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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Morning Fabbers, So as a single guy on fab who else has a hard time getting a response to messages? I know that you single ladies and couples get swamped with messages but how hard is it for a genuine guy to strike up a conversation! Any pointers from the fab elite out there?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Always read a profile before messaging and respect what is written on there. Don't just chance it or choose to ignore it.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

And remember, fab faq section states no response is no interest. When responding to messages or winks, any filters currently in place or put on in the future are broken, thus opening up to a possible barrage of why nots, trying to persuade us otherwise or outright abuse. I think ive just about covered everything there lol. Good luck OP.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Once they're up and running attend organised socials.

A big part of meeting for women is personal safety and how comfortable they feel in your company. I personally much prefer meeting people this way, as it's totally without pressure and you can tell if there's an attraction there without it being awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why should they respond?

What makes you stand out?

Is ypur message interesting? Flirty without being overly sexual?

Have you made them laugh?

Referenced their profile, so they know you read it?

Does your message look copy and pasted? Generic messages are pooh.

Have you added a face pic?

Have you asked a question? So they have something specific to respond to?

Do you have a decent profile?

Are you messaging people who are likely to be interested in you?

You will get out what you put in. ANY man can be successful on fab.

Lu

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you've had 3 meets so you can't be doing too badly.

Most of my messages have been off of forum posts - some are brief and some are ongoing. Sometimes I've messaged mentioning a status update they've done.Some have contacted me first.

I hate cold messaging without something to go on. Read their profile, look at a status update. Try to make the message as natural as possible showing some of your personality and make it relevant to the person you're contacting and don't push it.

Failing that just go with:

'Hey sexy, you're gorgeous but would look better with my cock inside you.'

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By *assion and MoreCouple
over a year ago

Here and There, Monaghan

We respond to messages that are respective not crude or vulgar

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Once they're up and running attend organised socials.

A big part of meeting for women is personal safety and how comfortable they feel in your company. I personally much prefer meeting people this way, as it's totally without pressure and you can tell if there's an attraction there without it being awkward. "

Seconded, and a nice evening out as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once they're up and running attend organised socials.

A big part of meeting for women is personal safety and how comfortable they feel in your company. I personally much prefer meeting people this way, as it's totally without pressure and you can tell if there's an attraction there without it being awkward.

Seconded, and a nice evening out as well. "

Agreed

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By *heekydevil69Man
over a year ago

Aberporth

Send a thousand winks out few cheeky messages if a woman likes what she sees she will message back or wink no matter how many men or women messaging her the lady will put you to the top if that happens keep her entertained and laughing it's rare I send the first message this method works for me I've met some lovely ladies on here just keep going but don't be a pest lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Send a thousand winks out few cheeky messages if a woman likes what she sees she will message back or wink no matter how many men or women messaging her the lady will put you to the top if that happens keep her entertained and laughing it's rare I send the first message this method works for me I've met some lovely ladies on here just keep going but don't be a pest lol "

This

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Send a thousand winks out few cheeky messages if a woman likes what she sees she will message back or wink no matter how many men or women messaging her the lady will put you to the top if that happens keep her entertained and laughing it's rare I send the first message this method works for me I've met some lovely ladies on here just keep going but don't be a pest lol

This "

Yes, this, then get blocked lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the response guys and girls. I am always respectful when sending out messages and always attach a face pic as i like to see who i am talking to and give the same back in return. I am not one to sexualise a first message as although this is a swingers site i prefer to start of on the right foot. i used to attend clubs before covid came to town but with everything thats gone on it has not been the easiest for everyone and i can appreciate that fully. So is there anyone that would like to converse and see if we get along lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the response guys and girls. I am always respectful when sending out messages and always attach a face pic as i like to see who i am talking to and give the same back in return. I am not one to sexualise a first message as although this is a swingers site i prefer to start of on the right foot. i used to attend clubs before covid came to town but with everything thats gone on it has not been the easiest for everyone and i can appreciate that fully. So is there anyone that would like to converse and see if we get along lol "

We are conversing with you

The forums are a great place yo get chatting to people!

