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"After being single and aware of sites like fab, seeing people going behind partners backs, do you think it may make you less trusting in relationships outside the lifestyle? " I'd say if anyone has made it to fab with our being aware that people go behind their partners' backs, they're either very naive or very lucky or both. I'm too quick to trust and it means I get hurt by supposed friends and lovers often. But fab hasn't stopped that and probably won't. I just won't allow my heart to get involved any more. | |||
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"Yeah I does make you think , it seems that’s it’s mostly guys who are cheating, I don’t support cheating I prefer to not break up a bad or long term relationship " It's mostly men who mention it. Women just do it. | |||
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"I'm not surprised by the cheating what saddens me and would make me wary of getting involved with any body new is the number of men who are prepared to show pictures of their partner, give her private number to strangers or tell strangers where she's going to be in an attempt to get her to "cheat". I'm not aware of women doing this but if they do it's just as bad." That hadn't even occurred to me, but now you have mentioned it | |||
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"I'm not surprised by the cheating what saddens me and would make me wary of getting involved with any body new is the number of men who are prepared to show pictures of their partner, give her private number to strangers or tell strangers where she's going to be in an attempt to get her to "cheat". I'm not aware of women doing this but if they do it's just as bad. That hadn't even occurred to me, but now you have mentioned it " I think a site like this will bring out the worst in people in this respect and it can make you a bit cynical. I know that most men are decent and trustworthy but I don't think I'd ever trust another person the same way I trust my partner. | |||
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"After being single and aware of sites like fab, seeing people going behind partners backs, do you think it may make you less trusting in relationships outside the lifestyle? " It's not the things I've seen on Fab or the lifestyle, it's the way I've been treated in general that stops me trusting anymore. Arseholes exist everywhere. | |||
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"After being single and aware of sites like fab, seeing people going behind partners backs, do you think it may make you less trusting in relationships outside the lifestyle? It's not the things I've seen on Fab or the lifestyle, it's the way I've been treated in general that stops me trusting anymore. Arseholes exist everywhere. " Yes they do, but you know there are also lots of genuine nice people out there as well | |||
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"After being single and aware of sites like fab, seeing people going behind partners backs, do you think it may make you less trusting in relationships outside the lifestyle? It's not the things I've seen on Fab or the lifestyle, it's the way I've been treated in general that stops me trusting anymore. Arseholes exist everywhere. " Absolutely this. I have developed trust issues and in a way I understand them because they protect me now. They stop me trusting and therefore stop me getting hurt. I'm not sure if I was given the choice to to let them go easily that I would take it. It would be a difficult decision to contemplate. | |||
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"I think for a lot of couples on here it makes them all the more thankful for the strength, trust and openness they have in their relationship." | |||
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"After being single and aware of sites like fab, seeing people going behind partners backs, do you think it may make you less trusting in relationships outside the lifestyle? It's not the things I've seen on Fab or the lifestyle, it's the way I've been treated in general that stops me trusting anymore. Arseholes exist everywhere. " Yes they do. Fortunately there's lots of good people out there too. Whilst arseholes have a habit of making themselves known, good folks are a little harder to spot. Keep trusting in kindness. Keep an open heart. | |||
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"On here I am wary of everyone, I have had people try and cover up that they are married/in relationships. So it's v rare I meet nowadays (before covid) I trust my partner 100% so I don't worry about him, he tells me who he chats to and vice versa If I became single again, I reckon I'd stay that way tbh " I'm inclined to think I'd remain single too but I hope to goodness I never find out | |||
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"I'm not surprised by the cheating what saddens me and would make me wary of getting involved with any body new is the number of men who are prepared to show pictures of their partner, give her private number to strangers or tell strangers where she's going to be in an attempt to get her to "cheat". I'm not aware of women doing this but if they do it's just as bad. That hadn't even occurred to me, but now you have mentioned it I think a site like this will bring out the worst in people in this respect and it can make you a bit cynical. I know that most men are decent and trustworthy but I don't think I'd ever trust another person the same way I trust my partner. " What forum mod says but without the partner. | |||
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"It's not the physical cheating that bothers me on fab, it's the bitching, gossiping and backstabbing - shows the worst side of humans....." Yup, adult humans as well, some forget it is real people with real feelings on the other side x | |||
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"It's not the physical cheating that bothers me on fab, it's the bitching, gossiping and backstabbing - shows the worst side of humans..... Yup, adult humans as well, some forget it is real people with real feelings on the other side x" Aren’t there kik groups of people from the forums that bitch, gossip and backstab people from Fab? | |||
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"It's not the physical cheating that bothers me on fab, it's the bitching, gossiping and backstabbing - shows the worst side of humans..... Yup, adult humans as well, some forget it is real people with real feelings on the other side x Aren’t there kik groups of people from the forums that bitch, gossip and backstab people from Fab?" I don't know if any but then I wouldn't. I have been around Internet fora since the days of "handbag" and bitching and gossip about other users has always gone on. Its like a big office environment and the off site and private gossip is the equivalent of those little huddles you see by the water cooler. | |||
