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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Some of you will appreciate this... I have updated my status to the above.

My inbox is booming with people (all men - unsure if this is a factor) arguing that it is and ‘why am I here wasting peoples time’

I’ve spoken to many swingers in my time who get infuriated by people calling it a sex site

Which side of the fence are YOU on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends how good looking you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread wasted my time ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"depends how good looking you are"

Yes this tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll be on the sexy side with you, looking all sexy and that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It gets on my wick the amount of messages telling me I shouldn’t be here because I’m not prepared to let them stick their dicks in me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It gets on my wick the amount of messages telling me I shouldn’t be here because I’m not prepared to let them stick their dicks in me "
you get messages off guys with more than one dick. Madness

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Although I am on the side of the fence that agrees that it IS NOT a Sex Site, I also don't understand why it is relevant. If it was a sex site, would that mean that we would have to have sex with people we didn't want to?

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a site that could lead to sex but if anything it's an exhibitionist social media site. Have people look at your risky pics but have great conversations while you are doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t understand the fury tbh - think there’s too much anger and outrage in society as it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m on the top of the fence looking at you on one side not having sex but also looking at Jim’s mum on the other having anal sex.

It’s a site for sex or not for sex.

I have more not for sex than I do for sex but I am open to having for sex when the right opportunity arises.

Hope that helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forumites will get splinters

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

No it’s not a guaranteed sex site. But it’s definitely a site where it can be found.

People use it however they wish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a swinging site swinging is totally different from casual sex

If you can’t tell the difference then shouldn’t really be on fab at all

It’s one off the biggest reason I don’t meet local younger guys

As they can’t tell the difference bween swinging fun and casual vanilla sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is definitely more of a sex site now rather than a swingers site.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Which side has the most hotties?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I think it should be used however people want to use it, if that's just casual hook ups, or even if its not meeting at all, that's OK with me.

I use it for swinging. That involves sex. I'm not too hung up over the semantics.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I think it's a site for whatever you want it to be. I think both sides of the fence can be a bit knobish - the "sex site" lot look down on those who don't open their legs for people easily, for those who want to date people from here, for those who spend their time on the fora instead of being ploughed/ploughing.

The "it's a lifestyle/swinging site" brigade are a bit sanctimonious and holier than thou - 'I need a real connection before I let him stick his cock up my arse', 'all those people using it for instashag? Eurgh. I remember the days when real friendships were forged and now it's just men trying to get their dick wet'.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I think it's a site for whatever you want it to be. I think both sides of the fence can be a bit knobish - the "sex site" lot look down on those who don't open their legs for people easily, for those who want to date people from here, for those who spend their time on the fora instead of being ploughed/ploughing.

The "it's a lifestyle/swinging site" brigade are a bit sanctimonious and holier than thou - 'I need a real connection before I let him stick his cock up my arse', 'all those people using it for instashag? Eurgh. I remember the days when real friendships were forged and now it's just men trying to get their dick wet'.

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Sometimes I use the fora while getting ploughed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's a site for whatever you want it to be. I think both sides of the fence can be a bit knobish - the "sex site" lot look down on those who don't open their legs for people easily, for those who want to date people from here, for those who spend their time on the fora instead of being ploughed/ploughing.

The "it's a lifestyle/swinging site" brigade are a bit sanctimonious and holier than thou - 'I need a real connection before I let him stick his cock up my arse', 'all those people using it for instashag? Eurgh. I remember the days when real friendships were forged and now it's just men trying to get their dick wet'.

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Well the real friendships part is why we are still on here, we aren't doing and play for at least the next year what with is expecting a baby but we would still love friends to talk to.

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By *reatformeatWoman
over a year ago

my own bubble

I see it as a social sight and of sex happens its a bonus but men do expect to come on here to find an easy leg over

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

It’s like a social experiment is this.

I’ve got Pam from ‘Gavin and Stacey in my head’ - “it’s all the drama, Mick, I just love it”

Ps - re: fury. I’m not mad about anyone’s opinion , I just did it off the back of another thread xx

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I see it as a social sight and of sex happens its a bonus but men do expect to come on here to find an easy leg over"

This for me too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see it as a social sight and of sex happens its a bonus but men do expect to come on here to find an easy leg over

This for me too xx"

That's why we mostly all have naked pictures of us just for the social side of this site

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"depends how good looking you are"

which side do you sit on then?

it is originally a swingers site, but many new members ignore the etiquette of manners cost nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it as a 'whatever you want it to be site'. The friction arises when someone who sees it as a sex site contacts someone who sees it as a social/community site, for example.

Some just want sex, some want socials, some just want to post erotic/sexy photos,some want to date,some want to communicate with likeminded people,some want a mix of all that.

There's room and space for everyone on here and your reason for being here and what you want to get from it is no one's business but your own.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

People are here for different reasons. May not be the intention of the site or the reason it started, but that's what it is now.

Release that tension and anger , and just enjoy in the way that suits you.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

It's a site where you look to meet people for sex but that doesn't mean I have to have sex with everyone that messages me.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Don’t understand the fury tbh - think there’s too much anger and outrage in society as it is. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Sometimes I use the fora while getting ploughed "

That just turned me on

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"It’s like a social experiment is this.

I’ve got Pam from ‘Gavin and Stacey in my head’ - “it’s all the drama, Mick, I just love it”

Ps - re: fury. I’m not mad about anyone’s opinion , I just did it off the back of another thread xx"

Disturbing the peace on a sunday morning, getting the natives restless. I preferred the fry thread from yesterday and the blowjob thread was alright as well.

