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By *pursChick aka Shortie OP   Woman
over a year ago

On a mooch

10th September is Suicide Prevention Day and something to close to home for me, so please take the time and check in on those you know, all it takes is a simple hello, how are you, even those that you normally see smiling and laughing.

For those of you having these thoughts, you are not alone, please reach out to someone, family, friend or even a stranger, there are people ready to listen even if they can’t understand how you are feeling.

All it takes is a beautiful fake smile to hide an injured soul and they will never notice how broken you really are - Robin Williams.

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By *rink Me xxWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Xxx

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

It breaks our hearts to think people feel there is no alternative other than suicide.

Massive hugs to anyone who has been affected by suicide.

To those of you who are suffering we echo Shorties words, please talk to someone. There is no shame at all in asking for help and for admitting you are suffering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is my job... I train people on the signs that someone is thinking of attempting suicide and what to do if they find someone in the act.

Heartbreaking and difficult subject but so rewarding when you hear your training has meant someone has been saved

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By *oss and SuzieCouple
over a year ago

Porthmadog

Thanks for posting this OP. If anyone needs to talk, remember the Samaritans. They listen, no judgement, no pressure, and help you work through what's on your mind. They have walk-in centres too. They've helped me at a difficult time in my life and I can't say how helpful it was.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hadn't realised this OP but so glad you've highlighted it.

As 3 who've posted above already know my son took his own life only 2 months ago.

Like a lot of us and certainly me he was very good at wearing a mask of humour. This is used to not only fool everyone else into thinking they are ok but themselves also.

Depression is such a lonely condition and the severity can be so easily hidden from loved ones.

Our last conversation was just like any other with no indication as to what was to happen a week later...

like most 27yr old lads he had everything to live for, he was in an enviable position having inherited a lottery jackpot win a few years ago and owned 2 houses outright. We all think that this would mean guaranteed happiness yet to him it was part of the problem, I state this to show that even those who you think must be happy because they have it all can still be depressed.

He was found surrounded by pictures of me and him and left an irreparable void where my heart once was.

He had battled his addictions and depression for just over 12 months and I thought successfully too, how wrong I was.

Like me he was a type 1 diabetic and had stopped taking his insulin. I was immensely proud of his both him and his rehab achievements 12 months ago but im sure if only he'd have contacted me on that day I wouldn't be typing this right now.

Should anyone at all be feeling like my Andrew did can I urge you to contact a loved one or a stranger and discuss your feelings, you've no idea the devastation you leave behind because you are loved and cared for and no matter what the drama is your life is way more precious.

To those who know someone with depression don't take it for granted that because they're acting ok that they are, its a battle that they don't stop fighting.

If anyone wants to talk about there problems then I'm here... one love

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By *onnyJohnMan
over a year ago

Doncaster

Good post, having been touched by suicide several times the effects can be devastating and as said in the OP sometimes all it takes is a sympathetic ear to listen and a little time to check in with someone...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hadn't realised this OP but so glad you've highlighted it.

As 3 who've posted above already know my son took his own life only 2 months ago.

Like a lot of us and certainly me he was very good at wearing a mask of humour. This is used to not only fool everyone else into thinking they are ok but themselves also.

Depression is such a lonely condition and the severity can be so easily hidden from loved ones.

Our last conversation was just like any other with no indication as to what was to happen a week later...

like most 27yr old lads he had everything to live for, he was in an enviable position having inherited a lottery jackpot win a few years ago and owned 2 houses outright. We all think that this would mean guaranteed happiness yet to him it was part of the problem, I state this to show that even those who you think must be happy because they have it all can still be depressed.

He was found surrounded by pictures of me and him and left an irreparable void where my heart once was.

He had battled his addictions and depression for just over 12 months and I thought successfully too, how wrong I was.

Like me he was a type 1 diabetic and had stopped taking his insulin. I was immensely proud of his both him and his rehab achievements 12 months ago but im sure if only he'd have contacted me on that day I wouldn't be typing this right now.

Should anyone at all be feeling like my Andrew did can I urge you to contact a loved one or a stranger and discuss your feelings, you've no idea the devastation you leave behind because you are loved and cared for and no matter what the drama is your life is way more precious.

To those who know someone with depression don't take it for granted that because they're acting ok that they are, its a battle that they don't stop fighting.

If anyone wants to talk about there problems then I'm here... one love

"
so sorry for your loss. This post actually has me in tears

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thunderace.

