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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How often do you send a message to single men who haven’t sent you one first?

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

have done this a number of times! only if the profile has caught my eye , interest and imagionation

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

It depends how often I have done a search generally, though there are odd exceptions when I have stumbled across someone interesting via a different means.

I search every week or so and that may result on 1 message being sent or 10+ messages being send.... depends what I find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

True I'm confident enough to make the first move if anyone's profile caught my eye guys girls couples it's all in the name of fun afterall

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I never have.. Takes all my time trying to get through my inbox

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I've sent one. I'm extremely lucky to have had several meets with the few I have met here so I don't really need to search. I'm still inundated with messages and sifting through them all is nightmare enough!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never ever send a message unless l feel in a good mood and thank some for a wink lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I have no problems at all in contacting someone if they interest me

I find its sometimes far better to look for what you like rather than wait for it to come to you

They can only say no

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"How often do you send a message to single men who haven’t sent you one first?

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Never!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I have no problems at all in contacting someone if they interest me

I find its sometimes far better to look for what you like rather than wait for it to come to you

They can only say no

"

On specialist sites I don't have a problem, on here I have to wait for them to find me as few admit to being sub as they know many see them as sissys, which is far from the truth.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"I have no problems at all in contacting someone if they interest me

I find its sometimes far better to look for what you like rather than wait for it to come to you

They can only say no

"

Indeed......... and there is all the fun of window shopping.

Some day I find my inbox depressing, it's full of people who haven't read my profile, don't match what I am looking for or who have an empty profile and no idea how to communicate...... what a waste of my time and effort sifting through that pile of shit. Yet a quick search can produce a tasty selection box.

I am always amazed at the number of women who just don't feel they can cope with the rejection if the tables were turned and they had no choice but to send out messages to guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have no problems at all in contacting someone if they interest me

I find its sometimes far better to look for what you like rather than wait for it to come to you

They can only say no

"

u can say nothing...I'm throat gagging ya..

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"I have no problems at all in contacting someone if they interest me

I find its sometimes far better to look for what you like rather than wait for it to come to you

They can only say no

Indeed......... and there is all the fun of window shopping.

Some day I find my inbox depressing, it's full of people who haven't read my profile, don't match what I am looking for or who have an empty profile and no idea how to communicate...... what a waste of my time and effort sifting through that pile of shit. Yet a quick search can produce a tasty selection box.

I am always amazed at the number of women who just don't feel they can cope with the rejection if the tables were turned and they had no choice but to send out messages to guys."

Ah you saved me typing that as id just deleted what I was going to say

So many people moan about the state of the messages they get from all the unsuitables.......then save yourself time from sorting yout inbox out and find what you want!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How often do you send a message to single men who haven’t sent you one first?

Never!"

u lie...u sent me a spitroast mail...maybe i misread and it was about some kinda cooking thread..

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Ohhhhh yes!

Not often, usually when I'm bored, horny and none of my regulars can come out to play. Then I have a good fettle through the lists and mail bomb lots of totty.

Quiet funny how many wuss out when it's the fem that's doing the chasing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have yet to ping a first unsolicited message to a gent asking if he is interested in playing with me.

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By *ikkiBWoman
over a year ago

Falkirk

Once and the guy blanked me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have initiated contact with about half of my "friends". I have spotted them in the forums or when doing a search and liked what they have said in their profiles and have taken a chance and mailed them. Most of the ones I have contacted have become regulars so it has worked well for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not proactive when it comes to messaging guys - I just look at what arrives in my inbox though maybe in time my approach may change.

As an aside, am I the only female on this site who does not receive stacks of messages every day, hmmmm....

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I'm not proactive when it comes to messaging guys - I just look at what arrives in my inbox though maybe in time my approach may change.

As an aside, am I the only female on this site who does not receive stacks of messages every day, hmmmm....

Nope, I no longer get lots of mail. I had put it down to my policy of polite but firm answers to those I'm not interested in. Perhaps it's cos I smell...

Who knows, but it does free me up to browse and pounce

"

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By *ush_tushWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

When I can't get an FB to play and am damn horni, I will search for someone very appealing. And I have been known to put a"meet up today" flag too, this worked fairly well too

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By *acciWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not proactive when it comes to messaging guys - I just look at what arrives in my inbox though maybe in time my approach may change.