Lu

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the response guys and girls. I am always respectful when sending out messages and always attach a face pic as i like to see who i am talking to and give the same back in return. I am not one to sexualise a first message as although this is a swingers site i prefer to start of on the right foot. i used to attend clubs before covid came to town but with everything thats gone on it has not been the easiest for everyone and i can appreciate that fully. So is there anyone that would like to converse and see if we get along lol

We are conversing with you

The forums are a great place yo get chatting to people!

Lu "

This is why i have put up a thread on the forum. Its nice to see a different perspective and some pointers to help a guy out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the response guys and girls. I am always respectful when sending out messages and always attach a face pic as i like to see who i am talking to and give the same back in return. I am not one to sexualise a first message as although this is a swingers site i prefer to start of on the right foot. i used to attend clubs before covid came to town but with everything thats gone on it has not been the easiest for everyone and i can appreciate that fully. So is there anyone that would like to converse and see if we get along lol

We are conversing with you

The forums are a great place yo get chatting to people!

Lu

This is why i have put up a thread on the forum. Its nice to see a different perspective and some pointers to help a guy out "

Get involved in the other threads...keep chatting on the forums and within a fee weeks you'll have made some friends

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the response guys and girls. I am always respectful when sending out messages and always attach a face pic as i like to see who i am talking to and give the same back in return. I am not one to sexualise a first message as although this is a swingers site i prefer to start of on the right foot. i used to attend clubs before covid came to town but with everything thats gone on it has not been the easiest for everyone and i can appreciate that fully. So is there anyone that would like to converse and see if we get along lol

We are conversing with you

The forums are a great place yo get chatting to people!

Lu

This is why i have put up a thread on the forum. Its nice to see a different perspective and some pointers to help a guy out

Get involved in the other threads...keep chatting on the forums and within a fee weeks you'll have made some friends "

I certainly will but where to start is the question. I have made some good friends through fab but im stuck down in London with work until early next year so looking to make new friends in and around london

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the response guys and girls. I am always respectful when sending out messages and always attach a face pic as i like to see who i am talking to and give the same back in return. I am not one to sexualise a first message as although this is a swingers site i prefer to start of on the right foot. i used to attend clubs before covid came to town but with everything thats gone on it has not been the easiest for everyone and i can appreciate that fully. So is there anyone that would like to converse and see if we get along lol

We are conversing with you

The forums are a great place yo get chatting to people!

Lu

This is why i have put up a thread on the forum. Its nice to see a different perspective and some pointers to help a guy out

Get involved in the other threads...keep chatting on the forums and within a fee weeks you'll have made some friends

I certainly will but where to start is the question. I have made some good friends through fab but im stuck down in London with work until early next year so looking to make new friends in and around london "

It takes time...don't be in such a rush.

Maybe pop up a thread in the introductions forum?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the response guys and girls. I am always respectful when sending out messages and always attach a face pic as i like to see who i am talking to and give the same back in return. I am not one to sexualise a first message as although this is a swingers site i prefer to start of on the right foot. i used to attend clubs before covid came to town but with everything thats gone on it has not been the easiest for everyone and i can appreciate that fully. So is there anyone that would like to converse and see if we get along lol

We are conversing with you

The forums are a great place yo get chatting to people!

Lu

This is why i have put up a thread on the forum. Its nice to see a different perspective and some pointers to help a guy out

Get involved in the other threads...keep chatting on the forums and within a fee weeks you'll have made some friends

I certainly will but where to start is the question. I have made some good friends through fab but im stuck down in London with work until early next year so looking to make new friends in and around london

It takes time...don't be in such a rush.

Maybe pop up a thread in the introductions forum? "

Good idea, and i am in no rush good things take time i know this

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

the issue I find with a lot of new forum users is they try to take the chat to PMs very quickly.

It's unnecessary and comes across impatient. A lot of people will observe from afar and try to work another person out by things that they say, or common ground they may have, and then decide they might get on well enough to take it to PMs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the issue I find with a lot of new forum users is they try to take the chat to PMs very quickly.

It's unnecessary and comes across impatient. A lot of people will observe from afar and try to work another person out by things that they say, or common ground they may have, and then decide they might get on well enough to take it to PMs.

"

Well said as usual P

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"the issue I find with a lot of new forum users is they try to take the chat to PMs very quickly.