I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you can find a way through such a painful time. Offering help when you must still feel raw shows an inner strength that is enviable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having seen it many times, the impact on so many lives is devastating.

A permanent solution to what is so often a temporary problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thunderace.

I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you can find a way through such a painful time. Offering help when you must still feel raw shows an inner strength that is enviable.

"

There lies the tragedy...

Im a stage 4 cancer survivor and like a lot of us have a few battle scars that have shown us that a little hope and a lot of positivity can overcome any problem.

Though I'm sure I did all I could the fact that I couldn't translate that to him will never leave me. Someone else in his position though might?

He who is given a why can endure almost any how...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hadn't realised this OP but so glad you've highlighted it.

As 3 who've posted above already know my son took his own life only 2 months ago.

Like a lot of us and certainly me he was very good at wearing a mask of humour. This is used to not only fool everyone else into thinking they are ok but themselves also.

Depression is such a lonely condition and the severity can be so easily hidden from loved ones.

Our last conversation was just like any other with no indication as to what was to happen a week later...

like most 27yr old lads he had everything to live for, he was in an enviable position having inherited a lottery jackpot win a few years ago and owned 2 houses outright. We all think that this would mean guaranteed happiness yet to him it was part of the problem, I state this to show that even those who you think must be happy because they have it all can still be depressed.

He was found surrounded by pictures of me and him and left an irreparable void where my heart once was.

He had battled his addictions and depression for just over 12 months and I thought successfully too, how wrong I was.

Like me he was a type 1 diabetic and had stopped taking his insulin. I was immensely proud of his both him and his rehab achievements 12 months ago but im sure if only he'd have contacted me on that day I wouldn't be typing this right now.

Should anyone at all be feeling like my Andrew did can I urge you to contact a loved one or a stranger and discuss your feelings, you've no idea the devastation you leave behind because you are loved and cared for and no matter what the drama is your life is way more precious.

To those who know someone with depression don't take it for granted that because they're acting ok that they are, its a battle that they don't stop fighting.

If anyone wants to talk about there problems then I'm here... one love

"

Love you x

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Thunderace, my heart goes out to you.

For those considering suicide, I know it’s difficult and I’ve been there. All the reminders in the world about contacting someone didn’t mean anything because by then it was already too late - I was too ashamed and didn’t want to bother anyone.

Don’t be like that! I was wrong and you are too; someone, a friend, wants to hear from you. Trust me, you’re wanted.

Speak to someone like the Samaritans or your local mental health crisis centre and then work on getting through the depression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We need to be watchful each and everyday the way I have to be mindful of myself everyday. This thought passes through my headceveryday the difference now is I neither fight it or pay heed to it..I let it run and process quietly in the background with no action taken upon it. I ve done this for years and will continue to do it til my last breath...such is the way of it. Take care people of yourselves and those you hold dear.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for posting this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some, like myself, will not turn to people because they cant as people created the issue in the first place and in so doing destroyed all trust in the words of people. For me I talk but not to people..I head to the wild places and let mother nature work her magic..I talk to the trees and to the streams..you may sneer at this but you see she was always my sanctuary, way back when the shit was happening. This isn t a woe is me for it works for me. This is just me giving another angle. I lived homeless in the woods for 2 years or more in order to get my shit together. I isolated from people and for me it worked.

If you re reading this don t do as I do, do as the above have suggested, talk to someone..I just wanted to say for some, the solitary people, the ones that can never trust...there needs to be another outlet and to find it you may need to study and really know that person. I dont mean to offend anyone or upset or anything else that could be misconstrued. Im just saying if Im different to the norm then so are many others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Close to my heart both personally and professionally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trained professional here for suicide and trauma. Those of you who have had to deal with the suicide of a loved one, my heart goes out to you too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hadn't realised this OP but so glad you've highlighted it.

As 3 who've posted above already know my son took his own life only 2 months ago.

Like a lot of us and certainly me he was very good at wearing a mask of humour. This is used to not only fool everyone else into thinking they are ok but themselves also.

Depression is such a lonely condition and the severity can be so easily hidden from loved ones.

Our last conversation was just like any other with no indication as to what was to happen a week later...

like most 27yr old lads he had everything to live for, he was in an enviable position having inherited a lottery jackpot win a few years ago and owned 2 houses outright. We all think that this would mean guaranteed happiness yet to him it was part of the problem, I state this to show that even those who you think must be happy because they have it all can still be depressed.

