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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would you stay in a relationship if he couldn’t make you cum during sex?

You two get together, and from the get go he is unable to make you cum. Do you break up with him? Or accept your role as the woman who will only cum by her own hand?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Or the same sex, if you’re bi, gay, etc etc

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By *heshire-cat74Woman
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

Yes I stayed for 9 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, if it was from the get go I wouldn’t stay in a sexually unsatisfactory relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly if he made me feel loved, valued, wanted, desired. If we had chemistry and laughter and affection.

If I had all of those thing's I really wouldn't care about sex

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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago

up above the streets and houses

Nope. Time to move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be happy if that was the only 'issue'. Sex is not important in a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd be happy if that was the only 'issue'. Sex is not important in a relationship. "

I think it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did for 10 years. Would I again? Hell no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd be happy if that was the only 'issue'. Sex is not important in a relationship.

I think it is. "

I was answering from my perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh sorry.

I think sex is an important part of a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I orgasm so ridiculously easily that if he couldn't get me off it would have to be a deliberate choice or decision on his part not to try.

I'm not sticking around long in those circumstances.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not.

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By *osebud6688Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

No way - been there and wouldn’t do it again.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Oh sorry.

I think sex is an important part of a relationship "

Me too.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Oh sorry.

I think sex is an important part of a relationship

Me too."

But sex is a two way thing. If he did not know how to make you cum then you should teach him.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I'm poly so if the rest of the relationship was fulfilling it wouldn't really matter. Also, everything can be worked on with good communication. Sexual chemistry is important but a technical issue can be easily sorted. I wouldn't be with anyone in the first place if they weren't open, willing, communicative and up for exploring and enhancing our relationship in all areas.

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By *randmrsmanchesterCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Oh sorry.

I think sex is an important part of a relationship

Me too.

But sex is a two way thing. If he did not know how to make you cum then you should teach him."

This ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh sorry.

I think sex is an important part of a relationship

Me too.

But sex is a two way thing. If he did not know how to make you cum then you should teach him."

Definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess that depends if the rest of the relationship balances out. I have done I wouldn’t now.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'd teach him how too.

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By *ugga MannMan
over a year ago

Heathrow


"I'd be happy if that was the only 'issue'. Sex is not important in a relationship.

I think it is. "

So do I. Intimacy needs to be maintained / reinforced or it fades and all you’re left with is a loving friendship.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

That was reality before the age of 45.... now I know, unlikey I would, but that isn’t going to happen happy where I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd teach him how too."

I bet it would be lots of fun learning ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd be happy if that was the only 'issue'. Sex is not important in a relationship.

I think it is.

So do I. Intimacy needs to be maintained / reinforced or it fades and all you’re left with is a loving friendship."

Exactly this. And a loving friendship is hard to let go of x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely cum from just sex anyway so if everything else was great I would stay yes. Would give us something to work on and if he still wouldnt or couldnt I would consider tying him to a chair and make him watch someone else try

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By *uciferLingerieMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Many women know what they want/need that makes them cum. Some women cum easily and others not so... If you start a relationship and everything is good but lacking in this area then surely it's worth working on...talk?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really believe in the holding off on sex til until the umpteenth date thing, pretty much for this reason. I want to sleep together early on, to get a feel for whether that side clicks, before I even start seriously liking someone.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

No. Sex is very important to me in a relationship. Plus it's easy to make me cum so I'd guess there was something else wrong in the relationship if he couldn't do it.

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Stayed together for 5 years in this scenario, he was my best friend that spilled into something that we both should have said NO to, we were not sexually compatible, but were too scared to lose the friendship once we started

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex is not the most important thing but it's more enjoyable with the right person, however it is performed.

Trust, honesty, compassion, empathy the list can go are the most important part of a relationship.

Peace and Love

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Sure I would it's not a problem I've ever had but it's such a small part of an otherwise good relationship. I'm not about to chuck the baby out with the bath water.

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By *uciferLingerieMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"I don't really believe in the holding off on sex til until the umpteenth date thing, pretty much for this reason. I want to sleep together early on, to get a feel for whether that side clicks, before I even start seriously liking someone. "

Agree with you here as i think sexual chemistry is a very important part of a relationship but sometimes that doesn't always happen straight away...as in getting to know each others minds and exploring new things together!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't really believe in the holding off on sex til until the umpteenth date thing, pretty much for this reason. I want to sleep together early on, to get a feel for whether that side clicks, before I even start seriously liking someone.

Agree with you here as i think sexual chemistry is a very important part of a relationship but sometimes that doesn't always happen straight away...as in getting to know each others minds and exploring new things together!"

Oh definitely, but I think you can tell whether the potential is there or if you're just not compatible in bed.

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By *uciferLingerieMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"I don't really believe in the holding off on sex til until the umpteenth date thing, pretty much for this reason. I want to sleep together early on, to get a feel for whether that side clicks, before I even start seriously liking someone.