It's unnecessary and comes across impatient. A lot of people will observe from afar and try to work another person out by things that they say, or common ground they may have, and then decide they might get on well enough to take it to PMs.

Well said as usual P "

Cheers cocka

Another thing, yes I'm on a roll, get involved with threads other people make.

Not gonna lie it can be daunting and you'll probably say something that gets an emoji at some point, we all do.

But it's a fact that the more you post over a spectrum of different subjects, the more people will learn about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the response guys and girls. I am always respectful when sending out messages and always attach a face pic as i like to see who i am talking to and give the same back in return. I am not one to sexualise a first message as although this is a swingers site i prefer to start of on the right foot. i used to attend clubs before covid came to town but with everything thats gone on it has not been the easiest for everyone and i can appreciate that fully. So is there anyone that would like to converse and see if we get along lol

We are conversing with you

The forums are a great place yo get chatting to people!

Lu

This is why i have put up a thread on the forum. Its nice to see a different perspective and some pointers to help a guy out

Get involved in the other threads...keep chatting on the forums and within a fee weeks you'll have made some friends

I certainly will but where to start is the question. I have made some good friends through fab but im stuck down in London with work until early next year so looking to make new friends in and around london "

Just look at the threads in The Lounge (other forums are available) and read the first post and responses. If a reply pops into your head then just post it. Look out for some of the games and join in with them.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

get involved with photo challenges too, they can be a great way of showing your personality and imagination.

And let's be honest... they're 2 things most women want in someone they're considering meet potential

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 09/09/20 11:43:51]"
Try again lol, I will take that onboard P thank you if anyone needs me i will be having a stroll through the forums

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"[Removed by poster at 09/09/20 11:43:51] Try again lol, I will take that onboard P thank you if anyone needs me i will be having a stroll through the forums "

That's the spirit

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"get involved with photo challenges too, they can be a great way of showing your personality and imagination.

And let's be honest... they're 2 things most women want in someone they're considering meet potential "
Two things i have plenty of so might just have to have a go. Not that easy though on a building site to run around taking selfies haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the same for most of the guys on here OP. I send v little mail now because most of what I have sent wasn’t read. Sincerity is hard to find in dating sites and fab is no exception. However I’m in no rush and know that a great match is out there

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By *adyHWoman
over a year ago

South Glos

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By *adyHWoman
over a year ago

South Glos

I like your profile and if you were local or local ish to me I would respond

I don’t use the forums as much as I probably should but I joined a thread the other day and luckily got chatting to a really lovely guy that I’ll hopefully get to meet in the future

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

You could try the regional cam rooms as well OP. X

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Nice eyes xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s the same for most of the guys on here OP. I send v little mail now because most of what I have sent wasn’t read. Sincerity is hard to find in dating sites and fab is no exception. However I’m in no rush and know that a great match is out there

"

I agree with this. It does take time.

Also lots of women reverse search images and depending how that comes out will determine whether they will respond

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like your profile and if you were local or local ish to me I would respond

I don’t use the forums as much as I probably should but I joined a thread the other day and luckily got chatting to a really lovely guy that I’ll hopefully get to meet in the future "
Hi LadyH, Thank you your profile is also very easy on the eye . Who knows i may be in bristol soon x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s the same for most of the guys on here OP. I send v little mail now because most of what I have sent wasn’t read. Sincerity is hard to find in dating sites and fab is no exception. However I’m in no rush and know that a great match is out there

I agree with this. It does take time.

Also lots of women reverse search images and depending how that comes out will determine whether they will respond "

I am not looking for instant meets i know it takes time but what is this reverse search im intrigued

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By *he sultan of swingMan
over a year ago

mid devon

I always but a really interesting subject that catches there i as they read the subject before the message when scrolling through that works somtimes

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By *he sultan of swingMan
over a year ago

mid devon

if admin made photo varfication mandatory it would save alot if hassle and drain the swap of all the fake accounts that are forever cropping up !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You could try the regional cam rooms as well OP. X"
I will give that a go

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if admin made photo varfication mandatory it would save alot if hassle and drain the swap of all the fake accounts that are forever cropping up !"
hahaha what are the chances just been to grab a drink and sultans of swing was on the radio