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I see it as a social sight and of sex happens its a bonus but men do expect to come on here to find an easy leg over

This for me too xx

That's why we mostly all have naked pictures of us just for the social side of this site "

How do you know they aren’t a naturist?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Fab is definitely more of a sex site now rather than a swingers site. "

I agree to an extent but that's not FAB that's society.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's a site for whatever you want it to be. I think both sides of the fence can be a bit knobish - the "sex site" lot look down on those who don't open their legs for people easily, for those who want to date people from here, for those who spend their time on the fora instead of being ploughed/ploughing.

The "it's a lifestyle/swinging site" brigade are a bit sanctimonious and holier than thou - 'I need a real connection before I let him stick his cock up my arse', 'all those people using it for instashag? Eurgh. I remember the days when real friendships were forged and now it's just men trying to get their dick wet'.

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Great minds etc. etc.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I think it should be used however people want to use it, if that's just casual hook ups, or even if its not meeting at all, that's OK with me.

I use it for swinging. That involves sex. I'm not too hung up over the semantics. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s an adult discussion site. Where like minded people can converse openly. Yes you can (pre/post covid) arrange meetings but most are first socials and only then may lead to more or sex. So I’d say it’s more a social site with a little bit of naughty

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"It’s like a social experiment is this.

I’ve got Pam from ‘Gavin and Stacey in my head’ - “it’s all the drama, Mick, I just love it”

Ps - re: fury. I’m not mad about anyone’s opinion , I just did it off the back of another thread xx

Disturbing the peace on a sunday morning, getting the natives restless. I preferred the fry thread from yesterday and the blowjob thread was alright as well."

Now I’m afraid I’m going to be scalped and boiled in a pot lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see it as a social sight and of sex happens its a bonus but men do expect to come on here to find an easy leg over

This for me too xx

That's why we mostly all have naked pictures of us just for the social side of this site

How do you know they aren’t a naturist? "

They have a dedicated website for that

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I think it's a site for whatever you want it to be. I think both sides of the fence can be a bit knobish - the "sex site" lot look down on those who don't open their legs for people easily, for those who want to date people from here, for those who spend their time on the fora instead of being ploughed/ploughing.

The "it's a lifestyle/swinging site" brigade are a bit sanctimonious and holier than thou - 'I need a real connection before I let him stick his cock up my arse', 'all those people using it for instashag? Eurgh. I remember the days when real friendships were forged and now it's just men trying to get their dick wet'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s like a social experiment is this.

I’ve got Pam from ‘Gavin and Stacey in my head’ - “it’s all the drama, Mick, I just love it”

Ps - re: fury. I’m not mad about anyone’s opinion , I just did it off the back of another thread xx

Disturbing the peace on a sunday morning, getting the natives restless. I preferred the fry thread from yesterday and the blowjob thread was alright as well.

Now I’m afraid I’m going to be scalped and boiled in a pot lol"

That'll be someone's kink

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I see it as a 'whatever you want it to be site'. The friction arises when someone who sees it as a sex site contacts someone who sees it as a social/community site, for example.

Some just want sex, some want socials, some just want to post erotic/sexy photos,some want to date,some want to communicate with likeminded people,some want a mix of all that.

There's room and space for everyone on here and your reason for being here and what you want to get from it is no one's business but your own."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People use it in a way that suits them, so for some it is a sex site. For others it isn't.

Use it your way, nobody is wrong.

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By *_elia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Entitled privileged egos determine that this is a sex site!!!

Respectful and sexually educated don't....

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Sometimes I use the fora while getting ploughed "

^ One of my aims in life.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

It's a swinging site, if people want hookups then they can go and join those sites specifically for that. There's enough of them. I get heartily sick of the entitled attitude of some people on here that feel I should be a free prostitute when it suits them. I joined here to be part of a community and make like minded friends who I may or may not have sex with.

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"It's a swinging site, if people want hookups then they can go and join those sites specifically for that. There's enough of them. I get heartily sick of the entitled attitude of some people on here that feel I should be a free prostitute when it suits them. I joined here to be part of a community and make like minded friends who I may or may not have sex with. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don’t understand the fury tbh - think there’s too much anger and outrage in society as it is. "

Exactly.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Now that I have quoted posts I agree with i'll chuck my own bit in .....

It's that binary society again ..... Sex or Swinging? Black or White ? Cut or Uncut ? Extinction Rebellion or Global Warming Denier ?

There is rarely a need in any avenue of life to choose ...... you don't have to be left OR right .. you don't always have to wear blue ...

Moods are changeable, minds are changeable , bodies are desirable one day and not the next, tastes change, needs change, wants change, hormones fluctuate...

It is what it is. It's what ever you want that day, that hour , that moment and FUCK those that fight to make you take a side.

Indulge yourself in your own matrix.Just don't hurt anyone....

