FabSwingers.com forum: Caught in the Act !!!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Recently on holiday after sex i left my girlfriend on the bed while I had a shower. I came out and she hadn’t realised... She was lying on the bed face down rubbing herself against the bed.. she looked up and said fuck.. then pretended she was trying to do the buttons up on her all in one too... she was so embarrassed but admitted to playing.. I was annoyed at first as I was there.. but she said she just needed a little rub to finish , not to cum but it felt nice and if she had asked me I would have wanted more sex and she was done and just wanted a quick rub... I was annoyed but looking back it was a massive turn on catching her and her shocked face.. anyone else had something similar?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What were you annoyed about?

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By *i 69Man
over a year ago

luton

"What were you annoyed about?"

Innit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just because I was there and she should have done it with me but she wanted it quick before we went to the pool so fair enough lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you think she owes you her sexuality? If she wants to masturbate thats her own business. Nothing to do with you. Its a shame she feels she has to hide it from you and sneak one in while your in the shower.

Perhaps conside being a little less controlling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just because I was there and she should have done it with me but she wanted it quick before we went to the pool so fair enough lol"

"Should have"?

Nah...she should've done whatever she wanted to, which it seems she did.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Woooah slow down .. not at all I want her to feel free to when she wants and not hide.. she is just shy.... she didn’t want to cum just rub which is fine.. as I said I felt rejected at first then realised it was a turn on.. we talked and going forward she knows not to hide and relax

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That’s true I have no issues was just explaining I felt a bit rejected after all we had just had sex but she clearly wanted a rub.. she doesn’t always like to cum just rub and she thought I would want more .. she’s wanted a quickie I get it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That’s true I have no issues was just explaining I felt a bit rejected after all we had just had sex but she clearly wanted a rub.. she doesn’t always like to cum just rub and she thought I would want more .. she’s wanted a quickie I get it now "

I get where your coming from, poor choice of words perhaps?

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Didn’t happen. How old is she?

If you’re 38 and she’s of similar age then surely she’s got over herself by now?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Huh?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yep.. I just felt rejected she wanted to hide and do it when I was just in the next room that’s all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bet you’re glad you asked op!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It’s good to have opinion that’s what I want..

Is it silly I felt rejected?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I caught my ex a few times, I'd wake up in the middle of the night and she'd have her knees up, legs apart and be rubbing one out.

She'd always deny that was what she was doing though. She had a very strong religious background and felt it was something to be ashamed of, I used to smile and I learnt to just let her get on with it.

It was interesting because at the time we were in a dead bedroom situation, she'd tell me she had no interest whatsoever in sex and I'd say the same but were were both wanking in secret.

It didn't take long to realise we just weren't in to one another any longer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s good to have opinion that’s what I want..

Is it silly I felt rejected?"

No, I think it's quite a normal reaction for a lot of people.

However, I don't think you were being rejected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s good to have opinion that’s what I want..

Is it silly I felt rejected?"

Do you think she should be present every time you have a "rub"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well if we are in the same flat at the same time I yes.... if she’s alone of course so what you want but if I am there why play alone ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well if we are in the same flat at the same time I yes.... if she’s alone of course so what you want but if I am there why play alone ??"

Choice. And at that precise moment that's what SHE wanted

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fair enough ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well if we are in the same flat at the same time I yes.... if she’s alone of course so what you want but if I am there why play alone ??"

I don’t get the issue here

I love it when MrsA disappears for a while, and comes back telling me she felt horny and went for a lay down to watch some porn and have a play... massive turn on

Why deny them a little alone time when they get the urge....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yea but she told you.. mine did it in hiding

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By *llaboutthewifeCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Mmmm wonder how she feels about you being here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mmmm wonder how she feels about you being here

Jo"

harsh but touche

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea but she told you.. mine did it in hiding "

Do you ever wank?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wanks are often more fun than sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea but she told you.. mine did it in hiding "

She tells me afterwards!

But anyways, isn’t it just part of having a healthy sex life - who doesn’t like a wank every now and again !

If I were you and I caught her in the act I’d have either.

1. Watched

2. Joined in

Probably both in fact!

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By *rambuie100Man
over a year ago

essex/suffolk border

Id have said nothing, sat back and enjoyed watching her play. Then told her how amazing it was to watch her do it, kissed her, and walked with her to the pool with a big grin. Knowing my partner was naughty sexy lady.

Each to their own though dude. Next time join in. Sit and play and tell her how hot and sexy she looks.

Embrace it, you never know what it could unleash in her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea but she told you.. mine did it in hiding

Do you ever wank?"