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

If a cold message (not from the forums) then first thing I do is check pics. So for me it's good pics and a friendly message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"if admin made photo varfication mandatory it would save alot if hassle and drain the swap of all the fake accounts that are forever cropping up ! hahaha what are the chances just been to grab a drink and sultans of swing was on the radio "
its the fakes that screw it up for the real ones

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By *he sultan of swingMan
over a year ago

mid devon

lol i bet it absolute radio?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If a cold message (not from the forums) then first thing I do is check pics. So for me it's good pics and a friendly message."
Hi Annabelle, Nice profile. Friendly messages is what you can expect from me good pics well you will have to let me know lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"lol i bet it absolute radio? "
I think you could be right

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

guys have been here for years with no meets you have 3 so chill..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"guys have been here for years with no meets you have 3 so chill.."
I understand what you are saying. But if there are areas where i am going wrong i would like a little insight into what it could possibly be

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By *heGentleman2024Man
over a year ago

North West

It is quite difficult for us Single men on here..

All i will say to you OP is write a bit about yourself.. When messaging someone always read their profile and try making an effort in what they are looking for etc.. always send face pictures and more than anything just be yourself...

I feel sorry for the women and couples on here.. the faceless empty profiles from single men and the down right odd messages they send is too much.. good luck.. feel free to look at mine.. the more women will see your not an oddball the more likely they will respond + attraction

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"If a cold message (not from the forums) then first thing I do is check pics. So for me it's good pics and a friendly message. Hi Annabelle, Nice profile. Friendly messages is what you can expect from me good pics well you will have to let me know lol "

Hey...I liked your profile and your pics. There's not many but I like your look.

Some may not like a cock shot but I do...depends how it's taken.

And thanks glad you liked

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By *he sultan of swingMan
over a year ago

mid devon

The ratio doesn't help theres probably 10 men to every 1 women on here so for the women its probably exhusting I wouldn't take it personally its just fab for u pal

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"The ratio doesn't help theres probably 10 men to every 1 women on here so for the women its probably exhusting I wouldn't take it personally its just fab for u pal "

More like 100:1. And a lot of them are pushy pushy spam merchants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how hard is it for a genuine guy to strike up a conversation? "

It's very hard OP, and the two skills you'll need is patience and persistence. If you're easily knocked back, this won't be a productive experience.

The sheer volume of messages single ladies a lot of couples receive is simply overwhelming. There is a much greater chance that your message will not be read, regardless of how good it is.

Try sending the message when they are online... you may find it's more likely to be read. When was the profile last active? A few hours, days or weeks ago?

Of the profiles that interest you, write to those for whom you're a good match for any criteria they have specified. Is any distance between you realistic? 10 miles is probably acceptable to most... 410 miles? Not so much.

If your message is read, make it interesting. Demonstrate you've read their profile. Explain why you're interested in them, and why they might be interested in you. Attach a photo (NOT your cock) and avoid crudeness. Polite and respectful will never cause offence, coarseness often can.

Be yourself, be honest, be robust. Your balls will get more activity by being kicked than played with here, so toughen up.

And remember, expectation is the mother of disappointment. Expect nothing.

Magic can happen here, and when it does the hard graft, the disappointments, the knockmbacks make that magic even more pleasurable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"guys have been here for years with no meets you have 3 so chill.. I understand what you are saying. But if there are areas where i am going wrong i would like a little insight into what it could possibly be "

I completely agree fully loaded. You put your all into talking then half the time the women end up leaving kik.

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By *adyHWoman
over a year ago

South Glos


"I like your profile and if you were local or local ish to me I would respond

I don’t use the forums as much as I probably should but I joined a thread the other day and luckily got chatting to a really lovely guy that I’ll hopefully get to meet in the future Hi LadyH, Thank you your profile is also very easy on the eye . Who knows i may be in bristol soon x "

My luck could be in then

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If a cold message (not from the forums) then first thing I do is check pics. So for me it's good pics and a friendly message. Hi Annabelle, Nice profile. Friendly messages is what you can expect from me good pics well you will have to let me know lol

Hey...I liked your profile and your pics. There's not many but I like your look.

Some may not like a cock shot but I do...depends how it's taken.