P.S. ........ It's called fabswingers. But no sex.... no swing.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"It's a swinging site, if people want hookups then they can go and join those sites specifically for that. There's enough of them. I get heartily sick of the entitled attitude of some people on here that feel I should be a free prostitute when it suits them. I joined here to be part of a community and make like minded friends who I may or may not have sex with. "

That's different altogether. Feeling entitled happens amongst the most devoted 'swingers'. That's a personality / attitude type that exist everywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a swinging site, if people want hookups then they can go and join those sites specifically for that. There's enough of them. I get heartily sick of the entitled attitude of some people on here that feel I should be a free prostitute when it suits them. I joined here to be part of a community and make like minded friends who I may or may not have sex with. "

Well sed couldn’t have sed it any better my self

Don’t know how meny message I get a day expect me to be siting around the house with a face full off slap and dress to the heavens just waiting on they message to take they cock honest it’s my biggest pet peeve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there has been a shift into what 'swinging' is. The respectable nature, rules and entanglement seem to be a blur. Also believe social media has probably shaped the way people now _iew it, hence the bespoke dedicated swing sites are now categorised 'sex' instead of what it actually is. A great community to push sexual desires or social boundaries.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Interesting definition. I don't think swinging was ever intended as anything other than 'wife swapping'..... it wasn't born of respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting definition. I don't think swinging was ever intended as anything other than 'wife swapping'..... it wasn't born out of wedlock. "

Knew it !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread wasted my time ffs"

This^

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Surely its a site covering all aspects of the swinger community? So no its not just a sex site but one of the main aspects of the site is to facilitate consenting people hooking up. So wouldn't be offended by people trying it on (unless the profile states not looking for anything). But likewise people should respected not every member is looking to hook up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab is definitely more of a sex site now rather than a swingers site. "
agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting definition. I don't think swinging was ever intended as anything other than 'wife swapping'..... it wasn't born of respect. "

Yep that's the definition I always thought, hence why I've always swapped the missus

Joking aside do you think it's the same today?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use it as both.

I used to use ok Cupid (dating site) for sex. That's a dating site but i was using it as a 'sex site'. It's much easier to get sex here though.

There is quite a mentality shift between many using the forums and most that don't using it for hook ups. That attests to personality types that use forums though. Often across any hobby.

I think as with many things in the world, the site has evolved and there is enough people in each camp for it to be used as both these days.

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By *aenMan
over a year ago

Here and There

I’ve always _iewed it as somewhere to meet like minded people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t think of a better way to spend a glorious Sunday than arguing with strangers on the internet whether this is a sex site or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No it’s not a guaranteed sex site. But it’s definitely a site where it can be found.

People use it however they wish.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I use it as a sex site, I am not looking for friendship, kindred spirits or anything else apart from the occasional meet for sex.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Can’t think of a better way to spend a glorious Sunday than arguing with strangers on the internet whether this is a sex site or not."

Yet here you are

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

People will take from it what they want.

For us, its meant to be a window into the lifestyle.

Of late there are a lot of newcomers who have joined expecting something that they think it will give.

You only get out what you are willing to put in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder what I'm going to have for breakfast?

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Tell you what though. All this rage flying around has made me horny.

Might actually reply to a message for once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m only here for the top quality football!!!

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell you what though. All this rage flying around has made me horny.

Might actually reply to a message for once "

Nooooo x don't do it, don't give in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell you what though. All this rage flying around has made me horny.

Might actually reply to a message for once "

Block button ready

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No it’s not a guaranteed sex site. But it’s definitely a site where it can be found.

People use it however they wish.

"
it is kinda guaranteed....I know for a fact that I have and I will meet women off this website for sex can't say that about the dfs website.

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"No it’s not a guaranteed sex site. But it’s definitely a site where it can be found.

People use it however they wish.

it is kinda guaranteed....I know for a fact that I have and I will meet women off this website for sex can't say that about the dfs website. "

What if said woman only wanted to go out for tea though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me it's a social platform with a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting definition. I don't think swinging was ever intended as anything other than 'wife swapping'..... it wasn't born of respect.

Yep that's the definition I always thought, hence why I've always swapped the missus

Joking aside do you think it's the same today? "

Swinging evolved into a community and lifestyle. And with any community you have schisms and splits, true believers and heretics. For some it's this and for others it's that. You'll have a majority and minorities - and people on each side espousing their way is the true way. You'll have flame wars, discussions of doctrine and excommunications. And some just want a fuck.

It's all swinging whichever way you do it.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I don't really care too much on the Semantics of it all. I use this site to organise my social life (well I did)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this thread title will probably get lots of replies, especially being in CAPS.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can’t think of a better way to spend a glorious Sunday than arguing with strangers on the internet whether this is a sex site or not.

Yet here you are "

Try reading again, I said I can’t think of a better way to spend a Sunday.

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Can’t think of a better way to spend a glorious Sunday than arguing with strangers on the internet whether this is a sex site or not.

Yet here you are

Try reading again, I said I can’t think of a better way to spend a Sunday. "

Doh!

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I think this thread title will probably get lots of replies, especially being in CAPS.....

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That’s the trick. Reel em in with the big letters

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Interesting definition. I don't think swinging was ever intended as anything other than 'wife swapping'..... it wasn't born of respect.

Yep that's the definition I always thought, hence why I've always swapped the missus

Joking aside do you think it's the same today? "

Again there is no black and white answer. Society has changed with regard to the rights of women. Women are more independent and have more money than in the past. In terms of gender attitudes toward other genders that still depends on the individual to a great extent. Laws change quicker than minds. I still see couples where the male thinks that he is an owner and is actually loaning the woman out. Then again I see women that like to see it that way too. As long as it isn't happening to me or in the workplace it's all well and good.

In brief..... yeah it's changed on the surface.

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By *ngelShare18Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

I can't see a fence, I don't have my glasses on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No it’s not a guaranteed sex site. But it’s definitely a site where it can be found.

People use it however they wish.

it is kinda guaranteed....I know for a fact that I have and I will meet women off this website for sex can't say that about the dfs website.