Never. Terrible habit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She wants to do it alone not in front of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She wants to do it alone not in front of me "

Let her then if that what she wants to do!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jesus good job the guys I’ve seen don’t feel rejected

. I always have a Arsenal of toys and use them throughout the night with and without them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yep true I will.. and I won’t take it personally lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha awesome ??

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

At least it wasn't the room service guy there

What's more surprising is that you two couldn't be supportively honest about each others needs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She said I was in the shower , she had the urge and wanted a quick rub, and that it was something she wanted to finish alone... fair enough

Saying that she is shy and not the most sexual I like most of us on here so isn’t open with all that stuff

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By *az211Man
over a year ago

Bse

Got that control a bit to tight there bud not good in long run!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not trying to control her just felt akward that she wanted to play alone when I was there in the next room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not trying to control her just felt akward that she wanted to play alone when I was there in the next room"

You have a woman... in bed... playing with herself.. and you felt ‘awkward’....

I find this an issue in itself!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yea as she was doing it when I was there ... listen I came on here for advice and opinion not to be mocked, I feel low sometimes I don’t need nasty people just helpful people for conversation and objective opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Alone without me made me feel rejected don’t you get that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not trying to control her just felt akward that she wanted to play alone when I was there in the next room

You have a woman... in bed... playing with herself.. and you felt ‘awkward’....

I find this an issue in itself!

Me too

Do you think she would feel awkward if she knew you had a profile on here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She knows !! That’s not the discussion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She knows !! That’s not the discussion "

Im not sure i understand then

She knows you have a profile on here, so that would indicate you are able to talk openly about your sexual needs.

But her masturbating, without you is an issue? Im confused tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is not gonna get you anywhere mate...

You said you caught your GF touching her self after sex... I can’t see what is wrong with that!

I think you trying to say that it was awkward that you didn’t make her finished... well it happens specially with long term relationship.

But why would you feel that she can’t finished herself? You just make it sounds like she is not allowed to (perhaps this is not what you meant) but this what it sounds....

A piece of advise if this story is true, I think she have all the rights to finish herself.

And you didn’t really caught her doing something unusual.. lol

thread is over... Next

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Follow your heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a point that seems to ellude many men is that there is no "finishing" most women.

For many, including myself, the more we get the more we want. I can have hours of incredible sex, cum ad finitum, beg for mercy and 5 miutes later be horny as fuck again. And I'm pretty confident I'm not that unusual.

You've got a horny woman Dude. What the fuck is your problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t know why you were annoyed.

My response would have been.

“Awww, bless babe. You crack on while I wank off in the shower over Kylie Jenner”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yea but she told you.. mine did it in hiding

Do you ever wank?

Never. Terrible habit."

Sene siupf nelodnd

Shit

Soenf fof djf

Dammit

Sends you blind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what?? We all whack one off the wrist on the odd occasion! No need to hate about it!!!

I'm off for one now.....

I can feel the disgust from here!!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I think a point that seems to ellude many men is that there is no "finishing" most women.

You've got a horny woman Dude. What the fuck is your problem?"

The struggle is real... Sometimes I just squeeze out another orgasm out of boredom...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Alone without me made me feel rejected don’t you get that?"

Some women find it easier to cum when wanking. Maybe she knew you would feel bad and that's why she did it alone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fair point

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good points I have no issue her finishing off but it’s the way she wanted to do it when I left the room kinda sneaky rather than just lay there with the door open lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not without me just hiding to do it.. not needed I’m very open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you use the Reply + quote button we know who you are replying to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you use the Reply + quote button we know who you are replying to.

Ok sorry new to this haha

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

"Good points I have no issue her finishing off but it’s the way she wanted to do it when I left the room kinda sneaky rather than just lay there with the door open lol"

She might not have been sneaky. She might not have planned it until you were in the shower and at the end of the day she wasn’t thinking about what you wanted it was what she wasn’t.

Or she might have liked the thought of cumming while you were out of the room and it was a turn on to be sneaky.

Either way making her feel ashamed for playing by herself is not great. She obviously likes having sex with you but this attitude isn’t helping. Are you saying you have never had a wank when a partner has been in the house?

I’ve known a few guys over the year that don’t like woman touching and making themselves cum. It made them feel less of a man. If this is the case with you then you need to find a way of getting over it.

You sound almost like you caught her cheating on you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good points I have no issue her finishing off but it’s the way she wanted to do it when I left the room kinda sneaky rather than just lay there with the door open lol

She might not have been sneaky. She might not have planned it until you were in the shower and at the end of the day she wasn’t thinking about what you wanted it was what she wasn’t.

Or she might have liked the thought of cumming while you were out of the room and it was a turn on to be sneaky.

