FabSwingers.com forum: How’s your mental health?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A few months ago I made a post about my mental health, thought I’d give a wee update.

Still medicated to fuck, but my PND has...levelled

out. I still have some stressful moments, some moments where I need to leave the room and lie down because if I don’t I’ll end up shouting and screaming, but it’s so much better than previously.

Starting to get anxious again though and more stressed out and feeling down more often - hubby is due to go back to work soon (he has some health issues so is speaking to his OC health about all this) and I don’t know how I’ll cope without him. He’s been working from home since the beginning of March, and although he’s been super busy these last few weeks so hasn’t really been helping out as much (which, is fine! He’s working) I’m still stressing and ugh.

I know I’ll be fine, I have no choice but to be fine. But I still worry.

And I was referred to the mental health team through my local GP....back in May. And I still haven’t heard anything. So I’m gonna be following up on that and questioning it, and hopefully get the ball rolling.

So, how is your mental health?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

OH - and I’m also not suicidal

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over a year ago

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I do think I need to go back on meds (been off them 2 n half years)

But, I'm feeling more positive today than I have done in months

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do think I need to go back on meds (been off them 2 n half years)

But, I'm feeling more positive today than I have done in months "

I’m proud of you, I really am

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Love you Daddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are doing a fantastic job and the best you can.

I hope you hear from the mental health team soon, maybe worth a follow-up call.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's not something I talk about openly but if you'd ever like to chat my inbox is open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think I need to go back on meds (been off them 2 n half years)

But, I'm feeling more positive today than I have done in months "

Thats brilliant, might still worth a chat with your GP. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get lonely sometimes, and thats when its hard for me. But on the whole im good, thanks for asking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alart from your husband, do you have any fsmily and friends as a support network?

Being alone with a little one can be really isolating, and I found getting out to toddler groups made a big difference, talking to other women going through similar stages.

Still friends with them now, years later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Moods still bob around a bit on a daily basis (started level, dipped to the not quite 'everything is pointless' feeling and now my mind is bouncing on a trampoline while blowing raspberries). Been anxious over whether I should or shouldn't do something.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Alart from your husband, do you have any fsmily and friends as a support network?

Being alone with a little one can be really isolating, and I found getting out to toddler groups made a big difference, talking to other women going through similar stages.

Still friends with them now, years later."

Sort of - my parents work full time, hubby’s parents is a ‘meh’ topic. Me and my granny used to go out for lunch once a week before lockdown started, hoping we can start that up again soon.

We’re really close with my BIL and SIL (if anyone reads this who knows me will know how bloody weird that is!) but BIL is now at college and still working, SIL doesn’t work but lives 45 mins away (three busses to see her) and doesn’t drive, so it’s a bit meh

I have some ‘mummy’ friends, but they’re all going back to work now, met them all while they were on maternity leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Alart from your husband, do you have any fsmily and friends as a support network?

Being alone with a little one can be really isolating, and I found getting out to toddler groups made a big difference, talking to other women going through similar stages.

Still friends with them now, years later.

Sort of - my parents work full time, hubby’s parents is a ‘meh’ topic. Me and my granny used to go out for lunch once a week before lockdown started, hoping we can start that up again soon.

I have some ‘mummy’ friends, but they’re all going back to work now, met them all while they were on maternity leave"

Are toddler groups back up and running where you are?

That might be good and you can make new connections.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Alart from your husband, do you have any fsmily and friends as a support network?

Being alone with a little one can be really isolating, and I found getting out to toddler groups made a big difference, talking to other women going through similar stages.

Still friends with them now, years later.

Sort of - my parents work full time, hubby’s parents is a ‘meh’ topic. Me and my granny used to go out for lunch once a week before lockdown started, hoping we can start that up again soon.

I have some ‘mummy’ friends, but they’re all going back to work now, met them all while they were on maternity leave

Are toddler groups back up and running where you are?

That might be good and you can make new connections. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You are doing a fantastic job and the best you can.

I hope you hear from the mental health team soon, maybe worth a follow-up call.

Xx"

thank you xx

And yeah I’m gonna phone the GP tomorrow, I need to get my MRI results anyway xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Alart from your husband, do you have any fsmily and friends as a support network?

Being alone with a little one can be really isolating, and I found getting out to toddler groups made a big difference, talking to other women going through similar stages.

Still friends with them now, years later.

Sort of - my parents work full time, hubby’s parents is a ‘meh’ topic. Me and my granny used to go out for lunch once a week before lockdown started, hoping we can start that up again soon.

I have some ‘mummy’ friends, but they’re all going back to work now, met them all while they were on maternity leave

Are toddler groups back up and running where you are?

That might be good and you can make new connections.

I know its the same but maybe see if any are running zoom sessions.

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

Her Majesty Queen Leviosa (hmm too formal), OP (hmm too impersonal), HMQL (just right?), I sincerely hope you do get some help with your mental health (MH), left untreated it quickly spiral out of control, you should be able to self-refer to your local MH Team but through your GP should speed up the process, possible delays due to COVID, but make it clear to them that you desperately need help, maybe your baba's health visitor could contact the MH Team too? If you're restricted for time there should be an online counselling service available to you where you chat online to a therapist once a week. Keep pushing for help, research group therapy sessions, mum & toddler groups, coffee mornings to get you out the house and with other people who you can talk to.

I had a almost successful suicide attempt January 2018, 2 days in hospital, 2 weeks volunteered holiday in a MH Unit, seen by the Community MH Team every 2 weeks for about 8 months, my Psychiatric Nurse knew how much I was struggling with depression & anxiety & no self-esteem, and that I was avoiding leaving my flat unless it was necessary, fearing seeing anybody I knew incase they asked me how I was or why I tried to end my life. But she got another job and her bosses discharged me because they thought I was well enough to not need their help anymore, they were wrong, I stopped leaving my flat & started to get all my groceries delivered & my meds delivered also, so I didn't have to leave my flat, except to empty my bin at 4am when I knew nobody would see me. I've been agoraphobic for about 18 months now, with no family of friends to talk to. The only human interaction I have is the Fab forums, I've given up on living my life & having a happy future, I just exist from one day to the next, with the smallest hope that one day I will feel better & maybe be happy again & have something or someone to look forward to. Don't end up like me... I'm fucked up!

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