What if said woman only wanted to go out for tea though? "
then they go out for tea then fab becomes a sex and tea website and I have suddenly become way more interested in this new website because I love sex and i love tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell you what though. All this rage flying around has made me horny.

Might actually reply to a message for once "

Rage sex, excellent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting definition. I don't think swinging was ever intended as anything other than 'wife swapping'..... it wasn't born of respect.

Yep that's the definition I always thought, hence why I've always swapped the missus

Joking aside do you think it's the same today?

Again there is no black and white answer. Society has changed with regard to the rights of women. Women are more independent and have more money than in the past. In terms of gender attitudes toward other genders that still depends on the individual to a great extent. Laws change quicker than minds. I still see couples where the male thinks that he is an owner and is actually loaning the woman out. Then again I see women that like to see it that way too. As long as it isn't happening to me or in the workplace it's all well and good.

In brief..... yeah it's changed on the surface. "

Well done for not saying binary in that comment.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"No it’s not a guaranteed sex site. But it’s definitely a site where it can be found.

People use it however they wish.

it is kinda guaranteed....I know for a fact that I have and I will meet women off this website for sex can't say that about the dfs website.

What if said woman only wanted to go out for tea though? then they go out for tea then fab becomes a sex and tea website and I have suddenly become way more interested in this new website because I love sex and i love tea. "

Your not for me thanks. Not even a mention of cake !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell you what though. All this rage flying around has made me horny.

Might actually reply to a message for once

Rage sex, excellent "

Ooooff... nothing like rage sex. Trying to tame the beast

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I now have this statement in my head to the tune of ‘This is not a love song’ by Public Image ltd........

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I now have this statement in my head to the tune of ‘This is not a love song’ by Public Image ltd........ "

Tune! It should play when you log in

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I now have this statement in my head to the tune of ‘This is not a love song’ by Public Image ltd........

Tune! It should play when you log in "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a swinging site, if people want hookups then they can go and join those sites specifically for that. There's enough of them. I get heartily sick of the entitled attitude of some people on here that feel I should be a free prostitute when it suits them. I joined here to be part of a community and make like minded friends who I may or may not have sex with. "

This. Or I don't even mind if people want to use it as an alternative to Tinder. What I mind is the ignorance and abuse when they try to use it as Instafuck, don't respect others having a different _iewpoint, and then throw their toys. It makes me picture a 15 year old schoolboy trying to pretend they're a grown up and thinking bullying and abusing people is the way to go.

And that's why I usually keep my profile hidden. Which is a shame as there are a few gems on here.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Of course it’s a sex site.

You don’t hang meat up in the shop window then say ‘No we don’t sell meat we’re not a butchers’

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Of course it’s a sex site.

You don’t hang meat up in the shop window then say ‘No we don’t sell meat we’re not a butchers’ "

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’ve known it be lots of different things to different people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course it’s a sex site.

You don’t hang meat up in the shop window then say ‘No we don’t sell meat we’re not a butchers’ "

But if you're using that as an analogy you're suggesting people are for sale or if they're showing something then they're asking for it. Maybe they just like showing their bits. Or maybe you're right. But you can't assume its a one size fits all.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"

It’s a site for sex or not for sex."

Well said Sam!

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"Of course it’s a sex site.

You don’t hang meat up in the shop window then say ‘No we don’t sell meat we’re not a butchers’

But if you're using that as an analogy you're suggesting people are for sale or if they're showing something then they're asking for it. Maybe they just like showing their bits. Or maybe you're right. But you can't assume its a one size fits all. "

The mind really does boggle me at times

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By *heekydevil69Man
over a year ago

Aberporth

Let's face it .it is a sex site. it's what we're all here for you first sign up you know it's for sex and having new sexual experiences with like minded people and then you make friends and conextions .that's just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say it is more a forum site.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Of course it’s a sex site.

You don’t hang meat up in the shop window then say ‘No we don’t sell meat we’re not a butchers’

But if you're using that as an analogy you're suggesting people are for sale or if they're showing something then they're asking for it. Maybe they just like showing their bits. Or maybe you're right. But you can't assume its a one size fits all. "

Are you Genital shaming ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course it’s a sex site.

You don’t hang meat up in the shop window then say ‘No we don’t sell meat we’re not a butchers’

But if you're using that as an analogy you're suggesting people are for sale or if they're showing something then they're asking for it. Maybe they just like showing their bits. Or maybe you're right. But you can't assume its a one size fits all.

Are you Genital shaming ?"

Ha! Nope not at all.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I am inclined to sex that Fab is a sex site, but not exclusively so.

It was originally set up for swinging but is now also used as a hook up site.

It's the different approaches of the two camps, so to speak, that can cause frustration.

Personally I don't care how other people _iew or use the site. I am quite happy doing things my way.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Of course it’s a sex site.

You don’t hang meat up in the shop window then say ‘No we don’t sell meat we’re not a butchers’

But if you're using that as an analogy you're suggesting people are for sale or if they're showing something then they're asking for it. Maybe they just like showing their bits. Or maybe you're right. But you can't assume its a one size fits all.

The mind really does boggle me at times "

You can't walk in here talking about your brain and assume it's mensa. It's a sex site.

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

There's a lot of tension here, someone please help OP and provide her with some sex.

But not just sex, stick around and make her breakfast too

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"There's a lot of tension here, someone please help OP and provide her with some sex.

But not just sex, stick around and make her breakfast too "

That’s the spirit!

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"Of course it’s a sex site.

