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Why do people just send a friend requeat?

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By *ilacbeast OP   Couple
over a year ago

Taunton

This has been bugging me for quite a while,

in my mind, you like the look of person, wink or message. Chat a bit see how it goes, then add as friend.

Don't jump in with friendship!

So send them a message. No response... Ever!

Gr!

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By *ilacbeast OP   Couple
over a year ago

Taunton

And I realise the spelling mistake hangs head in shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people who do this are picture collectors.

I ALWAYS refuse unexpected friend requests.

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By *ayb1970Man
over a year ago

Somerset

What about when someone winks you and you wink them,then you become freinds but then they never chat or mail you?

whats that all about then?.

Jay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even though we actually say on our profile that we don't like friends invites out of the blue without so much as a message we still get them (had one this morning in fact). We used to reply that we don't accept these until after a meet, but now, as the person so clearly hasn't read our profile we just ignore them completely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the block button is also good, we delete the request then block the person

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By *atureFem4FunWoman
over a year ago

Petts Wood


"What about when someone winks you and you wink them,then you become freinds but then they never chat or mail you?

whats that all about then?.

Jay "

They change their mind about you after chatting with you?

Just a thought....

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By *exy_couple_now_mancCouple
over a year ago

Oldham

We block them we had a few early on they never talk just keep popping up pervin at your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea why they do it or at least the repeaters anyway but I blocked one couple after about the 8th request. Just to clarify, normally those who random friendship request that get deleted, don't come back but this couple were persistently doing it several times every weekend for about a month, on the last occasion I checked their status; had they read mine they would have noticed that I wasn't free unlike them so I blocked them. I have also blocked a single male that kept doing it on a weekly basis too.

Every couple of months, I go through my friendship list and delete those I haven't chatted to since it was accepted, or I am not really interested in meeting and those that have not logged on for several months.

Then I go and make a nice cup of tea and wander off onto the forums without giving them another thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would check out unsolicited winks and friends invite, and if I have no intention of getting to know the sender, then I would block them.

Easy, no sweat, and I certainly won't let them wind me up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it really that big an issue?

Just hit 'delete all friend requests' and they are gone ....simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people who do this are picture collectors.

I ALWAYS refuse unexpected friend requests. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly because they are pic collectors, lazy or just plain stupid! I think it's the height of rudeness. At least mail and if you get on then send a friend request. Perhaps they think they get a prize for having the most friends. Weird.

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

Can I send you all friend requests? It will save actually having to get to know you all?

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By *ont Ask Dont GetWoman
over a year ago

amersham

Everyone uses the site differently. I send friend requests occasionally if I am really short of time at that moment or if I like the sound of someone and want to see their private pics before starting any contact. If there is no attraction then noone has wasted any time, had their hopes raised (much anyway)or lost anything.

Don't get offended by folks contacting me in a way that suits them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nothing like setting your pictures to private to bring the friend requests in.

It's annoying because it's plainly written on our profile that we will not accept them - but they send them anyway.

If they can't abide by your wishes on a profile how could you be expected to trust them on a meeting for sex basis?

Doubt they'd respect your boundaries in the slightest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This has been bugging me for quite a while,

in my mind, you like the look of person, wink or message. Chat a bit see how it goes, then add as friend.

Don't jump in with friendship!

So send them a message. No response... Ever!

Gr!"

pic collectors. they think you accept them they will see more pics. simple.

no other reason is there?

especially when they are from people miles away...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find they are often under my age restriction so they think its a way of getting round that...it doesn't work!

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I rarely delete mine. If you delete they can send another, if you leave it they have to wait a month...

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Because they can!

We only check friends requests if we are expecting to receive one from someone we have been chatting with.

Rest of the time we just do a mass delete once a week. Problem solved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always say you can't have enough friends - but then again I'm Billy No Mates!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This does annoy us too! Friend requests without so much a hello! We delete ours but after reading an above post night leave them for a bit, as didn't realise they could send another one straight away!

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

We don't tend to keep people on friends list unless they are. Prefer using pm of private pic(s). A complete stranger having access that may not result in a meet isn't how we roll.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always say you can't have enough friends - but then again I'm Billy No Mates!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only add people that we have met or intend to meet! Plus we have a few fellow forum users that we pm,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

get a few of guys who think i "forgot" to put gay on my profile

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By *ady n the trampCouple
over a year ago

Chudleigh


"What about when someone winks you and you wink them,then you become freinds but then they never chat or mail you?

whats that all about then?.

Jay

They change their mind about you after chatting with you?

Just a thought...."
not everybodys as friendly as us devon folk jane lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I never accept unless we hav spoken and we intend to meet or hav met

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

Looking at where you live I don't think I would send anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"get a few of guys who think i "forgot" to put gay on my profile "

Put happy, that'll confuse em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have big fingers and when viewing on my IPad or iPhone I press the invite as friend instead of hotlist as these are next to each other!!!

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By *ayb1970Man
over a year ago

Somerset

no they dont chat just send a wink then a friend invite,which i accept and then nothing even if i send them a message ...it goes no further?

Jay

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By *ayb1970Man
over a year ago

Somerset

yes Devonians are pretty friendly lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people who do this are picture collectors.

I ALWAYS refuse unexpected friend requests. "

+1 so do we.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll have a nosey at the profile if I have time before I hit delete. If they have no pics and I don't know them it's an instant delete. If they do have private pics I'll often play them at their own game...accept the invite, look at the pic, and then delete them if I don't like what I see! x

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