As an aside, am I the only female on this site who does not receive stacks of messages every day, hmmmm....

"

I don't get any unsolicited mail. I'm happy that way!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"How often do you send a message to single men who haven’t sent you one first?

"

Not a single female but thought I would still answer.

I have and do send messages to single men that catch my eye.

Sometimes they reply and sometimes they don't. (Same as couples and single ladies)

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

i have never received a mail from a single lady or couple saying would you be interested.....

tbh i know that there are more suitable gents out there and i am cool with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I do if there is something that has appealed to me

It is a misconception that ladies get 100 plus messages a day from different men so its nice to look sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fab nice pics, I wink at nice profiles and I message a nice guy occasionally.

I never used to message them, but I think I've been on this site so long I'm running out of options locally!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have no problems at all in contacting someone if they interest me

I find its sometimes far better to look for what you like rather than wait for it to come to you

They can only say no

Indeed......... and there is all the fun of window shopping.

Some day I find my inbox depressing, it's full of people who haven't read my profile, don't match what I am looking for or who have an empty profile and no idea how to communicate...... what a waste of my time and effort sifting through that pile of shit. Yet a quick search can produce a tasty selection box.

I am always amazed at the number of women who just don't feel they can cope with the rejection if the tables were turned and they had no choice but to send out messages to guys."

I totally agree. A lot of women will say 'oh I don't need to look, I've got loads messaging me', as if other women who choose to look don't.

Women who search and send messages to me are confident and know what they are looking for and are happy to send out messages. I see it as much more positive than sitting back and making do with who messages you.

We all reject people therefore we shouldn't have a problem with rejection ourselves.

I see it as a lack of confidence to just sit back, unless of course you have a very specialised way of how you play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often message men first if I see one I like the look of. There's no point acting all shy and retiring now is there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never, i will on occassion wink tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never.

I have never made first contact.

I wait till men mesage me that why i know they are interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often message men first if I see one I like the look of. There's no point acting all shy and retiring now is there? "

And considering the number of times we see women commenting in the forums about the sheer number of messages they have to deal with - and the poor quality of content and intention - then surely the easiest way to combat this is to block all single guys, browse profiles and message those that catch your eye!

No better way than to control your own activities and interactions!

Or would that possibly dent a few ego's that are used to the attention?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"never, i will on occassion wink tho "

always nice to meet a fellow winker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never winked anyone either.

I've lead a sheltered fab life lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never winked anyone either.

I've lead a sheltered fab life lol"

yeahyeah, uve just winked at me...or was it just something in ur eye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it better when a man is straight to the point

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

There are two ways to aquire pheasant.... go out and get the one you want or scoup up some roadkill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are two ways to aquire pheasant.... go out and get the one you want or scoup up some roadkill.

"

I just read 'Danny Champion Of The World'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not proactive when it comes to messaging guys - I just look at what arrives in my inbox though maybe in time my approach may change.

As an aside, am I the only female on this site who does not receive stacks of messages every day, hmmmm....

No you are not as I don't either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually in real life I find women who approach me are quite laid back and happy but it can lead to me being a muppet!

Not had a straight up message on here except to say they ogled my pics.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Hmm I message women when I don't know if I'm interested . I like proactive women not lie back nand wait . I don't really understand why a woman would ignore the possibility of discovering the right man . In my opinion they are just not that fussy he he

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I would have loved to meet you naughty but you did not message me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once and the guy blanked me lol"

What an idiot that guy must have been!

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By *ont Ask Dont GetWoman
over a year ago

amersham


"I fab nice pics, I wink at nice profiles and I message a nice guy occasionally."

Same here but has been very rare. Lots of nice chaps I chat to already who approched me that I haven't met!

And no, not hundreds of messages every day any more, thank goodness ...did post a new public pic a few weeks ago which sent the airwaves temporarily a bit mental but has settled down a bit now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fab nice pics, I wink at nice profiles and I message a nice guy occasionally.

Same here but has been very rare. Lots of nice chaps I chat to already who approched me that I haven't met!

And no, not hundreds of messages every day any more, thank goodness ...did post a new public pic a few weeks ago which sent the airwaves temporarily a bit mental but has settled down a bit now "

Good to know

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I send messages occasionally if a profile takes my fancy. Rarely leads to a meet though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send messages occasionally if a profile takes my fancy. Rarely leads to a meet though! "

That's because you're always jetting off to far flung sunny and exotic places - like Egypt and.......um....Scotland!