You don’t hang meat up in the shop window then say ‘No we don’t sell meat we’re not a butchers’

But if you're using that as an analogy you're suggesting people are for sale or if they're showing something then they're asking for it. Maybe they just like showing their bits. Or maybe you're right. But you can't assume its a one size fits all.

The mind really does boggle me at times

You can't walk in here talking about your brain and assume it's mensa. It's a sex site. "

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"I think it's a site for whatever you want it to be. I think both sides of the fence can be a bit knobish - the "sex site" lot look down on those who don't open their legs for people easily, for those who want to date people from here, for those who spend their time on the fora instead of being ploughed/ploughing.

The "it's a lifestyle/swinging site" brigade are a bit sanctimonious and holier than thou - 'I need a real connection before I let him stick his cock up my arse', 'all those people using it for instashag? Eurgh. I remember the days when real friendships were forged and now it's just men trying to get their dick wet'.

Sometimes I use the fora while getting ploughed "

Lucky farmer

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By *hat BlokeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate


"No it’s not a guaranteed sex site. But it’s definitely a site where it can be found.

People use it however they wish.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup. Agree totally. Boils our piss when fucktards say it's a sex site. They need (instashag)

J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab Swingers is a community space for swingers in the UK, USA and other English-speaking countries. It features profiles, blogs, groups and the features you'd expect from a high quality social networking site."

That's how they are officially marketing the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of you will appreciate this... I have updated my status to the above.

My inbox is booming with people (all men - unsure if this is a factor) arguing that it is and ‘why am I here wasting peoples time’

I’ve spoken to many swingers in my time who get infuriated by people calling it a sex site

Which side of the fence are YOU on?"

It a swinging site where you can find like minded people for friend ship and more

As I made some very good friends on here what Know more about my life than most

Mrs ikc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course it’s a sex site.

You don’t hang meat up in the shop window then say ‘No we don’t sell meat we’re not a butchers’ "

Meat!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We didn't join fabswingers to drink coffee, or talk politics or debate corona virus rules.

We joined to meet up and have sex with other like minded people

So yes, for us, it's a sex site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's a site for whatever you want it to be. I think both sides of the fence can be a bit knobish - the "sex site" lot look down on those who don't open their legs for people easily, for those who want to date people from here, for those who spend their time on the fora instead of being ploughed/ploughing.

The "it's a lifestyle/swinging site" brigade are a bit sanctimonious and holier than thou - 'I need a real connection before I let him stick his cock up my arse', 'all those people using it for instashag? Eurgh. I remember the days when real friendships were forged and now it's just men trying to get their dick wet'.

"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If I have a shop and put sweets in the window I wouldn't blame anyone walking past for calling it a sweet shop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yup. Agree totally. Boils our piss when fucktards say it's a sex site. They need (instashag)

J"

Unnecessary just because their reference differs to yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I have had sex from here, but never sold myself as an instant thing. Im no pot noodle. Surely even on sex sites people dont just shag anyone, or do they? Like that last desperate hour In the nightclub. Instasex seems set up for men more, and by men I mean those horny drain my balls by any means type of man. I think a woman even if steaming d*unk, or fresh from heartbreak has to be called at least pretty before she falls into a cab with you. Don't know were this is going and all thoughts are my own, I'll quit now

Its a site for sex and chat, like one of those bitch and stitch groups but for sex....

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

It’s a site that dabbles in swinging and casual sex.

I’m not really bothered by what the site calls itself and how others perceive it’s use. I use it to suit MY needs, which it does.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Checking...yes I’ve come to conclusion it’s called Fabswingers not sex site.

Thread finished, now contribute to the Gene Wilder thread please

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Checking...yes I’ve come to conclusion it’s called Fabswingers not sex site.

Thread finished, now contribute to the Gene Wilder thread please "

Granny points to the Willy Wonka sign......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Definitely not a sex site! And I'm definitely not getting any sex.

It's a lifestyle site that may lead to like minded people having sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps the assumption at work is that, this being a site for swingers, all contactees will jump at the chance for some impulsive boffing. This, clearly, is far from the truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of you will appreciate this... I have updated my status to the above.

My inbox is booming with people (all men - unsure if this is a factor) arguing that it is and ‘why am I here wasting peoples time’

I’ve spoken to many swingers in my time who get infuriated by people calling it a sex site

Which side of the fence are YOU on?"

Some people use it as a sex site. Some of these people cannot see beyond their own perception and therefore are disgruntled to come across those of us who _iew differently. Such blinkered thinking is such a turn off.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I've had this said to me it's a sex site my reply it's whatever u want it to b for u! Some think it's like just eat u look for what u fancy and order it! Lol x

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By *estinyIsAllCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

For us, it's a "whatever the fuck we want it to be" site. The wasps on here can fist themselves if they think they have some entitlement to me just because I'm female and on here.

Lou xx

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It's a sex site if you are single woman. It's a swingers site if you are a fully luved up cupple......

It's a ' Why won't anyone fuck me?' site if you are a single bloke.

The end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a sex site if you are single woman. It's a swingers site if you are a fully luved up cupple......

It's a ' Why won't anyone fuck me?' site if you are a single bloke.

The end.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

It's whatever you want it to be.

I never get people telling me off for not meeting either, never have in the three years I've been on here.

Maybe I get messages from a different demographic, or maybe I just shut the convo down after a no thanks.

Whatever, it works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a sex site if you are single woman. It's a swingers site if you are a fully luved up cupple......

It's a ' Why won't anyone fuck me?' site if you are a single bloke.

The end.

