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By *eonlylive1se OP   Couple
over a year ago

Atherstone

Has anybody been in a situation where having a meeting its just not "happening" IE no attraction or spark, what do you do ? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anybody been in a situation where having a meeting its just not "happening" IE no attraction or spark, what do you do ? lol "

We met a couple where he was quite arrogant and she obviously didn't want to really be there so we politely told them it wasn't working drank up and left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

go home n wank

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

A few times.... I dont really find it uncomfortable though... Everyone I meet is aware that I meet with no guarantee / expectation of anything, so on the occasions that I wasnt interested after meeting, I politely told them that.

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By *eonlylive1se OP   Couple
over a year ago

Atherstone

We invited a guy over he was nice and polite etc, but Mrs W didn`t have the "spark" for him, but kind of just went thru` the motions, as he had made the effort lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A few times.... I dont really find it uncomfortable though... Everyone I meet is aware that I meet with no guarantee / expectation of anything, so on the occasions that I wasnt interested after meeting, I politely told them that. "

same here!-just go with the flow even a yes or a no

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

luckily enough neva had this happen as i can usually tell from messages exchanged prior to meeting whether or not there is going to be a connection. All u can do i guess is politely say its not working out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weve been in this situation a couple of time,s admittlingly at first we played with them anyway, but after a few meets we soon got to the hang of thing and confidence and now we just say No its not working thx but no thx or or make our excuses and go off in the club else where,

Thats why in general we never do home meets till have met and clicked and dont like parties unless we know most of the couples, stay away from the big beds and orgy rooms in clubs try to keep ourselfs away from unwanted attention, but if that doesnt work a thx no thx does lol

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I always meet socially during my lunch hour for a coffee.

If there's no attraction the most I've lost is a hour of my time. I've yet to meet any academy award winning actors, and I'm not up for a statue either.

It's pretty obvious if there's any attraction or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just have a drink and say sorry, however, it is not working for me etc...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We invited a guy over he was nice and polite etc, but Mrs W didn`t have the "spark" for him, but kind of just went thru` the motions, as he had made the effort lol "

I do like that censoring of the word cock on ur profile lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

happened a few times, you just never know until you meet someone in person. I just politely said that this is not really happening for me. I never had any problems when I said that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not really just at clubs and partys come across some i would not to wish to take back to my hotel room. And i did meet sreck with green teeth and 30 stone i hsd not seen his pic and nothing like he said he was. .. when i first started meet men alone , lol you live and learn no pic no meet now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been quite fortunate so far, I can usually tell from messaging or chatting on the phone if it's gonna work x

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"not really just at clubs and partys come across some i would not to wish to take back to my hotel room. And i did meet sreck with green teeth and 30 stone i hsd not seen his pic and nothing like he said he was. .. when i first started meet men alone , lol you live and learn no pic no meet now."

Along with always meet for a coffee in a public place first - far easier to let someone down gracefully, and there's always the option of abandoning the coffee and rushing off for some privacy if it goes well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have sex with them anyway.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Has anybody been in a situation where having a meeting its just not "happening" IE no attraction or spark, what do you do ? lol "
Finish my pint n tell them exactly that...no spark so wont be going any further, hope they have a fab afternoon/evening etc....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anybody been in a situation where having a meeting its just not "happening" IE no attraction or spark, what do you do ? lol "

I tend to meet someone in public rather than in private if I am not totally sure over someone but either way if I felt it wasn't happening I would tell them. Honesty is the best policy but tact and being polite should be taken into account too.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

we also always meet in a pub, there have been loads of occasions where we haven't wanted to take things further - we just politely say that we're not attracted and go home - or to a club! Z

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By *ashful BazMan
over a year ago

poole dorset


"Has anybody been in a situation where having a meeting its just not "happening" IE no attraction or spark, what do you do ? lol

I tend to meet someone in public rather than in private if I am not totally sure over someone but either way if I felt it wasn't happening I would tell them. Honesty is the best policy but tact and being polite should be taken into account too. "

I'm sure the fella's would be happy to meet you anywhere given the chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met a couple who were atleast three stone larger than their pics and the girl was half asleep. All the guy did was talk about busses, really bored us to tears.

We made out that we thought it was just a social meet and left after about 40 mins x

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By *eonlylive1se OP   Couple
over a year ago

Atherstone


"have sex with them anyway."

We did , it was late, we we`re horny, he did seem nice, polite etc, hay ho you live n learn, and as our profile name is : Weonlylive1se, we do pmsl

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By *njamesMan
over a year ago

Swindon


"Has anybody been in a situation where having a meeting its just not "happening" IE no attraction or spark, what do you do ? lol "

Fortunately not, however I can imagine it being very difficult indeed. I suppose It's gonna happen....

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By *eonlylive1se OP   Couple
over a year ago

Atherstone

Thanx for all the replies, we msgd each other for a while and he seemed keen so we invited him over, thats when we dicovered it wasn`t "really happening" but didn`t want to be mean to him .