He was found surrounded by pictures of me and him and left an irreparable void where my heart once was.

He had battled his addictions and depression for just over 12 months and I thought successfully too, how wrong I was.

Like me he was a type 1 diabetic and had stopped taking his insulin. I was immensely proud of his both him and his rehab achievements 12 months ago but im sure if only he'd have contacted me on that day I wouldn't be typing this right now.

Should anyone at all be feeling like my Andrew did can I urge you to contact a loved one or a stranger and discuss your feelings, you've no idea the devastation you leave behind because you are loved and cared for and no matter what the drama is your life is way more precious.

To those who know someone with depression don't take it for granted that because they're acting ok that they are, its a battle that they don't stop fighting.

If anyone wants to talk about there problems then I'm here... one love

"

Thank you for sharing.

Brave of you

Have just had a tear or reading

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thunderace, my heart goes out to you.

For those considering suicide, I know it’s difficult and I’ve been there. All the reminders in the world about contacting someone didn’t mean anything because by then it was already too late - I was too ashamed and didn’t want to bother anyone.

Don’t be like that! I was wrong and you are too; someone, a friend, wants to hear from you. Trust me, you’re wanted.

Speak to someone like the Samaritans or your local mental health crisis centre and then work on getting through the depression."

Yeah, I'm wanted

When someone wants something from me

Or theres a bill to pay

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


" For me I talk but not to people..I head to the wild places and let mother nature work her magic..I talk to the trees and to the streams..you may sneer at this but you see she was always my sanctuary, way back when the shit was happening. This isn t a woe is me for it works for me. This is just me giving another angle. I lived homeless in the woods for 2 years or more in order to get my shit together. I isolated from people and for me it worked.

If you re reading this don t do as I do, do as the above have suggested, talk to someone..I just wanted to say for some, the solitary people, the ones that can never trust...there needs to be another outlet. "

A valid point. There isn’t one thing that works for all, what everyone says might not work for you.

But find something that does, please

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By *pursChick aka Shortie OP   Woman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Thunderace thank you for being so open and sharing your story with everyone

As Treemonkey & Adam highlighted everyone needs to find their way that works for them in dealing with matters.

Personally, I rarely talk about my issues or when things affect me. What worked for me was helping others talk through and deal with their issues as a staff counsellor and mental health first aider, it gave me a purpose and a sense of pride watching those I’d counselled come out the other side.

Unfortunately it doesn’t always work, as no matter how much you help, listen and advise (if appropriate) it is still the individual that needs to find that strength to keep going, make the change to find the positives and come out the other side with a way of living with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thunderace thank you for being so open and sharing your story with everyone

As Treemonkey & Adam highlighted everyone needs to find their way that works for them in dealing with matters.

Personally, I rarely talk about my issues or when things affect me. What worked for me was helping others talk through and deal with their issues as a staff counsellor and mental health first aider, it gave me a purpose and a sense of pride watching those I’d counselled come out the other side.

Unfortunately it doesn’t always work, as no matter how much you help, listen and advise (if appropriate) it is still the individual that needs to find that strength to keep going, make the change to find the positives and come out the other side with a way of living with it. "

So very very true.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's good to see that there are still some nice people out there that make us all aware of what what is happening I've always said since they want to be kind to one another if someone messages you in there inbox and I don't just mean on this website but anywhere please do not ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My heart goes out to anyone affected by this.

About a year ago I was logging off fab one evening and I saw a disturbing status, I logged off and went to bed. I couldn’t get it out of my head. I logged back on again and messaged him. I never went to bed again that night, we chatted all night. He was in a terrible place. We are now good friends and he says he wouldn’t be here today but for that message. Maybe he would maybe he wouldn’t but please please talk to people. He’s now in a very happy place x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hadn't realised this OP but so glad you've highlighted it.

As 3 who've posted above already know my son took his own life only 2 months ago.

Like a lot of us and certainly me he was very good at wearing a mask of humour. This is used to not only fool everyone else into thinking they are ok but themselves also.

Depression is such a lonely condition and the severity can be so easily hidden from loved ones.

Our last conversation was just like any other with no indication as to what was to happen a week later...

like most 27yr old lads he had everything to live for, he was in an enviable position having inherited a lottery jackpot win a few years ago and owned 2 houses outright. We all think that this would mean guaranteed happiness yet to him it was part of the problem, I state this to show that even those who you think must be happy because they have it all can still be depressed.