"

I think I'm in love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of you will appreciate this... I have updated my status to the above.

My inbox is booming with people (all men - unsure if this is a factor) arguing that it is and ‘why am I here wasting peoples time’

I’ve spoken to many swingers in my time who get infuriated by people calling it a sex site

Which side of the fence are YOU on?"

It is a site where some people meet then have sex. To say it's a sex site is completely wrong.

An escort website is a sex site.

Fab is more like a social networking site for perverts and deviants, of which I am both.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport


"No it’s not a guaranteed sex site. But it’s definitely a site where it can be found.

People use it however they wish.

it is kinda guaranteed....I know for a fact that I have and I will meet women off this website for sex can't say that about the dfs website. "

It’s definitely not guaranteed. If someone I met wasn’t what they said they was...... smelt, no personal hygiene or the “I really want to fuck you” has gone I can assure you it will not happen.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It's whatever you want it to be.

I never get people telling me off for not meeting either, never have in the three years I've been on here.

Maybe I get messages from a different demographic, or maybe I just shut the convo down after a no thanks.

Whatever, it works for me "

We rarely get anything other than polite messages. I'm forum discussions however we're often told directly and indirectly that we're doing it wrong.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"It's a swinging site, if people want hookups then they can go and join those sites specifically for that. There's enough of them. I get heartily sick of the entitled attitude of some people on here that feel I should be a free prostitute when it suits them. I joined here to be part of a community and make like minded friends who I may or may not have sex with. "

When we played we used it for a place to meet men for a threesome, we didn't want or need those people to be "friends" and were never treated like I was a free prostitute when looking for that type of play.

Which type of site should we have used instead?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

To the OP, I think sometimes people just mean, this is a site where people come to hopefully find sex if that is what they are looking for of course

A swinger ultimately does the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s whatever you want it to be

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By *uniorendowedMan
over a year ago

London Derbyshire


"It’s whatever you want it to be "

Exactly !!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

For me, the underlying principle of the site is related to sex so by rights it *is* a "Sex Site".

If it were to be categorised in a library it would be in the "Sex" section - there may then be a discussion as to whether it's sub-category is "Swinging", "NSA" or any other sub-category individuals might have for it - but that's an individual choice - still comes under the main banner of "Sex" so by rights it's a "Sex Site" just depends how you then individually choose to use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a sex site with extra knobs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“Fab Swingers is a community space for swingers in the UK, USA and other English-speaking countries. It features profiles, blogs, groups and the features you'd expect from a high quality social networking site”

If this is what the people running fan intend it to be then surely that’s what it is?

How people then use it is up to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No it’s not a guaranteed sex site. But it’s definitely a site where it can be found.

People use it however they wish.

it is kinda guaranteed....I know for a fact that I have and I will meet women off this website for sex can't say that about the dfs website.

It’s definitely not guaranteed. If someone I met wasn’t what they said they was...... smelt, no personal hygiene or the “I really want to fuck you” has gone I can assure you it will not happen. "
That's not what I meant sex is not guaranteed every meet with every person regardless of personal taste but sex is guaranteed at some point by some one using this website.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Tbh this is the only social media platform I use. I don’t even use Facebook.

I started off using fab as a place to get information about clubs - as I’d just discovered clubs. Then I found the forums. Then I found great friends on the forums and in clubs.

I think for most people, like me, fab evolves.

I use it to chat to friends, debate on the forums, find event info, and occasionally have fucking awesome sex.

I wouldn’t want the sex bit to go away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on it's not a sex site fence as I'm certainly no swinger,it's hard for me because I don't want a relationship but I don't want NSa either,and to be honest it's the forums that keep bringing me back

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"It's a sex site with extra knobs."

Plenty plenty knobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the difference between meeting people for socialising and sex using fab and swinging?.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a sex site with extra knobs.

Plenty plenty knobs "

Nobs with knobs?

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By *manda63Woman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Some of you will appreciate this... I have updated my status to the above.

My inbox is booming with people (all men - unsure if this is a factor) arguing that it is and ‘why am I here wasting peoples time’

I’ve spoken to many swingers in my time who get infuriated by people calling it a sex site

Which side of the fence are YOU on?"
I understand what you mean, I had issues here and started over on my own again recently. Changed my outlook on it and I'm just socialising but I want to meet eventually for sex but there has to be a connection before I do that. I've had some recent rubbish go on here, but yesterday met and had a really good social, there are men out there on the same wavelength as women like us.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"For me, the underlying principle of the site is related to sex so by rights it *is* a "Sex Site".

If it were to be categorised in a library it would be in the "Sex" section - there may then be a discussion as to whether it's sub-category is "Swinging", "NSA" or any other sub-category individuals might have for it - but that's an individual choice - still comes under the main banner of "Sex" so by rights it's a "Sex Site" just depends how you then individually choose to use it."

Actually slight addendum to this now I've flicked back through the thread "sex site" does NOT mean "site where you are guaranteed to get sex" more "site where sex is discussed and potentially can be found"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's a sex site regardless of what you may choose to use it for.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

I agree to a certain extent - it baffles me why men think just because we are on the site (women) then we want sex with them. I get so many messages - meet now, I’m half a mile away. Etc etc. That is where I think they have their perceptions skewed. I have no issue with people wanted one offs and last minute etc but it has to be mutual obviously and lots of men don’t quite get this. They appear to think it’s a take away service for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a site that's used in many ways.

But I don't like the entitlement either, guys think if I don't want to have sex with them that I'm therefore a time waster.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

What's the ultimate aim of swinging? Sex.