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol


"I send messages occasionally if a profile takes my fancy. Rarely leads to a meet though!

That's because you're always jetting off to far flung sunny and exotic places - like Egypt and.......um....Scotland! "

OK, OK. I'm back in a week and a half and no more travel (planned anyway)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have no problems at all in contacting someone if they interest me

I find its sometimes far better to look for what you like rather than wait for it to come to you

They can only say no

Indeed......... and there is all the fun of window shopping.

Some day I find my inbox depressing, it's full of people who haven't read my profile, don't match what I am looking for or who have an empty profile and no idea how to communicate...... what a waste of my time and effort sifting through that pile of shit. Yet a quick search can produce a tasty selection box.

I am always amazed at the number of women who just don't feel they can cope with the rejection if the tables were turned and they had no choice but to send out messages to guys.

Ah you saved me typing that as id just deleted what I was going to say

So many people moan about the state of the messages they get from all the unsuitables.......then save yourself time from sorting yout inbox out and find what you want!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often message men first if I see one I like the look of. There's no point acting all shy and retiring now is there?

And considering the number of times we see women commenting in the forums about the sheer number of messages they have to deal with - and the poor quality of content and intention - then surely the easiest way to combat this is to block all single guys, browse profiles and message those that catch your eye!

No better way than to control your own activities and interactions!

Or would that possibly dent a few ego's that are used to the attention? "

I think you may have hit the nail on the head....it's about potential dented egos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmm I message women when I don't know if I'm interested . I like proactive women not lie back nand wait . I don't really understand why a woman would ignore the possibility of discovering the right man . In my opinion they are just not that fussy he he "

for me its not a case of not being fussy

For me its a case of im not a very confidant person and i wouldnt message someone incase they didnt like me, so i only reply to guys that mail me first, it would hit me quite hard if someone mailed me back telling me i wasnt their type, not because i am vain and dont think anyone has the rights to not like me, far from it, but because it would chip a little more of the very small bit of confidance i already have

That does not mean i fuck anyone who mails me wether they are my type of not, even tho i wait for guys to mail me i still only meet the ones i am attracted to and have gotten to know and like

Its not a case of being lazy and unfussy for me, its more i feel more comfy talking to guys who i know like me cause they mailed me first that risking mailing someone who has no interest in me, im not the best catch on this site, im over weight and i have stretch marks and saggy bit and not all men like that so for me it just makes sence to wait for them to approch me first

i woul love to be able to see a guy i like the look of and message him but thats just not me and we are all different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of women send the first messages and I think its a good idea, as Polo said, you don't have to sift through a quarryful of shit to unearth a gem so it saves oodles of time and mind-numbing effort.

Plus plenty of ladies have contacted me first and has it led to a meet? On a lot of occasions yes. And have those meets been successful? On every occasion, Good God, yes...

Probably because the lady in question has read though my profile and checked my pics and my interests first to check my suitability to engage in pleasures most scarlet with her....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't though I sometimes send a message commenting on a picture or their status

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"Hmm I message women when I don't know if I'm interested . I like proactive women not lie back nand wait . I don't really understand why a woman would ignore the possibility of discovering the right man . In my opinion they are just not that fussy he he

for me its not a case of not being fussy

For me its a case of im not a very confidant person and i wouldnt message someone incase they didnt like me, so i only reply to guys that mail me first, it would hit me quite hard if someone mailed me back telling me i wasnt their type, not because i am vain and dont think anyone has the rights to not like me, far from it, but because it would chip a little more of the very small bit of confidance i already have

That does not mean i fuck anyone who mails me wether they are my type of not, even tho i wait for guys to mail me i still only meet the ones i am attracted to and have gotten to know and like

Its not a case of being lazy and unfussy for me, its more i feel more comfy talking to guys who i know like me cause they mailed me first that risking mailing someone who has no interest in me, im not the best catch on this site, im over weight and i have stretch marks and saggy bit and not all men like that so for me it just makes sence to wait for them to approch me first

i woul love to be able to see a guy i like the look of and message him but thats just not me and we are all different "

But you do have a cracking bum

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