He was found surrounded by pictures of me and him and left an irreparable void where my heart once was.

He had battled his addictions and depression for just over 12 months and I thought successfully too, how wrong I was.

Like me he was a type 1 diabetic and had stopped taking his insulin. I was immensely proud of his both him and his rehab achievements 12 months ago but im sure if only he'd have contacted me on that day I wouldn't be typing this right now.

Should anyone at all be feeling like my Andrew did can I urge you to contact a loved one or a stranger and discuss your feelings, you've no idea the devastation you leave behind because you are loved and cared for and no matter what the drama is your life is way more precious.

To those who know someone with depression don't take it for granted that because they're acting ok that they are, its a battle that they don't stop fighting.

If anyone wants to talk about there problems then I'm here... one love

"

So honest of you to write this OP..

Unfortunately my partner has been like this for 2 years now. Highly medicated and every day is a constant battle. He has attempted to take his own life twice and has recently started self harming due to frustration of not being able to beat this horrible illness.

He hides it very well some days and then other days he's just an empty shell that just curls up in a ball and hides away from the whole family with no word spoken.

I dot see a way out for him atm and I constantly just ask him to talk. I dread leaving the house sometimes wondering if today will be the day when I find him... Its one illness I just can't reassure him that he will get better from. It breaks my heart every day seeing someone with everything to live for just wanting to end it all..

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really like to talk about this subject here. I'm not very good at sharing with people I don't know how it has massively affected my life. But I send my to all of you and hope anybody who feels like there is no point to life, reaches out and gets the help they deserve.

"Suicide doesn't end the chances of life getting worse, it eliminates the possibility of it ever getting any better"

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool


"10th September is Suicide Prevention Day and something to close to home for me, so please take the time and check in on those you know, all it takes is a simple hello, how are you, even those that you normally see smiling and laughing.

For those of you having these thoughts, you are not alone, please reach out to someone, family, friend or even a stranger, there are people ready to listen even if they can’t understand how you are feeling.

All it takes is a beautiful fake smile to hide an injured soul and they will never notice how broken you really are - Robin Williams.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"10th September is Suicide Prevention Day and something to close to home for me, so please take the time and check in on those you know, all it takes is a simple hello, how are you, even those that you normally see smiling and laughing.

For those of you having these thoughts, you are not alone, please reach out to someone, family, friend or even a stranger, there are people ready to listen even if they can’t understand how you are feeling.

All it takes is a beautiful fake smile to hide an injured soul and they will never notice how broken you really are - Robin Williams.

"

Great post OP, and so sorry you've been touched by this! There are two steps I believe society could take to help reduce suicide.

The first would be to remove any stigmas associated with reaching out for help when your mental health suffers (especially men) and making that help more readily and freely available. It's perhaps the most underfunded area of the NHS.

The second step is one somebody else has touched on. That would be to train the general public on the signs when somebody looks close to the edge. Train people so they are able to intervene appropriately, to take the step that can make a difference. We all know the signs no for stroke, heart attack, etc, so why not suicide?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Suicide doesn't end the chances of life getting worse, it eliminates the possibility of it ever getting any better" "

I don't think I will read anything more direct and truthful than this on fab, or anywhere, today. Fantastic quote.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

As 3 who've posted above already know my son took his own life only 2 months ago.

"

This got to me, and thank you for having the courage to share Thunderace. My love and condolences to you and your family. I doubt I'd be as measure in your shoes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My heart goes out to anyone affected by this.

About a year ago I was logging off fab one evening and I saw a disturbing status, I logged off and went to bed. I couldn’t get it out of my head. I logged back on again and messaged him. I never went to bed again that night, we chatted all night. He was in a terrible place. We are now good friends and he says he wouldn’t be here today but for that message. Maybe he would maybe he wouldn’t but please please talk to people. He’s now in a very happy place x "

Again, proving what i said to you yesterday N, genuinely amazing piece of humanity that is

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Some people need positivity to boost their confidence and self worth.

Some people who are negative and nasty with their words need to think before they say or type it, especially being online, behind a computer screen, thinking they can say what ever they please, need to be re-educated and not be so self centred.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suicide touches us all unfortunately, whether its friends of family.

My best friend took his own life when we were 20 years old. I always stayed in an angry place with him but loved him.

Until last year, when a thought of suicide ran through my head. And now, my anger has become understanding.