Agree with you here as i think sexual chemistry is a very important part of a relationship but sometimes that doesn't always happen straight away...as in getting to know each others minds and exploring new things together!

Oh definitely, but I think you can tell whether the potential is there or if you're just not compatible in bed. "

Yes i guess that's all part of the spark that get's you both into bed together! I think another way of looking at it is that someone could really do it for you in the bedroom department early on but as you get to know someone better they could turn out to be not compatible in other ways...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Yes i guess that's all part of the spark that get's you both into bed together! I think another way of looking at it is that someone could really do it for you in the bedroom department early on but as you get to know someone better they could turn out to be not compatible in other ways..."

Totally agree again that's just the norm as a relationship starts out though, you don't know what's coming in the long run. But I'd be more comfortable breaking it off with someone where flaws have appeared in the non sexual relationship, rather than ending up in the OP scenario where I think they're great generally but the sex isn't working.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Yes i guess that's all part of the spark that get's you both into bed together! I think another way of looking at it is that someone could really do it for you in the bedroom department early on but as you get to know someone better they could turn out to be not compatible in other ways...

Totally agree again that's just the norm as a relationship starts out though, you don't know what's coming in the long run. But I'd be more comfortable breaking it off with someone where flaws have appeared in the non sexual relationship, rather than ending up in the OP scenario where I think they're great generally but the sex isn't working. "

It’s not easy though. When you’ve been with that person more than half your life. You have children, you love them, you've built a life together. I don’t know if you’ve been there or not but it’s easier said than done x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Yes i guess that's all part of the spark that get's you both into bed together! I think another way of looking at it is that someone could really do it for you in the bedroom department early on but as you get to know someone better they could turn out to be not compatible in other ways...

Totally agree again that's just the norm as a relationship starts out though, you don't know what's coming in the long run. But I'd be more comfortable breaking it off with someone where flaws have appeared in the non sexual relationship, rather than ending up in the OP scenario where I think they're great generally but the sex isn't working.

It’s not easy though. When you’ve been with that person more than half your life. You have children, you love them, you've built a life together. I don’t know if you’ve been there or not but it’s easier said than done x"

I know, I've been there . Hence why I wouldn't get something started in the first place now before knowing we were well matcbed sexually

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I did do this for 21 years, got with my ex husband as a teenager. And thought it just the way I was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Yes i guess that's all part of the spark that get's you both into bed together! I think another way of looking at it is that someone could really do it for you in the bedroom department early on but as you get to know someone better they could turn out to be not compatible in other ways...

Totally agree again that's just the norm as a relationship starts out though, you don't know what's coming in the long run. But I'd be more comfortable breaking it off with someone where flaws have appeared in the non sexual relationship, rather than ending up in the OP scenario where I think they're great generally but the sex isn't working.

It’s not easy though. When you’ve been with that person more than half your life. You have children, you love them, you've built a life together. I don’t know if you’ve been there or not but it’s easier said than done x

I know, I've been there . Hence why I wouldn't get something started in the first place now before knowing we were well matcbed sexually "

Oh god yes. I agree. Although we were. 25 years is a long time though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Yes i guess that's all part of the spark that get's you both into bed together! I think another way of looking at it is that someone could really do it for you in the bedroom department early on but as you get to know someone better they could turn out to be not compatible in other ways...

Totally agree again that's just the norm as a relationship starts out though, you don't know what's coming in the long run. But I'd be more comfortable breaking it off with someone where flaws have appeared in the non sexual relationship, rather than ending up in the OP scenario where I think they're great generally but the sex isn't working.

It’s not easy though. When you’ve been with that person more than half your life. You have children, you love them, you've built a life together. I don’t know if you’ve been there or not but it’s easier said than done x

I know, I've been there . Hence why I wouldn't get something started in the first place now before knowing we were well matcbed sexually

Oh god yes. I agree. Although we were. 25 years is a long time though! "

Yeah, like I said up there ^ somewhere lol, you can't anticipate everything thats going to come. But, Queenie's post said it wasn't happening from the get go, so I'm just saying I'd rather feel that out ASAP before I even get to any serious status with someone now.

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By *uciferLingerieMan
over a year ago

Leeds


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Yes i guess that's all part of the spark that get's you both into bed together! I think another way of looking at it is that someone could really do it for you in the bedroom department early on but as you get to know someone better they could turn out to be not compatible in other ways...

Totally agree again that's just the norm as a relationship starts out though, you don't know what's coming in the long run. But I'd be more comfortable breaking it off with someone where flaws have appeared in the non sexual relationship, rather than ending up in the OP scenario where I think they're great generally but the sex isn't working. "

Think I see your logic... a sexual/physical connection is easier/quicker to establish than an emotional/mental one? I've had times where one has come before the other!

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