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"My trust was broken before Fab courtesy of my ex but unfortunately from the bad experiences on Fab and other dating sites haven't really helped in learning to trust men again. " I am like you on your thinking. Someone breaks my trust its hard to regain it. For me most of my trust has been shot down. Here, there and everywhere even work colleagues and bosses. Sometimes I don't even trust my cooking. I've made plant based Kale chips and my tongue has ulcers. Not making them again. | |||
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"It depends who much you divulge about your personal life to those you think can be trusted with that information. By nature this is a snake pit of gossip! If you don’t want people to know DON’T TELL THEM! " think diamond has it right here. even those you are meeting/playing with do not need to know your life story. | |||
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"After being single and aware of sites like fab, seeing people going behind partners backs, do you think it may make you less trusting in relationships outside the lifestyle? " My personal opinion is: Some people are the cheating kind, others are not. Those who are, will seek opportunities and find a way one way or another. Cal | |||
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"After being single and aware of sites like fab, seeing people going behind partners backs, do you think it may make you less trusting in relationships outside the lifestyle? " no all men are like that.. Same as not all women are the same.. It takes a first step to trust if they disappoint you just move on... | |||
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"I'm not surprised by the cheating what saddens me and would make me wary of getting involved with any body new is the number of men who are prepared to show pictures of their partner, give her private number to strangers or tell strangers where she's going to be in an attempt to get her to "cheat". I'm not aware of women doing this but if they do it's just as bad." Wow, you know some very odd people! | |||
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"After being single and aware of sites like fab, seeing people going behind partners backs, do you think it may make you less trusting in relationships outside the lifestyle? no all men are like that.. Same as not all women are the same.. It takes a first step to trust if they disappoint you just move on... " Thing is, there's only so many times you can have your trust broken or witness the trust of others get broken. It chips away at you, at your soul, and you lose hope. That's ridiculous tho don't ya think? Losing hope in trust, care and compassion....things that *should* be an everyday part of life, things that *should* come naturally. And they would if people weren't shitty to on another, but over the years we learn by experience that there are few individuals who live by those standards and values. | |||
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"I try not to hold people to impossibly high standards. I've cheated and been cheated on. I understand lots of people need more than a single lover. It's no big deal anymore " No big deal? And there you have in 4 sentences why I'll remain a single pringle til the end of time. Loyalty, trust and respect mean fuck all Impossibly high standards to some (you) are basic standards to me. | |||
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"I don't think a site like this can give you trust issues, I think it can only exasperate existing ones. " That’s also true Lorna | |||
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"I try not to hold people to impossibly high standards. I've cheated and been cheated on. I understand lots of people need more than a single lover. It's no big deal anymore No big deal? And there you have in 4 sentences why I'll remain a single pringle til the end of time. Loyalty, trust and respect mean fuck all Impossibly high standards to some (you) are basic standards to me. " Oops, I suppose my last comment was a bit nonchalant. Please don't allow me to ruin your faith in humanity. I'm a nice guy, I only cheat | |||
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"I try not to hold people to impossibly high standards. I've cheated and been cheated on. I understand lots of people need more than a single lover. It's no big deal anymore " If expecting someone you are meant to be in a committed, loving relationship with to be honest and faithful is impossibly high standards then im sorry but you should stay single or be honest with the person you are with. | |||
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"After being single and aware of sites like fab, seeing people going behind partners backs, do you think it may make you less trusting in relationships outside the lifestyle? " There's no way I would date anyone off this site! I don't even know what trust means anymore. | |||
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"I try not to hold people to impossibly high standards. I've cheated and been cheated on. I understand lots of people need more than a single lover. It's no big deal anymore If expecting someone you are meant to be in a committed, loving relationship with to be honest and faithful is impossibly high standards then im sorry but you should stay single or be honest with the person you are with. " I totally agree. I've been single since my last divorce. I tell people up front now | |||
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" It's not the things I've seen on Fab or the lifestyle, it's the way I've been treated in general that stops me trusting anymore. Arseholes exist everywhere. " It's the same for me. I'm not allowing anyone to have the power to make me feel like utter shit again. Wanting monogamy is idealistic in my opinion. I doubt I'll ever have a traditional relationship again. | |||
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" It's not the things I've seen on Fab or the lifestyle, it's the way I've been treated in general that stops me trusting anymore. Arseholes exist everywhere. It's the same for me. I'm not allowing anyone to have the power to make me feel like utter shit again. Wanting monogamy is idealistic in my opinion. I doubt I'll ever have a traditional relationship again." Yep, it’s so much easier to meet a few nice blokes now and again than end up investing in someone who turns out to be a sneaky twat and not the person you thought they were, it’s like a bit of self preservation | |||