I always thought i was so mentally strong, but the truth was that i hadnt been tested fully.

I will literally to anyone of any placing now, if i can help you, i would, because the life is a wonderful thing and we just have to get through the bad times together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"10th September is Suicide Prevention Day and something to close to home for me, so please take the time and check in on those you know, all it takes is a simple hello, how are you, even those that you normally see smiling and laughing.

For those of you having these thoughts, you are not alone, please reach out to someone, family, friend or even a stranger, there are people ready to listen even if they can’t understand how you are feeling.

All it takes is a beautiful fake smile to hide an injured soul and they will never notice how broken you really are - Robin Williams.

"

If there’s any thread that should be bumped for the day then this is it

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I worry so much for my friend.

He has had so much help but none of it seems to work with him.

It’s the biggest worry I have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

at times when needed it i have reached out but often worry that will be seen as the person who cried wolf and reach out too often

the thoughts can come and be gone in ten minutes and get on with my day as if nothing has happened but know in no doubt they will be back

when i had a minor attempt last year no one knew anything about it until i spoke to a couple of friends after- still think back to that day and wonder

i have looked into ways of doing it and discounted so many but at times still research

when you are thinking about it you dont always think of the aftermath or how it may effect other people and sometimes can be selfish in your thoughts as you think they will be better off

to those who do help others whether friends or strangers - you have more strenght than i do and thank you for what you do

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"I hadn't realised this OP but so glad you've highlighted it.

As 3 who've posted above already know my son took his own life only 2 months ago.

Like a lot of us and certainly me he was very good at wearing a mask of humour. This is used to not only fool everyone else into thinking they are ok but themselves also.

Depression is such a lonely condition and the severity can be so easily hidden from loved ones.

Our last conversation was just like any other with no indication as to what was to happen a week later...

like most 27yr old lads he had everything to live for, he was in an enviable position having inherited a lottery jackpot win a few years ago and owned 2 houses outright. We all think that this would mean guaranteed happiness yet to him it was part of the problem, I state this to show that even those who you think must be happy because they have it all can still be depressed.

He was found surrounded by pictures of me and him and left an irreparable void where my heart once was.

He had battled his addictions and depression for just over 12 months and I thought successfully too, how wrong I was.

Like me he was a type 1 diabetic and had stopped taking his insulin. I was immensely proud of his both him and his rehab achievements 12 months ago but im sure if only he'd have contacted me on that day I wouldn't be typing this right now.

Should anyone at all be feeling like my Andrew did can I urge you to contact a loved one or a stranger and discuss your feelings, you've no idea the devastation you leave behind because you are loved and cared for and no matter what the drama is your life is way more precious.

To those who know someone with depression don't take it for granted that because they're acting ok that they are, its a battle that they don't stop fighting.

If anyone wants to talk about there problems then I'm here... one love

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over 800,000 deaths globally each year.

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By *pursChick aka Shortie OP   Woman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Thank you for sharing your experiences, it’s really not an easy thing to share

One other thing, those that are dealing with this through friends, family, colleagues and alike, as well as looking out for them you need to lookout for yourselves.

I never understood this until someone said to me “so who listens to the counsellor, we see you doing all this work, listening & helping others, but who listens to you”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Over 800,000 deaths globally each year.

"

Sad. I wonder how many of us in the world have contemplated the thought and what is the most common reason that triggers this thought in humans ?

Life is a gift and should be treated as precious. People should never be made to feel so low and vulnerable.

#Bekind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Over 800,000 deaths globally each year.

Sad. I wonder how many of us in the world have contemplated the thought and what is the most common reason that triggers this thought in humans ?

Life is a gift and should be treated as precious. People should never be made to feel so low and vulnerable.

#Bekind "

think the trigger can be different for everyone but can sometimes be about not seeing an alternative

can be down to loss of job, house, partner, worried about not being accepted, feeling of being a failure or useless or a burden on others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Knowbody can truly understand the reasons why somebody may choose to make that final decision, something that may seem trivial and unimportant to one, may very well mean something exponentially more to another. Different things help different people, even when there is (what seems to be) no hope left, there is always something to cling on too.

But some of the other comments are spot on, you never know what effect things have on people, or what other people are thinking and going through.

Especially from behind a keyboard x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I never knew about Suicide Prevention Day, it's ironic for me as today is the anniversary of my father's death.