And thanks glad you liked "
Glad you like it i have a few more in friends only if you would like to see x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"how hard is it for a genuine guy to strike up a conversation?

It's very hard OP, and the two skills you'll need is patience and persistence. If you're easily knocked back, this won't be a productive experience.

The sheer volume of messages single ladies a lot of couples receive is simply overwhelming. There is a much greater chance that your message will not be read, regardless of how good it is.

Try sending the message when they are online... you may find it's more likely to be read. When was the profile last active? A few hours, days or weeks ago?

Of the profiles that interest you, write to those for whom you're a good match for any criteria they have specified. Is any distance between you realistic? 10 miles is probably acceptable to most... 410 miles? Not so much.

If your message is read, make it interesting. Demonstrate you've read their profile. Explain why you're interested in them, and why they might be interested in you. Attach a photo (NOT your cock) and avoid crudeness. Polite and respectful will never cause offence, coarseness often can.

Be yourself, be honest, be robust. Your balls will get more activity by being kicked than played with here, so toughen up.

And remember, expectation is the mother of disappointment. Expect nothing.

Magic can happen here, and when it does the hard graft, the disappointments, the knockmbacks make that magic even more pleasurable."
Ohhh i am fully aware of the magic that fab can produce but thank you for the words of wisdom. i will be sure to employ some of those tactics moving forward. actually laughed out loud reading the part about the balls being kicked rather than played with

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By *hy-Guy-86Man
over a year ago

Norwich


"Morning Fabbers, So as a single guy on fab who else has a hard time getting a response to messages? I know that you single ladies and couples get swamped with messages but how hard is it for a genuine guy to strike up a conversation! Any pointers from the fab elite out there? "

When you figure it out, please share it with me too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like your profile and if you were local or local ish to me I would respond

I don’t use the forums as much as I probably should but I joined a thread the other day and luckily got chatting to a really lovely guy that I’ll hopefully get to meet in the future Hi LadyH, Thank you your profile is also very easy on the eye . Who knows i may be in bristol soon x

My luck could be in then "
I would certainly hope so. fullyloaded on the phone to his boss.... Got any work in bristol?? x

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"It is quite difficult for us Single men on here..

All i will say to you OP is write a bit about yourself.. When messaging someone always read their profile and try making an effort in what they are looking for etc.. always send face pictures and more than anything just be yourself...

I feel sorry for the women and couples on here.. the faceless empty profiles from single men and the down right odd messages they send is too much.. good luck.. feel free to look at mine.. the more women will see your not an oddball the more likely they will respond + attraction "

That's so true.

I spotted this fella ^ in the forums and my eyebrow raised with interest after seeing some of the things he had written, and his thought process

I'd be happy to spend time with him as he seems a cool cat and one day I may even bang him.

All that from the way he carries himself on the forums and in messages.

Plus his pics have personality

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By *adyHWoman
over a year ago

South Glos


"I like your profile and if you were local or local ish to me I would respond

I don’t use the forums as much as I probably should but I joined a thread the other day and luckily got chatting to a really lovely guy that I’ll hopefully get to meet in the future Hi LadyH, Thank you your profile is also very easy on the eye . Who knows i may be in bristol soon x

My luck could be in then I would certainly hope so. fullyloaded on the phone to his boss.... Got any work in bristol?? x "

Good plan! Proactive, I like it

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Some basics:

Be nice,

No means no,

Ladies like a guy with humour (well, most of them).

Let your personality shine through.

Be patient.

Grow thick skin.

.

That's for starters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like your profile and if you were local or local ish to me I would respond

I don’t use the forums as much as I probably should but I joined a thread the other day and luckily got chatting to a really lovely guy that I’ll hopefully get to meet in the future Hi LadyH, Thank you your profile is also very easy on the eye . Who knows i may be in bristol soon x

My luck could be in then I would certainly hope so. fullyloaded on the phone to his boss.... Got any work in bristol?? x

Good plan! Proactive, I like it "
On my way to bristol now urgent job come in

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is quite difficult for us Single men on here..

All i will say to you OP is write a bit about yourself.. When messaging someone always read their profile and try making an effort in what they are looking for etc.. always send face pictures and more than anything just be yourself...