Yes, there is a hugely social side to the scene, friendships formed, all that goes with that, but the difference between swinging and other friendships is the sexual element, surely?

That said, some people come to fab looking for NSA hookups, and that's fine. What's not fine - on either side of the debate, to my mind - is pushing your way of using fab as the "proper" way. People can use it however they like. I think the frustration comes in, as the OP says, when people message you expecting you to drop your knickers 24/7 "cos you're on fab and it's a sex site".

We came to fab looking to meet people for sex. The forum community was an unexpected and welcome bonus for me. There can be a perception that people who spend a lot of time on the forums are not getting any... For me, the two parts of our fab experience are quite separate! I don't know how I'd feel about a crossover, it would add an interesting dynamic.

Apologies for rambling. Brain is slow.

Mrs TMN x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I agree to a certain extent - it baffles me why men think just because we are on the site (women) then we want sex with them. I get so many messages - meet now, I’m half a mile away. Etc etc. That is where I think they have their perceptions skewed. I have no issue with people wanted one offs and last minute etc but it has to be mutual obviously and lots of men don’t quite get this. They appear to think it’s a take away service for sex. "

But "men" don't think it's just because we're on the site.

They look at the site, see pictures of women posing in varying states of undress sometimes very explicitly. They read profiles requesting gang bangs, dogging, greedy girl nights etc. If they read the forum they might see women describing how they like certain sexual activities etc. This leads them to think that "women" are here to get sex.

Not all women are of course but neither do all men think they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me the beauty of Fab is that it can be whatever you want to be. I use it as my adult Facebook but when I want sex, I find someone I like the look of. I’m not a swinger so the couples and swinging sections don’t interest me but I certainly don’t have anything against those who do. Each to their own.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"I agree to a certain extent - it baffles me why men think just because we are on the site (women) then we want sex with them. I get so many messages - meet now, I’m half a mile away. Etc etc. That is where I think they have their perceptions skewed. I have no issue with people wanted one offs and last minute etc but it has to be mutual obviously and lots of men don’t quite get this. They appear to think it’s a take away service for sex.

But "men" don't think it's just because we're on the site.

They look at the site, see pictures of women posing in varying states of undress sometimes very explicitly. They read profiles requesting gang bangs, dogging, greedy girl nights etc. If they read the forum they might see women describing how they like certain sexual activities etc. This leads them to think that "women" are here to get sex.

Not all women are of course but neither do all men think they are. "

As I have very little contact with women on here I have no clue how they behave. Yes absolutely women on here in the majority do want sex - it’s the assumption that we will have sex with anyone who asks that’s draining.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I agree to a certain extent - it baffles me why men think just because we are on the site (women) then we want sex with them. I get so many messages - meet now, I’m half a mile away. Etc etc. That is where I think they have their perceptions skewed. I have no issue with people wanted one offs and last minute etc but it has to be mutual obviously and lots of men don’t quite get this. They appear to think it’s a take away service for sex.

But "men" don't think it's just because we're on the site.

They look at the site, see pictures of women posing in varying states of undress sometimes very explicitly. They read profiles requesting gang bangs, dogging, greedy girl nights etc. If they read the forum they might see women describing how they like certain sexual activities etc. This leads them to think that "women" are here to get sex.

Not all women are of course but neither do all men think they are.

As I have very little contact with women on here I have no clue how they behave. Yes absolutely women on here in the majority do want sex - it’s the assumption that we will have sex with anyone who asks that’s draining. "

Probably be a we're older we don't get that assumption made about us so much.

My point really is that some women are presenting themselves very sexually. This leads some men to assume they want sex. Now I know it usually means they want sex but only with certain people and at a time of their choosing but aren't those men using the same selection process? It's just that they want sex with women who don't want sex with them.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool


"Some of you will appreciate this... I have updated my status to the above.

My inbox is booming with people (all men - unsure if this is a factor) arguing that it is and ‘why am I here wasting peoples time’

I’ve spoken to many swingers in my time who get infuriated by people calling it a sex site

Which side of the fence are YOU on?"

Been told by multiple guys this weekend that "what do you expect, it's a shagging site".. when we tell them we don't appreciate their crude messages or attempts at sexting in our inbox.

This isn't a sex site, it isn't a shagging site.

Just because conversations on here can lead to sex doesn't make it a sex site.

Funnily enough.. the guys telling us it's a shagging site are the ones with 0 veris and clearly aren't shagging.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Maybe it is a sex site, maybe it isn't. That'sjust a label. But even if it is, not wanting to have sex with somebody is not wasting anybody's time. If somebody thinks that because they can't just book in a shag session at will then their time is being wasted by somebody else is just an ignorant moron. A sex site wouldn't work like that anyway.

My opinion is that this is a site for sexually liberal people. What somebody does with being open-minded about sex is their own business. It is not Dial-a-shag. Luke

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

It's a sex site. It's not a guaranteed sex site. People will socialize, people will become friends. But in the end people will have sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

more like facebook with nude pics.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Some of you will appreciate this... I have updated my status to the above.

My inbox is booming with people (all men - unsure if this is a factor) arguing that it is and ‘why am I here wasting peoples time’

I’ve spoken to many swingers in my time who get infuriated by people calling it a sex site

Which side of the fence are YOU on?

Been told by multiple guys this weekend that "what do you expect, it's a shagging site".. when we tell them we don't appreciate their crude messages or attempts at sexting in our inbox.

This isn't a sex site, it isn't a shagging site.