I was 22 he was 50, I didn't know how to help him, he wasn't the kind of man to talk but I wish he was. He's missed out on so much, it still breaks my heart after all these years.

Sending a hug to anyone who might need one ((((())))) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never knew about Suicide Prevention Day, it's ironic for me as today is the anniversary of my father's death.

I was 22 he was 50, I didn't know how to help him, he wasn't the kind of man to talk but I wish he was. He's missed out on so much, it still breaks my heart after all these years.

Sending a hug to anyone who might need one ((((())))) x"

Thanks I am all for hugs today. Life can be so hard at times.(((()))) from me too x

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By *oson-BlueCouple
over a year ago

North Kent


"I hadn't realised this OP but so glad you've highlighted it.

As 3 who've posted above already know my son took his own life only 2 months ago.

Like a lot of us and certainly me he was very good at wearing a mask of humour. This is used to not only fool everyone else into thinking they are ok but themselves also.

Depression is such a lonely condition and the severity can be so easily hidden from loved ones.

Our last conversation was just like any other with no indication as to what was to happen a week later...

like most 27yr old lads he had everything to live for, he was in an enviable position having inherited a lottery jackpot win a few years ago and owned 2 houses outright. We all think that this would mean guaranteed happiness yet to him it was part of the problem, I state this to show that even those who you think must be happy because they have it all can still be depressed.

He was found surrounded by pictures of me and him and left an irreparable void where my heart once was.

He had battled his addictions and depression for just over 12 months and I thought successfully too, how wrong I was.

Like me he was a type 1 diabetic and had stopped taking his insulin. I was immensely proud of his both him and his rehab achievements 12 months ago but im sure if only he'd have contacted me on that day I wouldn't be typing this right now.

Should anyone at all be feeling like my Andrew did can I urge you to contact a loved one or a stranger and discuss your feelings, you've no idea the devastation you leave behind because you are loved and cared for and no matter what the drama is your life is way more precious.

To those who know someone with depression don't take it for granted that because they're acting ok that they are, its a battle that they don't stop fighting.

If anyone wants to talk about there problems then I'm here... one love

"

So sorry for your loss we can't imagine the heartache you must be going through.

Our inbox is open for anyone needing support right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never understood this until someone said to me “so who listens to the counsellor, we see you doing all this work, listening & helping others, but who listens to you” "

As a counsellor, you have a supervisor, for that very reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost 2 people very close to me by suicide. Such a hard death to come to terms with.

Always a listening ear with me for those who need it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hadn't realised this OP but so glad you've highlighted it.

As 3 who've posted above already know my son took his own life only 2 months ago.

Like a lot of us and certainly me he was very good at wearing a mask of humour. This is used to not only fool everyone else into thinking they are ok but themselves also.

Depression is such a lonely condition and the severity can be so easily hidden from loved ones.

Our last conversation was just like any other with no indication as to what was to happen a week later...

like most 27yr old lads he had everything to live for, he was in an enviable position having inherited a lottery jackpot win a few years ago and owned 2 houses outright. We all think that this would mean guaranteed happiness yet to him it was part of the problem, I state this to show that even those who you think must be happy because they have it all can still be depressed.

He was found surrounded by pictures of me and him and left an irreparable void where my heart once was.

He had battled his addictions and depression for just over 12 months and I thought successfully too, how wrong I was.

Like me he was a type 1 diabetic and had stopped taking his insulin. I was immensely proud of his both him and his rehab achievements 12 months ago but im sure if only he'd have contacted me on that day I wouldn't be typing this right now.

Should anyone at all be feeling like my Andrew did can I urge you to contact a loved one or a stranger and discuss your feelings, you've no idea the devastation you leave behind because you are loved and cared for and no matter what the drama is your life is way more precious.

To those who know someone with depression don't take it for granted that because they're acting ok that they are, its a battle that they don't stop fighting.

If anyone wants to talk about there problems then I'm here... one love

"

Oh gosh, nobody should lose a child, espescially that way, my heart goes out to you xx

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By *pursChick aka Shortie OP   Woman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"I never understood this until someone said to me “so who listens to the counsellor, we see you doing all this work, listening & helping others, but who listens to you”

As a counsellor, you have a supervisor, for that very reason."

Not in a corporate office you don’t.... took them long enough to get them to see there was an issue with mental health in the corporation and then allow us to be trained, 18 months later they allowed us to ‘advertise’ ourselves to the workforce as people they could turn too, for those that didn’t know by word of mouth.

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