I feel sorry for the women and couples on here.. the faceless empty profiles from single men and the down right odd messages they send is too much.. good luck.. feel free to look at mine.. the more women will see your not an oddball the more likely they will respond + attraction "
I missed this one but your exactly right in what your saying with regards to the odd balls there are rather alot i have noticed but all we can be is ourselves

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some basics:

Be nice, Always

No means no, Goes without saying

Ladies like a guy with humour (well, most of them). Think i have that one covered

Let your personality shine through.I try

Be patient. like a saint

Grow thick skin. like an elephant

.

That's for starters. "

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

One of the most common things guys do that puts us off even replying is that a lot of them have literally nothing to say.

Messages like "Hi", "How are you?" and "What are you up to?" do not constitute a conversation. It sounds like the sender wants us to lead the conversation, which we're not going to if they contacted us first.

I think one of the golden rules of messaging is have something to say or don't bother contacting somebody.

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By *heGentleman2024Man
over a year ago

North West


"It is quite difficult for us Single men on here..

All i will say to you OP is write a bit about yourself.. When messaging someone always read their profile and try making an effort in what they are looking for etc.. always send face pictures and more than anything just be yourself...

I feel sorry for the women and couples on here.. the faceless empty profiles from single men and the down right odd messages they send is too much.. good luck.. feel free to look at mine.. the more women will see your not an oddball the more likely they will respond + attraction

That's so true.

I spotted this fella ^ in the forums and my eyebrow raised with interest after seeing some of the things he had written, and his thought process

I'd be happy to spend time with him as he seems a cool cat and one day I may even bang him.

All that from the way he carries himself on the forums and in messages.

Plus his pics have personality

"

Oh wow...now thats put a smile on my face...

Xx

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By *adyHWoman
over a year ago

South Glos


"I like your profile and if you were local or local ish to me I would respond

I don’t use the forums as much as I probably should but I joined a thread the other day and luckily got chatting to a really lovely guy that I’ll hopefully get to meet in the future Hi LadyH, Thank you your profile is also very easy on the eye . Who knows i may be in bristol soon x

My luck could be in then I would certainly hope so. fullyloaded on the phone to his boss.... Got any work in bristol?? x

Good plan! Proactive, I like it On my way to bristol now urgent job come in "

Result

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"One of the most common things guys do that puts us off even replying is that a lot of them have literally nothing to say.

Messages like "Hi", "How are you?" and "What are you up to?" do not constitute a conversation. It sounds like the sender wants us to lead the conversation, which we're not going to if they contacted us first.

I think one of the golden rules of messaging is have something to say or don't bother contacting somebody. "
I agree with you on that one. if i wanted you to lead the conversation i would wait for you to message me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like your profile and if you were local or local ish to me I would respond

I don’t use the forums as much as I probably should but I joined a thread the other day and luckily got chatting to a really lovely guy that I’ll hopefully get to meet in the future Hi LadyH, Thank you your profile is also very easy on the eye . Who knows i may be in bristol soon x

My luck could be in then I would certainly hope so. fullyloaded on the phone to his boss.... Got any work in bristol?? x

Good plan! Proactive, I like it On my way to bristol now urgent job come in

Result "
Not sure what the job is yet though! Something about a broken light in your bedroom i think it was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd I told you I'd have to kill you, competition and all that....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To add to all the great advice and input from all, OP also remember that both couples and ladies receive an enormous amount of messages and quite often simply never actually get to what you might have sent. Be respectful, dont badger them and simply try again in a couple of weeks.

Oh and get out to clubs or socials to meet people. You will be surprised how much fun they are socially and how many more swingers connections you will make. Don't rely just on Fab... this is not Tinder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd I told you I'd have to kill you, competition and all that.... "

If*

(chicks love a guy who can't type, it's that vulnerability thing.... )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd I told you I'd have to kill you, competition and all that....

If*

(chicks love a guy who can't type, it's that vulnerability thing.... )"

Almost as much as they love being called "chicks"... lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To add to all the great advice and input from all, OP also remember that both couples and ladies receive an enormous amount of messages and quite often simply never actually get to what you might have sent. Be respectful, dont badger them and simply try again in a couple of weeks.