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

i make first meet always a social one.so if no attraction or dont click i just finnish my cuppa tea and wish em well and go home . no probs!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

When we meet we make it clear that the first meeting is a social meet to avoid that sort of being put on the spot situation. It works well for us. Sometimes the chemistry is not there, sometimes people get too intense about things ... so this is a good way of keeping option open without offending anybody. Having said that, we once met a couple, parted company politely and when we later declined another meet (very politely) they turned quite nasty - proving that the decision to decline had been spot on.

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By *nlyThaBestMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I had this meet where the woman was polite and sounded nice but when I met her and her husband she was a bit snotty and abrupt really, but still really wanted it just a strange kind of personality, when i walked in the hotel room she said "go and wash your bits" as soon as i walked in, as if id have a dirty one bloody hell im spotlesly clean ! Then just went "take all your clothes off and put them over there" then she said "when weve finished just put your clothes on and go as where meant to be going out" just made me chuckle really just fucked her really really hard and legged it haha, all a bit uncomfortable really, although she seemed to have and said she had a fab time ha

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

as a single guy i once met a cpl at my house,

when we were chatting it was soon apparent that it was the hubby who was keen on the meet but the wife was not, and just doing it to please him.

so i turned the chat to her and what she wanted,

after hearing her answers i just said that i was not there to give the hubby a thrill and we would not be playing,

the look of relief on the ladies face said it all.

but the words that were said out side are not repeatable he went ballistic

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Be honest....

i met a couple at theirs, was obvious to all three of us that there was no spark sexually...

we ended up drinking and having a laugh and they are now good mates...

and there is still no sexual spark... and i dont care....

strange i know but made the best of a bad thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it happens mostly when people are too eager to meet. It's awkward because you're all their for sex but you realise that all you've talked about and you know nothing about that person.

Been there and lesson learned.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Meeting socially takes away any 'ok lets shag even though we dont want to but you have made the effort to travel etc etc'..

If it does'nt click, just be polite..

anyone who gets arsey or cops the 'ump over a no thank you probably wont be worth playing with..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My experience so far (touch wood) has been rather good and I hope this continues. I suppose I tend to go on good old gut instinct as if something from the outset doesn't quite feel right then chances are you could be on to a duffer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We met a couple who were atleast three stone larger than their pics and the girl was half asleep. All the guy did was talk about busses, really bored us to tears.

We made out that we thought it was just a social meet and left after about 40 mins x"

like yer style, top tip!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had this meet where the woman was polite and sounded nice but when I met her and her husband she was a bit snotty and abrupt really, but still really wanted it just a strange kind of personality, when i walked in the hotel room she said "go and wash your bits" as soon as i walked in, as if id have a dirty one bloody hell im spotlesly clean ! Then just went "take all your clothes off and put them over there" then she said "when weve finished just put your clothes on and go as where meant to be going out" just made me chuckle really just fucked her really really hard and legged it haha, all a bit uncomfortable really, although she seemed to have and said she had a fab time ha "

at least she didn't say "pop your clothes off" hate that expression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The very reason I prefer social only first meets. You can always 'extend' the meet to a hotel room if its good and just say 'bye bye' if its not and no harm done.

Met a classy business woman at her hotel once. Had a drink and she had booked a table for dinner. Went along with it but part way through the meal she started to lay down what was going to happen and when. I stopped her at the 'You will enter me from behind at 10.30 ..' bit, said it wasn't my thing and said I was leaving. She said 'but you can't'. I said 'watch me' and bid her farewell, paid the meal bill and left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tiger says he is uncomfortable with thin ladies but then he is pretty slim. I cushion him nicely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Run as that's what I did from one meet where he had had too much alcohol and got too fresh plus he wasn't my type at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A few times.... I dont really find it uncomfortable though... Everyone I meet is aware that I meet with no guarantee / expectation of anything, so on the occasions that I wasnt interested after meeting, I politely told them that. "

Funny because I used to have on my profile not to ask at the meet as it felt like they were pushy and still they asked so I gave up and removed it, now I thank them for meeting me and message them when I get back

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I tell them face to face in the cafe.

At first I thought that was the awkward option, but experience has taught me if I wait till I get home to send a 'you are lovely but I don't want to play with you' message they will have managed to send me 'you're so hot can't wait to...' message.

So now I take a deep breath and tell them to their face. Noone has ever got nasty, a few have tried to persuade me to change my mind, but it's usually the best policy.

We part on good terms, and if they were pleasant, looked like their pics and description then I offer a verification - just cos I don't fancy them doesn't mean that the next woman won't.

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By *eonlylive1se OP   Couple
over a year ago

Atherstone


"The very reason I prefer social only first meets. You can always 'extend' the meet to a hotel room if its good and just say 'bye bye' if its not and no harm done.

Met a classy business woman at her hotel once. Had a drink and she had booked a table for dinner. Went along with it but part way through the meal she started to lay down what was going to happen and when. I stopped her at the 'You will enter me from behind at 10.30 ..' bit, said it wasn't my thing and said I was leaving. She said 'but you can't'. I said 'watch me' and bid her farewell, paid the meal bill and left. "

Well done, a slap wouldn't have gone a miss lol x

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