You sound almost like you caught her cheating on you. "

I love her touching herself.. but maybe your right it felt like that because I thought she’d want to play with me there ... but I guess it was in the moment and it’s no reflection of us just she had the urge at that moment for a quick release.. thanks for some good points raised

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By *olidOak85Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"She wants to do it alone not in front of me

Let her then if that what she wants to do!! "

Exactly

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

"Recently on holiday after sex i left my girlfriend on the bed while I had a shower. I came out and she hadn’t realised... She was lying on the bed face down rubbing herself against the bed.. she looked up and said fuck.. then pretended she was trying to do the buttons up on her all in one too... she was so embarrassed but admitted to playing.. I was annoyed at first as I was there.. but she said she just needed a little rub to finish , not to cum but it felt nice and if she had asked me I would have wanted more sex and she was done and just wanted a quick rub... I was annoyed but looking back it was a massive turn on catching her and her shocked face.. anyone else had something similar?"

Never touch yourself while she was in another room

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Never touch yourself while she was in another room"

Nope

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

If you don't wank while she's in another room you must be the only man in existence that doesn't.

Someone's sexuality, desire and urges are their own. It doesn't matter if someone is male, female, in-between or undecided. Doesn't matter if they are married, single or partnered.

They don't owe you their body, sexuality or orgasm. They can choose to share it with you, and earlier that day she had done just that.

It doesn't mean she shouldn't be able to then wank when she wants.

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By *he-ProfessorMan
over a year ago

cheltenham

OP I think you might have missed a trick here, on a few occasions I've caught girlfriends & playmates having a bit of "alone time" and my reaction has always been to ask them to continue as if I wasn't there.

On each occasion I've learned something about what really stimulates them and used that knowledge to my advantage to heighten their pleasure when playing with them in the future.

Everyone wins that way

Sometimes ladies don't like to tell us guys what really works for them out of fear of hurting our most vulnerable feature, the fragile male ego

To be honest I also love watching a woman play with herself & never fell rejected if I stumble in on them having a little play, after all there is little better in this world than watching a women mid orgasm.... Mmmm

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP I think you might have missed a trick here, on a few occasions I've caught girlfriends & playmates having a bit of "alone time" and my reaction has always been to ask them to continue as if I wasn't there.

On each occasion I've learned something about what really stimulates them and used that knowledge to my advantage to heighten their pleasure when playing with them in the future.

Everyone wins that way

Sometimes ladies don't like to tell us guys what really works for them out of fear of hurting our most vulnerable feature, the fragile male ego

I love

That but she’s shy and doesn’t like to do it in front of me.. when d*unk she does but she’s very self conscious

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

annoyed ?

Who gave you the right to get annoyed when someone touches their own body ?

Do you believe that once you've been 'there' and you've finished then everyone else is finished and nothing else is needed.... ?

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By *ab jamesMan
over a year ago

ribble valley

Mate, it's best to leave them tied up for a while afterwards

Gives em time to reflect, on their lacklustre performance and how they can improve for next time.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

You're missing the point dude, this ain't about you.

You keep saying you could have joined, SHE DIDNT WANT YOU TO.

you keep saying she should have told you, SHE DIDN'T WANT TO.

you say you are comfortable with it, SHE IS SHY, NOT COMFORTABLE.

This is her body, her choice and if she wants to rub without telling you then she can. You may be comfortable being totally open however she has made it clear she is not.

Also if you think she's rubbing after sex with no goal, you're wrong. She either wants to cum or she wants a cool down. It's her vagina and she has all right to say when/how she plays with it.

I get that you say you felt rejected, do you feel you're rejecting her needs each time you masturbate? You just had sex, you weren't rejected at all.

(P2)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're missing the point dude, this ain't about you.

You keep saying you could have joined, SHE DIDNT WANT YOU TO.

you keep saying she should have told you, SHE DIDN'T WANT TO.

you say you are comfortable with it, SHE IS SHY, NOT COMFORTABLE.

This is her body, her choice and if she wants to rub without telling you then she can. You may be comfortable being totally open however she has made it clear she is not.

Also if you think she's rubbing after sex with no goal, you're wrong. She either wants to cum or she wants a cool down. It's her vagina and she has all right to say when/how she plays with it.

I get that you say you felt rejected, do you feel you're rejecting her needs each time you masturbate? You just had sex, you weren't rejected at all.

Yea your right she wanted a cool down play that makes sense .....

(P2)"

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

I’m always waking my husband up well the buzzing always wakes him up

...He loves it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m always waking my husband up well the buzzing always wakes him up

...He loves it "

Awesome

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By *hockwaves84Man
over a year ago

Swindon

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By *hockwaves84Man
over a year ago

Swindon

"Do you think she owes you her sexuality? If she wants to masturbate thats her own business. Nothing to do with you. Its a shame she feels she has to hide it from you and sneak one in while your in the shower.

Perhaps conside being a little less controlling."

Agree

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