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By *andyfloss2000 OP   Woman
over a year ago

ashford

So I've been chating to a bloke I met 3 years ago we had a coffee and agreed to meet again he then got Ill with cancer at his darkest times we spoke occasionally, then when he came out other side pre covid we were going to meet up but then covid so just chatted regular,talking to day he has met a local woman and it's going good hes going there for dinner tonight! But he did ask if we can still chat which I said of course we are friends and I'm happy for him but cant help but feel a little jeoulos if I'm honest! But hes a lovely fella and deserves happiness x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds perfectly natural to me to feel jealous but if you are not local to each other him meeting someone closer was always a possibility. Hopefully you can still stay friends (and it doesn't mean it'll work out with the local woman).

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

That's a shame for you. Unfortunately that's life. I've missed a lot of boats in my time. You just have to not lose heart and carry on.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

It wasn’t your boat. There’s another one due soon.

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By *andyfloss2000 OP   Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"Sounds perfectly natural to me to feel jealous but if you are not local to each other him meeting someone closer was always a possibility. Hopefully you can still stay friends (and it doesn't mean it'll work out with the local woman)."

Ohh yes I'm happy for him x

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By *andyfloss2000 OP   Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"That's a shame for you. Unfortunately that's life. I've missed a lot of boats in my time. You just have to not lose heart and carry on. "

Yes and I will for sure x

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By *andyfloss2000 OP   Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"It wasn’t your boat. There’s another one due soon. "

Yes there's allways lots of boats in the sea lol x

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I think people jump on the "there's no place for jealousy on fab" bandwagon waaaaay too easily.

Jealousy covers a huge spectrum of feelings and emotions and people slate it without actually understanding it or where it comes from.

I'm pretty sure you didn't go round his house and write "cunt" on his car bonnet with battery acid because you were jealous. I'm guessing it was more a pang of "awwwww man" followed by puppy dog eyes to yourself and then wishing him well and meaning it.

Perfectly natural, normal and healthy.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think there's a difference between out and out jealousy and wistfulness OP, and it sounds like you have the latter, that wishing them well, but wishing it was you thing.

The former can be quite ugly and unwelcome, the latter is a natural instinctive thing and there's nothing wrong with it if it's under control.

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By *andyfloss2000 OP   Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"I think there's a difference between out and out jealousy and wistfulness OP, and it sounds like you have the latter, that wishing them well, but wishing it was you thing.

The former can be quite ugly and unwelcome, the latter is a natural instinctive thing and there's nothing wrong with it if it's under control."

Ohh yes deffo the latter! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a missing boat note.. you didnt miss the race, it just wasnt your destination

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By *andyfloss2000 OP   Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"On a missing boat note.. you didnt miss the race, it just wasnt your destination "

True x

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I think people jump on the "there's no place for jealousy on fab" bandwagon waaaaay too easily.

Jealousy covers a huge spectrum of feelings and emotions and people slate it without actually understanding it or where it comes from.

I'm pretty sure you didn't go round his house and write "cunt" on his car bonnet with battery acid because you were jealous. I'm guessing it was more a pang of "awwwww man" followed by puppy dog eyes to yourself and then wishing him well and meaning it.

Perfectly natural, normal and healthy. "

Agreed. Jealousy is such an umbrella term widely applied and sometimes wrongly. Don't be too hard on your self for having the missed out pangs, I hope you find a good boat soon. x

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Aww sorry to read what you have been through

As others said it's natural to feel a bit envious

Stay friendly and be supportive if you can, I know it's hard z

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By *andyfloss2000 OP   Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"Aww sorry to read what you have been through

As others said it's natural to feel a bit envious

Stay friendly and be supportive if you can, I know it's hard z"

Ohh yes for sure will still chat we have for so long we tell each other stuff we probably wouldn't others and will remain friends x

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By *andyfloss2000 OP   Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"I think people jump on the "there's no place for jealousy on fab" bandwagon waaaaay too easily.

Jealousy covers a huge spectrum of feelings and emotions and people slate it without actually understanding it or where it comes from.

I'm pretty sure you didn't go round his house and write "cunt" on his car bonnet with battery acid because you were jealous. I'm guessing it was more a pang of "awwwww man" followed by puppy dog eyes to yourself and then wishing him well and meaning it.

Perfectly natural, normal and healthy. "

Yes u right think jeoulousy not the word I should have used maybe a little regretfull would have been a better term x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely understandable. So many maybe and what ifs... I learnt a lot form this quote sometime ago. Whether it’s a friendship or someone you want more from or someone you love what ever the context it applies. If it is...was was supposed to be perhaps sometime but not now.x

“Listen my friend, if one person doesn’t want the relationship, then it’s simply not a fit. No sense trying to figure out why they don’t want it. No sense blaming it on their commitment issues. No sense waiting around for them to realize they wanted it after all. Because it doesn’t matter why they don’t want it. What matters is that you are met heart-on by a fully engaged partner. If they don’t want it, then you don’t want it, because you don’t want to be with someone who isn’t there for it fully.

That’s the thing about love relationship— it’s an agreement that has to be signed by both souls. If one doesn’t sign, then nothing has been lost. If it’s not a fit for them, it’s not a fit for you either.“

Jeff Brown

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By *andyfloss2000 OP   Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"Completely understandable. So many maybe and what ifs... I learnt a lot form this quote sometime ago. Whether it’s a friendship or someone you want more from or someone you love what ever the context it applies. If it is...was was supposed to be perhaps sometime but not now.x

“Listen my friend, if one person doesn’t want the relationship, then it’s simply not a fit. No sense trying to figure out why they don’t want it. No sense blaming it on their commitment issues. No sense waiting around for them to realize they wanted it after all. Because it doesn’t matter why they don’t want it. What matters is that you are met heart-on by a fully engaged partner. If they don’t want it, then you don’t want it, because you don’t want to be with someone who isn’t there for it fully.

That’s the thing about love relationship— it’s an agreement that has to be signed by both souls. If one doesn’t sign, then nothing has been lost. If it’s not a fit for them, it’s not a fit for you either.“

Jeff Brown"

True for sure! X

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