Just because conversations on here can lead to sex doesn't make it a sex site.

Funnily enough.. the guys telling us it's a shagging site are the ones with 0 veris and clearly aren't shagging."

The thing is though and this is where the distinction comes in - it doesn't actually come down to whether it is or isn't a sex site - but people's perceptions of what it is, and sadly *some* men (and women and couples) *do* think it's a "shagging site" and under that misconception think that all the normal rules of decency, respect and consideration etc don't apply, when the reality is they probably apply more.

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Well. This has been quite a read.

I will admit I only really posted it to create debate but as my inbox has shown it’s a subject quite close to some people’s hearts.

I’ve been blocked. Called ‘Pathetic’ and also much worse

I shall summarise by saying so long as you’re happy, safe and not breaking the law you crack on!

Now if anyone wants that tea from further up I’m all ears.

Peace and love

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Well. This has been quite a read.

I will admit I only really posted it to create debate but as my inbox has shown it’s a subject quite close to some people’s hearts.

I’ve been blocked. Called ‘Pathetic’ and also much worse

I shall summarise by saying so long as you’re happy, safe and not breaking the law you crack on!

Now if anyone wants that tea from further up I’m all ears.

Peace and love "

People take things so seriously on here.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"Well. This has been quite a read.

I will admit I only really posted it to create debate but as my inbox has shown it’s a subject quite close to some people’s hearts.

I’ve been blocked. Called ‘Pathetic’ and also much worse

I shall summarise by saying so long as you’re happy, safe and not breaking the law you crack on!

Now if anyone wants that tea from further up I’m all ears.

Peace and love

People take things so seriously on here. "

This ^^

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"Well. This has been quite a read.

I will admit I only really posted it to create debate but as my inbox has shown it’s a subject quite close to some people’s hearts.

I’ve been blocked. Called ‘Pathetic’ and also much worse

I shall summarise by saying so long as you’re happy, safe and not breaking the law you crack on!

Now if anyone wants that tea from further up I’m all ears.

Peace and love "

Well the tone of the thread has been a bit gatekeeperish. IE What is a true swinger and all that.

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Well. This has been quite a read.

I will admit I only really posted it to create debate but as my inbox has shown it’s a subject quite close to some people’s hearts.

I’ve been blocked. Called ‘Pathetic’ and also much worse

I shall summarise by saying so long as you’re happy, safe and not breaking the law you crack on!

Now if anyone wants that tea from further up I’m all ears.

Peace and love

Well the tone of the thread has been a bit gatekeeperish. IE What is a true swinger and all that. "

Ah well. I’ll live. Lol

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I thought it was a site to compare stamp collections

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought it was a site to compare stamp collections "

you came at the right place

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Err maybe I've missed something... But why does it even matter? It's a social media site.

Theres a bit of bizarre snobbery with whether or not people are "swingers"...

Who cares. At the end of the day it's a few people having a bit of fun and some end up having sex. It's no more complicated than that.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"I thought it was a site to compare stamp collections "

Well there's a fair bit of licking and a fair bit of stamping if that's what you mean

And quite a few postmen

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I've been told many times, by both single males and couples, that I shouldn't be on here if I'm not prepared to meet people for sex. What those people tend not to understand is that I do meet people from here for sex, I just have no desire to meet them specifically.

It's the false sense of entitlement that some people have that usually leads to them being disappointed and frustrated.

Now tea & cake, that's always tempting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some of you will appreciate this... I have updated my status to the above.

My inbox is booming with people (all men - unsure if this is a factor) arguing that it is and ‘why am I here wasting peoples time’

I’ve spoken to many swingers in my time who get infuriated by people calling it a sex site

Which side of the fence are YOU on?"

You are DEFINTELY right.

This is a swingers site, not a sex site.

The clue is in the name Fabswingers!!

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By *angerineMan
over a year ago

somewhere inbetween the right and wrong

While I joined here as a sex site, there's such a sense of community here that calling it that does Fab a dis-service.

While I don't consider myself a real part of the community (a visitor at best), I don't treat as a sex site anymore.

(But yes, if meaningful contact led to a meet- who am I to say no)

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By *oodnitegirl OP   Woman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Some of you will appreciate this... I have updated my status to the above.

My inbox is booming with people (all men - unsure if this is a factor) arguing that it is and ‘why am I here wasting peoples time’

I’ve spoken to many swingers in my time who get infuriated by people calling it a sex site

Which side of the fence are YOU on?

You are DEFINTELY right.

This is a swingers site, not a sex site.

The clue is in the name Fabswingers!!"

It wasn’t really my own opinion I was just saying what I hear from both sides xx

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

annoying as i like to chat and get to know someone before hand - notice "some couples" get frustrated and will say this is a sex site and i'm time wasting...

For me Fab is more of a community of like minded people who all enjoy sex,nothing wrong with having a giggle and a laugh along the way - life's too short to be serious.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters


"I thought it was a site to compare stamp collections

Well there's a fair bit of licking and a fair bit of stamping if that's what you mean

And quite a few postmen "

Ba boo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see dozens of status updates from women with their requests for x y and z every day. "I want bbc/bwc today" "I want my pussy eaten tonight" "I want to be pounded tonight". Fab is essentially an online shopping website for them.

This isn't a moan nor am I looking down on them. Just making the point that women do this too.

The point is, the website is whatever you want to make it to be. I don't see the point in trying to convince yourself that fab isn't inherently a sex website. Most people meet and have sex, whether swinging or not.

It's not demeaning to consider this a sex site.

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