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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

morning everyone has anyone got any experience with there wife going through menopause and losing all sexual feelings do the feelings come back as my wife wont even wear stockings anymore is there anything she can do to combat this

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Your profile mentions health problems. Are these in addition to the menopause ? Maybe this is having an impact on your wife too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think alot of woman go through a period of feeling unsexy and generally lose in sex during menopause. Applying pressure only makes the situation worse.

Be patient. Let her know you love her and that she has value beyond her sexuality. If she's anything like me her libido will bounce back with a vengeance once things settle and you will reap the rewards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP without knowing all facts and context it's very difficult to help but I can tell you things I experience.

I am going through the menopause, I started a HRT estrogen gel a month ago. My emotions are already more manageable and the hot flushes have almost stopped.

My sex drive has not been affected but I know that on the bad days previously experienced I probably wouldn't want to get all dressed up. Just feeling wanted, desired and loved by my boyfriend ensured that our sex life wasn't affected. We probably had much more tender love making sex at those times.

Keep being understanding to your wife, I know from personal experience just how much the menopause impacts on the woman and you need to be there for each other as a team to get through it unscathed. It can be a scary time for a woman but then other ladies sail through it.

Best wishes to you both

Her x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your profile mentions health problems. Are these in addition to the menopause ? Maybe this is having an impact on your wife too. "

yes they are in addition to the health problems jayne got heart problems had for about 2 years but they didnt stop our fun before

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think alot of woman go through a period of feeling unsexy and generally lose in sex during menopause. Applying pressure only makes the situation worse.

Be patient. Let her know you love her and that she has value beyond her sexuality. If she's anything like me her libido will bounce back with a vengeance once things settle and you will reap the rewards."

i tell her love her everyday thanks for the advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP without knowing all facts and context it's very difficult to help but I can tell you things I experience.

I am going through the menopause, I started a HRT estrogen gel a month ago. My emotions are already more manageable and the hot flushes have almost stopped.

My sex drive has not been affected but I know that on the bad days previously experienced I probably wouldn't want to get all dressed up. Just feeling wanted, desired and loved by my boyfriend ensured that our sex life wasn't affected. We probably had much more tender love making sex at those times.

Keep being understanding to your wife, I know from personal experience just how much the menopause impacts on the woman and you need to be there for each other as a team to get through it unscathed. It can be a scary time for a woman but then other ladies sail through it.

Best wishes to you both

Her x"

thanks for the advice xx

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I think alot of woman go through a period of feeling unsexy and generally lose in sex during menopause. Applying pressure only makes the situation worse.

Be patient. Let her know you love her and that she has value beyond her sexuality. If she's anything like me her libido will bounce back with a vengeance once things settle and you will reap the rewards.

i tell her love her everyday thanks for the advice "

I think you need to do more than tell her, show her.

One thing that may help is doing actual research about the menopause, rather than it coming across that the only bit you're concerned about is the lack of sex drive.

The more she feels understood, the more she can see you're TRYING to understand, the more it will show you care about HER, not just when she'll be wanting to get back in the saddle.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Find out why she's lost interest. Is sex painful, are hot flushes making her feel too warm to enjoy physical contact, are changes in her body making her feel undesirable, does she feel that horrible sadness many menopausal women experience, does she experience vaginal dryness? Those and a million other reasons could explain it or it might not be menopause at all. I'm not being rude or suggesting that this is the reason but have you changed in any way? You say she won't even wear stockings, do you do anything or wear anything to pique her interest?

If it is menopausal a trip to the doctor might be helpful (if you can get to see one) but it might not be a solution, sometimes you have to find ways to cope with it for a few years.

Best wishes to you both

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think alot of woman go through a period of feeling unsexy and generally lose in sex during menopause. Applying pressure only makes the situation worse.

Be patient. Let her know you love her and that she has value beyond her sexuality. If she's anything like me her libido will bounce back with a vengeance once things settle and you will reap the rewards.

i tell her love her everyday thanks for the advice

I think you need to do more than tell her, show her.

One thing that may help is doing actual research about the menopause, rather than it coming across that the only bit you're concerned about is the lack of sex drive.

The more she feels understood, the more she can see you're TRYING to understand, the more it will show you care about HER, not just when she'll be wanting to get back in the saddle."
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14 million times this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"morning everyone has anyone got any experience with there wife going through menopause and losing all sexual feelings do the feelings come back as my wife wont even wear stockings anymore is there anything she can do to combat this"

What does *she* want? Perhaps she's happy that her sex life is over, or she needs a year out to look after herself.

She won't wear stockings anymore. Sounds like she feels pressured.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think alot of woman go through a period of feeling unsexy and generally lose in sex during menopause. Applying pressure only makes the situation worse.

Be patient. Let her know you love her and that she has value beyond her sexuality. If she's anything like me her libido will bounce back with a vengeance once things settle and you will reap the rewards.

i tell her love her everyday thanks for the advice

I think you need to do more than tell her, show her.

One thing that may help is doing actual research about the menopause, rather than it coming across that the only bit you're concerned about is the lack of sex drive.

The more she feels understood, the more she can see you're TRYING to understand, the more it will show you care about HER, not just when she'll be wanting to get back in the saddle."

iv spoke to her about it i understand that this is very hard for her i show her and tell her i love her everyday n the sex is only a tiny part of our relationship id rather have her as she is than not have her at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Find out why she's lost interest. Is sex painful, are hot flushes making her feel too warm to enjoy physical contact, are changes in her body making her feel undesirable, does she feel that horrible sadness many menopausal women experience, does she experience vaginal dryness? Those and a million other reasons could explain it or it might not be menopause at all. I'm not being rude or suggesting that this is the reason but have you changed in any way? You say she won't even wear stockings, do you do anything or wear anything to pique her interest?

If it is menopausal a trip to the doctor might be helpful (if you can get to see one) but it might not be a solution, sometimes you have to find ways to cope with it for a few years.

Best wishes to you both"
she has been to doctors got her in tablets the reason i mention wearing stocking is that she always liked to dress smart with heals skirt just go shoping now she as lost interest rather wear track suit says feels frumpy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"morning everyone has anyone got any experience with there wife going through menopause and losing all sexual feelings do the feelings come back as my wife wont even wear stockings anymore is there anything she can do to combat this

What does *she* want? Perhaps she's happy that her sex life is over, or she needs a year out to look after herself.

She won't wear stockings anymore. Sounds like she feels pressured. "
id never preasure her to do aanything u love n repect her to much

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Find out why she's lost interest. Is sex painful, are hot flushes making her feel too warm to enjoy physical contact, are changes in her body making her feel undesirable, does she feel that horrible sadness many menopausal women experience, does she experience vaginal dryness? Those and a million other reasons could explain it or it might not be menopause at all. I'm not being rude or suggesting that this is the reason but have you changed in any way? You say she won't even wear stockings, do you do anything or wear anything to pique her interest?

If it is menopausal a trip to the doctor might be helpful (if you can get to see one) but it might not be a solution, sometimes you have to find ways to cope with it for a few years.

Best wishes to you both she has been to doctors got her in tablets the reason i mention wearing stocking is that she always liked to dress smart with heals skirt just go shoping now she as lost interest rather wear track suit says feels frumpy"

Have you both considered that it might not be just menopause?

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