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" It's not the things I've seen on Fab or the lifestyle, it's the way I've been treated in general that stops me trusting anymore. Arseholes exist everywhere. It's the same for me. I'm not allowing anyone to have the power to make me feel like utter shit again. Wanting monogamy is idealistic in my opinion. I doubt I'll ever have a traditional relationship again. Yep, it’s so much easier to meet a few nice blokes now and again than end up investing in someone who turns out to be a sneaky twat and not the person you thought they were, it’s like a bit of self preservation " It really is self preservation. And not in a negative way. Living with someone no longer appeals to me - for many reasons - not just the trust issues. I just want the sex | |||
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"There’s one person in this world I trust 100%. Me. " I don't trust me. I say to myself no I won't ever cheat again. It's not worth it and it's awful. Never neverrrrr!!!! 30 seconds later my mouth is full of chocolate orange again. | |||
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"There’s one person in this world I trust 100%. Me. I don't trust me. I say to myself no I won't ever cheat again. It's not worth it and it's awful. Never neverrrrr!!!! 30 seconds later my mouth is full of chocolate orange again. " That’s why I never diet, I just let myself down. | |||
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" It's not the things I've seen on Fab or the lifestyle, it's the way I've been treated in general that stops me trusting anymore. Arseholes exist everywhere. It's the same for me. I'm not allowing anyone to have the power to make me feel like utter shit again. Wanting monogamy is idealistic in my opinion. I doubt I'll ever have a traditional relationship again. Yep, it’s so much easier to meet a few nice blokes now and again than end up investing in someone who turns out to be a sneaky twat and not the person you thought they were, it’s like a bit of self preservation It really is self preservation. And not in a negative way. Living with someone no longer appeals to me - for many reasons - not just the trust issues. I just want the sex " I don’t want to get married or live with someone but would like to meet someone to go on dates with, holidays and have great sex. I suppose after being in a marriage I hated I would just like to have a partner I like for a change than a husband I despised for years | |||
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" I don’t want to get married or live with someone but would like to meet someone to go on dates with, holidays and have great sex. I suppose after being in a marriage I hated I would just like to have a partner I like for a change than a husband I despised for years " Preach | |||
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" It's not the things I've seen on Fab or the lifestyle, it's the way I've been treated in general that stops me trusting anymore. Arseholes exist everywhere. It's the same for me. I'm not allowing anyone to have the power to make me feel like utter shit again. Wanting monogamy is idealistic in my opinion. I doubt I'll ever have a traditional relationship again." I said that but then I have had it happen again since, the last time was the final straw. I will never have another traditional relationship again either. | |||
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" It's not the things I've seen on Fab or the lifestyle, it's the way I've been treated in general that stops me trusting anymore. Arseholes exist everywhere. It's the same for me. I'm not allowing anyone to have the power to make me feel like utter shit again. Wanting monogamy is idealistic in my opinion. I doubt I'll ever have a traditional relationship again. Yep, it’s so much easier to meet a few nice blokes now and again than end up investing in someone who turns out to be a sneaky twat and not the person you thought they were, it’s like a bit of self preservation " This! It really is self preservation. | |||
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" It's not the things I've seen on Fab or the lifestyle, it's the way I've been treated in general that stops me trusting anymore. Arseholes exist everywhere. It's the same for me. I'm not allowing anyone to have the power to make me feel like utter shit again. Wanting monogamy is idealistic in my opinion. I doubt I'll ever have a traditional relationship again. Yep, it’s so much easier to meet a few nice blokes now and again than end up investing in someone who turns out to be a sneaky twat and not the person you thought they were, it’s like a bit of self preservation It really is self preservation. And not in a negative way. Living with someone no longer appeals to me - for many reasons - not just the trust issues. I just want the sex I don’t want to get married or live with someone but would like to meet someone to go on dates with, holidays and have great sex. I suppose after being in a marriage I hated I would just like to have a partner I like for a change than a husband I despised for years " Sums up exactly what I’d prefer too | |||
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"After being single and aware of sites like fab, seeing people going behind partners backs, do you think it may make you less trusting in relationships outside the lifestyle? " Not at all - no. I can take or leave monogamy. If I fall in love with a guy who says he wants monogamy when I’ve given him the option of a non monogamous relationship then I’ll assume he can be trusted not to have sex with others. If he betrays that trust I’ll bite his cock off during oral - and you’ll all get to read about it in the news! | |||
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"I'm not going to message you for a meet. I just know, my cock would be living on borrowed time " James - it trust that you wouldn’t cheat if you were offered the golden ticket (ie the freedom to fuck others - but without lying about it) anyway - so I’m sure your willy would be safe! | |||
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"I'm not going to message you for a meet. I just know, my cock would be living on borrowed time James - it trust that you wouldn’t cheat if you were offered the golden ticket (ie the freedom to fuck others - but without lying about it) anyway - so I’m sure your willy would be safe! " I can't afford another divorce, so I'm upfront about what I am. Until I find a lady who accepts me for who I am, I'm staying single. | |||
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"After being single and aware of sites like fab, seeing people going behind partners backs, do you think it may make you less trusting in relationships outside the lifestyle? " This site is about raw unadulterated lust! within the realms of respect and dignity | |||
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