Oh and get out to clubs or socials to meet people. You will be surprised how much fun they are socially and how many more swingers connections you will make. Don't rely just on Fab... this is not Tinder "
I know i do attend clubs but with everything thats going on with the world all the clubs i did go to are still shut but i do very much enjoy the club scene

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd I told you I'd have to kill you, competition and all that....

If*

(chicks love a guy who can't type, it's that vulnerability thing.... )

Almost as much as they love being called "chicks"... lol"
Do tell i can keep a secret

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd I told you I'd have to kill you, competition and all that....

If*

(chicks love a guy who can't type, it's that vulnerability thing.... )

Almost as much as they love being called "chicks"... lol"

Thanks for the advice and not seeing the humour in my words. I'm good though. Hope you get some sex soon.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd I told you I'd have to kill you, competition and all that....

If*

(chicks love a guy who can't type, it's that vulnerability thing.... )

Almost as much as they love being called "chicks"... lol

Thanks for the advice and not seeing the humour in my words. I'm good though. Hope you get some sex soon..... "
What advice you wont tell me!! Share the wealth i wont say a word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd I told you I'd have to kill you, competition and all that....

If*

(chicks love a guy who can't type, it's that vulnerability thing.... )

Almost as much as they love being called "chicks"... lol

Thanks for the advice and not seeing the humour in my words. I'm good though. Hope you get some sex soon..... What advice you wont tell me!! Share the wealth i wont say a word "

Haha, the best advice I can give you is not to suck up to ppl who aren't worthy and not to give too much of a shit about what others do or say. Just be uniquely yourself, try to stay positive and never let go of your sense of humour. Stay fussy fella....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd I told you I'd have to kill you, competition and all that....

If*

(chicks love a guy who can't type, it's that vulnerability thing.... )

Almost as much as they love being called "chicks"... lol

Thanks for the advice and not seeing the humour in my words. I'm good though. Hope you get some sex soon..... What advice you wont tell me!! Share the wealth i wont say a word

Haha, the best advice I can give you is not to suck up to ppl who aren't worthy and not to give too much of a shit about what others do or say. Just be uniquely yourself, try to stay positive and never let go of your sense of humour. Stay fussy fella.... "
Good advice that i am already following You too mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd I told you I'd have to kill you, competition and all that....

If*

(chicks love a guy who can't type, it's that vulnerability thing.... )

Almost as much as they love being called "chicks"... lol

Thanks for the advice and not seeing the humour in my words. I'm good though. Hope you get some sex soon..... "

My humour was clearly lost on you... didn't you see the "lol". And thank you... I will.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd I told you I'd have to kill you, competition and all that....

If*

(chicks love a guy who can't type, it's that vulnerability thing.... )

Almost as much as they love being called "chicks"... lol

Thanks for the advice and not seeing the humour in my words. I'm good though. Hope you get some sex soon.....

My humour was clearly lost on you... didn't you see the "lol". And thank you... I will."
Sorry mate,new to the whole forum thing thought it was a post from the same persons post but yeah i did see the lol

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By *adyHWoman
over a year ago

South Glos


"I like your profile and if you were local or local ish to me I would respond

I don’t use the forums as much as I probably should but I joined a thread the other day and luckily got chatting to a really lovely guy that I’ll hopefully get to meet in the future Hi LadyH, Thank you your profile is also very easy on the eye . Who knows i may be in bristol soon x

My luck could be in then I would certainly hope so. fullyloaded on the phone to his boss.... Got any work in bristol?? x

Good plan! Proactive, I like it On my way to bristol now urgent job come in

Result Not sure what the job is yet though! Something about a broken light in your bedroom i think it was "

Consider several lights now broken

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like your profile and if you were local or local ish to me I would respond

I don’t use the forums as much as I probably should but I joined a thread the other day and luckily got chatting to a really lovely guy that I’ll hopefully get to meet in the future Hi LadyH, Thank you your profile is also very easy on the eye . Who knows i may be in bristol soon x

My luck could be in then I would certainly hope so. fullyloaded on the phone to his boss.... Got any work in bristol?? x

Good plan! Proactive, I like it On my way to bristol now urgent job come in

Result Not sure what the job is yet though! Something about a broken light in your bedroom i think it was

Consider several lights now broken "
Best bring my tool belt along with me then. Where would you like me to start aha x

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