broken in a relationship it's almost like a bereavement. "

It is, definitely.

I think it was at the start of this year someone on this forum described break ups as grieving for someone who's still alive

It is, very much, and it's a good way of thinking about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.. I tend to be the person who finishes the connection

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Only once and it wasn’t the Wife, when she wanted a Divorce. I fell in love with a smile and a laugh, someone who lit up a room when she walked into it.

I still feel it today, but mine was a true love, no selfishness on my part as she’s married and happy, so I love her enough to be happy for her. Possibly also aware I wasn’t what she really needed.

As Queen once said ‘one year of love, is better than a lifetime alone’ I’ve felt true love in my life so I’m luckier than some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Yes of course It’s makes us stronger though

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over a year ago


"Only once and it wasn’t the Wife, when she wanted a Divorce. I fell in love with a smile and a laugh, someone who lit up a room when she walked into it.

I still feel it today, but mine was a true love, no selfishness on my part as she’s married and happy, so I love her enough to be happy for her. Possibly also aware I wasn’t what she really needed.

As Queen once said ‘one year of love, is better than a lifetime alone’ I’ve felt true love in my life so I’m luckier than some.

"

This is important. Loving someone enough to know you’re not what they need is an important part of being self-aware. Even when it hurts. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, but then cracks got filled in with more substantial material

;-)

That's a great analogy "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repeatedly. I'm a bit of a sucker.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Only the once years ago , saw her recently and thanked her - that was a close escape I could have ended up with that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure have...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep only once

Worst pain ever

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By *irlwithcurves40Woman
over a year ago

Essex

Yes, a few years ago. We'd been together almost a year and he ghosted me! One of the most painful things I've been through, dont think he ever realised how close to the edge I was for awhile. Upside he wanted to watch me with someone else, so pushed me to join fab and here I am, out the other side a completely different person and loving fab! So every cloud!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, once by a partner, she ripped it out and stamped on it, and once when I lost one of my dogs, he was literally my best friend, and help me bring up my other dog.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Truly broken... once. Completely devastated me and nearly broke me completely.

I’ll never put myself in a position where it could happen again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, afew days ago and its not the first time either (think this is about the 5th time now) every time it feels more like your heart being ripped out and then your made to watch as they trample all over it.

Last night things got too much for me to take and I stupidly took some painkillers with alcohol looking to end the pain im still going through... seems im not only a failure in relationships, but also trying to end things for me "

Anyone know of this guy is ok?

His profile isn’t available to view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

20 years ago and in hindsight it was right the relationship ended but I will never ever let myself feel that pain again so I don’t let anyone get that close and it suits me very well

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over a year ago

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Yes. Only once really truly.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep! And I’ve no doubt it’ll happen again, I fall hard unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Twice for me but I'm a strong one and always bounce back, eventually

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By *ust ClareTV/TS
over a year ago

Settlewick!

Yes,and I've never really been the same since,but it made me evaluate my life and reasons for things that had happened,with the result that I finally accepted another side of me and Clare emerged

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I think it's safe to say I have.

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By *each_PittWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

Yes. I chose the wrong person and he fucked me right over. I don't think I could ever let someone get that close again. Even friendships scare me. I'm embarrassed to say how many years ago it happened and still feels as raw as it was yesterday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep never gets easier a painful pill to swallow the walls then go up and become harder for the next person to bring them down sad when all you want is to be happy with someone and yet then not be good enough humans can be cruel

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

Yes . And maybe I'm still grieving...

Fell in love in mid teens, we were like a perfect lock and key. Spent a decade together, dealing with life together... But i was too naive to realise how good for me she really was... Then one day she calls up to say she's engaged to another guy and has to stop talking to me in order for her marriage to work... That relationship left a big hole in my heart

Then few years ago met another woman who i thought finally could complete me. But it was too perfect too quickly and it overwhelmed her since she wasn't ready to commit. Well that broke me again....

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

No, I haven't. I'm married to my third serious boyfriend and the other two happened before I was 17. The closest I've come to heartbreak is coming to terms with new disability as an adult and mourning my old life.

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By *teviesmith73Man
over a year ago

Derbyshire / Cornwall

Yes I have had my heat broken ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not heart broken as such, but a hell of a shock, i was away with work for a few days, came home to an empty house, and i mean empty, she had taken almost everything, we had been together for over a decade, i had no idea she wanted to leave, she was great at hiding things ive later learned, turned out she had been shagging a work mate for about 6 months, we even had sex the night before i went away, her idea, still i get the last laugh, ive since heard he dumped her shortly after, and shes now single, but i have an amazing girlfriend and we love each other so much its like nothing we both have had before, worst bit was , she took my dog aswell.

but life goes on, i took it hard at first, but soon realized that i was better off without her, i gave her everything when we together, she gave nothing, i even brought up her daughter, who im still friends with, and we chat regually, daughter doesnt talk to her mum over it now, and im very happy, so fuck her, wasted that period of my life, but hey ho, these things happen, i dont have bad feeling towards her, she obviously had her reasons, probably my work, i was away alot, but i do get a smug feeling when i think about it, not often i will add, that my life is so much better without her and hers is so much worse, shes now living in a bedsit, her daughter has disownd her, yet im now living in a lovely flat, have the rental income from the house we had,, i had paid for it, so thankfully it was all in my name, and i have an amazing girlfriend, Andy

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

Yes, it happened to me. Long story but in short, we got engaged, wedding was planned, but we broke up 4 months before what should've been that great day.

Counselling didn't work out; it was only after that final Goodbye, that I recognised where I'd gone wrong but it was too late!

I still think about her each day, 28 years on!

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over a year ago


"not heart broken as such, but a hell of a shock, i was away with work for a few days, came home to an empty house, and i mean empty, she had taken almost everything, we had been together for over a decade, i had no idea she wanted to leave, she was great at hiding things ive later learned, turned out she had been shagging a work mate for about 6 months, we even had sex the night before i went away, her idea, still i get the last laugh, ive since heard he dumped her shortly after, and shes now single, but i have an amazing girlfriend and we love each other so much its like nothing we both have had before, worst bit was , she took my dog aswell.

but life goes on, i took it hard at first, but soon realized that i was better off without her, i gave her everything when we together, she gave nothing, i even brought up her daughter, who im still friends with, and we chat regually, daughter doesnt talk to her mum over it now, and im very happy, so fuck her, wasted that period of my life, but hey ho, these things happen, i dont have bad feeling towards her, she obviously had her reasons, probably my work, i was away alot, but i do get a smug feeling when i think about it, not often i will add, that my life is so much better without her and hers is so much worse, shes now living in a bedsit, her daughter has disownd her, yet im now living in a lovely flat, have the rental income from the house we had,, i had paid for it, so thankfully it was all in my name, and i have an amazing girlfriend, Andy"

oh and the worst most callous bit i had been dianosed with cancer the week before, and she knew about it

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